| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 3/24/2007 12:27:14 AM | Hey Sabel,
As one skippy to another I have a friend who has a 'practice' in relationship and marraige counselling and he in fact has married a former 'worker' and they are VERY happy, in a discussion one night he and she told me that they never worried about the other partner straying 'cause she has had plenty of sex over her time and has still found him to be her 'life' partner, and she is just so happy that he accepted her 'warts and all'. I think I have the same view if my partner had tried plenty but was happy with me I would take that as a compliment and be happy that she chose me to spend her life with, But hey after two tours of war zones I think there are plenty more things to worry about, BUT I would definitely tell someone first if the relationship was getting serious 'cause you need to know his/her potential long term view of you and what you have done. Find the right one and go for it!
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 3/24/2007 1:12:46 AM | | Ok this is going to sound terrible but in reply to previous post ( can't remember who) but the money is addictive. And I think that is what keeps me doing it. There is no other job where I can walk home with 1000-1500$ a week. Maybe more. I have gotten accustomed to the life that the job provides me and don't want to go back to anything else. I have dated though out me working and he had known about everything. I never hid a thing from him and he never complained about it due to the fact that I payed evrything for him.... But the money is the biggest issue I guess and that is why I probally would stay in it for a bit longer.....I realise that is probally hard for people to understand | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 3/24/2007 9:59:35 AM | To be honest, I think some guys would be turned on by dating an ex-sex-worker. I would imagine that they have lots of experience.
I'm a little surprised that alot of people who are Christians posters here, who adamantly refuse to date an ex sex worker? What happened to forgive and forget? Anyone remember the absolution of a married preacher caught with a male hooker (Ted Haggard)? Jesus washing the foot of a prostitute (Mary Magdelene)?
If anything, everyone deserves a second chance. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 3/24/2007 5:03:52 PM |
There is no other job where I can walk home with 1000-1500$ a week. Maybe more. I
Get a IT job, the only limit of your earnings is yourself. On how much stuff you want to teach yourself, and how hard you want to work. Think of the richest people in the world, the majority of them are IT.
You won't look super hot for your whole life, then the amount of money will go down, then what are you going to do. Plus I live in BC, there is a guy called "Robert Pickton", look him up if you don't know who he is. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 3/24/2007 7:57:39 PM | facetiousGUY-"I'm a little surprised that alot of people who are Christians posters here, who adamantly refuse to date an ex sex worker? What happened to forgive and forget? Anyone remember the absolution of a married preacher caught with a male hooker (Ted Haggard)? Jesus washing the foot of a prostitute (Mary Magdelene)?"
I totally believe in giving someone a second chance...and that's why I dated a former "call girl"...then she went and screwed around on me while I was at work as I stated in the post. I am probably the most forgiving person there is..but it has to come to a point and time you have to look after yourself and not be a doormat. God talks about forgiveness and also about not "even eating with such a person who continues in adultery and fornication"...sometimes you just got to movin on movin on. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 3/24/2007 8:52:20 PM | | i dated a guy who's ex was an escort...even him and i didn't have unprotected sex. he was lucky if he got it from her once a month which caused problems in their relationship. i wondered if something bad had happened to her in order for her not to want it with him. she apparently wanted to be with him, but wouldn't give it to him,..to me thats messed up, was she wanting to be paid from him? who knows...i'm no longer with him thank goodness! | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 3/24/2007 9:37:37 PM | Sabel, This would all depend on the woman, and her ability not to depend on this industry to support her after she may have lost 'her glow' in it. While living in the Tampa, FL area a few years ago, I met one or two strippers out of that context ...and what else they may have been doing to put themselves through college to become hospital administrators. I remember thinking, despite my growing up w/ very conservative morals, why shouldn't they be allowed to make something of their sexy blessing ...in order to prosper beyond it.
Many male college athletes ...w/ any talent may 'Make it to the Pros', but w/o other earned credentials, many of them just perpetuate and propagate the violence of their chosen sport. Why is this activity openly condoned, when prostitution isn't? Why, when cigarettes are the cause for so many thousands of deaths per year, are they legal, but smoking marijuana isn't ...even if it has medicinal benefit?
Anyone who's 'had a life' ...and especially any who've had to forge their own way in the world ...in order to keep surviving in it, is going to give you a far different take on this issue than someone who may've been 'fed more often from the silver spoon'. I suggest that you keep following your heart, and hope for the best ...besides work towards this end.
