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Posted: 6/16/2008 4:47:29 PM | Guys are interested in the following in order of priority and this is also what they talk about in order of priority.
1/ Sport 50% - Female ears close and brain shuts down.
2/ Cars 30% - Female ears close and brain shuts down.
3/ Politics 10% - Female ears close and brain shuts down.
4/ Home repairs 5% - Female ears close and brain shuts down.
5/ Sex 5% - Female ears open wide and brain goes ballastic.
Men ARE interested in a great deal more than sex. But women are so hung up on the whole issue that all they hear is sex. | |
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| I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX
Posted: 6/28/2008 8:15:34 AM | I have a male friend with whom I adore talking. He knits, is a buckskinnner, amateur photographer, father, son, good friend...and we talk about our lives and interests. We have talked briefly about sex, too. I will go out of my way to talk with him because he is so interesting and fun to talk to. He introduces me to his friends and we become a group of friends. I have never NOT enjoyed a conversation or instant message session with him and look forward to them, even though we lose track of time and talk longer than we have planned. I think the world of this man and would do anything I could for him because that's what friends do. And I admire him because of what he is. That's the kind of man I'd love to meet and build a love and relationship with. It's also the kind of man I'd make love with in a heartbeat, but instant sex isn't even in the ballpark.
Strangers just don't do it for me.
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| I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:21:01 PM | | The main thing is a lot of women on here have their photos where they lying on the bed and the first thing a guy thinks is she is easy and thats what she wants.They have on their profile long term.Well with a pic like that a guy is not thinking long term.If I see photos with the lady on the bed I go on to the next one and she might be a perfectly nice lady but that is not what I am thinking.OK All I am saying is if you are looking for a real relationship you can have different pics.I mentioned that to a couple of women on here and they did change their photos and they looked really nice | |
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| I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX
Posted: 7/22/2008 3:07:32 PM | Lots of people (ladies included) have their computer in the bedroom. It's when they are posing in a slip (adjusters on the straps give it away) , or leaning way over showing much more than the average cleavage, or have multiple photos in a swimsuit that could give the wrong signal in respect to what they are looking for, or say what they are looking for. But none of that equals sex right away with everybody.
I think part of the confusion comes from peoples different ideas on what hanging out and/or dating means. It's part of the generation gap. There are other "hook-up" dating sites and swinger sites that cater more to sex for fun but even on them there is no guarantee. But there are guys and gals looking for just that on all sites.
And to ladysj, many of us older guys (and gals) are on a more strict timeline sex wise. | |
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| I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX
Posted: 7/22/2008 3:22:11 PM | I also want to say I am totally amazed at the number of very attractive and sexy women on this site my age group, mid 40's to mid 50's, whether they are laying on their bed in a slip or standing in front of a garden covered from their neck to their toes.  | |
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| I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX
Posted: 8/5/2008 1:28:20 PM | | thinking about sex and wanting it is a healthy thing for a guy. and it would be nice to be able to wait for a while, but its hard. and girls seem to want sex as much as guys anymore. especially women in the mid thirties and forties. being a single guy and wanting to wait and make friends and go that route. as much as i would like to i just don't know if it will work because of the sexual desires of both of us. i am as confused as what to do as you ladies are. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 5:49:19 PM | | I was gonna reply with "just who do you think is confused?". Then I read these posts. Uh...yeah...well, okay. You know to the list guy...that's YOUR list. And, maybe it was just me, but the sports and the cars and all that stuff at the top those are traditional male things...then you add sex with women last. I almost get the idea that's the only interest you have in women. So, from my interpretation of that list, you are validating the OPs personal observations from her dating world. My take on men and dating, I don't think all are only interested in sex...but some are...but usually they don't start that right away...at least those with normal social skills do not. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2008 4:23:40 PM | | It looks like I'm not the only one who would like to know the answer to that question also. I had my first date from on here last night and even after reading ( I thought ) my profile and being told over the phone, he shows up takes me out to dinner then expects to be "paid" for all the trouble he went through to drive two hours and buy a meal. I was nice enough to let him and his two little doggies spend the night since it was so late and such a long drive back. I had to fight him off all night, sleep with one eye open and he had the unmittigated gall to show up in my kitchen as I was cooking him breakfast, with his privates in his hand so I could see what a Whopper I missed out on.....Like I needed to see that thing looking at me at 7 a. m. before breakfast. Needless to say, he got a cup of coffee and a fond farewell from me and I hope and pray I have enough sense in the future to not ever put myself in that position again. Sorry, Mike from Springfield but I was NOT impressed with Mr. One Eyed Wonderful. And I agree, seems like it's the mentality of ALL males until proven otherwise. | |
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| I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX
