| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:41:46 AM |
Hey Stormy!! i think i have the answer to your woman problem......First possibility is there is a lady up in the daintree who runs around naked and lives off the land likes the alternitive lifestyle i forget her name but the locals will point you in the right direction Second possibility is i have a friend who has just moved to Tassy she is 12 years younger than you single likes being eco friendly is dam independant but smokes like a chimmney ahh well you cant have everything
Hi, Serenex, close but not close enough. I don't believe I have a women problem, it's quite possible that women have a women problem. Blokes probably have a bloke problem, I have a me problem.
I'm not feral, into hugging trees, delusion or running round naked, (but I'm happy to watch). I like to be warm and have my technology round me. I've spent my life adoring women, that doesn't mean I have found any two that can handle the true equality of a progressive relationship. Where's the adventure and evolutionary desire within people, or is it just to hard. | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:02:23 AM | Storms first post isn't far from the truth. Anyway from me what I don't like, profiles with no pic and bugger all info. Why bother at all? Women who do not put their body type and have no pic. Let me give you a hint girls, a guy sees that he expects you are badly overweight and don't want to admit it. Women with that say they are slim to average but look at their pic and, from the film 'The Castle', They are dreaming. Women who smoke, well that's just because I don't, same goes for drugs. Women who restrict their options down to someone that would have to be Mr Universe living in a bubble with a corporate jet who gives all his money to his potential partner.....you get the point. Women who are after someone just to financially care for them. Women who have "I'm interested in women only'. Although the prospect is interesting it is a pain when on some sites there is more women after another woman then there is after a man. Women who say something like, 'I have very high standards and will only accept you if you have a six-pack abs etc.' If they want that they should go to www.dateinagym.com (no it's not real, or is it I haven't checked) or something. Women who aren't after a relationship of any sort. You know, 'I'm only here checking out who is there but don't want to meet anyone so don't message me'. Well excuse me but don't give them another stat to say we have x number of girls on this site. Maybe it should be x/3 that are actually single and looking.
Maybe I sound cynical but I have seen it plenty and women complain of guys that are rude on sites however they can be just as bad.
Having said that I have met people that I met online and it isn't all bad. Just haven't found any that are right yet. | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/29/2007 6:12:15 AM | When a profile starts with "I don't know what to write here...." I mean it's fine THINKING that but to be silly enough to waste the time and space writing it ......... well.
I read a couple in the last few days where they couldn't even spell their own occupation !! Mind you one of them was 'modeling' (sic). Usually followed by looking for intelligent guy, lol. | |
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Shoal
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/29/2007 6:43:55 AM | I've spent my life adoring women, that doesn't mean I have found any two that can handle the true equality of a progressive relationship. Where's the adventure and evolutionary desire within people, or is it just to hard.
Maybe your attitude?....tis rather very stormy!!! | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/29/2007 6:49:06 AM | Poor spelling on a profile is a real turn off, as are sentences which read like a quick and easy mobile txt message. I'd love a $1.10 (added GST) for each time I've seen "sence of humour". If you don't see a mistake in that quote I suggest you consult a dictionary. (Hint: look up "sense" in the dictionary instead.)
Another phrase that will often put me off is "I am independent", and maybe it depends on the tone of the entire profile but to me sometimes means "I've been hurt in the past, and won't open up fully or trust or love you completely because I know this relationship won't work out either" or may mean "I'm not ready to live and share my life with you but I want to lead my own life just as it is while I'm single and you will have to fit in around that". Like I said I don't always FEEL that vibe when it is stated, but do sometimes feel it.
Naturally enough, given my lack of height, seeing someone state a preferred height above mine is a turn off!!!! I have no specific problems with a taller woman, but so many women have problems with a shorter man, yet women see men as shallow for wanting a gorgeous young female. Go look in the mirror if you think both of those things.
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/29/2007 7:24:15 AM | Yep a lot of 2 dimensional phrases on profiles- here's my list of dislikes:
1. Down to earth- damn vague
2. Sense of humour- What kind dammit.
3. easy going- for god's sake we Australians we're ALL easy going it's a national trait.
4. Night in shining armour or my prince- 2 dimensional
5. like to have fun- Don't we all but what KIND of fun?
6. love life- well it's better than death.
Love profiles that take the piss out of themselves or say something original. List their musical taste etc. | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/29/2007 1:57:10 PM | Maybe your attitude?....tis rather very stormy!!!
