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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 7:51:50 PM | | I was not actually dumped in mid date..but I did experiance something similar on a first *meet* over coffee. While chatting with my date a relative he apparently had not seen in some time stopped and they carried on a great conversation. After she left..another lady he knew stopped and again they chatted. The interruptions were bad enough, but they spoke French the entire time and he was aware that I did not speak french..so I felt he was being quite rude especially since he also mentioned they spoke english as well. Never really got to know him and didn't really care to after that! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:04:47 AM | Even you asking this question shows women will never learn. Let me see, you will go out with him again, he will say all you want to hear, you will fall for him, then he'll treat you worse, you'll fall for him more but you meet a really nice guy. You tell the nice guy you can't be with him because you are into this other guy even though you shouldn't because he's a jerk.
You'll then get tossed aside by the jerk, you then will cry to the good guy and tell him you should have been with him all along; the good guy will feel used and that you are not very bright for choosing the jerk, so he will leave you and you will then have no one.
Sure I'd give him another chance; sounds magical. Just make sure he has no friends in the place or they may just screw right in front of you. You need to get a clue. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:13:25 AM | | Had a similar experience. Met a man for drinks after a couple of phone conversations. Within about the 1st 5 mintues he kept touching me (my leg, my arm), then within about 30 minutes he wanted to know if I found him sexually attractive. I kept ignoring the question and finally after he persisted I asked him why he kept asking me. Said that he knows that women know within the 1st 15 minutes whether or not we're attracted, and if I wasn't by now, he wasn't going to waste any more time. I said I sure wasn't and he got up and left. Amen! No chance I'd speak to him again. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:29:51 AM | | If you think that is bad, I was dumped 2 days into a 2 week vacation. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 2:52:02 PM | | man he is lucky you went quietly, some women may have left after causing a scene! he was rude as can be i would have done the same if i were you. now you know why he is single, he got someone who liked him then acted as if you werent even there! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 2:58:13 PM | | You did the right thing for sure. You were his date not hers. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 3:13:56 PM | Not having been there or knowing the type of place you were in, not sure what i would have done.
I would have probably gone up to the bar, got a drink and started chatting up another man. Then, if the 'date' came over i would have said "sorry, i assumed we were done so I've moved on". Let him know what it feels like to be dismissed for another.
LOL...end of the day there is NO WAY i would contact him again after you saw his true colors. We all know ACTIONS speak louder than words. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:14:47 PM | omg, what a loser...let me clarify this as well...if you give him another chance your a loser too.
Screw him, what a moron.... | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:16:21 PM | | i couldnt agree with you more mthomjmark ...frick, why oh why do some women just not get it?? | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:28:38 PM | | You defitnitely did the right thing. I probably wouldve embarrassed him a little more and cussed him out good fashion in front of ms whoever. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:34:03 PM | I don't know
from your account of events ~ yes
is there something else to tell us?
I've done the same thing before ~ well, once anyway ~~
I do not expect a dog and pony show ~ but some degree of respect,
I demand. ~ In that~ my involvement is predicated on mutual interest in each other.
I suited up and showed up ~ I do not expect to compete with total strangers on my dime ~ the first 2 hours of getting to know each other. ~
Did I say it well? ~ dance | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:37:45 PM | | well you got a good look at the future!! move on screw him!! | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:45:55 PM | | You go girl - I would have done the same thing and in fact have done the same thing. That was so totally rude of him. He should of least introduced her to you. You don't need anyone that callous. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 4:49:20 PM | BEHHHHHHHH!!!!! agh, the swingers are back! Hate to be preachy, but being that the first meeting was for drinks, well, that woulda thrown a red flag up for ME. I know, I know, I have way too much self discipline to do me any good. Go ahead, peeps, I know you wanna tear me apart on that one. As I've said before, monogomy, or even one-on-one dating just isn't sexy enough for this horribly f'd up society anymore.
Now me, being the um.....ahem.....gentleman that I am, if I'm on a date, whether there's chemistry or not, I see it thru til the end.....never left anyone sitting mid date, but then, I dont have alcohol in my blood stream, or worse, blood in my alcohol stream, or even worse, the maturity of a 14 year old.
