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 superserial

Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 201
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 9/22/2008 10:46:08 AM
I had a moment like this, oddly enough.

I met this girl, brought her back to my place. She was a little crazy, but was hot. We were fooling around in my room during the day (which was nice), but the crazy factor came back and was annoying to me later on. My roommate brought another girl over to our house that night and the crazy girl fell asleep early. I ended up making out with the girl that just came over while the other girl was passed out in my bed lol.
 Sweetbabeblues

Joined: 4/23/2008
Msg: 202
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Posted: 9/22/2008 10:50:03 AM
I would have dumped his ass, and never even given him another thought.
He was very rude, and degrading......
Been there done that, and never thought twice about doing it.....
 Chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008
Msg: 203
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Posted: 9/22/2008 2:54:53 PM
You totally did the right thing by leaving, then by telling him off afterwards. Personally I wouldn't give him another chance. It was extremely rude of him to leave you at the table by yourself, while you're supposed to be on a 'date', and go chatting off with some other girl (regardless of it was a guy or girl, it was still not proper etiquette... he should have at least introduce you, even if it was brief). If he was truly a "nice" guy, he wouldn't have done that to begin with.
 tripoli99

Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 204
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 9/22/2008 2:57:38 PM
IMO, it's the same as if your date, answered their CELL PHONE during the dinner.....unless they are a doctor on call, no one should be that selfish to their date......turn the phone off for the hour.
 heaven558

Joined: 7/29/2008
Msg: 205
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 9/30/2008 7:25:11 PM
Hey I think it was right for you to leave him at dinner but you should have not called him a jerk when he texted you you should I think in my opinion just blocked him and closed the window
 diamondgirl2727

Joined: 2/25/2008
Msg: 206
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 9/30/2008 7:56:46 PM
does this not tell you why the guy says he cant get or keep a woman? What he did was probably only the tip of the ice berg, you were right to leave, maybe he got the msg, but with people like that, I doubt it. Nice guy my a**
 MARCYRR

Joined: 3/15/2008
Msg: 207
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Dumped mid date!! LOLOL HOIW ABOUT STOOD UP??
Posted: 10/31/2008 4:39:41 PM
YES, HIZDOG, HOW MANY OTHER WOMEN HAVE U STOOD UP??? PEOPLE WHO LIVE IN GLASS HOUSES SHOULD NOT THROW STONES!! AND, PLEASE REDO YOU RPROFILE. NOTHING IN THERE IS ANYTHING LIKE YOU!!
 Jenp808

Joined: 7/29/2007
Msg: 208
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Posted: 10/31/2008 4:56:52 PM
Whoa, excuse me for being negative, but what a dummy! You absolutely did the right thing.
 yourstillhere

Joined: 7/30/2008
Msg: 209
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Posted: 10/31/2008 5:51:51 PM
If a relationship is what you`re looking for, never give someone a chance.
Never.

If you are of the mindset that you are "giving him/her a chance" then you have set yourself in a position of power, and they, in a position of servitude.

A position you are ill equipped to handle.
Likewise, a postion they will protest, and fight about, for they want some power too.......

Dont be of the mindset that you give people chances, they`ll fail you everytime, and you`ll fail as their powerful leader every time.

Give *relationships,* and they`re ability to form and grow, a chance.
Not people. You arent trying to form and grow people. You`re trying to form and grow relationships.
 Anya216

Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 210
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Posted: 10/31/2008 6:14:25 PM

A guy on here messaged me, he seemed ok although not particularly attractive. We chatted online, he complained that he was a "nice" guy and women wouldn't give him a chance. We met for drinks, I liked him ok. He called and asked me out to dinner for the next day. I met him there, halfway through dinner he saw a woman he was aquainted with. He was all ga-ga over her, practically drooling over her, touching her, etc. Meanwhile I was left at the table alone. I got up and left.

He emailed me and said she was just a "friend" and that I had embarrassed him. He said I had it all wrong. I called him a jerk and blocked him. Should I give him another chance, or did I do the right thing?


Violet, you did the right thing. Dump him and move on. He is a pig; you deserve better than that. If he had a nerve to pull this on a second date, imagine what he would do in a relationship. Keep up the good work, girl.
 MARCYRR

Joined: 3/15/2008
Msg: 211
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Posted: 12/29/2008 4:17:51 PM
I WOULD RATHER BE DUMOED MID DATTE THAN BE SCAMMED FOR MONEY LIKE U SCAMMED ME, HIZDOG!!
 newguyxyz

Joined: 12/17/2008
Msg: 212
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Posted: 12/31/2008 7:38:54 PM
Shit... Even I wouldn't do that. There's only one reason I would even come close to doing that and it sure doesn't involve wanting a second date LOL.
 arizonabeth

Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 213
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Posted: 12/31/2008 9:23:36 PM
Well, you could have handled it differently if you wanted to give things a chance. People are idiots, they make mistakes, say stupid stuff.... I've been known to do it every now and then myself. I think I'm generally more tolerant of the "small stuff", though. It takes a lot to ruffle my feathers, because I already know that everyone's an idiot occasionally.

