| | Re: sex on the first datePage 3 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | it's not an issue of being horny or getting your brains f*cked out. sex is something always consentual. it doesn't really matter if it's the first date or not. if it is something that both partners are willing to do it is fine. but ladies or gentlemen if you think you will regret it, don't do it.
it also depends on what you're looking for. some people just like sex and others don't. so, it really depends on the person "consenting" to it. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2004 4:47:56 PM | ok freakyfreddyfan...i have had sex on the first date, and some people talk to you afterwards and some dont...however...i had sex with one guy on the first date and he ended up being my huband...and now we are divorced, oh well!! sometimes sex is fun on the first date and it breaks the ice a little...then you have the jerks out there that sleep with you once and never speak to you again...that is so shallow!!!!
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Posted: 7/21/2004 9:03:06 PM | | Sometimes things go so exceptionally well on a first date, that things just take off naturally right there, although I don't think its common. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2004 2:09:22 PM | While almost no guy would turn down sex on the first date and while in the heat of the moment it might seem as though there is a "connection" between the two of you, it stops there.
No matter what kinda bullshit the guy tells the woman (or even the bullshit he tells himself) it's all about the sex. (that's why the same guy will sleep with a woman he's not interested in)
If a guy is looking for something more serious than just sex, then he will lose respect for the woman even if he felt some kinda connection before hand. (he's not looking for sex, therefore when it approaches him he will treat it justly. meaning he will not see the woman for anything more than what she is offering)
If both persons knowingly enter into the night without any expectations other than sex then you can have your cake and eat it to.
But remember, if you truley do feel some connection between the two of you then relax and let things progress at a natural pace (actually knowing them and what they are about, before jumping any bones)
WHILST AT DINNER, DO NOT OFFER ME A PIECE OF CHERRY PIE, AND THEN EXPECT ME TO FINISH MY VEGATABLES!!! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2004 3:20:53 PM | | that double standard just annoys the heck out of me. Woman who do and who don't. The older I get - and boy and I old. I am finding out that it is almost socialy accepted and expected to have sex on the first date. | |
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Zee
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Posted: 7/24/2004 3:54:13 PM | | people judge people all the time and it depends on the persons to decide what they want or expect on a first date - bring condoms anyway | |
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Posted: 7/24/2004 4:22:46 PM | @ where are you ?
I don't think anyone expects sex on the first date in normal social settings.
Mind you, if you are looking for some action in some "Scuzville Bar" or your Profile says "Intimate Encounter", well what else would one expect to happen? | |
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Posted: 7/27/2004 5:54:57 PM | I think there maybe a conflict of interest afoot here. Those of you that say "No way", make the point that sex on the first leaves nothing to look forward to. Well in my opinion (and prolly only mine) that is back-akwards. Let me explain, what are most of you lookin for most of all !?...a loving relationship. Therein lies the conflict. If love is what we are trying to ultimately obtain, sex should be the most readily available of interactions. Now, if you are stating sex is more important than love, nix the one-nighter and save it for years down the road.... I think it is rather the opposite (though I don't really practice it), sex is a great release (no pun intended) and makes for an interesting date. Let the love evolve later---afterall...IT is the most important aspect.
Signing out from Akron
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Posted: 7/28/2004 10:11:43 AM | WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU GET THE MILK FOR FREE!!!!!
it may be an old cliche but it is still true.
Love is not easy. Love takes a tremendous amount of work. It makes you vulnarable to pain. It requires lots of trust, commitment, and sacrafice. It is human nature to look for the easy way, and to get what you want, with as little effort as possible. So if love is the most important aspect why would you disrespect it by casually having sex. Sex can evolve from love but real love (the kind that keeps two people together untill death do us part) does not evolve from sex.
So once again I am left stating the quote,
"WHILST AT DINNER, DO NOT OFFER ME A PIECE OF CHERRY PIE, AND THEN EXPECT ME TO FINISH MY VEGATABLES" | |
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Posted: 7/28/2004 10:20:01 AM | I must expand on my quote,
"WHILST AT DINNER, DO NOT OFFER ME A PIECE OF CHERRY PIE, AND THEN EXPECT ME TO FINISH MY VEGATABLES, BUT RATHER LET ME EAT A HEALTHY MEAL AND THEN WE CAN HAVE DESERT TOGETHER" | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 1:11:56 PM | | Okay so whats the big deal with going out having a good time and then fooling around... NOTHING.. Life's too short to worry about the little stuff. Do what you want when you want .. NO regrets.. I'm livin to have fun.. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 1:13:49 PM | | I don't mean to sleep with every "first date" but if it happens , if you are connected . then why not | |
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WS6TA
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Posted: 10/21/2004 1:15:50 PM | freaky:
Sex on the first date isn't a date at all... it's an intimate encounter. Not saying there is anything wrong with it but do have the mind to know what is what and what is not.
