| Hmmm, deception? How many think you've been deceived on here?
Posted: 5/16/2007 2:34:40 PM | | I have had it too. If you are a few pounds overweight or more, you aren't athletic, or slim. Pictures from 5 years ago are probably not you now. I update my photos every few months. Why lie, it only bites you in the ass in the long run. I can understand to a point because if you aren't a "10" like everyone thinks they deserve, they won't give you the chance. But if they get to know you it might overcome a flaw. My God we have become so superficial that the only things that matter anymore are looks, money, and social status. What a crock. if you can't forgive someone of one little flaw when you aren't perfect yourself. There is a lid for every pot, even though sometimes the lids are cracked and the pots are warped, lol. I know there are alot of girls that have told me I am not what they are looking for and never give me the chance to show them they will never find a nicer guy who would treat them better. but if they are too superficial then it is their loss and they deserve the next ***hole. | |
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| Hmmm, deception? How many think you've been deceived on here?
Posted: 5/16/2007 2:37:28 PM | | Just googled myself with my POF name... comes up on a west palm beach singles site... exact same info. my photo ... creepy... I never joined it, but there I was... i think it was on oodle.com or something like that... | |
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| Hmmm, deception? How many think you've been deceived on here?
Posted: 5/17/2007 2:56:18 PM |
jerrybracken2: I know there are alot of girls that have told me I am not what they are looking for and never give me the chance to show them they will never find a nicer guy who would treat them better. but if they are too superficial then it is their loss and they deserve the next ***hole.
So you mean to say that YOU would give all women a chance and not judge them for being less then perfect and them being not exactly what you're looking for? And let them show you that you will never find a nicer lady who would treat you better ? | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 3:22:03 PM | | My favorite kind of deception is the kind that the "prefer not to say" choice seems to encourage and perpetuate. People not wanting to admit they have kids. People not wanting to admit they smoke. People not willing to admit they're married. That choice forces you to ask, and I have yet to get straight answers from people with that in any section of their profile. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 3:31:22 PM | | I sure would as long as they don't lie about what they look like or put up old pics. i have dated thin, a few extra pounds, short, tall, younger, older and everything in between. If there is a physical attraction then there is no problem. I have different tastes. Where it would be nice to date Cindy Crawford or any of the Dixie Chicks (if there weren't total airheads or stuck on themselves) but I am realistic. I am a good looking guy (maybe not to some who think good looking is only in GQ magazine) but I am no model. While like I said there needs to be some physical attraction I am more apt to date a "decent" girl (but freaky in private, lol. jk). | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 4:39:11 PM |
jerrybracken2: If there is a physical attraction then there is no problem
Yet you just harped on women who don't give you a chance becaue you're not really what they're looking and they don't give you a chance. And here you are saying that for you to give women a chance that may not be what you're looking for, there has to be phycial attraction. You've contradicted yourself here. So rather then the women not giving you a chance, guess they weren't physically attracted to you. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 5:00:51 PM | | Well as stated before, there is a difference between too high of expectations and a physical attraction. Would you go out with Kramer from Seinfeld? Ok, let's use this "scale" that was refered to earlier. If a woman/man is a 6 and are only looking for 9's or 10's, more than likely they are going to be alone for along time. The thing is, people who may be 5's or 6's con themselves into thinking they are 10's and think they deserve a 10. I didn't contradict myself. Like I said, I don't think Brook Shields would give me the chance, but at the same time I would not date Bee Arthur either. Everyone today is all about looks, money, and status. I am not. A physical attraction does not mean the woman has to be drop dead georgeous in every mans eyes. To me, what is inside really adds to the outer appearance. What these guys are saying is that to most women, especially really good looking ones, they don't care about what is inside just the outside. They would rather date Brad Pitt and be treated like shit than date someone who may be a little (not butt ugly) less attractive but would treat them better than anything they have ever known. Understand or do I need to elaborate further? | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 9:51:01 PM | Now you're just trying to cover up what you stated before and you're talking in circles...I know, I know...guys are good at this form of communication.
Basically you expect women to give you chance regardless if they think you're not what they're looking for. And if they don't, they're just shallow and superficial. Yet for you to give a woman a chance there has to be physical attraction first, now that's shallow and superficial! You seem to think it's acceptable for you to act one way, as long as women don't act the same way towards you.
Accept the fact that there's women out there who aren't attracted to you and it's just that, rather then calling them superficial. You're no better stating how there has to be the physical attraction before you'd bother with them. That is not giving someone a chance, as you so stated. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 10:17:54 PM | Men & women lie everywhere, not only on dating sites, but to me it's even more of a waste of time when they lie on these because it defeats the whole purpose!
