| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/16/2007 4:19:33 PM | Oh, one last thing... I have designed and built web sites for a couple of brothels and escort places here in Perth. Ok, so I'm weird... but there's just something about taking money *from* a brothel that amuses the living daylights out of me. Damn funny! One of them offers to pay via contra, but I take the money every time (and will always do so). Heck, at $350 an hour, I'd rather spend that sort of money on more important things in life... ie motorbike gear!  | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/18/2007 6:37:06 AM | No I wouldnt tell anyone that id worked as a prostitue and I certainly wouldnt date one.
How can anyone feel comfortable making love with you knowing you've done it for a living? they will always be wondering if its love or if they are just a punter having a freebie... thats what i would be thinking... making love to someone in my book is a way of showing someone how much they mean to you... What have you got to give them when you do it everynight with anyone who throws cash at you?
Whats an escort by the way? Is that a prostitute that you buy dinner for first?
At the end of the day its dirty, degrading and sad. Sad for the women who do it, sad for the men who pay for it.
You tell someone your a prostitute and I doubt they'd be interested.
For example, if you walk into a pub and ask for a drink... would you be happy to have it served in a dirty glass that ever one else has drank from? No. Didnt think so.
Is there anything in this world that people wouldnt do for money?
Repect your body at least, its the only one you have. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/18/2007 8:16:37 AM | It seems like so many of the responders here are blase about dating someone who used to be a prostitute. Like once the person is no longer a prostitute that it's all in the past and no harm done. Are you people crazy?
Prostitution is not simply a career choice. It's a reflection of a serious lack of morality, self-esteem and more importantly it's deviant behavior and a symptom of sociopathy. It's not an accident like someone falling off a ladder - and oops she's a prostitute. It's a choice! Did any of you guys stop think about that?
Sure, the woman may eventually give up "the business" but her core character is still fully intact. My guess is that decent, moral, desirable men would not choose to be involved with a sociopath. Who are the men responding on this thread who are so ready to overlook significant character flaws in a woman? If a woman had tortured and murdered her neighbor's dog would you say it's in the past and think she was good to go? Would you assume she was reformed and overlook it? C'mon, you'd think she was psycho and wouldn't want to get near her.
Same thing with a prostitute. The choices a person makes are a sign of what's inside. YOU ARE WHAT YOU DO. Only a person with deep inner character flaws would decide to sell their body for money instead of choosing to live a decent life. And don't say that not everyone has the opportunity to live a decent life. There's story after story of people who were poor, abused and neglected who overcame their obstacles and fought for opportunities to change their lives and find personal success.
Yeah, maybe if a woman gets out of the business and spends 5-10 years in therapy healing herself, without any signs of relapse back into deviant or anti-social behavior, then maybe you could say what's in the past is past. But a woman who stops prostituting herself this month and then next month is already looking for a man is not someone on the path to recovery. More like codepenence.
Don't overlook the fact that being a prostitute is a choice. A sociopathic, easy way out. What type of person makes that kind of choice? And what kind of man is willing to accept into his life someone who has demonstrated such a significant lack of character? | |
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Posted: 4/18/2007 10:01:07 AM | Okkkk..
You have a very STRONG opinion. To say the least. But I'm not saying your all right. I admit some working grls are like that. Ofcourse. Depending on the people and influences you have had as a worker. But I can definatly assure you that I am not a sociopath, I DEFINATLY do not have any "deep seeded issues or character flaws" and I can tell you now that that I am no where near being co dependant on anybody.
I'm just wondering what religion you are (not as an insult) because you seem to have a very one sided, non-negotiable, spiteful view of the industry. Which is your perogitive, of course. But it tends to come along with being highly religious.
I have noticed this with other posters with such degrading views. I tend to see people that behave like that as a sociopath. Showing devoit of individual character, morphing to one generalized belif system... (((((That is in no way an attack on religion or religious people)))))). Just a generalized observation. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/18/2007 10:21:46 AM | What they have done in thier life before should
be kept there unless you really really cant deal with it-
Would I date a guy who was a prostitute - yes I would - why
would I not- because he has had alot of sex partners and got
money to have sex. People sell themselves on so many levels
every day in life and get no money for it - So I figure really whats
the difference - because it is sex - like anything else - we are all
prone to do things that we are not so proud of sometimes to live-
thats just the way it is-
Respect your body - we do not respect other people on some levels
in life - who are we to say they have no respect for themselves-
I think that this decision is more a morality decision than actually looking
at this person as a person and knowing the whole story before we judge -
people do self destructive things for different reasons - they have thier
reasons- | |
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Posted: 4/18/2007 11:51:40 AM | First off honesty is key if you want the relationship to go anywhere. Secondly If i really liked the person i would But there would be testing her some where.
