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When I was in my twenties I briefly dated a guy...He was still hung up on his ex fiancee, who had cheated on him. He expressed being torn as he had feelings for me but wanted to be friends. we hung out all of the time....but I was very much in love with him. I was unable to think seriouly about anyone else because he was a part of my every day life. I finally had to cut him off for 6 months or so. He ended up meeting someone and married her, and his wife and I became friends. I don't think I could have stayed friends with him if I hadn't taken that time to get over it , alone. Funny but evry so often I hear from him, his wife has passed away, unfortunately...and he told me a couple of years ago that he was in love with me for a long time. Too bad he didn't realize it back then, but we still have a great friendship. :)
I need space to find my balance again. This is very difficult for me. I understand it must be difficult for you too but I am asking you to respect my need for space. I need time to reflect on everything. Contact with you at this point is interfering with my healing process. If you love me, you need to let me go for now. I hope that we can discuss this at a later date when I am ready to do so. Until then."
or something like that? just trying to summarize what you said.
I gotta say, good for you for being so strong!!!! Sounds to me like he's realizing 'you don't know what you got til its gone'. He may think he made a mistake and is not willing to let you go now. Has he said he wants to get back together? Or just telling you he still loves you? Sounds like he's playing a head game to me. I'm going through the same thing, my ex and I broke up a month ago too (he also did the breaking up), and we haven't made the no contact rule yet, so he still messages me on msn and asks me to come over and stuff... we've been getting along great but I still love him and am finally realizing that we need a break from each other so I can get over my feelings. I feel the false hope too, my friend. It's all too familiar. And I'm pretty sure my ex is feeling the same way - that its never gonna happen again. If you've already told him no contact and he's still bugging you, then you have to do whatever it takes to prevent this - change your phone number, email address, whatever you have to do so that he has no way of contacting you. I'm sorry you are going through this - I don't know why people do this after THEY do the breaking up. I hope you are able to get through this, you are certainly strong enough too - I need some of your strength! Good luck!
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