| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:23:42 AM | | Yes and No. I don't want her back, we're friends now. But I find it hard to ever trust someone completely and let go again. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:44:10 AM |
I talk to God and ask him to take over my thoughts. Guess what? It works!!!!!!!! you ask to God an ask him to take over ur thoughts and It works? Ok so guess what? God was not fair to me then!!!!!!  I don't know but it's really about getting over? If we truly loved that someone i guess we can't get over but just we have to go on with our lives and it makes us think we're somewhat getting over and i think this question has no exact answer. But cheer up!!!  | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 2:02:12 PM | | I am Soooo over my ex. I had to spend this last weekend w/him b/c of my kid's. We were together 15 yrs. I now have absolutely no idea how I was ever with him that long... It must have been the catholic guilt. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 2:09:37 PM | No, I will never be over her. Nor do I wish to be. I told her that I would love her until the day that I die when we dated. She moved on, but my love endures. I will never get over her. For me, she was my soul-mate. Sadly, I wasn't hers, I guess.
But, I'm moving on and dating. No sense making myself miserable over something I can't change.
Blessings all,
Larry | |
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4tell
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Joined: 3/25/2007
Msg: 55 | |
| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 2:20:06 PM | Sometimes I think so then I dont know, it is a mixture of memories that are difficult to lose and feelings that are (sometimes) difficult to place. Sometimes I am just confounded by it all. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 2:24:05 PM | i know in my heart i am over my ex....took me sometime to let go..that was the hardest part...but i did eventually. i dont look at my past relationships a waste or a mistake and i dotn regret any of them ...theres always a great lesson to be learnt by them. i like to think its a chapter of my life which i have closed and today...i open a new chapter now in my future.
i do on the other hand find many on this site think they are moving on to only find in later theyre not even close...and their still emotionally attached to their past realtionship. no matter what we say or do...no one can change their feelings...only they can do the changes. | |
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lorie1
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Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 57 | |
| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 2:32:37 PM | Yes,to the "ex"part of the question.
I cannot run away or ex-'communicate' from myself.I am still not sure if it takes more grieving than we can possibly, know at any given time in the present. What I used to hope for,was a crystal ball that would give me some answers,and I still don't have it in me.I still go through the wading through stuff,today.
Well, what I am knowing,about my situation,is that what ever I have to do to get over it,it is something I haven't done before, so I am probably going to have to rely on my own best judgement,and take it day by day,but not run away from it. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 4:19:39 PM | | I don't think your over an ex until you can trust someone again. So no not yet.. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 4:44:02 PM | | Right on my friend. I agree with you 100 percent. It is good to hear. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 5:50:14 PM | | When my marriage started unravelling- so many times, i dreamt that he is telling me he doesn't love anymore and i would wake up crying. I recently found out that he was getting married and i feel ok with that. No sadness at all. So i guess i'm over him. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 6:55:29 PM | | 6 months on i think both those statements are true. she probably wasnt the one, but why do i think about her very single day? i think i'm probably better off without her but cant get the girl out of my head | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 8:23:11 PM | | I know what I have to do, but I don't know if that's right for everyone. I know myself, and I know him. I don't know everybody else. I can convince others of something, but that doesn't make it true. Some can reconcile with the past, others can move on. Often these two are at odds. I think the key is to be understanding either way. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 9:25:28 PM | | Are you sure your directing your hate at the right person? maybe you should look at your so called best friend......just my opinion. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 9:32:12 PM | Not yet..................But man oh man......................I'm damn close. :)
I thank you. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 10:02:57 PM | I am over my ex. She ran,,,,got pregnant and moved on. Her choice......her moves.
