| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:25:59 PM | In a way I never got over any ex I ever had. . .
Do I have a problem ? lol | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:33:15 PM | | I realized that if it were meant to be for me to still have that person around then they would still be here, but they are not the best choice op or this would not be replied to. I also feel that people that dwell on missing that person OFTEN more so miss what they may have thought they once had or times they used to share instead of really feeling they lost a person that they would still want to be with. Horim, if you NEVER got over any ex and you have had a few then my guess would be that you just love to feel loved. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/27/2007 9:16:04 PM | obviosly not .... just because your not sitting there with a tub of ice cream and listeneing to sadsongs doesn't mean your over her after all not being over her means you still have feelings and after all anger is one of the strongest feelings thats keeps us hanging onto our past we may think we hate a pesron but the truth is we just arn'tready to fell nothin for that person. sorry hun but its the truth
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:56:50 AM | | No. Can't say that I feel I lost my "one" true love. I've had 2 serious "loves". Now that I think about it, seems both guys had the same core personality - but different body types...Huh! Well, I guess I finally learned what type doesn't work for me. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/28/2007 5:56:50 AM | | I agree with the posters that say that the person who has hurt and deceive isnt friend worthy and thats where i am keeping my ex till im sure that like some posters said that the feelings in my case its anger have totally subsided and rt now they havent , my ex had a life to go to he planned it very carefully , you know the saying they dont leave to be alone for that i quess im jealous because i had to start alone and thats alot more difficult! | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/28/2007 11:50:38 PM | LOL.. I got lucky. I'll explain.
My first Ex was a g/f. She cheated on me. I waited 5 years to finally date again. Which I ended up getting married to the first woman I dated.
I still had issues.
But my Ex wife? Well, when I learned she was cheating on me in order to save our marriage I told her, Marriage counceling or I walk. She agreed. So I ended up going to counceling for 3 years. Only she didn't realize she was posed to go with me.
So when I divorced her I got over her quick. Within a year she was way behind me. LOL Its amazing how great counceling can be.
So answer is yep. Thats a Texas word it means yes. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/29/2007 12:10:48 PM | Hi. Good post . I like what you said about him bringing out the worst in you. I understand that.. if we're left with lower self esteem than before the relationship, thats a good indication it was not a good thing.
I've been married twice; both these men have become lifelong trusted family friends, because there was no betrayal involved.
My last relationship ended when he walked out two days before Christmas,when I found him trolling for " younger women" on this site and others. I'm not over him because I am still angry,and somewhat confused; everything he said and did in the two years we were together was a total lie.. that's hard to accept.
But it will pass, and new people and new events take over.. Life really does go on!
Wishing you all the best.
rae | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/29/2007 12:13:09 PM | When I think of him I think of how much of my life I wasted on a loser and then wonder why I was so stupid as to marry him then I look at my beautiful daughters and figure if for nothing else to have come out of that 10 yrs of my life at least I have my two beautiful Princesses which unfortunate to say are half due to his loser ass .....but God bless them for they only know he is daddy and not of the ignorance and trash he truly is nor will I as much as it be fair bad mouth the man to my daughters cause he is looking for me to make them hate him like he trys to make them hate me.
I realize I should have went for the other guy instead that I liked but damn my heart clouded my head. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/29/2007 9:01:56 PM | Well, I guess I'm going to take the unpopular stanch with the rest of you who have posted here. I am friends with a couple of my ex's. None of them cheated on me. We just recognized that we were not that "meant" for each other. It took some time, but we all got over the hurt and remembered we felt attraction once and wondered what that was about. We came to realize we were attracted because we had similiar likes...that we had things in common. I would never trust any one of them with my heart again, but atleast we can ride in the same car and end up at the same party and none of our friends feel uncomfortable.
My last ex has finally learned how to hang with me without asking for sex. Its a good sign. I valued him as a friend before we became an item. I have missed his friendship and have been so sad about not being able to just talk with him.
As someone else said earlier, you never totally get over someone you have "loved". Its not a bad thing to remember who "he" was before you bedded him. I think it makes us all richer people if we recognize where we/they failed at the relationship and where the true friendship begins.
ws | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/29/2007 9:18:12 PM | | Not sure what is meant by "being over"... able to move on? yes... Eliminating the loving feelings you once had for them? no... | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/30/2007 9:06:18 AM | Are you over your ex? hmm
I personally look at this healthy now ina way i didnt before.
Your ex is your EX because it didnt work out...why?
because either you were not who you were, or changed,...or they were.
