| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/11/2007 9:06:34 AM | | Your message hits the nail on the head. In my marriage there were many more bad times then good.However all that come to mind are the good times. I thought I was the only one that felt that way.Thanks for letting me know Im not alone. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/11/2007 9:14:51 AM | YES.. WAY OVER... Its been over 5 years,and he is my best friend now.. I give him advice all the time.. He is a good person,we were just at a bad time back then..  | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/11/2007 9:21:07 AM | | well i realise that my ex is not for me yet i do still miss him alot and wish that we were still together but there is nothing i can do about that now. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/11/2007 11:04:35 AM | Yep if I am honest I am over her right now.........but this last spade of soil and headstone are a bugger to get in place for the last rights......  | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/11/2007 11:21:52 AM | Ummmm. I missed my ex so much, I'm seeing him again.
I wonder if it's true in some cases that before people can be together they have to work through "their stuff"? I also wonder that when the heat is on (and eventually it will be) if we can avoid dropping back into old patterns. I guess time will tell. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/11/2007 11:37:44 AM | Well Cody, everyone gets angry--it's human. It's how we deal with our anger that makes the difference between a sucessful relationship and one that fails. In the past, I know I didn't deal with my anger properly. It didn't help that I found some of his actions to be antagonistic (he could really get me going).
I have found that getting angry in the wrong way, just diverts the issue at hand and nothing really gets solved. I'm willing to work on this, yet ultimately it takes two.
I know that if I create a situation where I'm always biting my tongue just to keep the peace is not going to create a healthy situation either.
He said that part of the problem is that we didn't talk when issues got heated, I would just get angry. I'm willing to listen to this. But he has to meet me half-way and not engage in old patterns either. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/21/2007 9:35:09 AM | I'm not sure I'll ever get over her at this point. I mean, in time I know I will move on but at this point I'm still left with questions that I can't get answered. I think it's more difficult to move on if you've fully committed to the equation. I sunk everything into it and had too much riding on it...when she disappeared on me I was left with so much that "wasn't right".
My lesson...never try to make things right for the sake of someones happiness. If someone loves you then they will stick with you through the thick and thin and your vision of the future will be there's as well.
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 7:48:14 AM | | Who?............................................................................................................................... | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 7:56:55 AM | It took me about two years before I started dating again after my last LTR. It was a very good relationship and we parted on good terms, so maybe that made it harder. It was one of those relationships that we don't get to experience often in our lives...a one -in-a-lifetime experience that lasted five of the happiest years of my life.
Blue Jays closer, Jason Frasor is a splitting image of him, so when I watch a Jays game, I still get little memories come back. But, I don't miss him any more or wish we were back together...we both moved on with our lives a long time ago.
Someday maybe I will be fortunate enough to experience that kind of rare relationship again...but I'm not betting on it. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 8:00:58 AM | MY MOTHER SAID.. There are more fish in the sea....
When you are in long relationships as i get myself into.. Yes.. it is hard to start your life over.. But.... People come into your life to teach you lessons to teach you to grow. Some are fine just the way you are.. but for some of us we have to keep learning this... And others do not have a choice.. We are put out to pasture to restart are life, we just have to keep learning what we want..
I believe that God, brings us people to show us the truth about are selfs.. I once asked for a man to be just like me... God played the Joke on me... Damn if the man was just like me... I could not live with my self in the end, so I wished for a new life... I hated me in the end.., that means I did not like him either... that was sad.. I learned that I have to know Me first.. I have to get my life in order first before I can have anyone be a part of my life... So I took time and did that.. Now... It is a pleasure to be a part of my life...
So getting over someone is very simple for me... I just move on to the next... If i wait I will regret.. there is no reason for this ever... I made the choice.. I can end my choice at anytime. If you are not happy, get out... Make your self happy and it will work out... | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 8:38:43 AM | well i have many boyfriends and loves in my life ,and most of them i think back with good memories ,
my last one for me was true love ,mysoul mate ,i knew what i had and i treasured everything about it ,even the bad moments with his kids and ex wife ,he never stopped me being me ,in some ways ,
do i think u can get on and love again ,yes there r many ways to love each one is different and special in its own way ,
i dont think u ever stop thinking about what u lose and how sad it is but i do now believe there is life after love
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 8:46:22 AM | | yes i am....once the trust and the honesty has been broken...whether it be friends or ex or whatever.....its history. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 8:48:03 AM | Well I met someone from here & dated each other for 3 months(short term relationship) things went into a sour note when he borrowed money and had my apartment keys & I never heard from him for 4 weeks now....
I am over him for 4 weeks that we are apart because I felt that I have tried everything to get his attention- from phone calls/emailing/offline messaging and he has no audacity to response to all of those.... So a friend from work name Ann recommended that I should start meeting new people and date again which I did.......