Posted: 8/11/2008 5:27:45 PM | | Oh geez...I love this story. The male mind never ceases to amaze me. I keep telling everyone that testosterone should be investigated as a treatment for depression. I mean, what else is there to explain their egos? I guess if I'm going to offer any real advice, it's what I'm sure is now obvious to you: in the future should a man drive a great distance and heaven forbid with his dog to see you, make sure he has made overnight arrangements to sleep elsewhere. You know he planned this all along. Oh...I've got another one...but then the mod will probably delete this...should a man do this and touch you in an inappropriate manner...call the police and file assault charges immediately...and follow up by going to court and making sure the charges stick. | |
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| I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX
Posted: 8/11/2008 6:49:11 PM | | Really, what generalization? I think I was pretty darned specific. I might have made a joke about the testosterone...but who knows...maybe it should be researched. The man acted inappropriately. And, in the future, should a man behave inappropriate...call the cops, file and press the charges. I mean!! Get real!!! Generalizations??? Point to one!!! | |
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| I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX
Posted: 8/11/2008 7:40:20 PM | | Did you ever hear of a joke? If you don't have a sense of humor, perhaps you can see if they are for sale somewhere. Okay...that was a j-o-k-e. Long o vowel sound. My sources were clearly stated...years of dating. See...no generalizations were made. So...you might want to come up with a new generalized accusation to make when women say something you don't like, cuz I've noticed you've used that one before. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2008 8:05:50 PM | | Oh, I've had men act equally as stupid. So have all the women out here too. And, if you don't know that, then perhaps you should spend a little more time talking to women and getting to know them. I notice you're the only man out here who thought this was a one time event. | |
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| I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX
Posted: 8/13/2008 1:14:14 PM | Ok is your research done by the qualitative or the quantitative method? Was it done by interviewing 16-30 yr olds, or the 30-40 yr olds, or the above 4o group? Sure when I was 18 yrs old all I thought about was sex and getting laid but even then I stayed with the same person and ended up with her for 23 yrs. Stupid, P-Whipped, to young, etc sure that can be true.
I think when men reach a point in their lives sex is more meaningful, a way of showing affection and attention and not just another notch on the bed post. Sex comes to this point as a means of chemistry. By this time, men know what they want in a bed partner and so the cheating should stop when the relationship gets serious and maybe moves to marriage. The problem is that the male or female changes behaviors in and out of the bedroom but the male still looks for the gourmet meal in the bedroom. The female looks for satisfaction more outside the bedroom so there has to a happy medium.
The way to a man's heart is excitement, experimentation, and affection. The way to a woman's heart is excitement, affection, attention, and stability and honesty.
That is my generalization anyways and my opinion. It is not based on any research just on my own observations and conversations with both sides of the human race. | |
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| I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX
Posted: 8/13/2008 1:51:13 PM | | Most of the research was in the over 40 year old group. But, I will say this, from my personal dating experiences...the younger men I've dated have been a lot nicer, more loyal group. And...I'm talking about the 20 to 30 age group there!! You sure think you know the way to a woman's heart. Where'd ya dream that up??? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2008 3:20:07 PM | Hmmmm. Good question. Ok, from looking on personals what are women looking for in a partner? Sincerity, honesty, communication skills, loyalty, support, and other qualities as well...but from my experience they are looking more for chemistry on personality issues more than on looks. I know there are exceptions to every rule and that is a somewhat general statement but you know I am pretty well correct.
From your experience 20 and 30 yr olds are more loyal. I can believe that. I was real loyal in my 20 and 30s because I did not know better. I was naive to what a great relationship should be. Men my age (40s-50s) know what a good relationship should contain and they want to find it. At the same time, they do not want to hurt someone they may be seeing so they go behind their back. People get hurt, and that is when the pain and drama grows.
That is why there is something called dating. Dating should include finding out about each other and what they like and discovering if the chemistry is there. Physical attraction of course is nice. Women playing hard to get and teasing is all part of the dating game.
I think if I went out on a date and we had sex the first night....that relationship is due to failure. What is the foundation for that relationship. I think finding a woman who is attracted to me, and I am attracted to her and she wants to make sure there is chemistry before getting in the bed is great.
Teasing, talking, holding hands, and doing things together will build the foundation. I like watching the razorbacks on tv. If I found a girl who would be upset because I do not want to go shopping during the Ark vs Alabama game then I do not want to be a part of that. I have done that, been there, and I think males and females want a partner not competition.
I have never dated when I was younger. I was married. I know what I am looking for now. I have my standards for a life partner. I hope she finds me and I hope I find her. So where did I dream that up? The Idiots Guide to Dating, The Notebook, Sleepless in Seattle, etc.
Actually, I think it is common sense. By talking to women and finding out what they want, it makes it easier to discover what makes them tick. Guys should read Cosmo every once in a while and look at books such as How to find the woman of your dreams, The dating game, etc. There are some good books out there. | |
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