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| What makes him think................
Posted: 3/22/2007 5:00:06 AM | | OP- Don't get mad at someone you don't respect. If you are going to place value on someone's opinion, make it the opinion of someone who has your respect. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 6:47:41 AM |
America is about progress, production and the right to PURSUE happiness. Not get free stuff because your a loser. Move to France. You'll like it there. Everyone is poor except the government..oh..and Americans who live there.
MONEY does not change your character. It only brings out the true character you already had...Rich White Men are the MOST discriminated against group in America right now!
After I finish laughing and pick myself up from the floor, I can only say Higherself, you sound like a GOOD American. You have bought into the myth and serve your country well--by staying ignorant and believing the pap fed to you. In concept, America is about challenging the status quo, not sitting back and spouting rhetoric. If YOU are so concerned about big companies forced to give their money away, I suggest that you find a new country--who sets the laws? Old white men.
By the way, sweetheart, I have never been on welfare, but the myth of the stereotype of the mother rolling in cash with her 15 kids is just that--a fallacy. I teach college classes, and I see some of those mothers every semester, working toward a degree, raising kids alone, never enough money to pay for quite everything.
If rich white men are the most discriminated against group in the US today, all I can say is, KARMA BITES. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 10:36:42 AM | Well I think that was incrediably rude & any of us out there that have to battle with keeping our weight in check has usally come across narrow minded , self serving a**holes at least ince or twice in our life time. I just recently had a phone conversation with a guy whos been emaling me beggin for a date for over a month . So as bitter as I been feeling towards dating anyone these days, I thought I guess it cant hurt to call. Well after Hello, the first thing he asked was for me to describe myself, I said well youve seen my pics..then he said well I need to know how much you weigh before I waste my time..I shouldve hung up there, but I asked him what exactly he was looking for , he said a chick anywhere between 110-120lbs, no shorter then 5'6".. I told him my bones were heavier then that. So he said thank you & hung up.lol. These men are only looking for accessories, not real people. They are selfish & self serving. Feel sad for a second, but not for yourself, but for the pathetic losers out there that will find themselves alone & lonely & wondering why.
But dont give up girl, I know I can also lose a few pounds, which I strive too, but dont allow men to make you feel that way when they themseleves obviously have nothing to offer.
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Posted: 3/22/2007 10:55:41 AM | LOVED msg 23 from missanthropic........LOL
Discipline for ill mannered little boys should always be swift and certain. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 11:01:44 AM | I had my jaw practicly on the floor when i read this!!! That guy was such an ass...You really shouldn't put much more thought to it..! BUt OOH the things I could have said!! You had some good will power not to slap the crap out of him.! People forget sometimes about common courtesy...Or Like my mom always told me "If you have nothing nice to say. Then don't say anything at all"!!!!
Seriously never do anything for someone else that you wouldnt do for yourself..YOu can't loose weight for some dumbass comment..You need to loose weight for yourself and for your health. If you feel fine with yourself then so be it! There are plenty if men that like us thicker girls!!
Well goodLuck..and next time you see him, have a drink in hand ready to throw it him!! | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 11:45:38 AM | iwantaboyfriend: There is no reason for this fellow to have said this, other than to try and make you feel bad about yourself. This is a power play that insecure people use. He was trying to make himself feel better by belittling you. People like this are insidious because they disguise the insult within a so-called compliment. Don't be fooled by it. (ie, Don't give your power up by believing him or lashing out in kind.)
I hope you realize this is about him and not you. He most likely isn't operating with a full deck, because that isn't something a psychologically sound person would say.
I truly hope he didn't make you doubt yourself. Just remember the source, if he did. Don't let him define you. Put his opinion where it belongs, in the trash. And remember...it is just his opinion. It's not a truth. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 12:59:41 PM | I REALLY KNOW WHERE UR COMING FROM BEING A FEW PUNDS OVERWEIGHT...
BUT WHO CARES ABOUT SOME SHALLOW ,DIM ,PEWNY LIL WANKER WHOS REAL DEEP INNER THOUGHT WAS
" OH MAN I WISH I JUST HAD A LITTLE MORE FAT ON MY ,,BECAUSE IM SO PEWNY ,, AND NO ONE WANTS ME!!!!
