| What makes him think................
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:59:46 PM | | Sounds like he might've been drunk or seriously wanted to date you or worse, yet; Your girlfriend put him up to saying it ????? | |
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Posted: 2/18/2008 7:39:35 PM | Sometimes people are so stupid that it just spills all over the place. If the size or looks of a person is what really made the world turn, then I am afraid it would stop. Dont ever let someone make you feel bad because of their bad manners or uneducted oppinions, stick your chin in the air next time and tell em, if that is what is keeping him away, You'd happily gain 10 more pounds. What a creep!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 10:56:54 AM | some guys have no class at all, they think it's charming.
A good response might have been to say,"Yeah and if you gain 2 inches you'ld almost have a penis." | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 11:30:28 AM | to IWANTABOYFRIEND:IGNORANCE IS BLISS IS AN OLD ~EVIDENTLY HE IS
ALSO RUDE,DELIGHTES IN HIMSELF,PUTTING PEOPLE DOWN IS HIS FORM
OF COMMUNICATION.IGNORE PEOPLE LIKE HIM .LIFE IS TO SHORT TO
EVEN DISCUSS PEOPLE OF HIS STATURE.MEANING LOW! | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 11:47:21 AM | Wow, that was uncalled for!!
I would have pour my drink on his fly and tell him 'jerks like you, no thanks!'... yeah, he got lucky that he caught you offguard!
What about your friend, did she hear it? was she supportive? if not, I suggest looking for new friends
funny that some people blame it as being drunk. But drunk is when all inhibitions come through, basically he's a jerk not worth your time. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 5:09:00 PM | To Ron: My weight gain was not a result of sitting infront of a TV all day eatting bon bons. I had a medical issue that required medication that made me gain weight. Lets face it it as we get older its not as easy to loose weight as it was when we were younger. Not nice to judge someone or assume something before you know the whole story.
Secondly he was not drunk. He was drinking red bull. I have thought many things about strangers that I have seen in the club but never did I think it appropriate to approach them and voice my opinion, even if I thought it might be benefical to them.
Last but not least.....dont get me wrong, I do have many offers for dates. Believe it or not there are many men who prefer larger woman. I just felt like this was out of line and in reading most of these postings there is a large majority of people who agree. | |
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Posted: 4/4/2008 11:23:38 PM | He was loaded - its a bar on St Pats day....and he was an ***hole. of course its not okay to say that. But hey at least you are gorgeous....take some comfort from those words. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 5:14:29 AM | Some people just plain $uck.
Anyone that doesn't know how or what to say in a measured fashion - shouldn't be out it public in my opinion.
Society today 'allows' people to be a$$holes. Kids today are full of 'entitlement'. What is goin' to happen when they become adults????
I am afraid the world will only get worse along these lines. Learning these traits starts early people. To all the parents out there, please try to raise your kids a bit better than this. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 5:45:37 AM | Ron what sage advice, we can all go home now. I see that you are 23 and apparently a cruel individual yourself because there are many reasons that people gain weight and your period of pomposity is soon over. For years my brothers could lose any weight they gained at the drop of a hat. Now at 46 and 54 respectively, not so much. The father of five has a gut, not huge but a gut none-the-less, and the elder brother must exercise like a little gerbil to keep the weight off. Three kids later I look better than both of them.
OP, while I would love to say that I would have punched him in the face, and who knows, fiften years of wanting to knock the shit out of my X might finally have come out with that one. But, I suspect I would have stood there with my jaw to the ground speechless that someone could be so rude and ignorant.
I had a neighbor with whom there were words several years ago. She called me a whore while I was in the yards of two neighbors, threatened to damage my reputation and livelihood, and told me that no one wanted to be around me. My kids wanted to call her names or be rude to her children and I told them not to stoop to her level.
I continued to be me and a couple of years later, others decided they had had enough of her bullying and hateful behavior and all involved were relieved when she moved from the neighborhood. People usually reap what they sow and someone like that, you leave them to their own devices and they are usually their own undoing.
Outside of making sure you are as healthy as you can be, people love you for what is on the inside and frankly, once they reach our age, guys don't want the pencil thin chicks with no meat on their bones so I would say your best response to the twit would be living your life fully and with great joy. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 5:53:35 AM | | Take it from a women that has lost over 100lbs in the last 1 1/2 years.. My comeback was and always will be. I can loose the weight but stupid runs clear to the bones.. It makes people feel superior to find fault in someone else. You are who you are and love it girlfriend. Someone will accept you for you and if they dont then I guess you better say no thanks and keep you head up and keep smiling. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 6:04:54 AM | He is trying to build his ego by putting you down. Probably the best thing to do would be to walk away as most any other response would likely give him opportunity to escalate the situation.
A waitress friend tells me that ignorant guests tend to get drinks spilled on them. My friend did this once to a particularly ignorant female guest... the guest's companion commented that it seems to be happening to her quite often recently.
Perhaps your drink could have fumbled out of your hands onto the front of his pants. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 6:07:45 AM | OP you did the exact thing I would do.....walked away. You showed class & maturity. My ex-husband was dating a lady who was just a bit overweight. Well one day my son told me his dad & the lady weren't together anymore. Apparently he told her she could stand to lose some weight! She dumped him!  After a month of the breakup, I contacted this lady to ask her about a receipe item. The subject came up & she told me what had happened. When I saw my ex - he explained what happened & I said, 'Have you looked at yourself in the mirror lately? You're no prized stud & could use some weigh loss yourself & a few more hairs on your head!' That shut him up! To this day (been 3 yrs now) the lady & I are good friends! My ex is currently engaged to a shorter, rounder person.... Funny how that happened!
