| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 7/7/2007 5:58:11 AM | | Good question does an ex-sex worker just go away somewhere and shrivel up after their 'use by' date. I work in the Psychology field and an associate of mine in fact married the love of his life who in fact had been in 'the field' for some time. I once had a discussion with both of them out of pure interest not nosiness and her take on it was that she never would wonder about a romantic trist with someone else as she had more than had her fill, no pun intended, and Dave, hubby now takes the position that prior to their relationship he had no influence nor rights so how could he have fears about it. A very good relationship that is the envy of everyone they come in contact with, very loving, so after all that rabbiting on the answer is a resounding 'yes'. you just have to make sure you pick the right person | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:07:49 AM | I guess also that the key in here is: "had at some point been". If they aren't anymore... what is the whole problem then? And more over: It's just a job. They usually aren't doing it because it's so mega exiting in the first place(some exeptions probably). They are doing it to provide themselves with some food on the table OR because they are forced to do it in some way or the other.
If she's cool... I wouldn't care. In the end it's all about feeling. But if you are a jealous type of person, it will not work out. You'll always have in the back of your head that she used to do it. This will cause arguments in the longer run. When she's out for a couple of hours longer as you thought, you'll get suspicious. When she's hanging out with friends, you may get other thoughts. Etc, etc. So in conclusion I would also say it depends on you. Ask yourself the honest question if YOU can handle it. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:57:31 AM | | I couldn't trust someone that had been a former prostitute. I'm sure they could be a wonderful person and all...but to know what they've done in the past and the temptation of the money always looming....I just could not feel they would be trustworthy. Prostitution is prostitution...you can't undo what's been done and hope the other person can overlook the fact. There are possibly some (very few mind you) that can date one and be open to the fact they've reformed. I'm just not one of those people. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/14/2007 2:25:21 PM | I have been helping some of these women for years , here in southern california , most have a pattern of being sexually abused since early on, most ran away before they were legally adults, one prostitute I ran into and helped her get home to san fransisco was only 15 and she looked much older because of the drugs to drown out the feelings of being with a john and controlled by her "boyfiend" (pimp), most are around their early 20's and as I see them as time goes by , they head down hill. A couple of them I could not help them before they ended it all, some I was able to get their broken puzzle back to gether a little so they can finish it.
Most are not escorts in an escort service, that is not the common thing , most are either on the street or advertize in the local avertizing sites like craigs list and wait for an e-mail or a call on their cell, most are out to survive , they were young and thought they could do it on their own and some guy or girl helped them into their new profession without them even thinking they would one of the workers ,paying for drugs , bills and their "boyfriend" once they are in , hard to get out , either for the money , drugs or the threat of violence .
One girl I have been helping has been out of that for 4 years, I met her since she was 18 , she is now 22, she was prostituted by her prostitute drug addict mother since she was a baby of 2 years old , all her life she never had affection or a christmas or a birthday , just 10 men a day for years, later also commiting crimes to fullfill her money hungry boyfriend's wishes together with her girlfriend in laws (like the girls in kill bill) . Sometimes she was drugged so she can last longer working without sleep, when I met her , I took her in and she did not sleep for 3 days and was terrified what her boyfriend would do if caught hiding. When met her she was cold like hannibal lecture , her smile was acted out , not genuine, never a tear .
Her social worker told me she was a lost cause . no one could help her , she was just human trash of society . Orphan with nothing to lose , no family, no education, no past no future .
The pretty green eyed knockout of a girl was left ignored by the state, just left to wither homeless to find a way to survive imerssed in drugs and self infictions not to mention the ocassional suicide attempts, which is common for most of these types of situations of women working the streets.
All she needed was affection and someone who cares, I sent her away to college, she goes to church now and seems like the girl next door that you can bring home to mom , just that she knows a million dirty jokes , laughs alot so funny with a snort , cries and for the first time in her life even gets and receives hugs.
I guess I gave her too much affection , she is in love with me and I am thinking about it .