SO IF ANYONE DARES TO SAY THAT UR FAT TO U AGAIN JUST TELL EM STRAIGHT AND SAY......"UR JUST JEALOUS U PEWNY LIL MAN AND WISH U HAD SOME ON THAT PATHETIC PEWNY ROD U ,THE ONE U ONLY GET TO PLAY WITH YOURSELF" , THEN JUST SLOWLY SMILE AND WALK AWAY..... | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 3:06:37 PM | | Recent incident in my therapy office...13 yr girl comes in angry and depressed...I asked her why..She said a boy at school, also 13, called her fat...She reports he was pretty heavy himself while I think she looks just beautiful the way she is...She replied back "Well, you are fat too"...His response: "Well, Im a guy so I can be fat...YOU cant!"....Lookism and sexism starts young and early in society and sometimes the males are the worst reinforcers of it | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 3:19:07 PM | @Chilly62
Great post, the last gasp of the true loser: name calling. That ususally means debate has ended.
Hmnnn...which got me thinking: Does that make you worse than the original idiot at the bar? I didn't ask for your opinion on my "impotence" OR my "twit" (I like my twit by the way) but you felt the need to give it to me...interesting, huh?
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Posted: 3/22/2007 3:26:27 PM | | Chilly62 is actually making progress he admits that that guy was an idiot rather than defending him. I guess he is indecisive, or you girls got him all confused because your giving him a run for his money. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 4:49:30 PM |
Did you get him in a headlock?
"he finished his sentence with "YEAH IF YOU LOOSE ABOUT 20 POUNDS YOU WOULD HAVE GUYS JUST FIGHTING OVER YOU" Well after I picked my jaw up off the ground I kindof just stood there and looked at him in amazement. It wasn't cool he said it once but he kept repeating it...over and over and over again."
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Posted: 3/22/2007 5:00:06 PM | | I probably would have answered "HEY! I almost didn't recognize you as a male! Looks like they did a good job with the sex change! Oh yeah.....hows that herpe problem you were having?" | |
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Joined: 11/3/2006
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Posted: 3/23/2007 9:58:49 AM |
"Well, Im a guy so I can be fat...YOU cant!"
You mean I've wasted all those years at the gym for naught?!
Does McDonald's have extra-fat spaghetti?
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Posted: 4/1/2007 1:33:54 PM | Leafysback,
I would really like to communicate with you except I live across the border and you don't accept email so if you could kindly email me at patricksar@yahoo.com
PLEASE..........................................................................................PASQUALE | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 1:49:49 PM | iwantaboyfriend..history repeats itself....I didn't read your profile, but I imagine that you are in your twenties to early thirties. One must always remember that the world is full of 'bottom feeders'. Their self esteem is so low that the only way they feel better about themselves is to say something cruel to someone in hopes of getting a reaction...from you, a wounded look and then for you to kind of crawl away feeling a little freakish....from his friend, a laugh. Had this happen to me ONCE. I was in college so only about 17, in a club, walking past a group of guys....one of the cuter ones came forward and introduced himself....we talked a few minutes, and from nowhere he blurts out..."If you were 20 pounds lighter I would take you out." My response was..."If I were 20 pounds lighter...you couldn't!" I then walked away with a smile on my face and my head held high and FORCED myself to have a good time for the rest of the evening. A few weeks later he came back, apologized, and ASKED me out. I politely refused and walked away. This routine continued every time that I saw him throughout college.....people see you as you see yourself! Sorry for the cruelty, but you cannot take bad manners and ignorance personally. Don't let it slow you down! | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 1:53:16 PM | | That was absolutely deploreable. You did the best thing walk away. You didn't stoop to his level. So you are obviously in a few classes above him!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 1:57:31 PM | | If I were you OP depending on what kid of mood I was in that day I would have replied like the one woman said, grab his package and say something like ' You're hot. If you gain a few inches you would have girls fighting over you' and then if I was feeling mean I'd yank HARD (did something like that once to a guy who tried to grab my breast at a bar... it was very effective). Then there's also the "I may have a few extra pounds to lose but you have a mouth full of crap to lose and I heard that's a lot harder" or something like "Thanks, I'd rather have a few extra pounds though than have an ugly face/personality, cuz at least I can do something about my weight... you on the other hand." I wouldn't throw a drink in his face though unless I had a glass of water in my hand, he's not worth wasting the booze. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 2:14:44 PM | Op....I am sorry this has happend to you. I agree this is crazy what he did and was uncalled for. It is same for woman who disrespect guys in public by similar comments about guys "flaws" , either way it is uncalled for. This guy should have kept his big mouth shut and so should anyone elese who does this and insults someone in public.
