| In love with the wrong person?
Posted: 1/12/2008 7:33:44 AM |
You can't make a "wrong" person a "right" person. You can, however, change why you see them as the wrong person, which could make the the right person. Well, unless you're the wrong person.
Damnit woman!!!
I am laughing. | |
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| In love with the wrong person?
Posted: 1/12/2008 7:34:31 AM | i am not dating anyone
but my best friend is a guy whom I am in love with, He just doesnt know it.... nor do i know how to tell him
but the future to a point is unwritten | |
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| In love with the wrong person?
Posted: 1/12/2008 7:49:28 AM | A 28 year old who isn't ready to have children yet and everyone thinks she's a b*tch. How ridiculous! Being in love with someone does not have to mean ready or willing to have kids!
Pandora, you are obviously not telling the whole story with whatever reasons you have for not wanting to have his children. If he has some serious genetic health issue and that is your reason, only you can know what is right. Some people with serious health issues are in a hurry to have children since they fear for their lives and want to experience raising a child. Some people actually put some thought into when they are ready to think about having kids because of what they want to do with their lives.
Nobody here has even considered how long you've been with this guy. I would surely hope that it's been long enough to even consider asking you about having kids. If not, he might feel desperate to find someone willing to give him that chance. If you've been with him for enough time to even consider such a thing and love him like you suggest and still say no way, than I suppose you need to make a decision to move on if you've already decided it's something you will never be willing to do for him. | |
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| In love with the wrong person?
Posted: 1/12/2008 7:59:54 AM |
Nobody here has even considered how long you've been with this guy.
I was thinking the OP was referring to the same boyfriend she mentioned in another thread about being together for a year, but he can't make her cum. | |
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| In love with the wrong person?
Posted: 1/12/2008 8:13:55 AM |
I was thinking the OP was referring to the same boyfriend she mentioned in another thread about being together for a year, but he can't make her cum.
Since we are required to do thread searches my curiosity was not about that. :( | |
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| In love with the wrong person?
Posted: 1/12/2008 8:22:22 AM | | Yes, I would end it. What if years down the road your relationship doesn't work? Then you will always regret never having kids. This is not a strange question at all. You are making a permanent decision. It is a good thing you are thinking about it. Kids are family....your blood. They are a big part of life. I couldn't imagine life without my daughter...I wouldn't want to. It is a very important relationship. You grow yourself and learn things about life by being a parent. I would not miss out on that for anything. | |
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| In love with the wrong person?
Posted: 1/12/2008 8:35:08 AM | the answer is simple op,if he's told you he doesn't want to settle down and doesn't want kids and you want both..he's most definitely the wrong guy...to say you won't find someone as great again is only fooling yourself.
i would stop wasting your time with this guy unless you are willing to sacrifice motherhood..and only you can make that decision.it's so easy to fall into that trap of giving up something important to you when you're in love..you should never ever have to do that for anybody..i've done it and have regretted it ever since,but am now getting back into those things that were important to me,and i won't give them up again for anybody.
hang in there,you will meet the right one.as they say there are plenty of fish in the sea!! | |
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| In love with the wrong person?
Posted: 1/12/2008 1:18:40 PM |
Is this even a strange question to be wondering about?
Not strange at all.
What would you do, if you were almost certain you would never meet someone as good as him again, who would treat you so well and who you would get on great with?
The word almost jumped right off the page at me. This leads me to believe that there is something else in play here. Perhaps some unresolved issue that you have with yourself. I'd be curious to know what circumstances lead you to believe that you could never find someone whom could love you just as deeply again. Now turn that around. Why is it that you feel/think that you could not find another you could love? Of course it wouldn't be the same as with the man you are talking about here. It can be just as deep, but just in a different way. Not to belittle the depth of this love you have for him, but more for a reference; it's like that favorite sweater, shirt, what ever. For some unexplained reason it's your favorite. You have other sweaters that look just as good on you, but there is just something about that one you like better then all the rest. You've attached some sort of deep emotional bond with it, and you cannot explain specifically what it is......you just know! This may sound odd, or a bit funny, but it works the same way with people.
It's the letting go that hurts the most. I'm sure many who post in these forums know exactly how it feels to let go of someone they have loved deeply. The longer the relationship was, the harder it is to let go, but in the end they knew it was for the best. They knew it was the best thing for them personally.
Would you end it because you didn’t want to have his kids??
This one perplexes me a tad. What specific reason do you have that makes you think this? What makes you not want to have his children? If you love him in every other way, this just doesn't quite sit right with me because you said this;
That's despite the fact you knew he would make a great father cos he loves kids anyway and is good with them.
It's a contradiction of thoughts IMO.
I don’t envy the choices you have to make in regards to this personal dilemma, but I wish you the best in what ever it is that you choose to do. Remember that in the end, it’s what makes you the happiest. | |
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| In love with the wrong person?
Posted: 1/12/2008 1:32:22 PM | | by the way her threads are... seems like she meets a lot of nice guys that cant get over her lol. | |
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