| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/5/2007 7:16:24 PM | | Ok, we don't need 'details' thanks. This isn't a sex story forum. But did her husband KNOW that you two hooked up before meeting with him? Was he OK with it? Did you use a condom (the time with just you and her)? If you didn't and he found out he might be pissed off! Especially if you gave her something nasty. | |
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/5/2007 8:17:14 PM | nope, my boyfriend will not share me..... and I don't want to BE shared. I have a 1 d!ck rule. everything I need can be done with one man alone (him).
FMF is okay though, totally different situation.
No matter what the situation, both parties of the couple need to be in 100% agreement or eventually that sexual part will break down. | |
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/5/2007 11:15:38 PM |
FMF is okay though, totally different situation.
Is it? You're ok with sharing your boyfriend with another girl? I certainly wouldn't be! | |
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/7/2007 10:20:44 PM | i call bullsh!t on a poster here.......
i KNOW for a fact that you're a lying piece of crap. and i'm sure your boyfriend would love to know it too. | |
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/8/2007 2:24:51 AM | | I am constantly amazed at the narrow mindedness of some people. It may interest some to know that the japanese have been liberated with regard to sex for hundreds of years. To them pleasure is the important thing and has nothing to do with matters of the heart. Back in the days when the English believed that showering weakened you and wore 'cod patches' in place of underwear the Japanese were taking boiling hot bathes and were the cleanest race on earth. The negotiations between 'mama san' for the services of one of the girls from the pillow world, were done by the wife. And she would gladly supply two three or more women to pleasure her husband as part of her love for him. Obviously this is ridiculous thinking in these days however the idea that copulating was very different to loving is far from new. It's just about the sex pure and simple | |
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/8/2007 11:40:13 AM | Off Topic- The reason 3 somes go bad, is one of a few reasons:
1) there is some jealousy going on
2) someone accidentally gets left out
3) if you approach it selfishly then it wont work well
4) one of the parties is either homophobic or lesbophobic
5) one of the parties was pushed or guilted into doing it.
6) lack of respect
7) lack of trust
8) expectations
For it to be a fun exciting evening all parties really have to have the mindset that it is a giving night. This does not mean each person will not get their share off pleasure, but if you go in with expectations that it will be this mind shattering experience forget it especially the first time.
if you are phobic in any fashion its going to get tough, you are in pretty close quarters and at some point yes you are going to get accidentally touched, whether its someone slightly off balance or other reason.
Some people go into it excited and willing to try something new, but quickly realise this is not what they want. Sometimes when they realize this they forge through so they dont dissapoint the other parties.... Bad thing you all need to keep an eye on each other and make sure you are comfortable, if anyone starts getting wierded out STOP, and postpone it till another time have respect and trust of each other so no one walks away feeling bad.
If it is a couple enternaining another guest set your ground rules ahead of time, what is acceptable and what is not. Also if you can in a cool way explaian what is acceptable and not to your guest. Basic example:
If it is a couple in a mfm, and the femal doesnt like anal, it would be a good idea for the male partner to pull the guest asside,and casually inform him that anal is off limits. If he cant respect that then boot his ass to the curb right there and then.
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/13/2007 5:46:11 AM |
i call bullsh!t on a poster here.......
i KNOW for a fact that you're a lying piece of crap. and i'm sure your boyfriend would love to know it too.
really? ok stalker, you know when I had a MFM threesome? If that happened, my boyfriend must have been there, so I'm sure he remembers 
As for your bf, he's had a MFM threesome (about 5 years ago, did he not tell you?), and WILL have a FMF threesome, soon. 
And my bf? He knows he's allowed to bring home a girl anytime.... he just hasn't. But he's not allowed to bring home another guy, I think that would be a bit..... akward. | |
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/14/2007 11:52:36 AM | *fakes surprise*
oh, HI!
and stalker? please, i should reverse that accusation, it's a lot more appropriate the other way around.
anyway, i can see that you purposely misunderstood my post, but that's ok - i'll explain it for you.
YOU CHEAT.
so, the call of bullsh!t on your "one d!ck rule (that d!ck being your boyfriend's) still stands. | |
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JessyH
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Joined: 6/13/2006
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/14/2007 4:02:00 PM | | I agree. I have been in a healthy relationship and met couples that like to involve another man. Also FMF and it is a totally different experience then one on one. People may not be comfortable with it. That is fine. In my eyes, Swinging, FMF, and MFM are all healthy (HONEST) ways of getting a variety of sex. It might not be for everyone, and not everyone I have been with is into it. But It is always a possibility. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2007 4:16:59 AM | | I've shared my wife. MFM is kind of tame for us. More like MMMFMMM and I have no jealousy. It fabulous to watch someone you love having sex. Period. Get over your jealousy. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 12:09:02 PM | sorry jealousy is something I cannot get over.. and its not because im insecure or untrusting.. when it comes to certain issues in life yes I can see past my jealousy and move on but not when it comes to relationships. maybe because I think relationships are the most important things in life.
when I have a partner, a boyfriend, I enjoy giving myself completely to them, putting my whole heart and soul into the relationship and I dont think invovling anyone else would be healthy or right in that situation. I believe in committment, trust and loyalty, maybe to extremes, but I can be quite obbessive and definatly dont enjoy sharing when it comes to the person I am with.
