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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/23/2007 1:35:28 PM | @HikingFitGuy
[My lifestyle is about health and fitness, not drugs and excessive partying. ]
I have a nose stud, and a belly bar, and 7 earrings. And 1 tattoo.
I also do kick boxing, rollar blading and cycling.
Having piercings does not affect you abilty to exercise.
I also don't do drugs (or drink) and have a demanding job that leaves little time for partying.
Please try not to judge someone who has any kind piercing, just because you don't find that attractive. | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/25/2007 10:41:15 AM | People have always used decoration to make them selves stand out in a crowd. to be noticed if you will. Feathers, face paint, neck stretching rings, plates in the lip scaring, tattooing, implants, foot binding, head binding, ----the list goes on. It is not till we get older, that our confidence level rises enough--to just be the naked You. --and be comfortable with just that. No frills, not false fronts.--no attempts to lure. but the Young must go through all that Pea-cock action to get there. Which can be fun to watch---All the Goth Kids are a hoot. All trying so hard to stand out and be different, yet all looking exactly alike. I love People watchin.---Much better than Birds. | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/25/2007 12:19:53 PM |
often women who have these facial piercings live an alternative lifestyle (not saying all, but many do.) A lifestyle totally different to mine.
My lifestyle is about health and fitness, not drugs and excessive partying.
Piercings and partying aren't related you know.
I like them myself, though all I got pierced are my ears. I can't see anyone being intimidated by what amounts to jewelry.. many just don't like it. | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/25/2007 4:43:02 PM | I don't get the intimidation factor---who gets intimidated by a nail in someones cheek??---Unless it is like the you gal at "Ones -a -Meal" a while back. She had a stud in her cheek, with a chain to something in Her ear. Coffee kept seapin out from the stud. I asked if she would drown if she tried to scuba. | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/26/2007 1:40:12 AM |
where does the sex part enter into it??
I have had so many guys ask me how my piercings help sexually...I think that is so funny & conceited...I have 12 piercings...(2 on my face)...& not 1 of them was done for a sexual reason...or to get anyone's attention....it was because I liked how it looked on me...
as to the original question...I do think it intimidates some ppl...I was on the Judge Hatchett show once..(as a witness)...& someone told all of America, that because of the way I look...I seemed unapproachable...I busted out laughing...these ppl had never had a conversation with me, knew nothing about me...yet judged that I wasn't worth speaking to...over a piece of jewlry...
when I have my rings in...I get that reaction alot...like their waiting for me to pull out my ak-47....or something....too funny....honestly I kinda like it....it keeps the uptight simpltons away.... | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/26/2007 6:35:06 AM | I'm not intimidated but I'm repulsed by facial piercings(tongue,lip,eyebrow,etc),I do find the belly button piercing sexy.
And to those who have them and say "it's a part of me"...ah....unless you were born with them I don't think so. | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/27/2007 6:25:25 PM | Maybe I break the stereotype, too. I have two facial piercings- a ring in my nostril, and a labret stud below my lower lip. I had the nose done because I saw Hindu ladies wearing such gorgeous gold jewelry in nose-piercings. So, imitation is perhaps my first reason- because I thought they were pretty. Period. No cry of 'look at me' beyond this- it was PRETTY.
The lip I did for much the same reason- I didn't care whether or not folks thought I was 'edgy' or 'cool'. I wanted one because again, I saw someone of another culture wearing one and thought it was attractive. Piercings are not new, and it seems our culture is a bit narrow-minded about something that's been around as long as the Human race. How silly.
Sure, there is an element of attention-seeking- how is it any different from wearing make-up, body-revealing clothing, or special scents to gain interest from people? None of those things are any more natural, nor any more or less attractive, than having a piercing, so why should they be any more acceptable on a female? It's merely a matter of taste. A person likes certain things, or they do not. Judging someone based on an ignorant stereotype is just sad, and it closes a person off from interacting with so many otherwise worthwhile people.
I don't party-hardy, I barely drink, I don't smoke and I certainly don't do drugs. I bike to work, don't use sugar much and refrain from eating deep-fried food. Junk-food, I barely touch. So tell me, just how does a lady with a piercing come to mean 'a person who has an unhealthy lifestyle'?
Rant over.
Thinking about where to put her next piercing, Gothchilde | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/29/2007 6:11:18 PM | | Good point --the whole idea of a person makin themselves up to be anything other than what they realty are, is just plain dishonest. I also don't believe in "puttin yer best foot forward"---Just be the real you from the get go, with no fake BS. That way a Person knows what they are getting into from the get go. Be a lot less confusion in relationships, If folks could figure out what it truly means to just "Be yourself"---for better or worse. --Takes courage, maybe that is the problem. | |
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Rhett1
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/30/2007 12:25:07 AM | I find some of the piercings a little icky, but to each their own. I find it distracting to talk to someone who has a tongue ring and is constantly playing with it.
There is a profile on here, I can't remember who the person was now, but she actually had some pretty freaky piercings that were pretty cool. They were something that I've never heard of, so I don't know how common they are.