No one is less than others, it depends how high up a pedistal you are willing to put them at .
Everyone deserves a chance at love , no matter what happened in the past .
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/14/2007 2:34:00 PM | If a woman was having sex as her everyday job presently ?
Having sex with men every day to get money in her purse while having a relationship with me is another thing, what if during the relationship I had sex 4 times a day with different women because I was just "hungry " ?that would definitely not cut it for the woman , I know that , and what if? ...especially if children entered the picture ?
Those of you that see no problem would probably see a problem with your daughter having sex for money let say at 16 with 5 strangers a day , that is the legal age in some places ? Yes you would not just stand there and ignore that . not like working at
mc donald's right ?
Not a prude , I know the streets and know the feeing of having nothing or the feeling of desperation , at one time I had alot of friends , alot of friends that were prostitutes , male and female, strippers ... all had their stories .
But the one that is sweet on me now has the worst story if told you would cry , again , they deserve a chance to be happy too. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/14/2007 2:45:37 PM |
This is a question in connection to one of the other forum threads about prostitution that I'm talkin in and would just like to know peoples opinions on if they would date a person (male or female) knowing that that person had at same stage for however long been a sex worker. If no please explain...... I myself am a escourt in sydney australia and although I have a partner at the moment. It does worry me about future partners and how they may react.
Oh dear...well in relation to your thread I will try not to judge, my opinion counts though. For a start.......I would never date an ex Sex worker. An escort is no different than a prostitute, they just buy more classy clothes and go to resteraunts, the end result is the same, they sleep with other people for money. And before you ALL try to educate me not all do then sorry but jogg on.
You are 19 years old, it takes one to give you HIV, AIDS, Or HEP C and you can kiss goodbye to your life. Less violent STD's wont kill you as horrible as that but you might loose your ability to have children through other infections carried undetected in most people of your age and early 20's.
You are a nice attractive girl who i am sure can put brains to use rather than exploit her body for the pleasure of men with no morals.
I understand some women "feel" no option to do this to feed their habbit or children, but there is help out there and no need to resort to this sort of thing UNLESS you enjoy it.
My advice...Give it up, if a STD dont kill you a drunken annoyed punter might.
Would you tell your future partner that you had once worked in the industry?. Even if it was years ago? And if your partner had come to you and admitted that they had once been in the industry what would you do?
I would never be in a situation to tell a partner i worked in the industry, years or weeks makes no difference either way, it takes money to exchange for sex just once and i would kick her out of the door. To stoop to that level is beyond what i believe in | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/14/2007 6:08:04 PM | | No I don't think I could do that. First if I was dating someone who left this particular industry don't tell me. Lol I consider myself pretty open, most things in a person's past I can overlook. There is something about dating someone that was a prostitute that would seriously bother me. It maybe the fact that its taboo in this country. Maybe if it was legal as it is in your country, I might have a different opinion about it. I don't think I would have a problem dating someone who left the porn industry, and I am sorry but I can't explain the difference. It seems to me like its about the same thing, but for some reason for me its different. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/15/2007 12:10:46 AM | | PONIE NOT EVERYONE prostitutes themselves out ...my what a bold statement and a lil jaded.you have a sad view on life my friend..see me im a realist...i have values...and if something i want or need goes against those values....be it work/sex/life in freaking general the reality of the sitituation is this ....if i have to lower myself my integrity....my self value for anything ...it really isnt worth it and is not going to be done ? how does that make me a prostitute? please explain this all wise and knowing guru :) <<<< | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/15/2007 4:21:06 AM | Honesty is everything. I would want to know for sure... I would be worried about contracting a disease. I would probably not continue with the relationship.
But I would not judge them.. I am sure that they had there reasons at the time. For whatever they were... does that make them a bad person.. maybe, maybe not! It all depends on why they did it and whether or not they were a street walker or were high class. Regardless, the disease factor would still be present and that is what would scare me.
