| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 5:02:37 PM | she actually asked me to take her to see a band at a bar and she told me that she was a natural flirt and not to get upset if she talked to her friends throughout the evening.
Everything that followed after she told you this was needless. Alarm bells should have gone off in your head like a submarine claxon!
I hope you at least got your cookies after the battered "flirt" moved in with you.  Good luck in getting her out!
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 6:06:32 PM | | Ouch thats pretty low and shallow of him. Dont give him another chance. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 6:42:40 PM | | If you are on a date YOU are on a date with HIM period,if the interest wasn't there he should have stated when you arrived that he wasn't interested. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 6:46:17 PM | I definately think you did the right thing! Kudos to you! Friend or not he is on a date with you. A true gentleman would not leave you sitting there alone. He could have at least asked his friend to come back to the table for a minute and introduce you and a smart "friend" would keep it short and not ruin his date. You know what you deserve...don't settle for anything less. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 6:58:59 PM | I am still trying to figure out how, during the second time they ever met, she calls this being "dumped". You get dumped by a steady dating interest, a boyfriend, a fiancee.... You don't get dumped by someone with whom you are 20 minutes into (what isn't really) a relationship.
I also don't understand how people can have so little ability to think on their feet. When he wandered away, you should have really gone to him and said "You know this really isn't going anywhere so I will leave you here to tend to your business." Then you walk out a hero and leave him holding the bag. I mean, by then you had a pretty good read on him, right? | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 8:15:06 PM | OMG WHAT AN @$$.
major bad move. thats not a nice guy. that date foreshadows any breakup or divorce later in life | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 8:18:02 PM | No he is a jerk, and he will probably cheat on you! Shes only a friend is a very old line  | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 8:24:29 PM | My dear, don't feel bad or guilty. It really isnt about class, or interest, or nice guy stuff. All in all, he really just didn't give, what we all should give to each other, alittle bit of decorum, dignity, and respect. It's something that more and more of us, ( meaning humanity), give less and less of.
Besides, If it makes you feel better, I once went out to dinner with a woman, picked her up, brought her to dinner, only to be told mid way through dinner that "You know, you're not very attractive". I almost choked on my food.
So just look at it as having a goos story to tell, and move on to some one more fitting. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 11:47:41 PM | | We all have amusing stories that were not so amusing at the time. His behavior was boorish at best and passive /aggressive in that he tried to shift the blame to you. YOU embarrassed HIM?. Be interesting to have seen how long it took him to even notice that you were gone. Keep him blocked and move on .....he is so not worth the time . Just file it under DUFUS......there will be more. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 11:27:42 AM | | dont even give him the time of day.drop that zero and get your self a hero!! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 1:29:11 PM | | Date, or not, I think it is just plain rude to leave a invited person unattended and ignored in any situation. It would have been common courtesy for him to introduce you to his friend, and include you in on any conversation (which in my eyes the conversation with the other girl should should have been short and sweet so he could focus his attention back on you). "Friend", or not, this was a event for the two of you to get to know each other. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 3:18:47 PM | | oh well, you did give him a chance and he screwed. he got what he deserved, end of story. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 4:08:05 PM | How long he left you at the table alone is also a factor, five min isn't walk out material. She could of been a "friend" as he claimed she was. You in this case look like the bad person.
First impressions are very important and in my eyes that was a horrible one for him if he really was gone for a long period of time. He could have just said Hi to her and continued on your date.
Good move on the block there are way better dates to be had. Who knows what the second one would of been like, had you of chosen to go on it. At least he didn't waste too much of your time and well you had a meal on him! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 4:08:46 PM | You did the right thing but blocking and deleting him...what a prick to leave you there to speak with another lady....I hope his d*ck falls off!  | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 11:23:16 PM | | Block him. Its rude to do that on a date no matter who it is. He could say hi and have a few words by no way should he leave you sitting alone at a table. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/2/2007 4:52:25 AM | Hmmm he said you embarassed him. Yet you were the one left at the table holding your fork and surveying the restaurant walls. I think you were the one left in the embarassing situation. Dont let him guilt you - notice how he has turned it around. If he was genuinely 'sorry' he wouldnt have accused you of anything but he did and that tells me isnt too concerned about your feelings anyway.
Even if she was a friend or whatever, he should have said that beforehand. You dont say how long he was gone. I think that is also important as, for me, I would have been ok if he went over to say hi for a few minutes. Better yet as if she was a really good 'friend' one would think she would come over to him to say hi. Makes me wonder why she didnt if they were genuinely just friends.
Go with your instincts. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/2/2007 7:00:21 AM | hmmmm- i love that when guys say 'oh im such a nice guy' if he was and he was on a date with someone who you are getting to know then, assuming your getting along ok, its totally out of order and shows very bad manners to leave 'your date' sitting there - i think you were right to leave - and this 'she just a friend thing'? absoulte idiot - he was just trying to be 'the man' - as for further date - if you really liked him he got a lot of making up to do!!!..
I wouldnt bother tho, good luck anyhows | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/2/2007 9:40:14 AM | absolutely did the right thing
and showed more class than you date deserved
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/2/2007 9:46:30 AM | | Big applause for you. I can't believe how rude he was - well done you. Don't feel bad for a minute either - he's sooooooooooooo not worth it! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/2/2007 10:31:15 AM | Just another example of the "Nice Guy" whine... the guys who are forever claiming to be NICE, the guys that are so full of themselves that they can't see the forest for the trees.
These guys give the real nice guys a bad name.......
REAL NICE GUYS DON'T BRAG ABOUT BEING NICE...THEY JUST ARE....
The actual length of time he was gone really doesn't matter when you read what she described his behaviour as, toward the "friend"...she describes him as "ga-ga over her.. almost drooling, touching her , etc."
A little of that goes along way.. and I don't think too many women would sit around very long under those circumstances. I do think she should have ordered something very expensive from the menu first... "to go"... and left him to discover the bill if and when he bothered to return...
Then he might have had something to really bitch about.
I will bet he still thinks he is a "nice guy" too... oh well.... | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/3/2007 3:04:36 AM |
do think she should have ordered something very expensive from the menu first... "to go"... and left him to discover the bill
Oh I like it. Mental note. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/3/2007 3:15:25 AM | | I think yu should give him second chance. you never know he might be your Mr. Right. you cannot just give up on somone like that. Wishing you all the best love | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/3/2007 6:16:55 AM |
I think yu should give him second chance. you never know he might be your Mr. Right. you cannot just give up on somone like that. Wishing you all the best love
wtf?..... he wasn't able to pay attention to her long enough to be Mr.Right Now.. he was too busy off fawning over some "friend"....how could he be Mr. Right? The first chance was one too many... why would any woman give that a second chance? | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/3/2007 7:00:30 AM | Aha... there is a moment in a conversation where you can say.
.."Oh mate... I'm actually on a date... see the girl over there... give her a wave... (He waves) anyway, I really must get back to the table, would you care to come over and say hello?"
He could have said "hi"... waved and encouraged the two women to talk to one another. Girls like talking. I think he wasn't deliberately ignoring you... he is just dopey. He thinks he's a nice guy because he isn't very socially aware. He has no manners for a start, and he has no respect for your time, and ... he didn't think you were worth an introduction to this "ga ga" mate of his.
The other thing was, he probably thought you would be impressed by his popularity if he went and said g'day to some woman. This is a mistake made by people who are insecure. He is insecure.
Do you want a stupid man with no manners or respect for your time? How about a try-hard who needs other people as props?
There's your answer.
I hope he reads these comments! | |
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