I would also expect the person to have quit that proffession and be understanding if i had questions reguarding the situation. above all honesty is the key. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 12:59:47 AM | Is it that slidefor life? or is it the fact you might get a decent screw with knowing that sabel has done it for a living? xvr145 may not have a great profile in your eyes but she does have respect for her own body and in this day 'n' age I think its worth a lot.
In reply to sabel im not religious in any way shape or form... just believe in keeping some things sacred.. unless yourself..
Honesty is a good quality in someone but the fact still remains you'd shag anyone for cash... yeah I can see people thinking you'd make the perfect life partner... NOT. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 1:24:53 AM | not that i've got anything against a decent screw, but it just seems that sabel's a whole lot braver carving out a lifestyle against the grain of society than conforming to a herd mentality. obviously bona dea, i think (if i may be so presumptuous to assume that you care) that you're way off the mark about the idea that sable's profile demonstrates a lack of respect for her body. To the contrary.
a mistress is unsure of her wage and a wife has none. both are amateurs.
Trevanian, Shibumi | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 3:01:12 AM | Lets call a spade a spade and not a big spoon. I very much doubt the answers of some of the fine gents here at POF.
to the OP, all I can say is there is no reason one can give me as to why they engage in this profession. Men who frequent Hookers, call girls, sluts etc need to know this is not cool at all. I suspect most who answered favorably are really only interested in getting with you because you are good looking chick. I can get over a woman who has been around the block once or twice but one who accepted cash for strokes......NO. What exactly do I tell our kids about how we met...." oh, your mom had just finished polishing off my balls when I proposed". | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 3:29:34 AM | I dunno. I can intellectually look at it and recognize that western society's view on sex is designed to make it taboo. (At least, if you believe Foucault's "The History of Sexuality.)
I can even intellectually recognize that you might miss out on a lot for turning someone away for what they've once done.
Unfortunately, I'm more than my intellect. I just don't think that, emotionally, I could get past the idea.
I can certainly see how some people could, but it's not for me. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 7:24:41 AM | How many of you guys have paid for sex????
Probably all of you !!
I am quite positive that you have went to a bar and paid for drinks for some chick, and took her home and banged her!
Or maybe, you went on a date and BOUGHT a nice dinner and flowers, and then took HER home and banged her...................
Or maybe you BOUGHT your wife a nice outfit and jewelery and what not and she returned the favor by banging you!
Like OMG------get off your high horses here, this includes anyone who chooses to judge anyone for what they have done in the past!
What does it matter if they were prostitutes before hand, and they are bieng honest about it!
What about a chick you decide to date that was the town bicycle--everyone took a ride---like geez, she didn;t even get anything for doing that...........I can bet, that any of you haters , were offered money to put out, or receive something sexual, you would take it in a second!
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 4/19/2007 7:31:19 AM |
I am quite positive that you have went to a bar and paid for drinks for some chick, and took her home and banged her!
Or maybe, you went on a date and BOUGHT a nice dinner and flowers, and then took HER home and banged her...................
Or maybe you BOUGHT your wife a nice outfit and jewelery and what not and she returned the favor by banging you!
Then what you're really saying is that all women are whores. It's a shame you think so poorly of yourself.
Does remind me of a joke though:
What's the difference between a slut and a ****?
A slut will frak anybody
A **** will frak anybody but you. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 7:39:48 AM |
...on the other hand, i don't think xvr145 would do too much for me.
SlideforLife, it was amusing to read your profile while keeping in mind how I "wouldn't do much for you." Haha! You have no idea! If you only only knew. The way I hear it outdoors guys have such a hard time finding compatible women. Needless to say I have to beat off outdoors guys with a stick. Maybe it's just because I look good waking up rumpled in a tent without make-up, but I tend to think it's more than just that. (Maybe my tendency to not go along with a herd mentality?) But you had no idea - that's my fault for maintaining a rather nondescript profile, more or less because I don't want to be identified by friends online - and I'm happily in a relationship and not looking for anything.
With that said, I can tell you right away that no matter how adventurous and athletic and outdoorsy and zen a man is I would be completely turned off to know he had been with a prostitute or defended the lifestyle AND overlooked the fact that there had to be something seriously wrong with someone who defiles their body like that. And as was mentioned - sleeping with losers! (Because that's who goes to prostitutes)
I guess what I'm saying is what a shame. You have some really great qualities - but if you can get excited about having sex or being in a relationship with a prostitute (or ex-prostitute) then your values are nowhere near what I would find acceptable. It would make me wonder what other ways you lack judgment. Sorry if conforming to socially-acceptable and legal forms of work is herd mentality to you - I just choose to exert my independence, courage and free spirit in ways that are more spiritually fulfilling. And although you won't have the chance to be with me no doubt there are women out there who would be extremely compatible with you, but if they have a strong moral code they're going to throw you back. What a waste of a good outdoors guy.