Hard to answer that, as storm bay is a place which can be very calm and then a raging storm when the great southern ocean rears its head outside my windows. Maybe it requires two women to handle what it has to give, after all you need 3 to make a band. But my approach here is very different to how I am personally, this is fun for me and allows me to test the waters of peoples minds, so to speak and learn. You'd have to ask my friends and the ladies in my life, as to how they see me.
Most blokes seem to agree with me in this thread, it's enlightening. But I doubt that women will take any notice, most seem to locked into their illusionary comfort zones to want a real relationships. It's sad how both genders are going in different directions and in the end loneliness is what they end up with. Women may think their kids are their lives, but they all seem to end up in nursing homes alone, where their kids dump them to get some peace.  | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/30/2007 12:32:01 AM | I am not usually one to add my two cents worth as a rule but I couldn't help myself this time.
I have read opinions of what you men interpret as hidden meanings, such as wanting a man with a sense of humour. Can't it mean just that? I for one would like my partner to laugh along with me at a silly joke or a funny movie. I have spoken to some pretty serious men and they are not for me.
I have also seen profiles that start with "what to write here" and they were not women's profiles I was perusing.
I do think it is nicer to have your pic on your profile unless you're in the witness protection program of course. lol This applies to both genders.
I don't believe all women and men are honest on these sites and that's why I don't rush into anything. Trust is important to me.
If women are overweight then who cares? They are still decent human beings same goes for men. I don't judge on face value, that is a sure way of missing what is inside.
Why can't you guys read a profile and not look for hidden meanings? Speak to the person first without judgement. I see why you are all still single.
As for me, I choose to be single as it states in my profile. No hidden agendas there. | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/30/2007 4:39:37 AM | Stormbay wrote - Most blokes seem to agree with me in this thread, it's enlightening. But I doubt that women will take any notice, most seem to locked into their illusionary comfort zones to want a real relationships. It's sad how both genders are going in different directions and in the end loneliness is what they end up with.
I think it's also important to understand that there are many differences between males & females....besides the obvious that we can see. We're simply just not equiped within ourselves in the same way either, (the hormone testosterone is a classic example), & this is basically why alot of misunderstanding occurs between males & females. | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/30/2007 6:05:46 AM | ^^^I'm currently reading "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" By John Grey.
So far, I think "A Brief History of Time" by Steven Hawking was a much lighter read and made a hell of a lot more sense. | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/30/2007 8:06:04 AM | I read all of the comments here and I guess that Sally read them differently. Correct me if I'm wrong here guys but:
(1) comments referring to 'sense of humour; were pointing out that there are various sorts of humour, including dark etc and that the phrase is over used.
(2) just because some guys start a profile with the same dumb "I don't know what to write here" is not a valid come back, it just means there are boring people in both genders.
(3) The comments about weight were pointing out that the person had been somewhat less than honest or unrealistic in their profile. Not that they were 'large'.
(4) Guys pointing out certain phases and interpretations were merely 'decoding' the meaning. Indicating that girls were writing well over used terms rather than being original and direct.
So to make this incorrect analysis of many posts and then take a swipe with "I can see why you are all single". Well, what can I say, it sounded a little bitter. I would have replied privately but your inbox didn't allow it. No malice intended. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2007 12:17:04 AM | Whoa, is this ever a 'testy topic'. I don't have a picture on my profile and I explain why, my area of employment and I don't apologise for wanting someone over a certain height.
We should all be allowed to have preferences rather than meet someone and they see 'the look' on the other persons face. A friend and I went to a Red Cross Baby Boomers Ball some years ago, my blind date was within my height preference with me in high heels around 6'. My friends blind date was about 2" shorter than her in high heels (5') and the look on her face was total shock. So it is not just us tall girls who have height preferences. My preference of the man being taller came from my first serious boyfriend, we were about the same height until I put on (flat) shoes and he would constantly make comments about my 'wanting' to be taller than him.
I tend to take what people have written at face value as it can be quite daunting for someone who is (possibly) learning to navigate around a keyboard, being on their own maybe for the first time and entering the 'brave' new world of 'cyber' dating.
I work Mon-Fri and sometimes on weekends and so I don't have the luxury of time to contemplate my navel too often. So I guess this philosophy flows over to reading profiles, I answer those who contact me, even if it is to give a polite not interested.