I am over my ex of a short term relationship for 3 months--- or else I wouldnt have gone out on a date with someone else... my only concern from him is returning my keys and money and I wish him all the luck that he lost the best thing that ever happen to him because as I heard from him that his previous relationships from his ex wife Angel & ex gf werent A Happy ending to be exact....
Well I have moved on if ever he comes around to bring my belongings back that would be greatly appreciated..... | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 8:55:45 AM | | pebbles...change the locks an spend 20 to 30 buks, problem solved as for the money..kiss it good bye you'll probably never see it. and for the material items....its replaceable. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 8:57:39 AM | Over ex hubby straight away. Couldn't wait for divorce. Met another guy, ten years younger than me. Fell head over heals, thought he was my knight in shining armour.
Lead me right up the garden path. Was sucked in and spit out like some kind of cheap tart. Long story, but he is with a cheap tart now. But at least it aint me.
Still feel bitter and angry that I let this guy do this to me. He's been seeing her for a year now, braved it and went down to local on Friday. Low and behold he was in there with her.
Tried to ignore them and have a good nite with my daughter. Till she started parading him about in front of me. I did really well and held my head up, didn't kick off and although I was raging inside kept my head.
But it was hurting like hell.
But if he is with a woman that is so cruel to rub it in then he isn't worth it anyway.
Just want to get my pride back. Don't know how to do it.
Liz xx | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 9:24:54 AM | am i over my ex?? HELL NO!!!! admittedly it hasnt been that long,but she was my EVERYTHING my whole world revolved around her,god i hate feeling like this its all i can do to stop myself from texting/phoning her and yes i have taken her number out of my phone but its still memorised in my head  | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 9:44:01 AM | | I was sooooo over the ex before the divorce was even final!! | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 9:44:51 AM | | I don't think I will ever be over my ex. Even though he has cheated and cheated and have two beautiful children from the cheating I still do love him. I know now that it will never happen again between us. I am finding it harder to trust anyone. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 10:34:25 AM | | oh my reading some of these posts....for those who are not over their exes...then why are you here seeking long term or dating? do you seriously think having someone new in your lives will change how you feel bout your exes? do you not realize it doesnt work..by having this emotional baggage and trust issues...this will only destroy your future relationships. look we all have a past but you cant possibly think its okay to bring into a future relationship...it wont work....trust me i been on the recieving end twice to know better it doesnt work. its best to get over the exes before you jump into someone elses life....lifes hard enough as it is...without carring others heavy baggage. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/29/2007 10:47:31 AM | Yup.......100% over him. I am proud to say my last ex and I have overcome all our differences and we both believe that being good friends is better than having a bad relationship. For all of you people out there that think ex's can't be friends, you are wrong!!!!! The most important part of any new relationship is trust, trust, trust!!!
My kids and I still care for him and adore him, but the romantic chapter of our life has been closed. I love my new life, I am enjoying being single for the time being, and this Princess is looking forward to the next chapter of her fairy tale being happily ever after. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/30/2007 8:52:48 AM | | there is a poem called a reason, a season and a lifetime...it sums it all up quite nicely. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/30/2007 8:55:03 AM | People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.
LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.....
Not sure who wrote this... | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:51:53 AM | Interesting post as it applies to me these days.
It has been over 7 years since I separated from my husband of 21 years and there have been times when I was able to truly focus on just me and how I was being. Those were the moments when I had the most relief and felt like I was coming to a point of acceptance and surrender.
Over him. Nadda. It comes and goes. Sometimes it is an obsession others it is moment by moment of letting go.
He lives in the same small town as me and our paths haven't crossed much except to do with the kids. That is a bit of a relief, but recently he has met someone, I believe on this site and though it is none of my business, I was shocked and surprized at my reaction. Set a lot of old feelings into motion and I have to work at my serenity everyday not to get caught up in obsessing about him. Guess one would say I am definitely not over him. Everywhere I go he seems to be .
I had expressed my feelings to him (before the new woman came into his life) that I would like to reconsile and at least work to become friends. It has become obvious (albiet difficult to swallow) that he does not care about me.
My biggest challenge is to know that it is ok for me to love someone , but not to have the expectation that they would love me back. The death of Love is a painful but growing experience.
The last 7 years have brought big changes to my life. There were solid reasons to be apart. I only wish to be able to move on and have an open heart.
I signed on to this site to meet new friends. Dating is still hard for me although I have many friends to do things with.
Even God can't change the past, and knows the future for me.
I think there is a grieving process that has to take place whenever anything ends. I just have to be willing to follow that path no matter what it is. All the best fishing. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 4/30/2007 10:17:45 AM | | Yes, I'm over him. It's been four years, and I knew when I stopped hating him. Now he's just the father of my kids, and an absent one at that. Only hope I have for him is that he one day figures out how lucky he is to have two beautiful children in this world and he makes an effort to let them know that. | |
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