| Hmmm, deception? How many think you've been deceived on here?
Posted: 5/19/2007 1:15:18 PM | As someone said, who hasn't? If you are on here long enough, you get decieved sooner or later. It happens since the internet has existed.
I was lied to about a lot of things. From fake picrures, old pictures, intentions, being single, having kids, ect., etc. You just need to learn how to read inbetween theh lines, as you did. YOU KNEW by your own instincts something wasn't right. I follow my instincts now myself. They have become pretty good at reading red flags and knowing what questions to ask, to weed out the ones that won't work out for me.
I don't get it either, but people do it. I want someone to like who I AM, not some fake I am pretending to be. They would be liking the invented person, not me. Not too bright! Matter of fact, it is plan stupid. But, then there are indeed, a lot of stupid people out there.
Happy fishing, and continue to follow your gut instincts. So far they are working well for you.
Linda | |
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| Hmmm, deception? How many think you've been deceived on here?
Posted: 5/19/2007 1:18:33 PM | jerrybracken2 i agree with u totally on this post where u said quote:"theres a difference between too high of expectations or phisical attraction".like u said if people are considered on the look scale a 6 and are looking for a 9 or a 10 then they will be alone for a long time.The thing is, people who may be 5's or 6's con themselves into thinking they are 10's and think they deserve a 10.What these guys are saying is that to most women, especially really good looking ones, they don't care about what is inside just the outside. They would rather date Brad Pitt and be treated like shit than date someone who may be a little (not butt ugly) less attractive but would treat them better than anything they have ever known.
THAT IS VERY TRUE.
and not just online.nowadays it seems a lot of womens just think that cause they have a pair of boobs and an ass that they can have anyone they want.even if they are not 10 on the look scale.usually what it is its cause theyre too easy.they go to clubs and bars and they dress sexy and manage to pick up for the night guys who are considered 10's so being stupid the girl ends up thinking that she can really get guys that are that perfect looking but all the time what she doesnt know is she only gets thoses guys cause thoses guys just wants to get laid and they know that the less attractive girls(if theyre easy) will give it to them quicker just cause they are impress with theyre good looks. so then theses girls end up with inflated egos and dont give average good looking guys a chance.and all that time the average looking guys are the ones who would stick around for more than one night.
the bottom line is people need to get down to earth.in other words get real. | |
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| Hmmm, deception? How many think you've been deceived on here?
Posted: 5/19/2007 1:21:39 PM | Don't it just figure....I got one for you.I was contacted by a woman recently on another site.We chatted and exchanged e-mail addys.....Her second e-mail she informs me she lied about her age.She wasn't 41 but 50! I was peeved simply because to me if they will lie about appearance or age....What comes next.I'm looking for a woman to settle with,so trust and honesty are paramount in my book.Do they not think the truth will come out anyway.I've been lied to in many ways:Married people or still dating someone or someone who doesnt have past issues regarding an ex yet resolved.So youdate them for a bit and get the "dear john e-mail" because the ex decided to come back! age and pics are something we all tolerate lies about to a degree but as far as i'm concerned that's just dumb! Got more "war stories " than you can believe on this subject!
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| Hmmm, deception? How many think you've been deceived on here?
Posted: 5/19/2007 1:34:15 PM | lol.. I agree man, i had 4 woman put pictures of herself up when i met them in person they were the opposite of what they said fat and not that attractive, lol... we met and i was like dam!!! is that the same girl? fat and the extreme closeups proved her lips where not that voluptuous.
Another girl was bigger than that and what she said is crazy, she now stalks me on every site im on and says " ha i found you".. scary
Im a true and always will be i think people are afraid that we wont like them for who they are... i think deception is wrong.. and usually its the devil 
Good luck! | |
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| Hmmm, deception? How many think you've been deceived on here?
Posted: 5/19/2007 3:03:33 PM |
speaking of marital status, my husband, yes I said husband has been listing himself as divorced with no children for quite a while yet. I have tried letting the people who run this site know, and obviously, they don't care how many of you women have to deal with not only a liar
They're not in a position to take your word for it. How could they be? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 6:50:56 PM | I see a lot of guys here writing how fat the women all are upon meeting them....after seeing their own pics here, that is, those who even post them....these guys are no prizes themselves that's for sure. According to most men, if a woman doesn't look like something that graces the Victoria Secrets catalogs, you're fat anyway. Plus these are the same guys who could stand stand to lose 20 -50 lbs or more themselves and that's only the beginning of their own looks that could be improved upon.