With any luck Sabel's choice of profession belies her secret skiing, hiking and mountaineering abilities - and her preference for roughing it in a tent on the Long Trail. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 7:56:22 AM |
Then what you're really saying is that all women are whores. It's a shame you think so poorly of yourself
Hey, if that is what it is then that is wht it is , I can admit the things I have I done!
Never been a prostitute, but I prostitute myself every day, when I come to work! I am being paid for a service that people need and want!
I wonder why you are getting all defensive? and you have to put ME down for MY opinion!
And If a WHORE is what you want to call it -------hey at least I am an honest WHORE----and you won't be surprised when you meet me!
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Posted: 4/19/2007 8:00:36 AM | In answer to the subject... I know of a person that was, pretty much a prositute... she's now happily married, and is married to a friend that stuck with her, even through her times of doing it.
Her husband new about it, wasn't happy about it - but the past was the past....
So it's all on what people are willing to forgive and get over... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 8:13:06 AM | If she had stopped, and agreed to be tested for aids and STD's. I wouldn't have a problem with it. FYI, I won't have sex with anyone until they get tested, whether she says she was a prostitute or not.
The guys at work used to laugh at me for being safe rather than sorry. To me... I thought it was out of mutual respect. Now they are doing the same thing. It's not the fact we don't trust the woman, but you don't know who there partners have been with. And if you don't get tested, you'll never know. It only takes one in the line of sexual encounters to pass the bad seed. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 8:22:29 AM | Hahaha....I'm not defensive at all. I was merely pointing out the deficiency in your logic.
<div class="quote">Never been a prostitute, but I prostitute myself every day, when I come to work!
I don't know what you do for a living but what follows is the definition of what prostitution is.
'Prostitution describes the act of sexual intercourse in exchange for money. However, its definition may be extended loosely to include any sexual act for any type of remuneration; depending on the location where the act occurs.'-Wikipedia
A prostitute is not a tradesperson. Like a drug dealer is not an entrepreneur.
These activities speak to a person's integrity. I personally wouldn't and couldn't respect a woman who considered sex as her primary skill.
I used to live in Australia. I spent the first year living in King's Cross (the OP will know what I'm talking about). It's a fantastic country with many opportunities for gainful employment.
RaeRae- guess you didn't read what the actual definition of prostitution is. You'll have to put the box of doughnuts down in order to read the whole post..... | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 8:24:37 AM | What's to forgive? It's her body...she should ask permission from another how to use her own body? Nice way to confine yourself and become a prisoner of your own mind!
Morals are the gauge in which we use to measure our superiority over another being, so take your superiority and go be better than everyone else......somewhere else.
Men are prostitutes too, they provide a service for coin, just using another body part.
The only thing I couldn't overlook is someone intentionally hurting another creature without self preservation being imminent. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 9:00:50 AM |
Morals are the gauge in which we use to measure our superiority over another being...
Hilarious! Is that what you think morals are? If you honestly think "morals" are how someone measures their superiority over you then you probably don't have any. I'm guessing only someone devoid of morals would say something like that.
Good morals are ethics, codes, values and principles that serve to represent the human foundation of what is right and good. Bad morals (or what some would call a "lack of morals") represents what is wrong and bad. Without getting into a philosophical debate about what is truly right and wrong for each individual - for the purpose of this discussion let's say right is universally whatever will not hurt yourself, someone else or erode the fabric of civil society. Let's say bad is just the opposite.
Get this straight, someone with morals is not superior to you. But they certainly are more respectable, more honorable, more trustworthy and less corruptible. Do you find something wrong with that?
If you're feeling a little "put down" by people who supposedly think they're superior to you - Guess what, RaeRae - People with high morals prefer to live with, work with and associate with other people of high morals. This is not because they think they are superior to you - it's because they don't trust you, don't respect you and believe you don't live by a code of conduct that requires you to do the right thing.
Moral people typically have the wisdom to recognize that being associated with someone of lesser morals will not result in a positive interaction.
So if you're feeling uncomfortable with having someone around who has high morals, it's YOUR problem and not theirs. There's no reason for them to "go somewhere else" just to make you forget how you've rejected any personal responsiblity for trying to be a better person. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 9:37:01 AM | I feel none of that Sugar.
Someone who brags about how "moral" they are and insists on condemning other's for their lack there of-is no better than anyone else, but they feel the need to erect a guise to hide behind -MORALS. I am not less than you because I hold every creature in similar esteem, I have no "best friends", I don't love dogs and hate cats. You are all the same to me and I am right in there with you. I am a fair person.
I lack emotion, that doesn't make me a bad person, I still know what is right and wrong. What you believe to be right or wrong is what other's have told you to believe; tunnel vision, prisoner of your own mind, you are one of those people who will likely only have one station in life, very few friends (all cookie cutter of each other) and know exactly the same information you knew when you were 20.....what a horrible waste. Have fun with that and be sure to raise your kids the same way. | |
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