Some people do not.....cannot......WILL not....EVER....possess the maturity and self discipline to live respectfully, act respectfully, or sorry for your trouble, DATE respectfully......whether theyre sober or not.
Violet(and I hope you don't mind me calling you by name), just don't fret it, and let internet dating be just what it is.....INTERNET DATING. Worse you found a stalker, rapist, killer, cross dresser, or all of the above....
Just like the URL name, there's "plenty of fish" in the sea.
(you may have to steam to portugal to find them, but theyre there)
Have a nice day.
-Kevin | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:54:41 PM | ...Now you see what you should have done....ordered another round of drinks, some appetizers, then left.
...maeflowers | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:02:10 PM | | Oh yeah I wouldn't go as far as blocking but telling him he was a jerk and to leave me alone | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:25:21 PM | | To the person that said ladies wouldn't give a nice guy a chance. That's silly. I get chances all the time, I've even had to earn my chances. Sure they don't work out in the long run, but at least I have the chance. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/22/2008 7:49:01 AM | | lostintheshuffle, ladies do give nice guys a chance and dont you worry it will work out in the long run when u have met the right one. | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/27/2008 6:23:34 AM | | Lol Avarielle; Let's not beat around the bush here..... Tell us how you REALLY feel.... | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 5/27/2008 6:30:23 AM | | It was a breach of etiquette on his part. If he didn't know how this put you in a "spot", then he needs to learn a critical lesson in relationships. You do not know how to read "minds", and neither does he, however by him leaving you at the table alone.... if he didn't know this is a huge no-no, then what other breaches of social etiquette will you stumble across with him in your future together? Are you willing to put up with a guy who according to you... doesn't look so grand.... and also, at the same time 'TRAIN' him on some basic manners? | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 9/21/2008 4:24:51 AM | IF you're planning of being an FWB for him sure, go for it.
Even a creep with an IQ of 66 would know better than to do that.
He's definitely not interested in you (sorry to say it) as much as he's interested in her.
Oh and if she was really just a friend , he had ANY courtesy and it was an essential conversation, he would have either introduced you and had you in on the conversation or at least taken a couple seconds to explain Before taking more than 30 seconds out of the date With you.
Of course to be fair I should point out that most of us are assuming you waited more than 5 seconds and that your assessment of his reaction was accurate.
If I saw SB from High school under similar circumstances, I would probably go up to her and give her a hug (maybe sneaking up behind her and covering her eyes and saying "guess who") and she would probably give me a big hug.
BUT that would be AFTER I said to you"Holy cow that's SB from high school, I haven's seen her in 20+ years, may I go and say hi?" and I would bring her back to the table and introduce you (or more likely she would say "hey who's that you're with", she was always better at the social courtesy stuff than I) But to anyone who was good at reading body language and reactions if would be obvious we had always been partners in crime and kindred spirits, never romantically involved.
Now if I saw EV from high school (also not seen on 20+ years).... totally different situation. You might actually have a vary strange sensation that I was suddenly way too totally into you (me ignoring her) and wonder why the sudden strange change (I probably wouldn't even be aware of the difference). But I would hope you would say something, and I would realize what was happening and explain.
As you get older, history does come into play a lot more, all the more reason to remember common courtesies & keep communications open.
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 9/21/2008 4:35:02 AM | Let me see if I understand this correctly:
1. He whines to get you to go out with him
2. You don't like him all that much anyway, he isn't that good looking
3. He is rude and disrespectful to you-so much so that you leave in the middle of dinner
4. He doesn't even notice or attempt to stop you because he's so involved with this 'friend'
5. He emails you & doesn't apologize profusely ( which I would disregard anyway),
6. He blames you for embarrassing HIM?
My question for you is, "Why in the hell did you even go out with him in the first place and then to question whether or not to do it again??" Come on...are you that hard up for dates?? | |
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| Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 9/22/2008 10:15:12 AM | | If were you ,I'll wait for a nice timing and stand beside him smiling at the lady and have him introduce me to her,if my date forgot his manners I will introduce myself to her. | |
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