| are you over your ex?
Posted: 10/26/2007 9:34:05 AM | Heck yes, I over her...Shes become some other poor slobs problem...thank god...Do I resent her "Nope"...Jus glad I dont have to ever share the same air with this negative person...   | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 10/26/2007 9:40:09 AM | I don't miss any of my exes. I left for a legit reason.
One of them keeps trying to get in contact with me to see if there is still 'something there' but she keeps getting shot down like a deer in season. They are called "exes" for a reason.
Out with the old, in with the new. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 10/26/2007 2:41:38 PM | Yes. I never thought that I'd be able to say that. But, after over a year of HECK, I can honestly say that I'm over her. The fond memories are still there. But, they are over-shadowed by the pain that she caused. I don't feel the pain anymore. Only, the memory still linger. We were "together" for 11 years. But, married for 12. The dissolution (divorce) was final about 2 months ago.
I have as little contact with her as possible. We share a son. Which is the only reason I have ANY contact with her at all. The person that I married has died. She became a totally different person. No morals, no values & no standards for herself. In fact, It's all about her, and her "wants" and "needs," without any consideration for anyone else. Even, in regards to our son.
But, life is change. You either roll with them, or get run over by them.
If she showed up on my doorstep, asking to come back, she'd be eating door. In fact she's not coming into this house again. Last time she did, she was looking everywhere for things that she could claim that were hers. But, since the divorce is final. She is entitled to nothing. | |
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Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 154 | |
| are you over your ex?
Posted: 10/26/2007 5:26:04 PM | Hell yes, I'm over my ex.....
He was the most manipulative piece of crap I ever met in my life!! I'm soooo over him, hell I can't even remember his name! HA When I do remember his name I hit myself in the head and say "What were you thinking"....
I'm at such a great place in my life right now....I love it!!!!  | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 155 | |
| are you over your ex?
Posted: 10/26/2007 5:39:08 PM | am i "over" him? YES. that means Ive accepted it and moved on and dont dwell on it, dont wallow in it, dont ache about it. Its over and thats life.
However...YEARS later I do still think of him fondly. I still love him and always will....BUT THE LOVE IS DIFFERENT NOW....NOW I LOVE HIM MORE UNCONDITIONALLY...FROM A DISTANCE.....but eternally nonetheless....forever, but with NO NEED to possess him....I jsut wish him all the best in the world and send out good vibes to him because hes a super cool man.
Who siad he wasnt the right person for me??? He and I didnt say that...the Air Force decided we needed to move to separate locations. But many years and thousands of miles kinda caused it all to work out this way........he still finds me (wherever I move to) and he calls me every couple of years and we have some wonderful conversations....close to 2 decades later. We have LET GO of each other...but the LOVE wont die.
merry xmas
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 10/26/2007 5:46:58 PM | Doesn't Matter if i am or not NO one wants to go out with me anyway! Hows that for telling it l ike it is! | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 10/27/2007 12:23:22 AM | | I am not really over mine.I still love her,but i do not desire to be with her after what she did(check out the "you think you got it bad?"thread for the full story),but we were together 10 years, and for every bad memory,I have several good ones.You can't just "get over" someone you've been with for so long.She was the love of my life,and at times I miss her,but I know it would never work for us again. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 10/27/2007 12:52:33 AM | There is very little point in speculating about things that have happened in the past. Even if a couple find they both still feel the same way about each other and are both willing to work towards there future happiness together. It is the here and now that is of the greatest importance....The past just brings up pain and the questions, the whys.....If I ever wanted to get back with my ex husband it would be impossible anyway since he died in 1997 . The ending of any relationship whether it be by death or by the pain of an affair or abuse.. throws up so many memories both of the good and of the bad. Even if a couple do choose to reunite It is very important to keep the past right where it belongs. You cannot change what is past. You can only change the here and now. Nothing ever happened in the past nor in the future. Your future relies solely upon what you do today. Forgiveness of the self is the most important tool anyone can use in healing the past. Forgiveness is the acceptance of any attempt to alter the past and unless you can time travel you have little chance of doing this...Ahead into a happier and better future is the only way to go. There is still plenty of love to give and to receive .. You will never find it in the past..
With love and respect to all
Catherine aka star.xx
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 11/1/2007 2:59:23 PM | | just had to say i know exactly how u feel and sometimes i felt like i was the only person in the world goin thru this shit.yeah i hated the thought of her with another man but she did it anyways an then threw it in my face ,and as 4 the kids yeah i feel like a failure too, she says she wants to be a free person with no restrictions yeah ,thats just what she wants, never mind what the kids want..an i agree that god works in mysterious ways so i pray he's workin 4 all those who have had their hearts ripped out and left feeling like utter crap. anyways good luck and god bless. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 11/1/2007 3:18:25 PM | I am very over her, but visit her often,. shes buried under my Harley parkingspot in my backyard next to my mistress. lol
she had it comin'. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 11/1/2007 3:31:44 PM | op, that's a bit of a loaded question for me to dwell in the past, I have no sour grapes or regrets in the woulda,coulda,shoulda, my ex will be the mother to our children,that will never change.
