| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/16/2008 12:32:04 PM | You did the right thing.
You were the date,and he did not introduce you to his old friend moreover he left you alone at the table.. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/16/2008 12:39:35 PM | I would have either:
a) given him a little time to chit chat with the friend, and wait for him to introduce me
b) introduced myself to the friend and try to join in on the conversation
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c) interrupt and whisper into his ear that I wasn't having a good time and am going to leave (if a and b didn't work).
I would not walk out on a date without saying something. I think that's even more rude than neglecting you on the date by socializing with others (which is not really that bad if the person hadn't seen them in a long time).
I think it's fine to leave, but you should let someone know so they are not wondering what happened.
You two probably have different ideas about how to be social with people, so I'm not sure it's a good idea for you to try dating again. Sounds like you were really offended. And he probably thought he was acting normal. I kind of find it hard to believe that this is even an issue, because if you acted like that, and then called him a jerk and blocked him when he tried to talk to you about it, then I can't imagine him wanting to date you again anyway. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/16/2008 12:53:27 PM | LOL! sounds to me as if this moron IS a "nice guy"........to ANY woman that he doesn't happen to currently be on a date with.
I believe that leaving discretely was the appropriate thing to do. It would have been VERY tacky to confront him about his bad manners in public. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/17/2008 8:58:22 AM | | I wouldn't say I've been dumped, but I did have a girl get embarrassed and leave when she realized she had no money to pay for her sandwich at the deli we were at. I would have paid, and did, but I'm not sure why it was so embarassing to leave? I donno. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:01:42 AM | He did not handle appropriately. If he ran into some acquainstance, he should have stayed with you or brought her over and made introductions.
I'm not sure if you misinterpreted the "gaga over her" concept, but if he was on a date with you he should have not made an uncomfortable situation for you. Much less leave you out "in the cold". | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:13:02 AM | | Are you that desperate that you need to go out again with an inconsiderate jerk? | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/17/2008 6:19:35 PM |
A guy on here messaged me, he seemed ok although not particularly attractive. We chatted online, he complained that he was a "nice" guy and women wouldn't give him a chance. We met for drinks, I liked him ok. He called and asked me out to dinner for the next day. I met him there, halfway through dinner he saw a woman he was aquainted with. He was all ga-ga over her, practically drooling over her, touching her, etc. Meanwhile I was left at the table alone. I got up and left.
Hi lovelyviolet
That is exactly what happened to me on a beach date a couple of days ago. The woman abrubtly got out the water, said she had to go to work (even though she still had a few hours), spotted a male friend of hers and went to sit on the beach with him, leaving me standing in the sand on my own like a stunned mullet.
It is bloody rude, and you definately shouldn't give him another chance. Besides, you mentioned he wasn't that attractive, so find someone you find more attractive.
I know, the feeling really sucks, im glad I found this post as I am feeling exactly the same way as you at the moment | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/17/2008 8:41:57 PM | | sounds like he embarrassed you not the other way around. I would be so upset to be left alone like that especially since first meetings are taxing on the nerves to begin with. you did the right thing. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/17/2008 8:47:33 PM |
A guy on here messaged me, he seemed ok although not particularly attractive. We chatted online, he complained that he was a "nice" guy and women wouldn't give him a chance. We met for drinks, I liked him ok. He called and asked me out to dinner for the next day. I met him there, halfway through dinner he saw a woman he was aquainted with. He was all ga-ga over her, practically drooling over her, touching her, etc. Meanwhile I was left at the table alone. I got up and left.
He emailed me and said she was just a "friend" and that I had embarrassed him. He said I had it all wrong. I called him a jerk and blocked him. Should I give him another chance, or did I do the right thing?
You sound like a very possessive and insecure woman. He's on 1 date and you are already acting like you own him?
If he's not wearing your wedding ring... he is NOT yours.
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 4/21/2008 12:00:18 PM | As a guy, I def would say the guy acted like a real jerk.
I would def say he was not being polite, and should have introduced you to his female friend and or just said hello to her and spent the rest of the evening with you.
I def think the posts that confimed you leaving were correct.