I moved on well and have never looked back. She does get quite ticked about me at times, so I'm told, because I'm doing well, but for some reason people want to tell me about it, and I realy don't care. She made her choices and I wish her well .... I even am cordual when I come across her in public (she sneers at me) .... but in all honesty, I don't care what she does and I have no desire to have anything to do with her. I have no understanding why she gets worked up about me.....she is supposedly with the guy she wants and living the life she chose .....she should be happy....... but to each their own. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/5/2007 10:27:20 PM | I totally agree.... and usually there is a good reason.. a person is the ex....i had 2 long term relationships 12 years and 13 years.... 25 years without parole... and i am finally free... never looked back......never give them a second thought... and it is annoying that people want to tell you about them.. what there doing.. and who there with.... i don't know if it is just to make conversation... or hoping to strike a nerve... i have no reason to be jealous of there new woman .... because i for one know exactly what they got ......  | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/6/2007 2:02:59 PM | | heres a thought...if your not over ur ex...why would you want to be with someone who doesnt want you? dont you deserve better? i would much rather be alone then to feel that emptiness when i am with someone....gawd aweful feeling and the worst ever. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/6/2007 2:20:01 PM | you never truly get over a real love, but you learn to live without them.
the differences i have found between 'true' love and others you just care for....
if you truly love someone, you want their happiness wherever they are
if you truly love them you are never jealous over them
you never doubt their feelings for you, you feel their love even if you have not seen them for years...as sure as the sky is blue, you know it
How can you get over that? And why should you? You shouldn't. You should carry it with you always because it feels nice...to know you have loved and were loved as deeply as any human can. Whereas other forms of love...they don't have this permanent afterglow. They fade or are painful or leave you in doubt about the others feelings for you. Real love is certain and secure, and leaves a permanent mark on your soul that always makes you a better person. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/6/2007 2:49:48 PM | Im sure there are more as well, but you hit the main ones bang on the head...exactly.
Especially 4 and 5...
...and like what one woman posted earlier in the thread, being the half of the relationship that loved completely, we are the ones who blindly, lovingly wish/hope/crave that faint hope of meaning to them... when after some considerable time we see how forgiving or selfless we were in accepting the other person, until eyes get sharp focus and we get angry at how 'used' we let ourselves get.
Mine couldnt stand ME being the one to step away from her entirely; she was choosing someone else and I said I couldnt be 'just friends' with all that I felt for her. She tested the 'fall back' part of your #4 and I fell for it... twice... she knew I wasnt over her regardless of the distance/silence and knew I would let her.
Every time I went a few weeks keeping ENTIRELY to myself, there was something that cropped up: a supposed car accident (while he was out of town a few weeks) that I saw no cast for her 'fractured wrist' or cracked ribs, a time 'he' left her soon after they got together and she needed consoling, and so on... finally she got bitter angry and poisonous when I stopped answering 'the call' and started making gross accusations or highlighted my personal flaws, hurting me with them until I told her harshly 'where to go'.
I really couldnt bring myself to believe there was such hidden malice or vice in her until she went out of her way to prove it, from everything to insulting me to mutual friends, blogging innuendo that was so condescending, or just plain making a 'show' of things at the club I like to hang out at.
No, she has cured me forever of this 'lets just be friends' bullcrap. Its a lame excuse to make all goodygood it seems.... | |
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HzChld
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Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 73 | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/6/2007 3:34:28 PM | I was actually kidding...yes...I'm over it...it's a decision I think...you either dwell on what COULD'VE been or you except what WAS and move on...not always easy I know..but it's a choice...look toward the future..not back at the past....good luck | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/7/2007 6:17:51 PM | | I don't think I am. We treated each other pretty bad, for that I have great remorse and regret. Although we only cheated on each other in our minds, it was a emotional breakdown that led to our big D. I have trouble thinking of another man with her and my children and I have trouble putting another women in that spot. Why do we do these things to ourselves and our children? I really don't know if I'll ever really be over the Divorce, I have to look into my childrens eyes every week and I feel like a failure for not being able to keep the family together. I guess that is why it is said that God works in mysterious ways. Good Luck | |
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