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giggleparts

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Are men wired to cheat? Posted: 6/29/2008 10:20:42 PM
You know it! Whoohooo! Party! the giggleparts - Sarcasm, it's why the internet exists... that and for porn... mostly porn.

abelian

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Are men wired to cheat? Posted: 6/29/2008 10:33:40 PM
To you atheists that believe we are animals, you believe life happend by chance but you think its wrong to cheat. How do you come up with this logic? If you believe in evoulution then it wired us to cheat! I'm not sure how you came up with THAT logic. Evolution also gave us a brain to use. On an evolutionary time scale, it's too soon to tell if intelligence is good for long term survival of a species. If intelligence causes humans to act in a way contrary to what is best for perpetuating humans, humans will disappear. I'm not really certain why you think cheating is necessarily the best strategy for survival. If being faithful is a condition a man must accept in order to produce offspring from a female with superior genes, then it would be a disadvantage to cheat in order to produce offspring from females with inferior genes and risk being barred from producing further offspring from a superior mate. Since who has the best genes (or which genes are important to the species) is not easy to determine for humans whose survival is dependent upon a lot more than who can kill the biggest bear, I'm not sure you could expect things to be much different than they are - i.e., lots of competing criteria for what constitutes a good choice for a mate. Some men cheat, some don't. Perhaps the ones who cheat do so because they see the opportunity (in the evolutionary sense) to produce offspring which are genetically superior to the ones he's produced with his mate. Evolution doesn't imply that EVERY new species is better equipped for survival than the one from which it arose. Some mutations are random. It states that only those species which are better equipped for survival will survive long term. The ones which aren't will die out. If we die and rot and are souless and not judged what is the point of staying loyal to one person? I'm sure you can think of more reasons than I gave if you aren't determined to make a case against evolution. Your concept of evolution is a caricature of the theory.

abelian

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Are men wired to cheat? Posted: 6/29/2008 10:44:55 PM
He hasn't been posting in awhile so I don't think he'll answer, but I get where he was coming from. It's hard to explain. But I think what he was asking is if there is no higher power and no higher power to answer to and if we don't have a soul, if we are merely biological impulses, why not go with them? Because thinking is also a biological impulse. The ability to think further into the future means humans can evaluate the consequences of impulses against their long term survival. Whether or not intelligence is beneficial for long term survival is not very clear, but if it isn't, humans will not survive any longer than their intelligence allows. You can't consider only a subset of human biology if you want to understand humans.

abelian

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Are men wired to cheat? Posted: 6/29/2008 10:48:36 PM
From an evolutionary standpoint that only has value if creating a species where people are more emphatic and respectful means an increased survival rate. If cheating, lying, disrespecting others, means a higher survival rate or increased chances that our genes get passed on, then biologically speaking that's all that matters. That is absolutely true, but no one has shown that the development of ethics (and in turn, the intelligence to create a system of ethics) has been detrimental to survival.

akpoka

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Are men wired to cheat? Posted: 8/3/2008 3:31:54 PM
wow this r men wired to cheat is gettin hot..I do not think men are wired to cheat or a woman at that..I feel that if you r in a relationship an ya'all have a good understanding of eachothers wants an needs, that will help this crazy cheating thing...One thing is do not keep track of your mate 24/7 have trust...talk...GIVE eachother space...make it so they want to come back to you...Do not spend your days/nite wondering what your mate is doing when he r she is hangin out with the guys or girls...let them have what they had before you started dating that is the FRIENDS..I feel y ppl cheat is because you try an change eachother when you stat to date..REMEMBER.. you fell for your mate the way he was when you first got together..so trying to change the person you fell for in the 1st place is just silly...An then you get mad an say you are not the person I met..well hell no you wanted me to change.....so love the person as he or she is an let them be the person they have always been...or the one you fell for....

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