I am a person that doesn't make a point to tell women any of that BS about being a "nice guy" because it always sounds like self pity. I am secure in my self to just be me and enjoy a casual date or what have you with a special person and be honest and polite. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 4/21/2008 1:50:26 PM | | Hell hath no fury like a woman who isnt getting attention ! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 4/21/2008 2:04:18 PM | Um... yeah... He should worse-case introduced you to his lady friend. I mean if he thought anything of you I would think he would. Well I wouldn't sit there even on a first date and have my date talk and feel up another guy so I don't see where anyone would think that you were wrong in your decision. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 4/21/2008 2:18:11 PM | How about "Dumped Mid So Called Love Affair"!!!!
Even nice guys get the shaft and often never know why!!!!!
This is a story worth relating...but maybe yes and maybe no!!! Two wrongs never make a right as our Mommy's taught us. Let it die and move on. It really is just so easy even without POF.
My Spin on that one....... | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 4/21/2008 2:38:34 PM | You’d embarrassed him?? No! He embarrassed himself when he took off after the other woman and left you sitting alone at the table. Don’t buy into this guy’s story. Nowhere in dating etiquette is it acceptable to leave your date alone while you go chat up another woman!!! You did the right thing to leave! If I were you I wouldn’t give the guy another chance since he’s already showed you he’s not date-worthy!!
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 4/21/2008 2:57:14 PM | | You did the right thing. He disrespected you for leaving you by the table alone and hitting on another woman while on a date with you. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:57:16 AM | | The guy was on a date with YOU, not some other woman. He should not have done that. Sure, maybe the woman was an aquaintance, friend, coworker, whatever, so what...give her a call later, but don't get up and leave the table to talk to her for a long time. You did the right thing. He was most definately in the wrong. He should have, at the very least, introduced you to the woman. There is no way you could have embarassed him. More like him embarassing you. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 12:24:41 PM | It's obvious. Either he was hoping for a threesome, or he knew the other woman hung out there at that time and used you to make her jealous.
You did the right thing and for him to ask you out again would mean 'shame on you' if you went. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 12:44:05 PM | | Doesn't anyone check the dates on these posts? The OP was in March of 2007 - why was it activated again? The OP isn't doesn't even have an active account anymore - I don't think she's looking for advice now! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:30:06 PM | | Whether or not she was just a friend, HE embarrassed YOU by leaving you alone, and in my opinion, showed you very little consideration. It was rude behaviour to say the least and I certainly wouldn't waste any more time on him. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:59:04 PM |
Doesn't anyone check the dates on these posts? The OP was in March of 2007 - why was it activated again? The OP isn't doesn't even have an active account anymore - I don't think she's looking for advice now!
 I noticed the same thing. I see this a lot, I don't know if people don't look at the dates or if they just like giving their opinions. Maybe you can start a thread about that and see how many years it last.
BTW op forget about that guy and move on to someone that focuses their attention on you  | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 2:04:47 PM | ASOFRICKINGLUTELY.... well blocked and deleted, what a jerk
Vinny: its like this you have to search for an old Forum, to add to, if you start a new thread without checking, you can be banned for up to a month. So what you have to do is find when the post was taken over by someone new, or restarted. Its all in the game! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 2:13:09 PM | No, don't give him another chance. Don't even given him another thought. You did right in getting up and leaving. There's plenty of good men to choose from, so go on girl, and get fishing  javascript:smilie('')
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jag62
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Joined: 8/30/2007
Msg: 173 | |
| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 2:23:25 PM | Touching her? kidding right? I know you aren't but I'm wondering, who the he** did he think he was to even give her more than 10 seconds when he was on a date with you!?
She obviously wasn't any better, to let him leave you like that.
He was/is very disrespectful.
No second chance on that one! | |
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jag62
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Joined: 8/30/2007
Msg: 174 | |
| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 2:27:31 PM | ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!
you say, " You sound like a very possessive and insecure woman. He's on 1 date and you are already acting like you own him?
If he's not wearing your wedding ring... he is NOT yours."
How in the heck does what HE did, make her all you accuse her of being???
possessiveness, security (or lack of), and possession, has NOTHING to do with what happened here.
It is all about respect. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:44:08 PM | | Definitely you acted on your own feelings, and good that you did. But I wouldn't block him immediately. I'd allow him to message you, then tell him off, then block him. There are the really insensitive kind of men, who need 'feedback' on their lack of social skills. | |
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