I agree with blastkissed.... web cam is great way to see someone as they are. I've even been on msn web cam in my dressing gown & hair all over the place!!! I said "NO!" when he made the request for web cam but then thought "oh what the heck, this is me too, can't always let him see me looking my best" It's really worth it. You get the whole vibe of the person, also make sure you talk on the phone too, there's a lot in someones voice & the way they speak.
Shifty people avoid these things..... I think
Then again.... some shifty people loooove the whole web cam thing for another set of worries!  | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 12:20:02 AM | | You are so totally of base with what I said. I said there has to be a physical attraction for BOTH parties, but some people are reaching. I am more into inner beauty but yes I have to be physically attracted to a woman. My tastes are different then most people who think they dserve a 10 when they are a 6 or so. Where do you get your thoughts from what I said? I don't back peddle, don't need to. I know I am not a model and I don't expect a model to give me a chance. Physiacl attraction means there is something good about a person whether internal or external. Maybe you are the superficial one who is trying to feel good about yourself. maybe you need to re read what I have wrote. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 12:21:44 AM | | And yes I have dated girls who were less than perfect by other people's standards and I would again. But I am looking for internal beauty as well. I have dated ok looking girls but in the end they thought thier shit didn't stink and that is what turned me off. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 8:06:51 AM | I dont understand why people do the things they do! I have been decieved, as most of us have......... I just keep hopeing that I will meet someone special.... eventually!
BEST wishes to all of us here............. keep fishing  | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 9:00:33 AM | I dated a guy who claimed to own his own home, and acted as the "man of the house". His exact words included: "all the responsibility, but no respect." He claimed to have sold a video store in Missouri and moved here to "rescue" his mom and sisters from a crappy neighborhood. His profile further claims he is a small business owner.
The truth of the matter: he lived in the basement of his mom's rented, not owned, home. He spent his time there getting drunk and watching movies (maybe that was his idea of a video store?). He actually moved from MO to avoid being arrested for warrants he has there. His mother did the paperwork for the company he worked part time for (he did not own any of it!).
There were many more lies from this guy. Some of them included two Master's Degrees that were under an alias, a book he's supposedly writing, MENSA invitations, and a Master's in Psych he's "working on" now. In the time I knew him, he only drank, smoked, and watched movies. Can you get a Master's in that?  | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 6:51:38 PM |
jerrybracken2: Maybe you are the superficial one who is trying to feel good about yourself. maybe you need to re read what I have wrote.
That was a very immature response. Because you don't get your way you call me superficial? Then again because other women aren't interested in you, you also call them superficial. Maybe they're not interested in you because of your holier-then -thou attitude. So when it comes to being rejected, be a man about it and suck it up. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 8:24:00 PM | | Hey man get used to it people lie either sex. But if they,re starting off that way it only gets worse. I met a woman a few weeks ago in my community for coffee. She wasn,t slim and petite, didn,t even look like her pic but the annoying thing was it didn,t bother her to lie. It turned out she wasn,t the bank manager but a bar waitress go figure. I laughed had my coffee and told her i was busy at the funeral home for the next few weeks. The look on her face kept me laughing for the rest of the day. Cheers | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 8:43:44 PM | I have ran into a very married man on here that can only talk while he's at work and only chat there also. I called him on it and guess what? Never hear from him which suits me just fine.
I was wondering OP could the pic and profile you saw on yahoo be a old one?
I was put on some meds for my back and gained 75 pounds. I had that pic on my yahoo ID till last month. The pics on my POF profile are from Easter and up to 2 weeks ago.
I took my yahoo pic down and I just wondered if something like that could have happend with her? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 12:26:57 PM |
I was wondering OP could the pic and profile you saw on yahoo be a old one?
I don't think they are. The two pics..the facial features were completely different. Gaining and losing weight...that's fine, and not an issue. She could have said so, but the pictures didn't look a thing alike, and she completely denied that it was her. The ages were different on the profiles, too. Even if you abandon a profile, I am guessing that the age will automatically update, as you enter a birthday and birth year when you set up your profile.
There are always possible plausible explanations, but there is just too much that doesn't add up, and when given the opportunity to come clean, she went into complete denial mode. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 12:38:22 PM | I had the opposite problem! I wasn't deceived nor did I deceive, but a woman claimed she wouldn't trust me because my profile picture looked too young for my age! COME ON! I posted my recent real picture and someone who never met me says it isn't me!
After all it is the internet and there are all kinds out there. | |
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