So, OP, you have class & maturity & don't ever let anyone (man or woman) get you down with their stupid comments about anything. Live your life & enjoy it cause life is short, way too short!
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| What makes him think................
Posted: 4/5/2008 6:10:43 AM |
neandrethal like that wouldnt have understood anything beyond duuuuhhhhh where da beer.
if that happened to me i would have done the exact same thing. my eyes would pop out and my jaw would drop completely. unbelievable at how some (yes i said some cause it can go both ways - male or female) itch to put other people down. ugh. ha ha ha the cupping his balls idea was pretty good along with some others i found quite amusing, but in reality, a remark like that just dumbfounds people . you did do the right thing by walking away and try not to have that remark from someone that small linger within you :) | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 6:28:15 AM |
I would of said......."Did I ask for your opinion?" OR "If I cared about your opinion, I would of asked."
I had a very dear friend many years ago who FREQUENTLY said to rude, mouthy women (I know....it's the reverse, but....) "If I wanted your opinion, sweetheart, I would have beaten it out of you." Saying THIS to that jerk could have been fun.....but that also brings you DOWN to his level. Better to take the high ground and walk away. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 6:50:19 AM | | WOW he obviously was an idiot that bears absolutely no class. I'm sure alcohol played a huge factor in his behaviour although I know that that's no excuse. Trust me I know exactly how you feel because when I carried extra weight I had a hurtful comment thrown at me and one that I will never forget. But you need to rise above it because you are better that that and don't let ignorance bring you down. He was a loser and comments coming from a man who has zero class should mean little or nothing to anyone. I'm actually surprised that you didn't wind up and give him a backhand or a swift kick to the shin. I would have definitely done everything in my power to embarrass the crap out of him . Next time don't walk away with your tail between your legs ... show them the power of a woman!!! | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 6:54:38 AM | As tempting as it is to retort back with something to the effect of "How would YOU possibly know what guys do?" But don't. It would only encourage more rude comments and you're far above that behaviour.
This is one of those times when no response is the best response. Why bother? Don't give him one second of your attention, don't even look at him. Totally ignore him as if you didn't hear what he said, look directly at your female friend and tell her that you will be at the other side of the club then walk away with confidence.
Alcohol is never an excuse.
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Posted: 4/5/2008 10:05:11 AM | | What other people think of you is none of your business....it was very innapropriate for him to say that but maybe in some twisted way he thought it was a compliment...anyhow, don't put too much weight (hee hee) on his comments, he is only one of 3 billion.....................:) | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 12:14:19 PM | that makes me sick. first off, he's an idiot. he has no social etiquette, no social skills. i can understand how that would make you feel...but don't give him the win of saying "granted, i could lose some weight". those who try to lose weight for others and because of others tend to fail...if you decide you want to, do it for yourself. he's an a$$. there are better guys out there. at least i hope.
im not going to say men, because i don't want to generalize, but society buts such a huge emphasis on weight in terms of being attractive. you have to be skinny to be attractive, they say. that is not true. im tired of looking out at the billboards, commercials, and magazine ads and articles.
i know it's easy to say to forget, so im not going to say that. but that hopefully will be a one time encounter with a guy who probably has never got laid in his life, and if he has the girl probably went screaming by how tiny his package was
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Posted: 4/5/2008 12:33:13 PM | | OP-That guy's an embarrassment to his gender. Rude boy's gonna see more than his share of black eyes and busted noses. The ultimate revenge is knowing he'll have to put up with himself 24/7 for the rest of his life. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 12:40:30 PM | | girl, I would be so upset and angry! If you felt you had to, you could always lose weight, but he would still be stupid... and you can't fix stupid! | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 12:46:56 PM | If I had been there I would shoved him out of the way , took you into my arms and
gave you a nice long kiss. Then Iwould held you in my arms nice and tight and then I would have picked you up and carried you out of the club to my fully customized van. Then I would take you to my apartment and make sizzeling hot love to you all night....feel better now? | |
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Posted: 4/14/2008 4:40:37 PM | Riverbankrod, considering this is what you have stated in your profile I kind of find it hard to believe you would be taking me anywhere. Nice try though.....
"I WOULD LIKE TO MEET A NICE SLENDER FRIENDLY WOMAN--AGE NOT IMPORTANT-- FOR FRIENDSHIP,DATING,AND SEX. I DON'T ASK FOR A WHOLE HELL OF A LOT BUT " FAT WOMEN YOU CAN JUST STAY OUT OF THE DAMN WAY IF YOU DON'T MIND BECAUSE I DON'T WANT A FAT WOMEN...
WHAT YEW DON'T WANT YEW WANT THE STUPID THINGS THINK..................
COWS AND PIGS IS ALL I EVER SEE IT SEEMS....I NEVER SEEN A STATE WITH SO MANY...IT MAKES ME WANT TO MOVE SOMEWHERE ELSE..."
Oh yeah you can take your foot out of your mouth now. Its not very attractive.... | |
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Posted: 4/14/2008 5:04:07 PM | Well I'm not sure how to respond here...because you say "Granted, hes [sic] right. I could stand to loose [sic] some weight. But that pretty much sucks he said that. "
So, the fact that he offered to act as your trainer means nothing? You admit you're overweight? He seems sincere. A lot of us could stand to lose weight. Tactful, he wasn't...but I think he was genuinely interested in you. I think you over-reacted here. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2008 10:09:24 PM | | I can't imagine a guy making such a comment. It serves no purpose other than to be mean. Don't even think about him or what he said. | |
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