| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/24/2007 9:40:28 AM | Yes , I met my ex wife ( of 13 yrs ) the day she found out she was pregnant with OUR oldest daughter . I call her ours because ive been there since she was known about . I did take about a month away shortly after she was born to think and decide if this was what I really wanted to do , raising another mans child and all at the age of 20 is a big responsability and commitment . Took me about 3 days to miss her enough to know .
I found it easy to love the child , it was not at fault for anything .
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/24/2007 9:44:20 AM | Speaking from personal experience ..once as the pregnant woman....my hormones were going so crazy that starting a "new" relationship with another guy was certainly NOT on my mind...I had broken off a short engagement with the father of my child, much to his dismay, because major "red" flags had started appearing, and I knew that I would NEVER marry him, and I did not want contact with him or anywhere around me until the baby was born.
In the meanwhile, I still had a profile on several dating sites, including one for single parents, and I was very upfront about being pregnant..aside from 1 email that I got from a religious fanatic who really lambasted me for being pregnant (and I am a Christian..but we do make mistakes and are not perfect)....most of the men that I chatted/corresponded with took the approach (whether it was a ploy or not) that they wanted to be my "protector", "white knight" in shining armor through the ordeal that I was going through..ALSO, they ALL thought pregnant women were "sexy"..kind of made me wonder ya know?? I didn't meet any of them in person..like I said.... I had TOO MUCH on my mind besides a new guy in my life. | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/24/2007 9:55:03 AM |
they wanted to be my "protector", "white knight" in shining armor through the ordeal that I was going through..ALSO, they ALL thought pregnant women were "sexy"..kind of made me wonder ya know??
I think the tendency for men to be a protector is a natural one, stronger in some than others. You shouldn't consider this trait abnormal. As for considering pregnant women sexy sexy. That's a big plus in a guy as opposed to the majority who cringe at the idea of being with a woman WITH child. | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/24/2007 10:15:35 AM | | yes I would depending on if she was single and if the father didnt want nothing to do with her or the child .I dont beleive any pregnant woman or child should ever be denied love and happiness.If that child did not have a child I would be more thyen willing to be the childs father. | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/24/2007 10:50:37 AM | | Speaking from experience, if the ex is still in the picture and it's his kid, I would have to say no. The most you'll ever be is a quickie to her. | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/24/2007 1:40:40 PM | | The idea just seems kind of irresponsible to me. Bringing a man you don't know into your life just seems like unneeded stress when a woman should be focusing her energies on raising a healthy and well-adjusted baby. I do see where a woman would still want to feel desirable and attractive and may feel lonely or scared of raising a baby on her own...but that's something you have to consider when you decide to have a baby-- it could go wrong, and you could be on your own. It would just make me really nervous...why put yourself into the position of having to worry if he's going to stick around once he realizes how much work raising a child is? | |
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Mia828
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Joined: 1/26/2007
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/25/2007 6:27:42 PM | | Sorry, that I gave the impression of me thinking that men wanting to be my protector/"white knight" was abnormal.... I was OK with that idea..matter of fact, nothing that I'd like better than to find a man who wants to do that for me now (non-pregnant lol)..it was so many men telling me that they found pregnant women sexy..and I had NEVER heard that before..and TRUTHFULLY, I was in no frame of mind during MY pregnancy to hear that..even if it was true .. | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/25/2007 6:47:11 PM |
Turned out to be neither........it seems he was a religious fanatic and throughout the entire movie he either showed me quotes from the bible or preached at me about how the baby needs a father.....
YIKESSS | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/25/2007 7:29:50 PM |
Sorry, that I gave the impression of me thinking that men wanting to be my protector/"white knight" was abnormal.... I was OK with that idea..matter of fact, nothing that I'd like better than to find a man who wants to do that for me now (non-pregnant lol)..it was so many men telling me that they found pregnant women sexy..and I had NEVER heard that before..and TRUTHFULLY, I was in no frame of mind during MY pregnancy to hear that..even if it was true ..
There's so many a-holes out there, that when a decent guy comes around, women are leary of his motives. Sad, isn't it? | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/25/2007 7:53:06 PM | Interesting reading here. I found some of the replies entertaining and some a bit childish if not selfish.
As for myself, I would have to say that, "Yes, I would date a pregnant woman." For a couple of reasons.
In the church that I attend there is a married couple, who met while she was pregnant. And although she had some of the same thoughts about being a pregnant woman and dating as listed here, she chose to go ahead and date the man who would become her husband. He shows the same love for his son, as he would have had his son been his own biological child. Not to mention the same affection for her daughther who is 3 years older then her son.
As for myself, I have a niece and nephew who I've seen and been around from the first day that they were born. Since I don't have children of my own, I've become very close to them and continue to be to this day. So I guess you could say that I sometimes act like a second father to them, especially when their father is deployed. So I do have a love of them as if they were my own.
So if a man was to date a woman who has a child. I would think that it would be better to be there while she is pregnant and develope a stronger bond as she goes through her pregnancy. The same strong bond would form between the man and the new born child as the bond would be between the child and the biological father. Espcecially if the man is going to continue to be in their lives and marry the mother. Better to be there from the beginning and have that bond rather then to develope one with a child who knows you're not the father and maybe resistant to accepting the bond.
Again I say that I would definitely be open to the ideal of dating a woman even if she was married. | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/25/2007 7:58:14 PM | Interesting reading here. I found some of the replies entertaining and some a bit childish if not selfish.