Either way, why mourn the loss of a ghost? The person you fell in love with, simply never truly existed from the start,...only the lie did. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2007 5:30:26 PM | That's funny this comes up. Last night I had a dream about the girl I dated in high school. I haven't seen her in over 6 years. I still skip past her page in my yearbook, but I never felt that way about anyone before or since. Ah well....  and I don't drink. LOL | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/30/2007 5:50:54 PM | depends on how you look at the meaning of a ex.
as for past b/f's yeah i am over them. was not meant to be for whatever reasons at that time of life.
as for a ex spouse..can you ever really get over the person you married?? if they were realy you true love..your soul mate and everything in between.
but as the years go by..time changes things in ways you could never see happening...this can take in a whole new prospective of things.
myself..no i am not over the man i married and had kids with. dont think i ever will truly be over that time of my life. but i can truly say i am over the stranger i divorced. a long story over actions on this stranger's behavior..who was not the guy i married.
was while we were seperated..and ..and things i know the man i married would never have even considered doing. finally it came to ending the drama and destruction a stranger was causing.
sheesh...9yrs later/ 5 divorced and its still snowballing. since his kids dont even know who this male is now. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/30/2007 6:05:56 PM | I was listening to Lee Strobel's "The Case for Faith" in my car, and one of the reasons given for why God keeps people in hell for eternity, rather than destroying/annihilating their souls outright after death should their sin-debt be unpaid, is because human souls have INTRINSIC rather than INSTRUMENTAL value. I'm not going to re-hash the whole case here, so don't ask.
Thus, if people have INTRINSIC value, then I understand why dating is a modern invention, and back in ancient times marriages were ARRANGED (!!), because dating to measure INSTRUMENTAL value degrades and dehumanizes us of our INTRINSIC value.
Thus, if we are not "over" our ex's, it's because we properly recognize their INTRINSIC value. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/30/2007 6:13:40 PM | | I think true love goes both ways. I see some older couples who are like peanut butter and jelly. They make it thru the toughest of times. They both just don't want to be without each other or even entertain the idea of a life apart. That's what I consider true love---perhaps true committment to stay in love. We all search for it. Not all of us find it. Some of us even get fooled. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/31/2007 3:47:17 AM | | I was with my childrens dad for like 10 years, and I left him 2 years ago,,, we were perfect together, apart fom one thing, he is addicted to herrion, speed, etc'... and has been since he was 13... he has had lots of times were he was clean for months, but always ended up back on the gear,,, and as the kids were getting older I had to make the right dissision for them. which was to leave their dad... It makes me sad that I had to do that, but I know I done the right thing, because although I wish he will be 100% clean forever, I know that it will never happen!.. I will always love him, and although I am single now and want to be for at least another 5+ years, (that is what is best for my kids),, I miss him and think about him alot still, and I don't think that I'll ever stop loving him... so no I'm not over my x.... but in saying that, I don't sit around been sad or feeling sorry for myself,, I have moved on with my life,, | |
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Posted: 3/31/2007 3:47:57 AM | well iv,e been divorced now for 5 years and i can safely say i am 100% over my ex he has married the women he had an affair with and left me for so she is so welcome to the slimeball you just have to pick yourself up and get on with life.
Ihave and i,m now working as well. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/31/2007 4:09:09 AM | | They say never say never. I'm saying never. Not only at this point am I over my ex as it stands today I don't even want to be friends with her. She cheated, lied, used, confused, blamed but most important betrayed the union. The pain of a broken heart takes time to heal and it took me 6 months of crying everyday, counseling and medication. As I've worked through my anger and focused on me and my part in the relationship I am convinced I'm over her for ever. I don't hate her I have forgave her, but I will never forget. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2007 4:14:41 AM | | It's been 2 years since my divorce,....and although I have dated, I can't keep from wondering what he is doing, or if he is okay. I can't seem to find anyone that I am happy with, I can blame it on being picky like everyone else...but I know that it is simply because no one feels or makes me feel the way he did. He has moved on, living with another girl.....and I sincerely wish the best for him, even if it is killing me inside. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 3/31/2007 3:49:19 PM | Its hard. It is so hard and people not experiencing it for themselves dont understand that.
I met my ex-fiance on a website while I was in college and thought that I would be off the market forever after our first date. Everything clicked. He proposed when I was 23 and I was SO ready to be his wife. I was so overly in love it was crazy. My family loved him and my friends loved him and his friends and family loved me.
We had our shares of issues, but what couple doesnt? THREE MONTHS before our supposed to be wedding, he broke up with me. I moved out and have been single since then.
I still think about him. He will always have a part of me even though he broke my heart into pieces. I wonder if someone will ever love me as much as he did.
He has a girlfriend now, which is SO hard for me to deal with, but I am dealing | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/1/2007 12:42:41 AM | It's been a year since he left and I feel like such a fool for not being able to "get over him". I lost my true love, my soulmate..and it still hurts. Have I moved on? Does moving on mean you don't think about them any longer?...or your heart no longer aches? If I could honestly say yes then I would question whether or not I truly loved. I don't think that is something that goes away. I have no choice but to move on...and I don't like it. It's still a struggle. It's soooooo frustrating that he creeps into my thoughts each day. When I love...I love.
I can only hope that I will be twice blessed with that kind of love and passion that I had with him. I am very grateful to have experienced it...alot of people never do. I know it exists......but twice? God I hope so.
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/1/2007 1:43:40 AM | | im over my ex i just cant stop thinking about my ex which is a problem lol | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/1/2007 2:35:58 AM | | What does that mean? I'm so far over I'm under, she didn't want to see me for the longest time after we broke up and I know it's because she wasn't over me. All I have to do to help me is remember how bad of a wife she was. There will always be something there but I am far more optomistic about my future now than when I was married. So yea I'm good. I think all you would have to do to know if you are over them is to ask yourself "if they wanted to get back together right now would I say yes or no"? In my case a resounding NO. | |
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