She had about 8-10 piercings up the sides of her spine (4-5 either side), from about the top of her butt crack up to about the kidney arean. She had rings in each hole, and through these she laced a ribbon and it looked like the ties for a corset, it was pretty cool.
Now, you would NEED to have a certain personality to carry that one off.
The problem with tattoos and piercings is people will say they make them an individual. If everyone's doing the same thing, how individual are you? Of course, some people have tattoos that they've drawn themselves, so they're original.
That all being said, I want a tattoo, but I'm chicken, so maybe I should be quiet. | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/30/2007 4:27:58 PM | YEEHA! Indeed. And not all fellahs who like piercings have them, either. Some are actually pretty mundane in appearance. Anyway, my earlier point was not that primping oneself is phoney- with piercings, make-up, or whatever- but that it may be a natural thing to do for a human-being. For any animal, really. They're not trying to HIDE who they are- they're trying to ENHANCE who they are.
A Peac o c k's tail, the showy mane of a lion, the crane's mating-dance, a human wearing scent or make-up; it all equals the same thing- it's a way for someone to potentially attract a mate and to screen out the ones who don't make good mating material (all that jewelry and fancy clothes- are you part of MY tribe? No? Moving on to someone who is). I don't say it's the best method, but it's an old one, and mostly successful. My piercings may or may not bring someone to me- they were never meant as a sexual device; but, if someone thinks they're attractive, they may choose to talk to me, and then personality should do the rest. Hopefully.
So, to all the ones I may eliminate from my potential mate list- you have my sincerest apologies. Don't like my piercings or my tattoos? Then you may not like ME- 'cuz those things are part of me- I chose to put them there. Which is fine; like who you choose, piercings or not- but it's controlling and nasty to expect someone to change their body or lifestyle to conform to what an outside person thinks is 'proper' in order to gain a mate. If I must alter myself to fit someone else's idea of 'upright, healthy, proper, etc', I'm just letting myself be possibly controlled by someone with more issues than I'm personally willing to deal with- I have enough of my own, thank you. 
If a person truly cares for another, would a facial piercing really make any difference to that feeling? Don't like me with 'em, would you like me without 'em? And how could I possibly be happy if I changed to a lifestyle I wasn't comfortable with? Really, I cannot see myself as the frumpy, quiet little miss who goes to church and has a lot of babies- like my mother originally planned for me. Yuk. I'll keep my piercings, thanks, AND my self-determination.
Please don't judge someone based on a stereotype of 'if they have piercings, then they must be attention-seekers, partiers=irresponsible, or unhealthy', or some other similar silliness. If piercings put a person off, no problem- just don't translate that into something it isn't, like they're somehow less of a person or less healthy for choosing to do something you don't happen to like.
I don't like baseball caps- I think they make anyone wearing them look like a moron. And, yes, it's difficult for me not to think they really ARE a moron. See how easy it is to go on stereotype? I'm not immune, either. And severe-looking guys in dark suits carrying bland, little suitcases give me the creeps. I'd never talk to anyone dressed like that, let alone date him. Yeah, stereotypes suk, especially when I find 'em in MY brain, taking up residence and not paying rent... 
This IS myself. This IS me. I'm the fat-girl, the creative lady with three cats, a lot of books, a weird sense of humour, a good heart, a loving hand, a desire for fairness and justice..... and a bunch of piercings. They're just part of the package- take it or leave it. Your choice. | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 4/30/2007 5:26:56 PM | Yeppers ya see dogs, cows horses, and all kinds of critters, slappin on the war paint for a Saturday night on the town. ---To cover up who you really are is just that, a cover up---I do it myself--Halloween comes to mind. Even X-mas I get duded up. But trying to look all--what I don't know--with spikes and boots, when yer ridin the darn bus, is just a growing thing. Look back at yer pictures in 30 yrs. and you'll get the same laugh that I get when I look at mine. It's all in good fun---just never believe yer own PR.--Oh ya---and don't get high, on yer own supply | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 5/1/2007 2:02:43 PM | Your snotty sarcasm is NOT appreciated.  I was referring to the various ways creatures, including us, try to attract a mate. While the so-called 'lower animals' use physical things evolved over time, many of our 'attractions' have evolved as social things- but they still EVOLVED- we wouldn't be doing them, if they DIDN'T WORK. This includes the makeup, for example- which I personally hardly ever wear, except for fun. And, considering that you've named off not ONE currently wild species, but creatures that humans have grossly interfered with by breeding, your argument lacks some punch, there.
I wasn't praising the technique, I was explaining that it isn't as fake as you seem to believe. It's when we over-do it in an attempt to appear as something we are not, that it just gets silly- I'm thinking of sad examples like Micheal Jackson's constant plastic surgeries, or Tammy Faye's awful makeup. There's no enhancement there, just exaggeration. Now, exaggeration has it's place- as burlesque. But as a lifestyle, to me that's just plain strange.
As for laughing at myself 'when I'm older'- get a grip, dude- I already do. It's called being honest with myself. I laugh, 'cuz sometimes the way I look is just funny to me. But I rarely deride it. I feel no need to ridicule something a person does just because I don't happen to like it personally. 'Cuz that's all it is; personal. Personal choice, personal acceptance- or not.