If I met a woman who's not completely 'lost her industrial glow', and she can tell me like it is, I might consider her to be an angel. I have slept w/ a few too many girls, including one that I married, who didn't have the courage ...or the need to be brave, and hence were not so w/me. Oh, I still have my very conservative values, but they've been 'dinged' by selfishness beyond any that this artist could've imagined. Hell, you're 18 ...and have already been 'sucked into' what so many put down because they can afford to do so.
Take away the 'silver spoon', and most would not survive. You've a good heart, don't lose it where you know it shouldn't remain. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 3/24/2007 9:57:03 PM | Sabel15788, you are ofcourse right, if you pick someone up then you don't know the persons passed. As long as I don't know what she did in the passed then there probably won't be a problem. So in my case it's better not telling me someone has been a prostitute.. For me that's a relationship killer.
I just couldn't deal with the fact that so many people had sex with this person, not to mention just for the money.. No matter how much I like her.
As you probably know I'm from Holland and prostitution is legal here and NO I've never been to prostitutes and YES I've walked around the red light district and what I saw was the most strange / unclean and old people go in that door... That's an image I just can't get out of my head when seeing a prostitute or seeing a former prostitute...
So for me it's better not knowing then seeing those images in my head... | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/4/2007 4:58:16 PM | I have dated a prostitute.
She was one of the most intelligent woman I have dated. She was hot, but insecure. She actually asked me for NOTHING. I am well-off. Most women I date want me to wine and dine them and buy them crap. She always offered to pay her part. She usually did pay her part. Better than I can say for most women.
On the downside.... She always sought attention. This is probably why escorts tend to be associated with drug. They are looking for emotional highs. In addition, she was sort of cold feeling and not affection. I guess this is because she feigns warmth and affection everyday.
So, yes I would date a prostitue, but they would have to be 1) A high class prostitute (there is a difference) 2) Not attention-seeking 3) Not having sex outside of her job 4) Not doing drugs of any kind (the woman I dated did not even drink alcohol or caffeine) and 5) Not cold | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/4/2007 5:08:08 PM | I wouldn't date anyone who had been a sex worker or in the porn industry or posed nude for money. That is a personal choice, but for me it speaks for the character of the person, even if it was in the past. I don't care how many tests you have had, there is much chance of contracting AIDS and other stds with HIGH RISK behavior. Also, if someone is low on money, there are other options. I would never be that desperate for money and I wouldn't knowingly date a person who had been either. It's a personal choice to be a sex worker but I don't want any part of that in my life or my bed if I can help it. If my partner wasn't upfront with me and told me later, that'd be the last conversation he and I ever had.
Why not find someone in the business to date? Then this problem could be neatly avoided,right? Just a thought. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/4/2007 6:38:59 PM | Nope. No way. And I would be disgusted to ever find out that a guy I'm in a long-term relationship had EVER been to a prostitute. I say long-term relationship because I simply do not have casual sex so I only consider sex in a LTR. And that does not mean with every guy I date. Just the rare ones.
I also would appreciate being with a man who had respected his own body and soul - so I wait until I get to know a man and can determine his character. No sleezes for me. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/4/2007 6:49:06 PM | | I have known several prostitutes from some of my volunteer work. Most were kind hearted women with few options. I think as long as they are able to fight whatever demons put them to the streets in the first place they would make wonderful companions. Any man that is going to be that much of a judge without knowing the woman and her life circumstance deserves to be single and alone. Chances are you were not that judgemental of your young male friends when they were trying to lay every female they could. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/5/2007 8:57:04 AM | If she is disease free, i say the past is the past. God knows if my past was constantly held against me I would never get a date. People have the ability to change their lives and their morals.
It's amazing, there are probably people who have posted in this thread who have slept with strangers or multiple people during a weeks span. Other than not getting paid for it, what's the difference. I used to live the life of sleeping around with different women all the time, but that person is long gone. So does that reflect my current character? No, I've since changed my values since then and live to a higher standard.
Now with that said, If that person is STILL in the business, HELL NO!!!! That would show me that you really don't value your body and if you don't why should I?
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/6/2007 1:44:27 AM | i met this incredibly hot/sex positive girl in SF. we were both volunteers at a soup kitchen. turns out she was also an escort and a stripper/peep show artist. we had sex every chance we had. i remember dropping by her place after she hadn't seen me for about a week. she answered the door naked and gave me a big hug while her boyfriend nervously shifted around half-asleep in bed. kimmy, i miss you so much.
the het ones without scrambled eggs for brains are few and far between. but i guess that goes for the general population of both genders as well. | |
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