Something like that is great for the moment but don't think anything worthwhile is going to come from it. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 2:32:34 PM |
so in my opinnion sex on the first date not only a good idea but it should be mandatory
Bring on the sluts!
Bring on the STDs and Babies! Woot! Woot! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 3:30:46 PM | Why look for sex to the exclusion of a relationship?
If I wouldn't be interested in someone as a mate, I also would not be interested in having sex with them, whether on the first date or some other time. | |
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WS6TA
| | Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 66 | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 3:40:35 PM | Ticket:
Excellent point!
However, I suppose some people do not want a relationship? But also do not want to give up sex either? | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 3:51:57 PM | | To each there own. But could I have a list of who to avoid? Sex on the first date? Isn't there an area for that called "intimate encounters?" I steer clear of anyone with morals like that, who knows what they are passing around! Life is more precious than a one night stand. | |
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WS6TA
| | Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 68 | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 4:57:50 PM | Georgie:
Well, this is probably going to sound strange coming from me? But nevertheless I think it should be said:
If two consenting adults chose to do this and neither is in a relationship with another. Then who's to say what is right and what is wrong? They aren't cheating on anyone! So, what harm is in it if they wish to do this? It's their choice. Does this make either one of them less of a person? Some might say yes? But I'm not so certain that would be true? I can't see why a person who is decent and has no obligations to anyone other than themselves couldn't do this. Yet also still remain true to one's self. Having a one night stand doesn't make you a bad person. If for no other reason than if both are aware that is all it is... Then niether one of them is being dishonest with the other and both are aware that it is merely a sexual fulfilment. Not the begining of a true and meaningful relationship... It's just sex! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 6:29:11 PM | | NEVER! Can you say V.D.? Can you say S.T.D.? Can you say Baby?....i know condomns and nonoxynol-9 are used for safe sex, but it's not 100 %..and i'd rather know who i'm sleeping with...besides the fact, i need to be in love,...sex is too intimate a thing to be shared by someone you barely know. Monogamy! all the way. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 7:00:14 PM | Sex on the first date? Isn't there an area for that called "intimate encounters?"
What does sex on the first Date have to do with Intimate Encounters?
I can understand each of us having our own standards, and so it should be, but the formulation of
"Sex on First Date" = "Intimate Encounter"? That just don't add up.
Is someone actually going so far as to state that a rock-solid relationship CANNOT be formed even though Sex occurs on the first date?
Relationships come together however they come together, and is unique to the parties involved. There is a distinct difference between setting out to have Sex on a first date, and to have the Magic Sweep you away on a first date, and that may, or may not include sex.
I have met a woman (actually on more than one occasion) who 10 minutes after I met her, knew she was the one, and I knew I was going to marry her. Does anyone wish to go so far and tell me that I am making a mistake, or I am just looking for a casual fling, or that it couldn't come together that way?
45 minutes later, we were in the sack, 19 years later divorced, and still on very good talking terms. And I have no regrets whatsoever!!!!!!!!
What would I have needed to know about her? Oh, she's been banging everybody in town? Who cares, 'cause when I came along that was OVER - and it was OVER!
Maybe she was stealing like a thief? But when I came along, that went by the boards too, as there no reason for her to continue, as the new lifestyle had no call for doing that.
And so did everything else that would commonly be considered non-social conduct.
'Cause you know what? When I sat down in front of her the first date I saw her, I went on the basis, that whatever would be wrong, it would be fixed. That "Intension" is perceivable by others - call it intuition - and those that have no interest in working hard to maintain a relationship, can feel it right down to the bone, and the "Magic" never comes together.
Everything can be sorted out in due time. Even if I were to get to know the person over a period of 3 months, and she is all OK, if no magic exists pretty well right off the bat, I'll pass on it. I don't have enough time to lead a boring life.
Some will say Sex on First Dates are cheap flings. I say, there are some people that just don't catch on too quickly, consequently cannot account why some things come together on the spot for others.
If one needs a year to find out about someone, the walls of "Critcalness'" will pretty well ensure he will be blown off.
Irony is, its a predisposition to fear, a shortcoming of one's self marked by generally feeling uncertain about just about everything, not necesarily anything wrong with another person. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 7:15:19 PM | | WOW ticket couldnt of said it better myself ~~~~ to each his own, but dont judge because someone is different than u!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 7:21:57 PM | You got it, forthebeauty, Each to his Own!
And for a second there I thought this genuine discussion topic was going to turn back to another shallow beaten-to-death "Wear Condons" talk ... lol .... yeah, what else is new?... lol | |
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Posted: 10/21/2004 7:28:02 PM | lol Arent we all adults here? lol
Basically I feel the same way as u, i usually know in a short time, if there will be a relationship or not, and life is to precious and short not to live it to the fullest!!!!
I hear some men say that they dont feel special if the lady sleeps with them right off of the bat, that the lady would sleep with anyone if they done that. No, not true, why is it that we ladies get looked at as sluty for doing that, and the guys get the stud name, no big deal its a man thing? | |
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