I guess these women who lie about their weight are only playing the same game that men do when it comes to only saying what you want to hear. Not to mention so many claim it's whats on the inside that counts.....yeah right huh guys! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 7:39:12 PM | | Very true. i bounce at a bar and I see it all the time. You can just watch the gilrs (even the ones who are 20+pounds overweight) have their tits half hangin out and waiting to be picked up. Well, a drunk guy picks them up n takes them home for one night. So the girl thinks that is going to be the kind of guy (looks wide) that they are going to be with. Then when the guy never talks to them again, "all guys are ***holes." it is just funny to watch anymore. You are right, any woman thinks they can get whatever they want if they shake their ass n show some boob. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 7:49:39 PM | | I do. I said, if you read and understood, that I do date women who may be a little bigger. i wouldn't date someone who is just fat because they are lazy and don't take care of themselves. I know I have put on a couple more pounds than what I like from being off work because of shoulder surgery. I don't let it get to me because I know when I am heeled I am going to get back to working out. And, like i said if a woman is not interested, that is her loss. i don't let it get to me. But, from watching people I know how it is. Women do think that even though they aren't a model themselves that they deserve one anyhow. And as I said I don't expect a model to be interested in me. I know I am not the best looking guy on here and I am not going to get the best looking girl. That is just life because everyone only cares about status. if it really does count to women about what is on the inside then they are missing out by not getting to know me. Anyone who emails me, I at least respond to and I email them back and usually chat woth them too. It doesn't matter what they look like. All I said is there does have to be some kind of physical attraction but most women think they deserve the best, even if they are not. And it is a little ignorant to not even respond with "I appreciate your email but I am not interested." Is that too hard? You never know, that one person you blew off could be your best friend or could even be "the one" and you will never know it because you head is in the clouds. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 8:02:55 PM | In November of 2006 I weighed 115 pounds. Now I'm closer to 150. Every month I colour my hair a different shade. I was born with jet black hair.
When it's close enough to my birthday and a significant one (turning 50) I didn't wait until my birthday to change it. I was born on the cusp of Scorpio and Sagittarius and repeated in depth Astrology charts have said I should be with an Aries with a water side. I use both.
I used to work part-time with a pro Astrologer who did radio spots in Toronto - he's dead now - so I know from whence I speak. A number of local Toronto Astrologers learned from him including a girl who used to sit behind me in high school.
I signed up for Alt.com once looking for a someone to at least have sex with but that didn't work either. Bottom line...it doesn't sound all that suspicious to me. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 8:15:56 PM | Not been deceived, but then I'm not looking for the kind of contact that would precipitate that.
Have, however, already been bullied for not providing precise self-distinguishing information to someone who approached me first knowing what I was looking for up front. And that being within a day and a half of mail contact, again initiated by that person first. After the fact can't help but wonder the motivation behind the apparent anger coming through loud and clear.
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Posted: 5/19/2007 8:16:04 PM | Yep, it goes with the territory. IM'd this one person, seemed to have common interests etc. She gave me her number and like a sucker I called it. GOt some punk who was like "Who the f*ck is Lisa?".
Makes you wonder if a large percentage of the profiles are just pure BS. (that goes for any on line "dating" service) | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 8:28:02 PM | | well, the majority of the ones I have been on were either Nigerian scams(which is in another htread), girls who want you to pay to see their sex cam, or other games. I have made alot of friends on the sites though. it seems like all the girls I meet and are interested in for more than just friends are on the other side of the country. I talk to every one who sends me a message. If nothing else, they may become good friends. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2007 9:15:43 PM |
I have no reason to make something like that up.
I'm not say that you did. All I'm saying is that the owners of this site aren't able to make such judgments, so unless he breaks some rule here they aren't going to do anything.
Why would anyone want to take the chance when there are so many other great men out there?
They have to make that choice themselves. | |
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Joined: 7/2/2006
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| Hmmm, deception? How many think you've been deceived on here?
Posted: 5/20/2007 6:32:28 PM | | yes sadly i have b een decieved on h ere many times. Not so much with the look factor..some with the height but mostly with the ''what they are looking for'' and who they are. Basically not being single when they say they are..not really real about anything they say..only looking to score pretty much. I have my profile hidden right now..but i have always stressed that i am a real person and looking for something real. I just cant believe ''players'' are still going to try to mess with me..when there are so many who are openly looking for the same as them. My question is to anyone who knows how to ''weed'' these people out and the right questions to ask to see if they are for real...please share i am a poor judge of character..please help someone out who always likes to give people the benefit of the doubt and not become untrusting andprejudiced against men. I have it hidden cause i am so sick of trying right now..i just keep running into it. please help out. thanks | |
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Posted: 5/29/2007 2:45:20 AM | I have one for you guys and gals. I had been dating this guy that I met off of a dating line on and off for two years. It was a roller coaster relationship with a lot of breaks, usually instigated by him. During one of the breaks, I did a search for Calgary chat, and found this place. My profile stated that I was looking for friends, cause quite frankly I was very much hung up on this guy.
