| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 7/7/2007 9:21:39 AM | Dumped is dumped no matter how long you've known each other. She made the effort to dress up, make her way to their destination and was left sitting alone and making her way home. Her feelings were hurt and and I would think she may be a tad humiliated. I do agree that going up to him and saying, you've now left me for 20 minutes on my own while you chat up this nice lady, so I'll leave you to. And to her, I would say, I hope he's a gentleman with you. That really is claiming back your esteem and leaving on the high road.
There really should be a book on how to properly date. Hey....who wants to join in on that one! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/2/2007 10:02:38 AM | | I agree you did the right thing! He was far from a gentleman or a nice guy. He was rude and had no consideration for you at all. No wonder why he is alone. I guess chivalry isn't dead, just on life support :) | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/2/2007 5:50:58 PM | | He was a jerk. Why would you even consider possibly giving him another chance? He can only take advantage of you if you let him. Why let him? | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/2/2007 6:48:34 PM | | This has never happened to me and I hope it never does. If it was only 5 minutes of him talking to her that would not be so bad but I think you did the right thing. Another reason to take your own car on dates. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/2/2007 9:02:55 PM | He used you as a set up to try to make someone he wanted jealous. Sounds like a real winner and the meeting was far from chance Id bet. Delete him  | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/3/2007 9:14:50 PM | This sorta happened to me once. I was out with a guy I was dating and some of my friends. This is the first time he was meeting them. He went to the bar to get us drinks and was gone a long time. I went to the bathroom and saw him sitting next to this women who was fawining all over him. I got a bit irritated but kept my cool. He came back a bit later and I gave him a hard time, but it turned out it was his cousin's wife.
So, you never know. It is very rude to leave someone alone. But guys are guys. :shrugs: | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/3/2007 9:19:54 PM | forget about it, OP, move on to the next guy.
either you messed up.
or he did.
either way, i think you need to just move on.
you were not happy at the time, SO unhappy in fact that you walked out of the place, embarrassing him, and sort of ending things at that point.
so, it's over -- move on -- find somebody who doesn't upset you.
good luck!  | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/3/2007 9:24:40 PM | | I think you did the right thing!! As soon as I find I would be happier alone (than with a date that is ga-ga over another), then I go out and be alone--nothing wrong with that. (I would not give him another chance--there are thousands of men that don't act like that--hopefully) | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/5/2007 7:33:17 AM | Yes...good choice.
Hope you left a Tip for the waiter!
What he should have done was greet his friend, introduce her to you and get back to YOUR date.
Same goes for cell phones.....anyone goes on a date and starts yapping with other friends while on an early date, you simply go to the bathroom and do not return, since you surely have better things to do that sit and wait for you date to finish talking to her other friends who are apparently more interesting and important than you.
Early dates require a couples undivided attention to each other.
Thats why Movies, Disneyland, Skydiving, Cell Phones or other hightly distracting activities are not good for first dates.
The best ones are at a Cafe where it is fairly quiet, theres no pressure to dress up or down, and one can relax......plus you can simply and politely excuse yourself and leave if the date is not meeting expectations, in the time it takes to finish your drink. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/5/2007 7:55:01 AM | No, you did the right thing. He should have been a gentleman and taken you home early so that he could have hooked up with her.
Just kidding ladies, lol. (ouch, somebody just stuck a pin in the voodo doll, lol)
Dance with the person you brought to the Ball. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/5/2007 10:52:13 AM | | He might have been testing to see if you'd let him get away with it, but since you didn't, he will probably have respected you. I could be wrong though, and he could just be an inconsiderate jerk, but it's a possibility. People do all sorts of wierd and strange things on these dates to test people. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/7/2007 6:05:35 AM | | First of all if this was his good friend then he should have introduced her to you immediately. Second he was your date so he should have said a few words to her, and could have called her at some other time. Thirdly and lastly, if you are sure you didn't over-react or blow things out of proportion then the heck with him, move on and don't spend time thinking about him. If a person will do you that way on a first date then think how they could hurt you if you were involved with them. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/7/2007 1:26:53 PM | | Anyone who has to profess he's a nice guy...probably isn't. And he proved it. No loss there. | |
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Nona37
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Joined: 10/3/2007
Msg: 114 | |
| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/7/2007 2:40:56 PM | | I agree with Jersey Boy, most self-proclaimed "nice guys" are actually manipulators who blame women for THEIR emotional hangups! You are right to not want anything to do with this inconsiderate jerk, and NO, I would NOT give him a second chance, he blew it!!! What a jerk. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/7/2007 9:14:10 PM | He emailed me and said she was just a "friend" and that I had embarrassed him. He said I had it all wrong. I called him a jerk and blocked him. Should I give him another chance, or did I do the right thing?
you know that old saying that first insticts are always the best???
yeah,, honey,, go with that. why give him another chance to show no respect to you? i mean, unless your into guys who are like that, you should leave him on block, and block his text's to you. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/7/2007 9:24:39 PM | Wow, another "nice guy" who turns out to be not so nice....shocker.
If they have to tell you what a nice guy they are then they probably aren't. Really nice guys know it comes through and don't feel the necessity to tell people what its obvious to see they are. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/8/2007 2:27:08 AM | | Aquashell, you obviously aren't dating the right guys. I've been on here for about 2 months. I had my first internet date today. It lasted about 3 hours. She was very nice but I found out we just had nothing in common. She didn't like doing anything I mentioned. Maybe I wasn't paying attention or maybe she wasn't when we read each other's profile. Anyway, we didn't click. I don't think we will be dating each other anymore. However, I have never stood anyone up before. I've had it happen to me so I know how it feels. I just try and apply the golden rule. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/8/2007 12:36:35 PM | Yeah...I'm starting to realize that the ones who claim the loudest to be a "nice guy" who gets treated badly are the ones we all need to avoid. Too many times, they are just jerks who treat women like crap and have no self-awareness, (never think they do anything wrong) so they blame the women for not putting up with their crap.
It's a shame that these idiots mess things up for the real nice guys. But I have found that a true nice guy will simply let you know he's nice by the way he treats you and other people, not by constantly trying to convince you he's a nice guy. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:27:49 AM | | Give him another chance? Are you kidding?? I hope you are. | |
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medana
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Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 121 | |
| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:41:59 PM | u did the right thing
that was disrespectful. period. u r not second best | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:54:03 PM | | I think this one depends on how long he left you waiting....The more respectable thing he could have done is at least introduce you both to eachother and I think that would have a made the world of difference in this situation. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:56:47 PM | You did the right thing.
Also, this vastly amuses me--not because the OP got left at the table, but because the "nice" guys are consistently whining about not getting attention. This man is a "nice" guy--and look what he did!
Just calling yourself a horse of a particular color doesn't make you that color. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/4/2008 1:02:16 PM | | I guess that sums up why alot of relationships don't work out, people take themselves too seriously and the lack of communication | |
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