| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 2:11:25 PM | | 1976sly: My sentiments exactly, which I stated in another thread. Life is too short to pass up a great relationship just because it won't last forever. To the OP: You should follow your own heart. If you think it'll hurt less if you break up with him now, than when he is about to leave, maybe you should. I say grab whatever happiness you can, as long as you know what to expect. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:17:42 PM | | There is another thread floating around that says "Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option".......men off living their dream, passion, interest whatever have no concern for your feelings......don't make the mistake of making them more than a passing fancy | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 5:28:47 PM | dollandahalf: I don't think you are a fool at all.
True story: I have a good friend in Toronto who is "not single" now because he went backpacking through Europe 2 years ago and met a girl in India (she's from Manitoba). They hit it off, and she's there teaching English as a 2nd language for 4 years. Last year he did another trip, backpacking again, this time to see her and spend all the time he was away with her. He went back at Christmas to see her, and is going for 4 months this summer to see her. They are very happy, and he will be moving there shortly I'm certain, to be with her.
IF you want something bad enough, and it's mutual between both parties, work at it and smile!
Good luck!!!!
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:40:25 PM | I think you know the answer to your question...
If you want to only date men that want long term... then why would you...
But you could be missing the best time of your life!
You could grow and learn and have wonderful things to remember!
You will never look back and say ... what if!
And who knows... the future isn't already written!
Good Luck. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:45:07 PM |
There is another thread floating around that says "Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option".......men off living their dream, passion, interest whatever have no concern for your feelings......don't make the mistake of making them more than a passing fancy
I hope I'm mis-reading this because that's really a terrible position to hold. Just because a guy is 'living their dream, passion, interest' doesn't mean they don't also want to have a real relationship with a woman. It doesn't mean that a woman is an 'option', or that it's a 'passing fancy'. In fact for many of us... brace for it.... that's an integral part of the whole deal. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:49:57 PM | see i wish people would just be honest "no im not interested sorry but im flattered ^^" works great.
but instead they make up excuses like oh im going on a pilgramige to cancun, off to war, gonna be gone all next...year, or im going on a bike trip around the world. best thing to do dolla is to just bite the bullet, and keep lookin, sides one guy out of...3 billion? a drop in the bucket ^^ and no i dont think your a fool sometimes we get crushes and other people dont feel the same way. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:55:15 PM |
Just because a guy is 'living their dream, passion, interest' doesn't mean they don't also want to have a real relationship with a woman.
100 percent behind ya strat i for example used to work in restaraunts as a dishwasher it was hard work, weak pay, and id get the odd scream fest usually pointed in my direction, well i had it when the chef decided to wave a knife in my face and said "Do you wanna get stabbed?!" when i told him to quit crying because i couldnt get the dishes to him in time. so yeah i went into jewelry making and so far im doing quite well. i am busy alot of the time but i can easily make time for someone special ^^ i usually just make up for lost time with my jewelry by motoring it before time with someone else. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 7:06:19 PM | dollandahalf, I really feel for you; this is a no win situation...for you, anyway. This month has a lot of potential for both excitement and heartbreak....how much more romantic does it get than meeting some great guy WHO IS ON A BIKE TRIP AROUND THE WORLD??? Of course he has you so worked up! People do not generally go on bike trips around the world. That is just 2 cool. And I will not even go into the obvious stamina involved in biking around the world...wow.
I read your profile, you are a very pretty and articulate person who seems to have a lot going for you. My humble opinion is that this would be one big heartbreak for you.
Bottom line, I would do a serious reality check. If you like this guy and could handle just being online or perhaps phone friends after he returns home, then by all means enjoy this month. If you think that your feelings for him would be a lot deeper than that type of arrangement could handle, then I would tell him very soon "you are a very interesting person, I have enjoyed this brief time, and I wish you the very best, good bye!"
Best of luck, the double edge sword in this fascinating world of meeting new people, both online and in person, is that they sometimes live so far away. I sometimes complain that the ones that most intrigue me are usually at least 3 states away...yours lives practically a world away. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 7:24:49 PM | I had exactly the same thing happen except it was a woman and she was just going to Safeway to get some smokes. She never came back!
What if he gets kidnapped by Mongolian bandits and tortured and held for ransom and you're the only # on his cell so the Bandit Warlord calls you and demands a duffel bag full of whatever you people in Canada call money and he pulls this dude's fingernails out with needle nosed pliers and you gotta hear your man scream and shriek like a little schoolgirl who just stepped in a pile of steaming goat crap and you end up selling everything to buy this guy his freedom and instead of loving you even more deeply for saving his life he grows to resent you and ends up with someone else? HOW WOULD YOU FEEL THEN?
Bag it. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 7:46:35 PM | | To me it seems that he isn't ready to be with someone right now plus I think he might almost be with a woman in every town he stops in.I would say give him your number and/or email and see if he really wants to be with you.if he gets in touch with you after hes done doing that bike tour thing than that means he does have something for you other than something sexual.thans thats a good start.Also don't hold out for him if you're not for sure about it and do tell him about how you feel before he goes.Maybe he might be touched and want something with you after hes done with the bike thing. | |
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| Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me?
Posted: 3/28/2007 11:31:26 PM | | Not crazy hon, you just care about people. That is a great quality, I do too. It is sometimes difficult, however, to find the balance between taking care of yourself versus trusting enough to risk; it is a work in progess and cannot be rushed. You are wise beyond your years (damn, I sound old, lol) to be using your head and thinking this through. Good luck. | |
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