If you don't have anything nice to supportive or helpful to say then keep it to yourself.
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Posted: 4/1/2007 2:19:19 PM | Hmm.... That was rather RUDE!!!
Well I never had that happen to me.... I went to a BAR once with friends of mine.... There was at least 5 of us- this was when I was in my 20's - Some men tend to pass you by and check you out without thinking that you are not at all interested.
In my case, I had friends that end up leaving me on the table while they all danced with other ppl... I was sitting quietly on our table when this guy approaches me & said the same thing to u but the bad thing was his GF works in the bar as a WAITRESS... So she saw this happening... I was told I am cute & quite Approachable... So she got Jealous & Spilled the whole tray of BROWN COW on me bec she thought i was after her man......
That has made me think not going to bar with FRIENDS AGAIN.....
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Posted: 4/1/2007 2:35:30 PM | | I think I would have started being angry with this idiot for actually touching me. Maybe it's me but any invasion of my personal space, without my consent, just infuriates me. And you've all touched on the weight thing. This guy was either drunk or just plain stupid. I'm guessing both. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 2:42:34 PM | hmm 4 pages of this,,,,, and im thinking,,, "My mom always told me, never lose your cool and always remember to remain a Lady, never lower yourself to others level.
Ive always abidded by this. And Ive had my share of jerks tell me Stupid things,,,,,, so,, you dont need to belittle yourself to make someone feel that theyre out of line.
A lot of opinions here are valid. For myself, I know who I am, and what im about and where im going and where ive been. So to me, No One can tell me about Who or What I am, because they just dont know me. its that simple.
One of the posters, saiedsomething to the effect that"If he was being honest"well being honest inst necessarily being Sociable,,,,,,,, thats for starters, I wouldnt throw a drink at him, for the simple reason that I do not wish for my Reputation, to look bad beacause of a JERK,,,, its not worth it,, the staff would remember you for Ever.
Also he may have the right, AHEM to say what he wishes, but,,, If hes in Poor form, and he was, then he looks bad,,
Also you Can sue someone for ruining your reputation. Thats the law, of course, its not in all provinces or states, but it is always in Bad Taste.
Also, you can choose to ingore it, My guess is the guy was trying to be smat, etc, and didnt make it to the being sociable part,,,,,,, no comment,,,,, Many ppl drink in bars and say Stupid things, so thats water off the ducks back. Also Many ppl go to find other ppl and say Stupid things, do I sound like im repeating myself? cos im not really, a lot of ppl dont know any better, because from what their family life was Before they met you and got to the real world,,,,,,,
So, was the guy Stupid, or a Jerk or whatever? Does it matter? What matters is how he affected the girl by being a Jerk, and also the fact that he Showed the World, that hes fronm a lowlife background and doent respect women, and furthermore cant say anything relevant, so, instead of lookign like he tried to portray himself, he wound up looking as he really was. And thats no skin off anyones back, cos jerks are a dime a dozen.
And this one isnt worth the 4 pages, so far, and if he did, well then hed probably have all his pals writing in his favor right now,,,,,,,,, cos we see the world as we see ourselves, and his friends sure didnt like what they saw in him,
No need to get violent, his friends must have made sure that he made THEM look like Jerks cos he acted like one, And, why waste the time, he isnt worth the effort n energy,,,, I Pity him, hes got to get over himself, and also his own inner fears, etc, and sense of "smallnes"s" no literal meaning here, the guys just a mouth in work,, not an objet of art in motion,, lol take it w a grain of salt, you can be "fat"n Still have lots of guys like you, I know,,,,, laugh it offf, he didnt know what to say n had to say Something, poor jerk,,,,, lol | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 2:42:53 PM | | maryrachelle....your are so right...that is exactly what you tell him....but with style, then the joke is on him..truly! | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 6:49:49 PM | Here is the savage irony here -
While that fellow in the club violated some very basic rules of etiquette, his boorish tactic worked. It worked incredibly well. It worked so well that this thread has gone on for a couple of months and four pages of postings.
Imagine all the interactions we have with other people. They are usually pleasant and completely forgettable. Worse, compliments are usually ignored with a polite "thank you" and nothing more.
But this rude fellow uses an old tactic to create an emotional response. He used the conflict between compliment and insult to create interest - negative interest in this case.
So, we all excoriate him. Considering his rudeness, rightfully so.
But consider this - we all remember this guy.
He's probably using that exact same tactic to collect phone numbers and dates. Alas. | |
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