If there were no children other then the relationship we had I would still feel the same, life goes on, just like love, evolves and moves on.
Failure is hard to except but part of life,like it or not,but not the end of the world! | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 11/1/2007 3:38:25 PM | | Damn skippy I am. However, I don't regret having been with any of my ex's... I don't regret anything that made me smile, and the experiences I had with them have helped shape me into the person I am today. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 11/24/2007 11:27:51 AM | I know that if you really love someone you are never truly over them . I had 11 years in this marrige and a very adorable 10 year old son. I know that it's over  I guess you could say that I am over my ex | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/19/2007 2:31:15 AM | | Now I know why people are having trouble dating. Why are they DATING if they're still not over an ex??? It's not fair to the next person nor to themselves. The next person doesn't have a chance.They're an ex for a reason. Either they didn't want you or you didn't want them. Either way, if it's over , it's over and time to move on. Not dwell on what could have been. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/19/2007 2:53:32 AM | I totally agree with Wjh55 if you aren't over an Ex you shouldn't be dating but sometimes it can feel LIKE you are over them, like those feelings of sadness and regret are gone and that maybe its time to try and move on. Then of course something happens, someone says something that reminds you of them and next thing you know you realize you've simple lied to yourself and that the wounds still haven't healed. I know this has been the case with me, on two occasions to date since i split with my Ex i have thought that yeah i'm over her and on one of these occasions i got involved with someone only to have the truth come up and bite me in the ass once again.
Love is a devious smeghead so don't expect anything less from the after affects ;) | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/19/2007 10:27:53 AM | | Creativguy... your first post was great. I knew those things through experience but it was nice having someone else put them into words for me. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/19/2007 11:26:40 AM | Yup
I am not even remotely the same person I was when he knew me. And I have come to learn he wasn't what I thought he was back then...so YUP. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/22/2007 12:43:34 PM | You never can get over your ex ,wether shes your fisrt real girlfreind she will always hold a special place in your heart and mind.regardless if she goes all cold and frosty because I still love her and for all the real good she made me feel and how special I made her even tho we did have a great time but I really really still love her.
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/28/2007 5:27:12 PM | | 18 months here!!!(after a 18 yr marraige) and i havent ever been able to put it into words...u just did that for me...Thanks | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/28/2007 5:33:24 PM | It's been a year since he left and I feel like such a fool for not being able to "get over him". I lost my true love, my soulmate..and it still hurts. Have I moved on? Does moving on mean you don't think about them any longer?...or your heart no longer aches? If I could honestly say yes then I would question whether or not I truly loved. I don't think that is something that goes away. I have no choice but to move on...and I don't like it. It's still a struggle. It's soooooo frustrating that he creeps into my thoughts each day. When I love...I love.
I can only hope that I will be twice blessed with that kind of love and passion that I had with him. I am very grateful to have experienced it...alot of people never do. I know it exists......but twice? God I hope so.
18 months here!!!(after a 18 yr marraige) and i havent ever been able to put it into
words...u just did that for me...Thanks | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/28/2007 5:43:00 PM | I will probably never be completely over him.. some days I think about him, and about us, and about how he is doing now...
that is love, to me... and its ok
he doesnt know what he lost, maybe he does, maybe he doesnt care...
either way its his loss..
i am different person now, in some ways better, in some ways worse...
i try to just remember the good vibes & times.... the rest is not upholding love...
and i did (do) love him..
like Dido
I will go down with this ship
do i want him back?
HELL NO
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wrobt
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Joined: 6/10/2007
Msg: 173 | |
| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:06:36 PM | I can honestly say, after 3 years, that I feel nothing for my ex. Not love, nor hate, nor like, nor dislike. She is just a bad memory. no, I would never take her back . she lost, not me
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:15:28 PM | | I am over my ex. But, I have been heartbroken over some men that I have known. I would say a total of three over my life time that have taken years to get over. I tend to dwell in it. I don't know why. I don't like the feeling. I know it is not good. But I just can't seem to get over things so quickly. I try ... but, somehow I can't. So, I try to accept it and get over it the best I can. | |
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| are you over your ex?
Posted: 12/28/2007 6:24:59 PM | It has been nearly five years to the day when we walked out of each others lives. As the marriage came apart I realized it was for the best. I believe it is normal for a longer emotional recovery when a break up occurs with no warning. My marriage had been unraveling for a couple of years and I was not shocked when she called it quits. After a couple of months I realized it was for the best as we grew apart and no longer into each other. You have to be careful with your heart as stress does take a toll
to physical health. From my experience it really helps to rediscover hobbies and new interests to help the healing process. Word to the wise; don't let the past hinder a new
relationship! Happy new year to all! | |
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