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Posted: 3/20/2007 9:35:18 AM | Embarrased him??? and what he did was a compliment?? Hello! No way give this dude a second chance. If he thought that was appropriate behaviour, I'd hate to think what he would think WASN'T appropriate!
Momma always said... fool me once, shame on you- fool me twice shame on me! | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 9:40:41 AM | LovelyViolet!
You did the absolute right thing! You were blatantly ignored by someone who was supposed to be giving his time and attention to you! I applaud you for your actions...what this self proclaimed "nice guy" did was just plain rude and crass.
Good for you that you had enough self esteem to get up and walk out. The behavior your "date" exhibited goes beyond neanderthal!
Blessings!
Aries | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 9:42:04 AM | | Don't give him another chance. He's a loser. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 10:39:43 AM | I agree with Bluegrass--you can entertain dumping a drink over his head, but don't actually do it.
A polite "Good luck in your search" sums it up nicely and it's taking the high road. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 10:47:38 AM | OP- Why would you even for one second doubt the validity of what you did?
YOU didn't do anything wrong.
And even more importantly, why the heck would you ever consider giving this turd another chance?
Move on sweetie, block him, keep him blocked, and move on!!
JJ | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 11:31:47 AM | | He deserved to be embarrassed for being a****ead | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 11:47:36 AM | 2 wrongs dont make a right though...
He was rude and classless to pull what he did... and you were just as classless to pull your stunt.
I see some women in this thread with even less class though... it makes me appreciate the lovely woman I have even more! | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 12:07:09 PM |
2 wrongs dont make a right though...
She wasn't wrong to leave - it would've been wrong to stay after being treated rudely
The date was over - no point in putting up with him | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 12:09:11 PM | From what I understood, she left while he wasnt looking.
I dont disagree with her ending the date... I just think she should have told him she was leaving is all. You dont up and ditch someone, Its just manners. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 12:28:51 PM | | Oh my god!!!! I cant believe u would give him another chance. U totally did the right thing. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 12:29:35 PM | | If he wasn't looking because he was in the bathroom answering an emergency phone call on the restaraunt phone, then leaving would have been uncouth. If he was off talking to someone else, anyone male/female/wookie, he should expect her to not be there when he gets back. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 12:36:50 PM | Trust me. You did the right thing.
What most likely happened with the way that guys think is that it didn't work out with that woman like he thought it would afterall. So, now he's trying to downplay what he did to you because you're second best and second best is better than nothing at all.
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Posted: 3/20/2007 12:43:41 PM | I may get blasted for this but i think you acted to quick!! You dont say if he excused himself to say hello, you dont say how long he was talking to her for.
What if they were high school friends? What if she was a neighbor? who knows this was a second date. You said he left the table, so I assume she was not close by and went to say hello. How do you know he did'nt bring her by the table to introduce her and poof your gone?
You should have waited till he got back to the table and asked some qualifying questions to see if what you were thinking was on track or not. That way there would be no opened questions.
Are you saying that when your on a date you can't say hello to somebody? It's hard to say if you did the right thing or not, I would have asked more questions to get a better ideal as to what was going on. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 12:43:53 PM | Something very similar happened to me once as well. I had been talking to a young college girl and we decided to meet for drinks at a kareoke bar one night. We got there and she kept talking to her friends who were regulars rather than trying to get to know me better. Then some guy sat down at the bar next to us and started talking about classes at the college that they both went to. I got annoyed with it but it wasn't actually a date anyway so there wasn't much I could say about it without looking like the bad guy. After fifteen minutes or so he asked her to get a table so they could talk alone. She asked me to watch her cigerettes and purse for her and said that she'd be right back. Fifteen minutes after that she came back for a cigerette. I asked when she was coming back so we could talk and she said that she's be back soon. Fifteen minutes after that I got to the end of my rope. I walked out and left her purse and things sitting there. It's amazing that she trusted me enough with her own personal belongings but not with her time or attention. She called as I was driving away and told me again that she was coming back soon. I told her that if she wants to get to know me then we'd leave and I'd buy her dinner somewhere else. She said that she didn't want to leave the bar so I told her that she can stay there with him then.
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Posted: 3/20/2007 12:49:56 PM | | edward1224, in your case that is a blantant disregard for your feelinga, if it happened to me I would be gone. With the OP, it just doesnt seem to be enough info to warrant the behavior. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 1:11:54 PM | Why on earth would you give him a second chance when:
1) you only liked him "ok"
2) he disrespected you/your feelings during your date
3) he didn't bother to apologize for his behaviour
4) he had the nerve to try to make you feel bad about "embarrassing" him when he brought this on himself
Of course you did the right thing! | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 1:29:11 PM | I would have gotten up and politely said good bye,thanked him for the dinner,and unless he immediately apologized for his bad manners and returned to the date he already has( you),then gone ahead and left, the point being that YOU minded YOUR manners and he got left looking like an ass in front of this other gal( I think you were being 'used' to make an impression on this other woman)
There would not, of course, been a second date. Screw that. Let him find some other fool.
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 1:43:21 PM | Indeed. A truly nice guy would simply have ignored his friend and pretend she didn't exist to make the girl he just met yesterday happy.
What a doo doo head. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 1:44:16 PM | I wouldn't give someone a 2nd chance in that situation. I agree with pretty much everyone else, thats not the way a gentleman would act.
To walk away and leave you at the table alone for an extended period of time is just rude. Me, personally, if the "friend" was still there on the way out from dinner, might have brought you over, said "hi" and introduced you (or if the friend saw me and came over to say hi, again, introduced you as my date). But my focus would be on my date, not a "friend". And to just leave you at the table? Rude, just plain old rude. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 1:54:53 PM | | He showed poor judgement in being/acting like that . You lowered yourself to his level. You can't change the spots on a leopard. I could see you being extremely dissed, but, face it, you really didn't know him - until then. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 2:12:53 PM |
Lets face it--you were not really into him anyways---he was just "ok" and "not particularly attractive", you noted that he "complained", then you state that " "I liked him OK" (who wants to be just OK??), you didn't like how he responded to another person..then you got up and left because of his lack of social graces.......
hummmm...I say you dumped him...why are you seeking approval for your actions--and even worse, why would you want to go back for more?
Scathing. I love it! | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 2:13:03 PM | I guess my sarcasm wasn't apparent.
Well, let me put it in a different light. I bet you a shiny new quarter that if the gender roles were reversed shit would be hitting the fan
"I was with my date and some dude walked in and she was touching his arm and laughing.. I just got up and left"
The rallying cry would be "Oh noes! You are a jealous possessive freak with stalker tendencies! You did that girl a favor!" | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 2:29:26 PM | I've run into people I know when I've been out with someone. I say hi and that's it, if they try to engage in conversation you say you're there with someone and see ya later.
He had no reason to be embarrassed, he apparently didn't realize his behavior was unacceptable.
It's a good idea to go to someplace you don't frequent, that way it narrows down the chancce you'll run into someone you know.
Seems like common sense isn't .
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Posted: 3/20/2007 2:40:09 PM | Yes, and there's no reason or precedent to ever believe that someone who posts such an experience on these forums might be embellishing the events. Its just another case of "Wonder what his side of the story would be".
Like maybe he met an old friend and excused himself to go say hello, meanwhile his date starts getting huffy, giving dirty looks and then pshawing as she storms out, making a scene. Leaving the poor guy and his friend to wonder WTF just happened. | |
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