| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/22/2008 12:43:46 AM | Either way, a long stare with no expression on your face is just odd don't you think?What would you think if a girl had done that to you? Wouldn't you have wondered what that stare was? I should have picked up a book at the library on it LOL
I probably wouldn't care enough to think about it very long unless I knew them. I wouldn't mistake it for flirting, though... | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/22/2008 12:53:35 AM |
I was in the library writing a paper. I looked up and this guy who works there was just staring at me with no smile. I stared and then gave him a dirty look. I tried going up to him later to ask him why he was staring but he ignored me and wouldn't even look at me. Just wondering if you guys stare at people to get their attention and not smile??? thank you.
Maybe you had something stuck on your tooth ? lol
Why the dirty look ? ...if he were a hot guy , I bet you would have smiled . | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/22/2008 1:21:01 AM | So....it's the stare with no smile that gets a girl to approach....all this time I've also been doing the lip licking thing....I guess that's where I went wrong....
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/22/2008 1:48:06 AM |
all this time I've also been doing the lip licking thing....I guess that's where I went wrong....
Try rubbing your belly at the same time. | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/22/2008 11:44:36 AM |
Try rubbing your belly at the same time.
That might be a little bit too creepy.
Maybe I'll try staring, no smile, lip licking, hands rubbing.... | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/22/2008 1:28:13 PM | Hi sum of us do stare at a gal with no smile,, but it dont allways mean anything bad! sometimes i look at a gal n not smile,, but i mean buy that is that i would love to get real hot n sticky with you! now this gay !!well being where you where n all. are you sure it was not a weirddo,,& the fact that you went up to ,, well if your a real hot gal ,,,well he probly got all hot n nervos,So he ran, if your not sure mail me or msn me at gary.thor@hotmail.com & i'll be happy to answer what ever you like,, & about myself n how my mind works when i see someone i what to get hot with,, or what ever you like Gary x   | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/22/2008 3:54:23 PM | This reminds me of a girl in my class when I was in grade 8. I'd be minding my own business, writing my notes doing my work, whatever... and she'd frantically wave and shout at me until I would look at her, and then say "stop staring at me!"
Of course, she sat between me and the board, so I'd pretty much have to look past her to see the board, so she was in my line of sight... but she'd also have to be spending a lot of time looking at me to decide I was staring at her... although, the fact that she had to shout at me to get my attention doesn't really fit with her theory I was staring at her. I think the words I'm looking for are Paranoid Megalomania. | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:32:41 PM | It will happen way more often than you think.
Just smile back...
if you don't feel like smiling back, don't give a bad look to him. Who knows...he might like you. | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/23/2008 12:20:50 AM | | That is so true lol the guy that mention daydreaming. I was in class and the teacher was discussing something. It was a english class so it was really boring. I just started to daydream not even knowing it. I was staring at the teacher for at least a minute or two lol. I guess she notice so she call my name. She call like five or six times, but it was really weird. All I heard was some noise, but it wasn't clear at all. She finally say it really loud which made me came back to reality. It's the weirdest feeling ever as if I was dreaming and I can hear her calling but weird like something out of a scary movie. She's one hot teacher though still remember what she looks like to this day lol. | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/23/2008 1:10:17 AM |
I was in the library writing a paper. I looked up and this guy who works there was just staring at me with no smile. I stared and then gave him a dirty look. I tried going up to him later to ask him why he was staring but he ignored me and wouldn't even look at me. Just wondering if you guys stare at people to get their attention and not smile??? thank you.
Sounds like he was minding his business and you might have walked into in his field of view without him knowing... and you thought he was staring at you when his mind was elsewhere... and when you asked him why he was staring, he probably had no clue what u were talking about.
Just like on the bus... when you are sitting on a crowded bus and you are looking out the window over someones shoulder and they thing you are looking at them but they just happen to be in the general direction of where you are looking... doesn't mean they are looking at you.
Question is... why'd you give him a dirty look before finding out for sure what he was looking at? thats rude. | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/23/2008 6:33:49 AM | | O.K., he works in a library right? My guess is that he's the introverted bookworm type. Probably pretty intelligent. But, these guys almost always lack self confidence and are most likely very self conscious. My guess is that he was probably day dreaming or lost in his thoughts or something. When you gave him a dirty look . . . you no doubt intimidated him. He's at work and doesn't want or need a confrontation at work. Ignoring you was most likely a self-defense technique. IMO he probably meant no harm . . . and you should not be so rude to people who are socially awkward. | |
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| Meeting Your Match
Posted: 3/24/2008 11:52:01 AM |
Try rubbing your belly at the same time.
That might be a little bit too creepy.
Maybe I'll try staring, no smile, lip licking, hands rubbing...
LOL
Even better. I might try that one myself. ;)
Of course that raises the issue of being yourself, of having a light-hearted approach, of sometimes being playfully and/or politically-flirtatious perhaps.
In some contexts, I imagine that it may be rather funny, even insightful, to get a confused look or an indignant scowl back... or you might even meet your match , and isn't that why many of us are on here? ;) | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/24/2008 12:20:33 PM | Ahh yes, staring at someone without giving them a smile... definately not a good thing. It tends to give off a bad vibe.. a bad vibe as in "I'm a serial killer and I'm planning to make you my next victim."
Of course, he may very well just have been daydreaming or staring off into space. That tends to happen to me now and then. I know how to self-hypnotize myself into a trance like state too. What can I say? I'm just creepy like that. | |
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| Shades of Perception and Burqas
Posted: 3/24/2008 2:26:50 PM | I_Luv_Dixie_Normus wrote:
Ahh yes, staring at someone without giving them a smile... definately not a good thing. It tends to give off a bad vibe.. a bad vibe as in "I'm a serial killer and I'm planning to make you my next victim."