To assume a 'lack of growth' or maturity merely because someone has piercings (or spikes and boots on the bus), IS something worth ridiculing. So it's something you've chosen not to do- how does this imply greater maturity or growth on your part? I think the way a person chooses to state their views says more about their 'maturity', than anything they might be wearing.
You ARE right, in that clothing, piercings, etc, are merely surface, but try to avoid the trap of thinking that's all there is to the person wearing it, or that they had shallow reasons for choosing that particualr decoration. Thinking like that is not only lazy- because it implies that a person might not want to do the work of getting to know someone, it's just another form of bigotry.
Your last line- what the heck are you TALKING about? Are you making assumptions again? Maybe if you wrote a coherent sentence, I might take you more seriously. If I wanna get 'high', I'll do it through exercise- like really heavy dancing to something loud and crunchy, like the Front Line Assmbly concert I went to on the 23rd- that was too fun- still got the bruises from the mosh-pit. 
Expecting some really grumpy responses to this one, but I gotta ask- are you REALLY 60 years old? I just looked at your profile and the pictures are too grainy to tell for certain- they can easily hide one's true age. As for drugs- 'prefer not to say' rings some alarms... So whose 'covering up', here? 
Won't be posting for a bit to allow some other responses. Don't want to hit the 'consecutive posts' rule. | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 5/1/2007 2:42:29 PM | | Easy now Goth child---I'm just funnin---I got a playful nature---put down the fryin pan.---We still attract each other by our words, and our grace---Hahahah---We have muscles, and some still have pretty hair. Nature gave us all the Natural ways to allure the opposite sex. But to paint a fake face is just not the way to do it. Sports, dancin, --magic tricks even. But we still need to show the real us. Not some fake presentation of what "Us" is. How do we know who we really are getting to know, if the first time the make up comes off, we feel like runnin for the hills. Glad to see yer Spirit though --keep up the good work. ---Oh Tigers don't change their stripes for Saturday nite.-----Yes I am 60 grand years old---and have done most things more than once.---that is why I feel free to say what I please.---got that part during the "60s Revolution" . You would have fit right in,---sorry ya missed it.--Peace out my little Hommies---John--thaSkateguy | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 5/1/2007 11:09:58 PM | The guys who are saying it is uattractive & a turn off are probably not the type of guy you are seeking anyway! Beauty and what an individual finds beautiful is exactly that, individual.
Personally the only time I find facial piercings to be unattractive on ANYONE is if they have poor skin, it just makes the whole thing seem ...messy!
Half the guys who replied to this tread are old enough to be my dad, no wonder they don't get it. Hunny you are BEAUTIFUL & the adornment only accentuates that beauty. & lookin at your profile it seem you ended up finding a guy who knows how to appriciate that. Also I find a lot of guys have trouble handling personalities such as ours...pu**ys!
It takes a REAL woman to know & say what she wants & that wont change just for some silly boy! Ya thats right I'll walk all over you in my heels & you'll dig it! Sorry that must be some of that "alternative lifestyle" comming out in me!
My personal choice to be pierced and yes, tattooed as well, has nothing to do with impressing a guy. I do it for me and quite honestly this site is severly lacking in men that have a similar view. I don't want no vanilla b**ch! where are all the freaky boys?!
If you can't handle my ink or my dangly things then chances are you are not going to be any good at handling me either. (I mean that figuativly & literally)
So hey your opinion is your opinion but I'm not going to rush to the bathroom & remove something that is a part of who I am for anyone.
You keep rockin the danglies goody goody! | |
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yugmde
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Joined: 1/15/2007
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 5/2/2007 5:33:22 AM | | I think you may have hit on it ---Boys don't know any better---Men know a "Lure" when we see one---we ain't fish.---And with any luck at all, maybe one day Age will show you the way---till then enjoy the silliness of Youth---believe me, we did, and it was a blast. Matter of fact, we got the Art Car Parade commin up on the 12th, and my ole butt plans on showin all the thumb suckers a thing or two on how to really get yer freak on. ---Like playin with blocks, --it ain't because we can't any more---it's cause we chose not to. ---Enjoy!! | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:33:58 AM | I have a couple,
but I wouldnt get any more. I never want to/wanted to hide behind them. I would never want someone to look at my face and see metal before me..you know?
But I have tattoos, and Piercings, and to me they feel right. I didnt get them to be attractive to anyone else..i just -wanted- them.
I don't have an alternative lifestyle..
I'm a univ. student, and a nerdy lady..
not rough around the edges at all honestly, but I can see where the misconception could be, upon first glance | |
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| are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings?
Posted: 5/2/2007 9:00:47 AM | In todays world, it often seems the more one trys to be "different" ---the more they just look the same as everybody else, that is trying to be different.---Just like it was in the "Hippy days."---All looking alike, in order to look different. I'm guilty, don't get me wrong. I don't feel I 'm speaking from the outside lookin in---I been out there, for as long as I can remember. Wouldn't have it any other way. Took me a while to find the difference between "Style" and "Fashion"---Great day in the Hood today---enjoy | |
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