| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 3/19/2007 6:27:52 PM | | I have no idea. From the first day I joined I had people sending me IMs so I just thought that was normal. Due to some..... unpleasant people sending them I disabled it, but now I've made it 'friends only' which works well. I don't think I would send someone an IM if I hadn't messaged them before, but I think sometimes people just want a chat so they look to see who's online. | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 3/19/2007 6:37:38 PM | I took IM off because of the amount of people who just IM you. Even worse is when they try over and over again argh! Did they think I hit the wrong button?
I put it on specifically to talk to ne individual who wasn't on my msn list. The amount of IMs was just silly. I really thought a lot of these guys were looking for virtual sex....not interested. | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 3/19/2007 6:45:57 PM | If you turn the feature on, take what comes with it, the good and the bad.
If you can't handle it, turn it off.
Either way stop crying about it. Or using it to fish for attention to show how popular you are or think you are. | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 3/31/2007 5:06:09 PM | Absolutely not....That is what IM is for.... The person IM-ing doesn't know if you're chatting or not. I usually open an IM with Hello....Are You Busy? Then the choice is theirs to chat or not.
If someone IMs me and I'm chatting w/someone else I just say I'm busy or not a good time....can we chat later? Now....they can choose yes or no.....If they CONTINUE to IM me after they made their choice. (Which IS rude) I do not respond.
On a simliar note, I think it's rude to try to chat w/ 4 to 5 separate people simultaneously. No one is getting a fair share of your attention and you're not really paying attention to them. Although, just because I can't do it doesn't mean that someone out there isn't gifted w/ carrying on several different conversations at once and remaining coherent.
Go ahead ...IM me out of the blue.....at least you'll know whether I'm busy or not. | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 3/31/2007 7:15:43 PM |
im on another FREE site and the IM they have on there enables you to accept or reject an IM if do desired. You can do that here too.
im on another FREE site . . you can view the persons profile and decide from there if you want to talk to them or not. . . you can't see who the person is before accepting the IM so you have no way to find out who they are/what they want first. Just a head's up, you can actually view the person here as well, before you accept or reject. When their IM pops up, just click on Search/User Search, type in their name, and check out their profile. Granted, that stupid IM window will keep popping up while you're trying to do this, but, you can look at their profile. | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 3/31/2007 7:21:07 PM | | I actually never thought about it til now... I just thought it was a quicker way of communicating with someone... easier to talk with them. Will think on it now for sure. Thanks for the post. | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 5/21/2007 2:50:31 PM | Personally, I don't really care either way..... If a stranger, MALE/FEMALE sends an IM to me, if at all possible, I'll answer..... Great way of meeting new people I think... | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 5/21/2007 3:02:33 PM | | Never really thought about it one way or the other. You have the choice to say yes or no, most of the time, although I do know some people who just have the IM windows pop up. Bottom line - you control whether or not you want to keep chatting. It is remarkably easy to close the window if you don't want to chat or the conversation goes somewhere you don't want it to. And for those who find it rude - perhaps they ought to turn off the function so they never have to deal with the issue at all. | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 5/21/2007 4:22:30 PM | | I don't find it rude. If you don't like it, you can turn off IM. I think the whole point of IM is so people can talk to you w/o sending a message. | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 5/21/2007 4:27:27 PM | | OP, you're not being a putz...there are no stupid questions...And I personally don't like it when people I don't know IM me; it's much more polite to ask first in an email if they can IM you...but since some people simply can't be bothered to do that, I turn the IM feature on POF off so I don't have to deal with it. But I'd have to figure that if someone who understands the IM feature on here has it working, then they *may* not mind someone IM'ing them...but you'll never go wrong if you email them first and ask. Best of luck to you. | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 5/24/2007 6:44:34 PM | I think it's soooooo rude!! Esp. when they im you like 7 times in 4 seconds before you even have a chance to stop what you're doing and respond!!!
It says right in my profile that I prefer an email first so whenever I get an univited IM I know they haven't bothered to read my profile and the IM gets closed =) | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 5/24/2007 7:20:26 PM | | I've only had a few people try to IM me, thing is my IM's never seem to work for some reason. I really don't think it's rude, but I do think that someone who IM's you isnt likely to turn into anything long term simply because if they IM and don't bother to Email then they either A. Don't fit your message settings or B. Don't have the patience to slowly get to know you by email. | |
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| Is it rude to IM someone out of the Blue?
Posted: 5/24/2007 7:52:00 PM | | If you look at "Internet Chat and Dating Site, Rules and Regulations, unabridged edition for 2005, you will see that the jury is still out on this one. It is being proposed as an provisional rule for 2008. But the full vote of the Congress of Interet Dating Sites, (CIDS) will have to handle this issue in their 2010 international meeting at The Haugue. | |
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