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Posted: 4/1/2007 7:02:24 PM | Not knowing what this guy looks like, I would have said something to the effect of:
"And if you grew at least another 4 inches taller, didn't have that double chin, were wearing better shoes than those 20 year-old hush-puppies, had a better personality than a dead rat, someone 20 pounds lighter might talk to you! "
I know..... 2 wrongs don't make a right, but 3 rights make a left!! As in exit stage left!
Don't waste your time on someone who wants to make his opinion your reality!
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Posted: 4/1/2007 7:22:45 PM | To answer alot of questions:
Was he drunk: No. He was drinking red bull. But then again most might think that can cause some lack of judgement.
Was he trying to impress his friends: No. They did not hear my conversation with him because we were off to the side. My girlfriend was talking to them.
Was he thin: No. He was chunky, and yes he has a double chin.
Was he goodlooking: In my opinion no. I have seen him on several occasions and he is not my type. Just like Im not his type,obviously, being that I am 20 pounds overweight.
Did he do it to hurt me: No. I actually think he thought he was helping me. The despairation in his face when I obviously looked like I had no clue why he would say that to me. He kept repeating it over and over again trying to get me to understand what he was saying. Like I needed him to tell me I need to loose weight.
Why did I tell my story: Well, these forums are filled with stories, some funny, some serious, some informational. Im not trying to remind everyone what jerks there are in the world. I guess I dont need to do that. We all run into one once in awhile in our everyday life. I guess I wanted feedback. See if I was being overly sensitive. Which girls can do from time to time. So was it worth the 5 pages.....I think so....because there may be one person out there who reads this and refrains from saying something like this to someone. This will show them that sometimes being brutally honest is not always what its cracked up to be.
Thank you for all your freeback....good or bad....it made me realize that there are some really cool people in these forums. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 8:31:50 PM | | omg .. thats insane... if that ever happened to me.. i dont know how i would react... obviously he has no sense of self worth for himself to be putting someone he doesnt know down... he's obviously not all there just to be thinking that it would be okay to even say something like that... besides ... he was in a bar... any man in a bar talking to me (unless i arrived with him) is in no sense in taking seriously.. not even HALF serious | |
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Posted: 4/4/2007 4:49:52 PM | OMG ! 
I would have gone postal!
All pyshco B!@T@H on his A@@! He would have regret written ALL OVER HIM...had he said that to me!
Ha ha ha aha hah Although it must have been the TRUTH serum...  LMAO | |
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Posted: 4/4/2007 7:26:17 PM | hotmarylin..you pretty much said it all.
My belief is no reaction is the best reaction. Walk away from it. So many people are disrespecting and degrading. I walk away thinking, "i am glad i dont hate myself so much that i have to be mean to others" Another senerio is when people fly off the handle for no reason or something very little. I walk away from that thinking, "im glad i dont go through hating life like that"
Iwantaboyfriend....Just remember, those who act in such horrid ways obviously have issues of their own that they havent found a way to settle. You did the right thing by not snooping to his level. Brush it off. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2007 7:58:44 PM | What you should have done ...is grabbed him by the crotch...and said hmmmm...by the feel of this...if you would grow a d***, maybe you would get a chick...but im a smart a$$....I have to get them back where it hurts LOSER hunny....dont worry about the shallow people........youre btter than that...myself...im not LOL i would have given him a twister  | |
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Posted: 4/4/2007 8:16:10 PM | | If I would have witnessed something like that, I would have walked up to you, taken your hand and looked right at him and said something to the effect that you are way too classy for an ignoramus like him and whisked you off to the dance floor. Of course, my inner voice would be going against my non-violent nature and telling me to lay him out cold. I have zero tolerance for men who don't know how to treat ladies appropriately. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 6:30:28 AM | yup, he was rude and insensitive.. good for you just walking away, shows you have more class in you than he could hope to understand
... i'd have probably said something like, "and if you could only learn good manners maybe you'd get someone interested in you"... or just a cutting, "thank you *So* much for your opinion, you're a real prince".. but i can be sarcastic like that if someone's rude...not one of my nicer qualities  ah well...  | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 6:37:45 AM | Ok that was screwy, but heres my asshole response:
If you eat enough food to be overweight and you let yourself get overweight, then you shouldnt be offended by him saying "Hey, you're overweight". Its not him thats overweight, its you. And hes entirely right. You are an attractive woman, and if you lost a significant amount of weight you'd be competing with girls my age.
Just because he said it doesnt mean that it isnt what the rest of us are thinking. Use it as motivation to live a healthier lifestyle. Eat right, and exercise. You might actually like it. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 12:41:44 PM | No, he's not right that you need to lose weight. That's none of that bone-heads business, especially after insulting you. Lose weight for you, and not because some azz in a bar was yammering around his foot at you about it! And yeah, it really does suck that someone is still that clueless these days...
I so wish that you'd been out that night where I work. Just a quick tip for future nights out? Go to a place where you're friendly with the bartender. It may sound goofy, but most have real control over what takes place and who should be there, who's had enough, who should be on their way, etc.... I wish you well for your next adventure out and about! | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 12:59:46 PM | | Sounds like he might've been drunk or seriously wanted to date you or worse, yet; Your girlfriend put him up to saying it ????? | |
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Posted: 2/18/2008 7:39:35 PM | Sometimes people are so stupid that it just spills all over the place. If the size or looks of a person is what really made the world turn, then I am afraid it would stop. Dont ever let someone make you feel bad because of their bad manners or uneducted oppinions, stick your chin in the air next time and tell em, if that is what is keeping him away, You'd happily gain 10 more pounds. What a creep!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 10:56:54 AM | some guys have no class at all, they think it's charming.