I get contacted by someone, check out his profile, and see that we have a lot in common. He tells me that he moved here from Ontario, that he has kids at home, and goes into great detail about the kids, including test scores and sports they played. He went to great detaill as well about how he felt leaving his kids behind in Ontario, and said how much he was looking forward to their first visit. He even asked me what kind of activities there were here for kids.
I get comfortable with him, and started to talk about my complicated relationship. He asks me questions about the relationship, compares things between my situtioon and his with his ex wife back in Ontario. When he asks me to meet him, I decline repectflully saying that I am very much still hung up the guy. Eventually I get comfy enough to go into detail about my x, the challenges in our relationship, and got my first red flag when the guy takes my on again off again bfs side of things. I planted a red herring in a message, and sure enough guess what I found out. It was my on again, off again x boyfriend using someone else's picture.
After that, I admit I got paranoid, and would insist that only men who had web cams, were willing to turn them on during IM’s contact me, trying to avoid this happening again. The result, most men did not contact me cause of it. I tried using different profile names, but he would search me out using my birthday, so I started to change that a bit. Eventually I gave up, and left because one time he got this chick suckered in so bad about what a great guy he was, and how unfair I was to him, that she contacted me.
When I decided to come back, post a picture on my profile, no matter what I put up, I got no messages. Then I figured it out, that chick more then likely told all the men who were on her favorites list to look out for me. Wow, what a mess. So here I am, back again, with my real birthday, cause he has been warned by the police that any further contact to me by him, or a third party will lead to him going to jail.
I am still a little cautious of ripples from what happened, and decided not to post my picture on my profile, so he is not goaded into contacting me. I know that there is risk in sharing this story, cause he could still be around and read it. There is also the possibility that those who read it might not want to contact me because of it, oh well, their loss if that is the case. The point of sharing the story is simple, some people do deceive on here, because not only was he messaging me with this profile, he was messaging other women as well. The kicker was he would get them to like him under the assumed persona, then contact them under his real one, and get peeved because they liked the fake guy better. I feel for the women who also got conned by this exceptional, very intelligent player. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2007 9:46:31 PM | | I have a webcam so the guy I talk to can see me as I am, no room for deception there. On the other hand I don't believe anything anyone says on the internet until I meet them in person and get to know them over time. It's called self preservation. | |
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Joined: 5/23/2006
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| Hmmm, deception? How many think you've been deceived on here?
Posted: 7/10/2007 9:18:36 AM | | Well i met up with a few deceivers,mostly i would say be very careful with the "Friends",that usually mans they want a Fx x x buddie.They say they don,t but in reality they do.I,m not bitter.....just disallusioned and disappointed. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2007 9:31:43 AM | | Despite what others my say, she could be honest with her pics of herself. She has had plenty of time to go on a diet and lose 20 or more pounds over the 6+ months since her last profile and maybe she just wanted to start fresh. Now if her pic is so different that it could not possibly be the same person at all, well..... honesty is the best policy if you want someone to appreciate you for who you really are. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2007 10:06:33 AM | | I have been deceived, here and on other sites. It happens. It's the anonymity of the internet, as another poster said. I don't think it's important enough to mention what the guys lied about, but I promptly took them off my lists and stopped contacting them as soon as I determined they were lying (weren't small lies, to me). Depending on the lie, I might give them a chance to explain and decide from there whether to leave, or I might just leave. I've no interest in habitual liars. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2007 3:03:28 PM | I've just been thru a weird dating experience. I wasa e-mailing and speaking on the phone daily with this guy from the East Coast. He sent me a pic and as I atempted to "save and stash", out poped a whole file of his- pof mens' pictures - many that I recognized (none had I contacted), many from my area, and many included in my "personality picks" thing. I freaked! I blocked his ass and e-mailed the "big fish"( Adm. did not reply...).
I will not live in fear. But, every time I go on-line I see those "other guys". What to do?
I do not have a web cam, but think that that's a good idea.
The reality is that anybody can be anybody. The question is , How much time DO you have to waste? | |
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