As for myself, I would have to say that, "Yes, I would date a pregnant woman." For a couple of reasons.
In the church that I attend there is a married couple, who met while she was pregnant. And although she had some of the same thoughts about being a pregnant woman and dating as listed here, she chose to go ahead and date the man who would become her husband. He shows the same love for his son, as he would have had his son been his own biological child. Not to mention the same affection for her daughther who is 3 years older then her son.
As for myself, I have a niece and nephew who I've seen and been around from the first day that they were born. Since I don't have children of my own, I've become very close to them and continue to be to this day. So I guess you could say that I sometimes act like a second father to them, especially when their father is deployed. So I do have a love of them as if they were my own.
So if a man was to date a woman who has a child. I would think that it would be better to be there while she is pregnant and develope a stronger bond as she goes through her pregnancy. The same strong bond would form between the man and the new born child as the bond would be between the child and the biological father. Espcecially if the man is going to continue to be in their lives and marry the mother. Better to be there from the beginning and have that bond rather then to develope one with a child who knows you're not the father and maybe resistant to accepting the bond.
Again I say that I would definitely be open to the ideal of dating a woman even if she was pregnant | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/25/2007 8:11:39 PM | sure i would
as long as i knew for sure the sperm donor wasnt gonna b comin back into the picture
i like kids n personally i think the experience of being involved ina birth would b an important thing in life ,
i always wanted kids but the few chances i had to almost have one ended up with the female killing the baby b4 it was born ,
unfortuately men have the big fat ZERO for rights when it comes to this and females tend to hide the facts about them being pregnant until it is opportune for them to tell u rather than to inform u the minute they know. im not saying all women are like this , maybe its just been my luck in life but | |
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IvyCoe
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Joined: 2/24/2007
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/25/2007 9:00:26 PM | well for the fact of this matter is what i am going through right now i have split up with my ex 3 days ago she is four months pregnant with my 2nd child with her and she is now with another man is this just to get back at me personaly i would never go with a girl that is pregnant until they have had the baby then i can accept it  | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/25/2007 9:30:21 PM | i have split up with my ex 3 days ago she is four months pregnant with my 2nd child
lol u split up with a gurl u knocked up twice? damn man u sure are classy
ever consider gettin neutered?
or do u intend to go on knocking up gurls until u have 8 or more kids?
i mean ur 22 and 2 kids wtf man
as ur words said U broke up with her | |
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cgisme
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Joined: 2/14/2007
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/26/2007 6:45:17 AM | Would I date a woman who is pregnant? No. I don't swing that way.
Would I date a man if I was pregnant with another man's child? No. There would be too many unresolved issues. Yes, hormones are raging when a woman is pregnant but I think (for me anyway) the last thing needed would be a NEW relationship.
Every situation is different, but for me I'd have to work through WHY I'm pregnant and single before even considering another relationship. | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/26/2007 7:06:31 AM | My husband did the same thing.He was seeing her for a while.I deviorced him and he married her.It did not make any sense to me.He never explained it to me.My so called girlfriends knew all about her.
He divorced and married several times after that.
We had a daughter and son togather.A nice house a car and a boat.I thought all he wanted.I was a good wife and mother.
He was, I thought my husband forever.Our children are grown now.I have a grand daughter and a grand son.
If some finds the answer please post. | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/26/2007 10:21:29 AM | | So, what are you saying?That every woman who is pregnant should just give up the hope that there might be a man for them out there?I don't know why there are so many woman that think men Only bring stress to their lives,there are so many that are really willing to be a gentleman lover AND father even if it's not their own.So quit the man bashing and use your head. | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/26/2007 4:42:38 PM | Let’s get this right. The woman is pregnant. Obviously, “Mr. Did that,” is off in the wind. Now this pregnant woman wants to date.
And the crazy thing is, this sort of crap happens everyday!
Well, hell no! I would not date a pregnant woman!
I understand the feeling that she would have; that feeling alone and vulnerable feeling!
And that’s part of the reason I wouldn’t date her…not to mention that she is about to have some dudes baby…a guy that could pop back up at anytime.
Lastly, that seems a bit unethical!
I know! Ethics aren’t an issue anymore! But still, I couldn’t take on that responsibility!
It’s a bit too much…. | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/26/2007 4:51:05 PM | “well for the fact of this matter is what i am going through right now i have split up with my ex 3 days ago she is four months pregnant with my 2nd child with her and she is now with another man is this just to get back at me personaly i would never go with a girl that is pregnant until they have had the baby then i can accept it”
I couldn’t help it…….this is “ONE LIFE TO LIVE” type material.
Dude, 3 days later and she is already with some new guy, "while pregnant."
Ok…I’ll be nice! I realize that you must feel real bad.
However, get blood test for both children.
You might be surprised. This is just one guy to the next, some women are the most scandalous things on earth.
Yes, I do know, some men are lower than the slime on a slug’s belly.
Still, take the advice...don't listen to your emotions on this one! | |
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| Would you date a woman that is pregnant?
Posted: 3/26/2007 6:00:25 PM | | Not unless I knew the woman a LOOOOOONG time and cared a lot for her and did it for her sake or something. But otherwise hell no. So moody at that time, the person would have to already love them to be able to put up with the moodiness and all the work that comes along with a pregnancy/raising a baby. | |
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