Context is very important-- maybe everything.
For example, the guy could have a "Mona Lisa smile" (very subtle) that you just didn't notice or maybe he smiled and you took so long to "notice" that you missed it. (Some woman may behave aloofly and/or pretend that their attention is not being sought, or that they're not being looked at.)
(guys; check out any nearby mirrors [cosmetic too] or windows-- you might be surprised at who's staring at whom.)
The stare could also be interpreted positively, and/or as a smile, itself. One doesn't have to smile, and a smile could nevertheless be returned for a non-smile smile.
I'm unconvinced that a stare need necessarily be a bad thing and would voice a caution about its interpretation as such, which could be considered worse than the so-called stare, itself.
Maybe some women are brainwashed by the police-chasing media and are prime candidates for the "I'm-a-serial-killer-and-I'm-planning-to-make-you-my-next-victim" vibe. Apparently, some of the biggest dangers for women come from men they know.
Lastly, most forms of media inundate us with all kinds of female imagery-- sexualized and otherwise. That could also be seen as yet another form of brainwashing.
It's like, "If you don't want us to stare, get out of our faces." ;) | |
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| Shades of Perception and Burqas
Posted: 3/24/2008 3:08:43 PM | I don't smile without some kind of direct stimulus. I simply *can't*. See that picture in my profile where I've got this weird-ass tight-lipped grin? That's the best I can do on demand, and it took me twenty minutes to pose that photo properly.
Trust me, if I try to smile at you you'll think I'm some kind of psychotic clown.
So, damned if you do, damned if you don't. I don't smile at you because it's worse than the alternative... and I offer my most heartfelt apologies that I was not socialized into the type of person that the OP finds appealing.  | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/24/2008 3:14:11 PM |
What can I say? I'm just creepy like that.
Your photo is staring at me... and not smiling.
I'm scared.
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/24/2008 3:30:44 PM | | No offense taken. My pics scare me too LOL Fortunately despite the hideousness of my pics, I am at least somewhat decent looking in person (or so I'm told) | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/25/2008 6:48:10 AM | | what's up when women stare while being out on a date w/ another guy? And staring without a pause, break or smile is just rude - or obsessive. OCD! | |
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| Mona Lisa smile
Posted: 3/25/2008 8:39:28 AM | This is my first Forum post on this site, and I mainly want to see how it works and where it goes.... (of course, this is just my 2 cents on a topic I just read about etc etc)
At to this thread, I think "Girl Scout" (if I'm reading the right author's name) has the best answer to this seemingly simple question- "staring without smiling".
Since this didn't end up in a romatic courting, lawsuit, or dissmisal, let's go from creepy to pathetic:
-he was having sex with you in his mind
-He was staring at your breasts and figured, well I'm already staring
-He was staring at your breasts, and just didn't care what you thought
-You remind him of someone or something bad or perplexing
-he was staring through or past you (it's not always about you)
-he wasn't wearing his glasses, so when he looked up from intensive thinking, it looked like he was staring at you
-he actually did smile, but you didn't notice
-he's kinda pissed that you are staring at him
-maybe he has no social skills
Just remember, if you catch him staring and he looks down, he's interested but intimidated or lacks confidence, if he looks up he is trying to think of a way to approach you. His attraction and confidence can be scaled on the strength of his smile and where his eyes go. If he winks then he is about to approach you, but may not care about rejection or what you think.
We men will always stare at women. Period. Sometimes I stare at a woman on the bus (without smiling) and she can see me.... it means that I still want to look at her but I know I have no chance, or I don't care or I am tired. Usually I naturally smile, raise the eyebrows etc.
I mean, was the stare longer than 5 seconds? Were his hands in his pants? Did you have a cat on your head?
Remember to ask yourself "How would I respond if a female were doing the same thing?" and remember too that it is far better to be looked over then overlooked. | |
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| A Vital Human Activity
Posted: 3/25/2008 8:27:13 PM | Thanks, dustinchicago...
Just to add; to stare is to look, as per the dictionary's definition.
To look at someone is to see, to notice, perhaps to recognize, to investigate the body-movement/landscape of, potential love and/or friend-interest in, and the health/stress-levels/etc. of, someone of one's community.
I think that is very important.
We're part of the same human family and we're social creatures.
One may be unable to glean as much meaningful information if one does not hold a gaze for a time.
Movements only happen over time, and it can take time to investigate someone from head-to-toe properly. Some people may be unaware of something on or near them (embarrassing or dangerous) or some kind of injury or illness (that is affecting their stride or unusual number of times they scratch the same place).
Of course, and as an analogy, not all dogs appreciate having their butts sniffed sometimes, but it is nevertheless a natural activity for dogs, and one that is important, if not crucial in gauging the health and/or fertility and/or mood, etc., of another dog. Survival.
So I would suggest that to not look would seem at odds with being human and with a sense of curiousity, community, belonging, caring, and with survival, itself. | |
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| A stare with no smile from a guy
Posted: 3/25/2008 8:40:14 PM | | I wouldn't do this to some random girl, no. Usually in the "animal community" a stare with no smile, wink, break in the gaze, etc, is interpreted somewhat instinctively as a warning or perhaps even threat. It's certainly confrontational. Even when humans lock eyes & hold the gaze with the only other animals that are really capable of true "stares" close to ours -- chimps & great apes -- it's taken by them as aggressive. In general, if you were a female alone (and unarmed) , why even go up to him and say anything? I would advise just leaving him alone. You just never know with people nowadays. | |
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