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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/1/2007 2:58:07 PM | I am tired of dating... i am tired of the chatting on line that comes before the dating... i am tired tired tired of it all......lol
It seems so weird that there are hundreds of thousands to on an on of single people on this website and we all seem to have the same problem... meeting the right person. What did we do to meet people before the internet....
I will admit i do like going to the POF parties they are alot of fun... but still havent found that right one yet.....
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/2/2007 10:20:07 AM | geezz judypatudy don't ever say that!
A person has the bright sun, the full moon..even if it it your weird neighbors butt hanging over his deck rail..lol
A kids smile, a puppy playing, an old couple holding hands..
there is a lot to live for!
I think some just lose sight of the happy and pleasant things that make life good..
Smile darlin...I bet you won't break your face..lol
Dusty
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/2/2007 10:40:31 AM | oldschool:
Meet for a half hour whatever (coffee, drink, etc) and feel someone out before you pick them up take them to dinner for three hours and bring them back home. The date part is supposed to refer to someone you've already met and want to court because you're interested in wanting to know more.
I couldn't agree more.... I never could figure out things like dinner, movies, etc as a first meeting.
I prefer to go for a drink at a nice brew pub. If nothing else, I get to enjoy a nice pint of fine, handcrafted suds.
Having said that though, I'm so tired of the date thing, I just call a buddy and we go swill a few and have a good laugh. | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/2/2007 10:50:48 AM | ^^^ I hear ya, better to call people you already know and guarantee you have a good night sometimes.
It seems so weird that there are hundreds of thousands to on an on of single people on this website and we all seem to have the same problem... meeting the right person. What did we do to meet people before the internet....
Hopefully you're still doing whatever you still did in addition to the internet.
Another reason people are sick of dating is they are looking too hard for something in only one place. If you're a woman there's no excuse; men are pretty much everywhere and are never opposed to being approached by someone while they are doing whatever they are doing (if single and available). Ya gotta look around you while you're living your life. | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/2/2007 12:56:02 PM | The older we get, the more responsibilities we have but due to bad dates....more use to single life and man does it draggggggggg doing it by yourself sometimes. Once you've been married then you want it really fast again or just stay burnt. That's why more and more people are just having casual sex than getting involved.
Only way it's gonna get better is to exchange numbers, talk, then meet. If all you want is sex then admit it. If all you want is a friend then say so. Whatever it is...be upfront about it so you are happy. | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/2/2007 1:18:01 PM | I'm tired of it now. When i get overwhelmed, I take a break and go back at it. I believe that it is worth it and I've learned soooo much about myself and about what I want from a partner.
So its worth it. Nothing worthwhile is easy or necessarily fun. | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/2/2007 5:00:05 PM | Get tired? Yes Yes.. and Yes. Tired isn't the word any more. People are so picky about the stupidest things. On the other hand, people I want to talk to will not reply either.
It shouldn't even matter. | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/6/2007 12:09:45 AM | | I think we all do sometimes. Try doing something you enjoy on your next date and just gave fun, dont worry about anything but enjoying the golf game or fishing or whatever you do. Try just having fun instead of interveiwing her and it probably will not be so boring. | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/6/2007 3:12:36 PM | I've only read the first page of this thread....very depressing....except for the fact that now I don't feel alone in feeling like just a piece of meat.
We have options on here to tell other people what we are looking for in a relationship. Long-term to me means that we aren't into the candy store mentality, that we really are looking for a long-term committed relationship. So, why would a man who put himself down as long-term try to stick his tongue down my throat and his hands down my pants on the first or second date? They certainly aren't trying to get to know me better. All they want to know is if we are compatible sexually.
I'm left to believe that they feel that those of us who are not players are safer sex than those who will jump from bed to bed on a daily or weekly basis.
It was heartwarming to see that there are a least a few men out there who see a woman as more than just someone to service their physical needs.
Definitely, take a break when it gets to be too much. But, try not to let anyone make you believe that there is something wrong with you. I wish us all luck in weeding through the riffraff and finding that special person who treats us with dignity and respect and actually wants a real relationship. | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/6/2007 4:02:49 PM | | I haven't yet figured out what are the rules or etiquette with dating after spending 20 years in a marriage. It does take a certain amount of energy and being "up" for the occasion, on an evening when I would just as well put my feet up, put in a dvd, munch on some snacks or meet friends at the pub who like me, warts and all, and don't need to be impressed. I find dating to be very intimidating I find myself second guessing my appearance, my silly jokes, my presentation - and get nervous as hell. But I love the company, the chance to talk with adults who are not my workmates, the promise of romance, the waitig to see if there is that "click." I take breaks from the dating, but always go back and try again. An eternal optimist, I guess. | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/6/2007 4:58:23 PM | YES...and I KNOW he's out there so it would be so stupid of me to give up now, but I do sometimes feel like it is futile.
The eternal optimist in me refuses to give in. | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/6/2007 10:55:01 PM | Aloha Dusty...
Dating can be very tedious. I enjoy dating but it just isn't the most important part of my life anymore. I really related to what Ron had to say as well. I like sex, a lot. But after a while you just look at someone and think to yourself, you know, you would be about 30 minutes of fun and 3 weeks of a pain in the butt, I think I'll just rent a movie!
Take a break. Do something fun for yourself. Learn something new, be social with a group instead of dating. You'll reap big rewards, you will avoid loneliness and you'll have learned something fun while you are at it. It takes the pressure off and you can learn what YOU like and want.
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/6/2007 11:41:08 PM | I've had a break and now I want a date damnit!
I didn't really take a break , just got busy with work and schedules for meeting people didn't really work out , but I miss it ! that giddy anticipation , the fun of getting to know someone new, good times good times!