I am too old to wait around for 7 years to see if someone is going to come down with AIDS.. however, that is not to say that the person that I finally end up with won't come down with it as well.. but the odds would be much more in my favor that they WOULD not! Or, so I would hope!
AS far as the morality of it. I think it should be legal.. besides.... how many of the women on this site haven't done exactly that! Others have said this but I am going to say it again.
If you go out on a date and expect the man to pay for everything then you sleep with him.. even if it isn't on the first date but at some time in the future.. are you not selling your body for sex? No difference in my opinion... I think it should be 50/50 all the way. Isn't that the way that it is when you are married? Or it SHOULD be... anyone that expects the other to pay for them is selling themselves, be it a man or a woman... period.
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/15/2007 11:59:35 AM | Many of you who scream no way might be shocked to find out that there could be a prostitute in your family tree. In the 19th century there wasn't much a woman could do to earn a living. in many cases it was starve or walk the street. It is estimated that at the turn of the century in Victorian London 1 out of every 4 lower class woman was at one time a prostitute.
There was also a lot of prostitution during the western expansion in the US.
I use to live in a town that was one of those boom and bust mining towns of the old west. In it's hay day there was something like 12 saloons and over 20 Whore houses. One of the most notorious madama even built the town first hospital.
A good many of these prostitutes did marie and by moving on to the next boom town with a husband became respectful woman.
Last year i was dating a woman who had been an actress. she did a lot of bit tV Parts and some movie work. But nothing ever really came of her career. One night she admitted that she had worked off and on for a high class call girl service. she said thousands of girls in show bussiness resort to this easy work to help support their career.
i can't and won't judge someones past. There are a number of now respected bussiness men who may have gotten their start in the 1960 and 1970 dealing pot or coke. go back to the 1920s and who knows your grandfather might have been a bootlegger. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/15/2007 1:45:12 PM | Since I'm straight my partner would be a guy and if he had ever worked in the sex trade be it as a prostitute, a dancer, or in porn movies that wouldn't bother me.
I was a dancer years and years ago myself and although I didn't go through with it, I did consider prostitution. However, given how little I actually enjoyed most of the sex I was getting at the time - with the partners I was with for free - I figured it would only get worse if someone was paying me to be there.
There's never been a big market for people to fulfill stare at the ceiling and wish it was over fetishes. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/15/2007 2:25:22 PM | | I think for americans prostitution carries some dirty connotations. Pron girls seem alot different to us. Maybe because its illegal. I think part of the reason is because here almost all of the prostitutes have their motivations somehow linked to drug use, its a very dirty game. They are high risk because of the number of partners and types of men they are with, but also because alotta times they are shooting up herione or cocaine or hooked on speed or something like that. Most of the girls "like that" who arent strung out on drugs are involved in adult film or strippers as opposed to being prostitutes | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 8/16/2007 8:09:08 AM | This is now, Your honesty about your stint asa dancer is refreshing. A great many woman who had once been in the sex industry, hide their past. You never Know who has done what to make a living . I havea friend that is 60 years old. she has worked for a Phone sex operation on and off for many years. she makes great money and has a lot of fun doing what she does. Her Phone sex persoonia is that of a 29 year old divorced woman who's ex could not keep up with her sexually. It's funny the guys never catch on they are talking to a 60 year old grandmother. The People she meets in the real world have no idea that the sweet looking 60 year old is a phone sex operator.
a great many here who say they would never date a Sex worked may have already dated one and not even known it. | |
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| Would you date someone knowing they had at some point in there life been a prostitute?
Posted: 9/14/2007 5:28:52 PM | I have before, once. Actually I just remembered...weird. So obviously it wasn't a big deal since I just remembered now after a few years.
Anyway, I remember her telling me, and it was in her past, so I don't see why it matters. If someone were a prostitute NOW, yeah I would have a problem with it, and not because I have a problem with prostitution, but because I would be concerned with health, jealousy, etc. | |
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