Question: Why do people put a picture on that is of an animal, cartoon or that far away you can not distinguishe whether they are a 'Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie'?
I prefer the 'ghost' picture to them. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2007 6:02:20 PM | OH GOD
So im fat.....or obese....darn......guess its different peoples perception as to what makes a person, FAT or OBESE......i know im not anorexic.....but average sized makes me fat,.....that means the average sized woman in australia is FAT....damn thats sad.
I think my profile is ok.....i dont actually specify wanting a knight in shining armour or an intelligent person
I have no expectations at all...and i hope the person i meet has no expectations either...
so far so good with my profile....
But i agree...its extremely amazing how many people read a profile and make assumptions
Your loss i say......one of those could be just the person who is right for you
i just wish 20 yr olds would stop wanting to meet me....im not here for as one person said.... " how about just sex then"..... im not a Who*e
Honestly....how do people honestly expect to find a nice person if they treat them like .........ill leave that open
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Posted: 3/31/2007 8:50:53 PM | | Not all women are alike; I thought those days were over when men were expected to the head over the household, feed the wife and kids. Today women work and are the head of their own house, even if they live only with their cat, dog, snake, whatever. The only high maintenance most women today need is some attention and lovin' and they give the equivalent, or am I just talking about myself. I don't watch soaps and if I did, it would be for the 15 min I have at home before I run back to work at my fabulous job that I gave to myself after busting my butt getting an education. I would not ever expect a white horse with a knight to come along and pay my way; just get off the damn horse and go to a movie with me. So women today are the same level with men; we work, pay our own way, create their own drama and conflict then apologize to the cat for taking it out on them, have their own sense of humor, are funny, serious, have bills, pay their own bills, have equity, do their own thing.....so I'm off my soapbox now and am going to bed.....g'nite.....PS I have no idea how to write a profile, I'm pretty new at this. | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 3/31/2007 9:08:08 PM | Me too, re the young 20-30 somethings contact, I politely inform them I am not interested in meeting anyone younger than my youngest child. And they still try to get me to make contact. Another peeve of mine is you just start e mailing or first meeting and I have to answer there and then whether "sex" is going to be part of a relationship. Hello fella's if we click with chemistry then isn't this part of a relationship? The other question that causes me consternation is "What are you looking for?" Obviously a compatible male!!!!!  Tongue in cheek here fella's. | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 4/2/2007 12:00:40 AM |
I have read opinions of what you men interpret as hidden meanings, such as wanting a man with a sense of humour. Can't it mean just that? I for one would like my partner to laugh along with me at a silly joke or a funny movie. I have spoken to some pretty serious men and they are not for me.
Yes to me a sense of humour means somebody you can share a funny/silly/witty comment/observation/joke/situation with and get a smile or laugh in response ...
I had this same type of question put to me last year from a guy. He had read my profile and asked me to define what I meant by sense of humour. He went into great detail and asked lots of questions such as "do you mean somebody who continually sees the humour in every situation?" "do you mean somebody who cannot be serious and makes a joke out of everything?" etc etc.... I ended up replying that if he had to ask so many questions about what sense of humour meant, he obviously didn't have much of one. I didn't hear back from him... lol.
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Posted: 4/2/2007 12:25:22 AM | like:
- Clear photo. Good for no unexpected surprises if you ever meet up.
- Proper spelling.
- Quick summary of the things they enjoy doing. If it takes more than 1 minute to read a profile, it probably has more detail than required.
dislike:
- Blurry pictures... hiding something?
- "someone who can make me laugh"... well, go to a circus and date a clown. I'd rather laugh with someone than feel pressured about making them laugh.
- Lack of detail in profile. Maybe it's just me, but i'm not attracted to pictures only. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2007 5:42:52 AM | I've just decided that it might not matter what is in our profile, some people just don't bother to read it. I recently added and edit to my profile and changed my Looking for: (long-term relationship has become friends/email).
Imagine my surprise that when i had taken myself out of the dating game I get a message from someone who says "I've just read your profile and you sound like someone that I would be able to have a relationship with, do you want to exchange messages here or on msn?" Ummm... if he really read it he would have seen that I'm not looking at the moment. | |
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| What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles
Posted: 4/2/2007 5:49:55 AM | ^^^Queen, I see you've finally mastered the fine art of Reverse Psychology!
Well Done!!!,,,lol
My headline still hasn't done the trick. Perhaps i should be a little more subtle. | |
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