I agree it can be monotonous but I look at it as a means to an end sort of situation. If I'm going to find someone I want to build a relationship with ,I have to meet him first right?
hang in there daters , just remember it's supposed to be FUN
(which is why I try to do things I find fun on a date, even if the company isn't that great, you can still have a good time!) | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/7/2007 4:47:29 AM | After being married most of my life - I tried the dating “stuff” and ran right into the - “sex is just part of a date” crap. Three gals of that thinking right in a row - I just stopped. I was just another pecker in a sea of peckers ........ no thanks.
Thank you for the laugh. From the female prospective, it's the same. It seems to me that you have one small finite amount of time to meet all of the qualifications of the person you're dating or they are on to someone new. I'm sick and tired of the shallow people in the world. I know, rose colored glasses, but I can live with myself much better. I'll hold out for the real deal. | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/7/2007 4:51:34 AM | Dusty,
You've blocked women of age 49! You may be letting someone slip away... When we put limits on our drop dead "have too's" we limit our choices... | |
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/7/2007 6:24:21 AM | Ahh sung21heart,
I am not lonely..I am alone..there is a huge difference.
I agree with the 30 mins and 3 weeks lol very intuitive..
I watch tons of movies..
I do appreciate all you great people have to say on dating..
I am just very very tired of the games people seem to want to play.
Everyone is different and want many varied aspects from a relationship.
I know what I want and I also discoved frpm reading opinions that I made a serious error in thinking I could regain what I once had. I now realize I want the comfort of a woman who is content, won't cheat and will openly display the affection she feels for me and I would her.
So simple but it took this forum to make my minds eye open to what I truly wanted..
Again, i thank you all
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/7/2007 8:06:37 AM | Well Dusty (yes I am stalking your posts because you are interesting)
I was with one man from 1976 - 2003 ---- So you can well imagine my dating skills are a tad rusty to say the very least. I have found that most men that contact me are looking for a friend with fringe benefits. And the more they can meet and date the more they like it. I thought it was me for awhile with the low self esteem but after talking with a clinical phycologist friend of mine I have come to discover the polar opposite is true. Folks that cannot settle down with one person at our ages have, themselves the low self image and a need for constant ego boosting. Dating sites with instant connection and a veritable smorgasbord of varied attention give them just what they need. So to answer the question, yes I get very tired of (online) dating --- I never did like to go on job interviews and be constantly compared to other candidates, then my file be put on a shelf to be perhaps considered at a later date. Especially true if the selected candidate did not work out and I am second or third choice. Like you, I am alone but rarely lonely. I was, however very lonely often in my relationship which I think is much worse ! I have children, friends who love me, a business I enjoy and a mountain of interests and passions to keep me happy and my spirit soaring. I don’t need someone to complete me or make me feel whole. I would like someone to share my journey with , but I’m done with making personal sacrifices to make that happen. They either accept me the way they find me --- or they can move on to the next candidate.
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/7/2007 8:10:38 AM | I totally hate dating....Its toooo bad internet dating is so hard....we all know this there is one better looking and more fun...lol But that goes for both sexes...There is always that Hotter man or woman..(for the men)
Honestly..Its like buying groceries....in the meat section you look for the best Steak in the section.....LOL. I should just do the caveman thing.....find one knock him out and take him home ..end of dating problem?????
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/7/2007 8:18:48 AM | Don't give up honey.. There really is someone, somewhere for everyone..
I due agree dating is aweful - There will be awesome people to meet and stay friends, but there is also going to be someone that you meet that means everything.
I too keep saying and feeling I quite.. can't do this anymore.. But you can't she is out there.. You just have not meet her yet, keep looking..
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/7/2007 8:35:05 AM | bravo......my dear.....brav-O.....
beautifully executed with sprinkles of that dry wit and sophistication reminiscent of my 20's.....
believe me....at my age....one literally has to announce a plea:.."must walk upright and possess ALL of your teeth.."
wish you lived closer....i would solicit your writing skills to collaborate a book that i am in the throes of beginning...
thank you for making me laugh, this morning.....
again...well done.
your fan,
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| Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 4/7/2007 12:27:26 PM | Peaceful darlin, you can stalk me anytime!
Ok for the few who wrote and sent me email.
This forum topic was NOT a feeble attempt to get a date. It's my business who and when I date, to satify your curiosity, I can date 7 days a week should I chose to.
I have not dated for 8 months by choice. I was married for a longtime, I looked forward to our 25th anniversary. Now I will never see a 25th..If I regret anything it is that single one fact. Although I do try to be friends with the exwife, as difficult as she trys to make it, for the childrens sake. Like it or not, we are connected for life because of our children. As previously stated, I find I was looking to regain the security, closeness and honesty I once had. I now understand that building simular securites with someone new is possible. Most take the forum serious and post intelligent, thought provoking and insightful responses. I applaud you..
For the few that have left messeges that I won't accept younger folks email..well that too is MY choice. I feel no need to defend anything I have come to set as a standard for my dating life. I am attracted to women 50 and older, just a personal preferance for me and not meant for anyone else. Although I do state in my profile that if you are younger and can prove that we have something in common, then do so.
In retrospect: I am nothing more than an average man who is: frustrated with the many interviews..with the current venues for meeting someone whether it be a bar or the internet...with the change in values from love and chemistry to looks and my 401k..So yes dating has become a chore I choose not to engage in at this time, although I'm alone, I'm not lonely and truly wish we all find that special person that loves us completly, lifts our spirits when we are discouraged, accepts us for who we are without judgement and the one person we cannot live without!
Happy Easter to all!
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