I wouldnt ever have a threesome in general weather it be with another woman or another man.
 
codedout... I liked your post and the reasons why it just doesnt work... makes too much sense. | |
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JessyH
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Joined: 6/13/2006
Msg: 92 | |
| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/17/2007 8:52:58 PM | | All of those are fantastic reasons why it doesnt work. Keep in mind curiosity is hard to control, and although I would not share my spouse, it is not because of those reasons. It would be because I have already tried it, and it is an experience. I would not consider it a part of a relationship, even though certian couples do on a regular basis. I think it comes down to more of an individual preference. Some people it works, some it doesnt, and others. Well they just wanted to try it. | |
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/20/2007 10:35:54 AM |
Ok, we don't need 'details' thanks. This isn't a sex story forum. But did her husband KNOW that you two hooked up before meeting with him? Was he OK with it? Did you use a condom (the time with just you and her)? If you didn't and he found out he might be pissed off! Especially if you gave her something nasty
Hey! Details are fun :) Yes he did know and was fine with us getting together before we all did. Of course I used a condom....I am sexually open but not nuts lol | |
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U-nMe
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Joined: 4/11/2007
Msg: 94 | |
| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/20/2007 12:16:16 PM | I dont think this is something I could be a party to...surely if you love (really love ) your wife/husband or g/f -b/f it is human nature to be jealous. ..or maybe Im the weired one here...
I know someone who is about to marry his g/f - he has told me that he is not IN love with her, he just loves her for the time they have/had together as a couple...His manipulation of her has allowed him to have open relationships you-name-it sex with whomever as long as he tells her what he is up to and she is able to have Bi sex but he must watch - God! is this sick??
My take on any of this is that if you truely loved within your inner soul then you are surely monogomous to that love - or why get married?
...I must not have the translation of "marriage " correct ... 
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/22/2007 12:36:42 AM | I've had 3 different men offer to share their wives with me in a MFM session but declined. As some of the other posters have stated, I'd feel a bit odd with their husbands there while the wife is being plowed. I think though, if it were a woman, myself and a male friend I'm comfortable with, I could do that. I have a couple of buddies who would no doubt be willing to lend a hand -- or other appendage -- if the situation called for it.
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/22/2007 5:50:58 AM | U-nme, I'm glad that you can see you're own biases for what they trully are. Your own thoughts and opions reflecting on what morals you are placing on others.
I think that if there are consulting adults involved, who is to say if it is right or wrong. It might be wrong for you but not for others.
As someone that has had personal experiance with mmf/ffm/ffffffff/ffmm/fmfm I think that I can attest to the fact that it is possible to have a loving relationship with one person, someone that you want to be with for the rest of your life, and to have affectionate relationships with others that you want to play with in the security of an extention of your core relationship, as well as/ and not to disenclude the relationships that are for the pleasure of the moment. In a secure, mature relationship these other relationships wont disengrate the core relationship as long as honest communication is made a key factor. | |
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U-nMe
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Joined: 4/11/2007
Msg: 97 | |
| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/25/2007 2:04:17 PM | Golden Apples: ...The ppl I know who are into this type of relationship are lieing to one another - they are married or couples and have profest 'honesty' to one another and yet I know for a fact that there are extra activities going on. I can may be accept single ppl getting into that lifestyle - why not? they made no promises to anyone - but I cannot understand married or committed couples who are doing this ..
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/25/2007 2:52:46 PM | Now as for him sharing his wife I at first had a hard time figuring that out but no look at it as not sharing but giving her something special as it is and was her fantasy even if it was amazing for all of us.
My wife and I have done the FFM thing,and I've wondered if she has ever harbored desires for MMF.She says that she has no desire for suchIt would be OK with me if she did as I believe what's good for the gander is good for the goose.
look at it as not sharing but giving her something special as it is and was her fantasy even if it was amazing for all of us
Sounds like you got really lucky there to find two friends with that kind of attitude.The connection you mention is important,but at the same time you have to watch the emotional side and don't start having any serious feelings for the girl and get jealous of her husband.I've seen that happen, you have to maintain a sort of distance there and remember that you are the "toy" in this relationship.
BTW,Jessikaowl and Lynney,please take your cat fight off of the forum and go private with that.
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/27/2007 9:31:47 PM | | my gf wana have a 3sum with a guy but i dont think i can look up and c sum guy doin my gf id lose it and hes ball would b on mine its just rong | |
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| MFM threesomes and sharing your wife?
Posted: 6/27/2007 10:34:44 PM | OP.....Too much information, we don't really need to know the finer details for the sake of the thread.
she was very honest with her husband and told him all about me. .....Were you as honest with your wife?
3 somes, 4somes, whatever when your married is purely an 'excuse' to cheat. If you continued to carry on in this way with this married couple, sooner or later it would all blow up in your face. As for the 'married' couple, it's a lack of RESPECT for each other, and their children.If they truly loved each other, and YOU loved your wife, then the thought would never cross your mind.
Call me a prude, but I would never participate in this type of thing, and I would NEVER expect my husband/partner (if I had one) to participate in such a thing.
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