A good response might have been to say,"Yeah and if you gain 2 inches you'ld almost have a penis." | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 11:30:28 AM | to IWANTABOYFRIEND:IGNORANCE IS BLISS IS AN OLD ~EVIDENTLY HE IS
ALSO RUDE,DELIGHTES IN HIMSELF,PUTTING PEOPLE DOWN IS HIS FORM
OF COMMUNICATION.IGNORE PEOPLE LIKE HIM .LIFE IS TO SHORT TO
EVEN DISCUSS PEOPLE OF HIS STATURE.MEANING LOW! | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 11:47:21 AM | Wow, that was uncalled for!!
I would have pour my drink on his fly and tell him 'jerks like you, no thanks!'... yeah, he got lucky that he caught you offguard!
What about your friend, did she hear it? was she supportive? if not, I suggest looking for new friends
funny that some people blame it as being drunk. But drunk is when all inhibitions come through, basically he's a jerk not worth your time. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 5:09:00 PM | To Ron: My weight gain was not a result of sitting infront of a TV all day eatting bon bons. I had a medical issue that required medication that made me gain weight. Lets face it it as we get older its not as easy to loose weight as it was when we were younger. Not nice to judge someone or assume something before you know the whole story.
Secondly he was not drunk. He was drinking red bull. I have thought many things about strangers that I have seen in the club but never did I think it appropriate to approach them and voice my opinion, even if I thought it might be benefical to them.
Last but not least.....dont get me wrong, I do have many offers for dates. Believe it or not there are many men who prefer larger woman. I just felt like this was out of line and in reading most of these postings there is a large majority of people who agree. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2008 11:23:38 PM | He was loaded - its a bar on St Pats day....and he was an ***hole. of course its not okay to say that. But hey at least you are gorgeous....take some comfort from those words. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 5:14:29 AM | Some people just plain $uck.
Anyone that doesn't know how or what to say in a measured fashion - shouldn't be out it public in my opinion.
Society today 'allows' people to be a$$holes. Kids today are full of 'entitlement'. What is goin' to happen when they become adults????
I am afraid the world will only get worse along these lines. Learning these traits starts early people. To all the parents out there, please try to raise your kids a bit better than this. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 5:45:37 AM | Ron what sage advice, we can all go home now. I see that you are 23 and apparently a cruel individual yourself because there are many reasons that people gain weight and your period of pomposity is soon over. For years my brothers could lose any weight they gained at the drop of a hat. Now at 46 and 54 respectively, not so much. The father of five has a gut, not huge but a gut none-the-less, and the elder brother must exercise like a little gerbil to keep the weight off. Three kids later I look better than both of them.
OP, while I would love to say that I would have punched him in the face, and who knows, fiften years of wanting to knock the shit out of my X might finally have come out with that one. But, I suspect I would have stood there with my jaw to the ground speechless that someone could be so rude and ignorant.
I had a neighbor with whom there were words several years ago. She called me a whore while I was in the yards of two neighbors, threatened to damage my reputation and livelihood, and told me that no one wanted to be around me. My kids wanted to call her names or be rude to her children and I told them not to stoop to her level.
I continued to be me and a couple of years later, others decided they had had enough of her bullying and hateful behavior and all involved were relieved when she moved from the neighborhood. People usually reap what they sow and someone like that, you leave them to their own devices and they are usually their own undoing.
Outside of making sure you are as healthy as you can be, people love you for what is on the inside and frankly, once they reach our age, guys don't want the pencil thin chicks with no meat on their bones so I would say your best response to the twit would be living your life fully and with great joy. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 5:53:35 AM | | Take it from a women that has lost over 100lbs in the last 1 1/2 years.. My comeback was and always will be. I can loose the weight but stupid runs clear to the bones.. It makes people feel superior to find fault in someone else. You are who you are and love it girlfriend. Someone will accept you for you and if they dont then I guess you better say no thanks and keep you head up and keep smiling. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 6:04:54 AM | He is trying to build his ego by putting you down. Probably the best thing to do would be to walk away as most any other response would likely give him opportunity to escalate the situation.
A waitress friend tells me that ignorant guests tend to get drinks spilled on them. My friend did this once to a particularly ignorant female guest... the guest's companion commented that it seems to be happening to her quite often recently.
Perhaps your drink could have fumbled out of your hands onto the front of his pants. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 6:07:45 AM | OP you did the exact thing I would do.....walked away. You showed class & maturity. My ex-husband was dating a lady who was just a bit overweight. Well one day my son told me his dad & the lady weren't together anymore. Apparently he told her she could stand to lose some weight! She dumped him! After a month of the breakup, I contacted this lady to ask her about a receipe item. The subject came up & she told me what had happened. When I saw my ex - he explained what happened & I said, 'Have you looked at yourself in the mirror lately? You're no prized stud & could use some weigh loss yourself & a few more hairs on your head!' That shut him up! To this day (been 3 yrs now) the lady & I are good friends! My ex is currently engaged to a shorter, rounder person.... Funny how that happened!
So, OP, you have class & maturity & don't ever let anyone (man or woman) get you down with their stupid comments about anything. Live your life & enjoy it cause life is short, way too short!
**hugs** | |
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