One time, someone did something that REALLY put me off. I'm mean, I thought I was going to tell this person off right there, in front of others. I also thought about just walking out, because they deserved it. I picked up my purse and went to the restroom to cool off, essentially, gave myself a time-out, until I was sure that my reaction wasn't going to reflect poorly on ME, even if they deserved it. I'm glad I did. I mean, that person was definately rude, but I was still in control of my behavior. When I returned and finished the conversation, suprise.....I was treated with a lot more respect. If I had left, I would have been the hot-headed one. Ideally, I would have treated the situation with humor and grace, but my blood was boiling and a time- out was my next best option.

I really believe that people learn to treat to better when you model the way you would like to be treated and sometimes give them better than they deserve. People actually don't reflect on their bad behavior when you get reactive.
 Sefra

Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 214
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 12/31/2008 10:09:20 PM
Why are you double guessing yourself???? The guy is a retard.
 lonelyblueboy32

Joined: 12/10/2008
Msg: 215
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 12/31/2008 10:46:22 PM
No i reckon you did the right thing.For starters if he's on a date with u, he should be there for you and getting to know you not getting extraon the side at your expense.I say good riddens.You sound like u have your head screwed on right.
 *Sassy Redhead*

Joined: 3/2/2008
Msg: 216
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Posted: 1/1/2009 1:16:11 AM
What he did was harsh and didn't consider how he had embarrassed you. Hmmmm....you have to decide what is right for you OP....do you want to take the chance that he will do that to you again?
 AventuriousGirl

Joined: 8/11/2008
Msg: 217
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 1/1/2009 8:58:00 AM
You did the right thing !!!! Personally I think if he wanted to chat with her (friend or not) could have waited till the date was over. You both were in the process of tying to know one another and obvisiouly he didn't want to make that much of an effort instead he trampled off with some other woman. A real nice guy wouldn't do that to thier dates no matter what. He's a dog! Who let him out of the crate anyway?
 Cogie36

Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 218
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Posted: 1/1/2009 9:57:20 AM
Do you really have to ask this question?????? talk about total lack of respect for someone......if you give someone like that another chance then you deserve what you get.....Lord Have Mercy!!
 Ms. Strawberry

Joined: 11/28/2008
Msg: 219
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 1/2/2009 2:50:17 PM
Ignore this guys' email....total looser!! I would never waste my time...classify him as idoit status...and ya...as the other writer wrote...you should have poured a drink on his head...lol
 douglas1957

Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 220
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Posted: 1/8/2009 9:33:04 AM
If you think that's bad ,while sitting in the theater in the middle of the movie ,the woman I was with tells me she has to go to the ladies' room, gets up,leaves - and doesn't come back! I went out to the parking lot to find a crudely written note on my windshield that read: "Thanks for the dinner, will call later." I, like you, "took the high road" and just went home (this was our second date). She called at 1:00am that night & her explanation was, quote "You were treating me so well, you were doing all the right things but I just couldn't handle it!" It just goes to show you that there are women that act like jerks,too. (Of course, the daytime talk shows & authors of relationship-advice books don't want to admit that, but that is another story). Anyone who acts in such a rude, callous and innmature manner will get theirs in the end! Keep right on doing the right thing & you'll find the right one- and hopefully, so will I !
 kahakuloa60

Joined: 11/30/2008
Msg: 221
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 1/8/2009 9:57:52 AM
"What i think really happened is that you got jealous, your insecurity triggered your temper to see what you wanted to see... and instead of asking who the girl was, you just up and left. "

Respectfully disagree. Her date got up, left her at the table, and socialized with another.

Really, REALLY rude. Inexcusable. That happened to me once, and it PISSED me off. Only problem was, if I had walked out, she was looking at a 300 mile cab drive home. So against my better judgment I sat put.
 Blue_Note

Joined: 10/4/2008
Msg: 222
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 1/8/2009 10:19:20 AM
Left at the table alone - not introduced but just . . . left there alone? He earned his embarassment. You did the right thing.
 *~*Royal Majesty*~*

Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 223
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Posted: 1/8/2009 10:41:54 AM
I also had a similar experience, just like the OP's, and I also got up and left.
I do not have any tolerance for blatent disrespect & rudeness!

If a person immediately apologizes for rude behaviour & is truthful & sincere in thier apology, then give them a second chance.

Otherwise, walk (or run!) away!
 mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008
Msg: 224
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Posted: 1/9/2009 10:01:37 AM
wow, seems like it was a set-up(to see how you would react). I ran into somewhat of a situation like that. He was being inconsiderate and I believe you were right in your actions. Don't give him a second chance, let him continue drooling over what else he has prepared on his plate!
 stpauligirl635

Joined: 11/22/2008
Msg: 225
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Posted: 1/9/2009 11:58:34 AM
If some guy left me sitting alone and was flirting with another woman while he was supposed to be on a date with me I would leave too!! Just because you don't know the exact relationship he has/had with that woman doesn't mean he should leave you sitting alone like that.

I think that it shows you have pride in yourself.
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