| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/2/2007 5:39:17 PM | "In my experience, big guys are gentler, kinder and nicer." Yeah my big guy is all that..and more.
I did very casually and very briefly date two guys a couple years back, first off that lied about their height. I got past it....they didn't. You'd think everything that happened that was bad it was because they were short. I finally told them it wasn't their height at all....and see ya!  | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:01:22 PM | Height in a man is one of the phenotypical expressions of genetic quality - as far as nature is concerned. It is the most obvious expression by far, and consequently, it is one of the core things women notice. As tawnysummer pointed out earlier, the decision on the woman's part is not due to an act of higher level reasoning, instead, it is the result of a primitive, semi-conscious decision, arrived at through instinct. A larger size implies a greater degree of control, of power, over other organisms and the environment. A greater degree of power equates to a higher chance of success in an upredictable, hostile environment. Women seek this, for obvious reasons.
Using Prince is in invalid allegory. Prince has already proven his genetic quality through performing, so he has trumped his phenotype. It can be overcome in this way, which is why women find performing men so sexually appealing, because they are advertising their genetic worth through their performances. It removes a lot of the guesswork involved with simply evaluating someone based on phenotypes. | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:07:36 PM | Height in a man is one of the phenotypical expressions of genetic quality - as far as nature is concerned. It is the most obvious expression by far, and consequently, it is one of the core things women notice. As tawnysummer pointed out earlier, the decision on the woman's part is not due to an act of higher level reasoning, instead, it is the result of a primitive, semi-conscious decision, arrived at through instinct. A larger size implies a greater degree of control, of power, over other organisms and the environment. A greater degree of power equates to a higher chance of success in an upredictable, hostile environment. Women seek this, for obvious reasons.
Using Prince is in invalid analogy. Prince has already proven his genetic quality through performing, so he has trumped his phenotype. It can be overcome in this way, which is why women find performing men so sexually appealing, because they are advertising their genetic worth through their performances. It removes a lot of the guesswork involved with simply evaluating someone based on phenotypes. | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:28:00 PM |
But see it is words like those that makes short guys insecure. It may be what you prefer, and thats fine, but it can come off as offensive.
But this topic has been done to death... Yes LimestoneLady, hence my pointed sarcasm. :) | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/3/2007 5:52:01 AM | For the same reason most men are hung up on a woman's weight.
Most women do NOT find short men attractive.
Most men do NOT find a fat woman attractive.
There are of course exceptions, but for the most part, the above statements are the way it has been, and the way it will always be... | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/3/2007 12:52:11 PM | I think female preference for height comes from evolution. You'd probably observe the same behavior in a group of gorillas where the largest gorilla attracts the most mates. Or the peacock with the biggest and brightest feathers gets the females. It has to do with the female's perception that a larger male will be more competitive for scarce resources and protective of the woman and their future kids. I think that's all it comes down to. I think on a conscious level, this may seem stupid in the modern world because we think we've outgrown these sort of things with technology and intelligence. I may not be a tall guy, but as a practicing martial artist I don't think I'd have much problem defending a woman on the street, for example. But no girl meeting me and making a snap decision is going to know that. I think much of our romantic choices are still driven by these primal influences on a level that we aren't even aware of.
Another interesting thing I was read that can help shorter or average height guys. A woman will perceive a shorter guy as more masculine as a taller guy IF he has a certain shoulder-to-waist ratio, meaning that if he has wide shoulders and a much narrower waist, she will perceive his appearance as more masculine than a taller guy with a lanky trunk-like body. So if you're shorter, hit the gym, start bench pressing, work on shoulder muscles and deltoids and get a good upper-body physique and that can greatly compensate for not being tall. As an aside, same for women, studies have shown that a man's eye is instantly drawn to women with hips that are about 30% wider than her waist. So anywayz, moral of the story, stop complaining about your height and start lifting that iron! | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/4/2007 10:45:01 AM | So it wasn't always my paranoia that others were laughing at me when I went out with guys shorter than me? ha ha
As I have said a trillion times on these forums - does it matter? who cares what others think and whether they want you or not because of some physical thing? Putting over a really great point is just not gonna change how people are attracted - it's just the way it is, get used to it, develop what you do have and work in the area where you are appreciated.
Nearly everyone can search around for an excuse as to why they aren't gods gift, but a bit more searching and you'll always find someone else with exactly the same thing who IS successful, so it is what we do with it.
And really really really, life is far too short to keep sweating the small stuff! | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/4/2007 10:51:00 AM | Ah lookandlearn. I've always thought I was God's gift.... Nothing holding me back but the handcuffs....
For me it is personality that counts. I am 5'11", and have dated as short as 5'4" and danced with shorter (lucky guys, I've a great rack...)
Nothing wrong with a guy who can "go up" on me...... | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/4/2007 2:28:51 PM | ^^^ ha ha
Tonight I went to Salsa classes with a lovely friend of mine (he's 5'6''). Many times we ended up dancing together, it didn't bother either of us, but it's true others did find it a bit odd. And you know what? I have to say I wasn't entirely comfortable with the fact that his face was in my chest the whole night, however much I like him!! So OP - maybe that's your answer!! ;-) Some tall ladies like to at least look their man in the face when dancing. There I've said it! (hee hee)  | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/4/2007 6:33:46 PM | | You have all kinds of different people - some people are shallow and there isnt anything you can do about it. Those are not the kind you want around you anyway. If guys don't like me for who I am they can just keep on walking. Yes I am picky in who I am with and yes I prefer someone my size. He can be a few inches shorter but not more than that. I have always gone out with shorter guys and none of them have worked out so now that I am single again I am going for tall this time. I have lots of time to find Mr. Right. No I am not shallow. I just want to feel comfortable in my heels. PS I am 6 ft 3 in tall. | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/5/2007 5:18:41 AM |
I am single again I am going for tall this time. I have lots of time to find Mr. Right. No I am not shallow. I just want to feel comfortable in my heels. PS I am 6 ft 3 in tall.
Good thing you have lots of time, because lots of time is definately what you need | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/5/2007 6:29:01 AM | well I am 5' tall and want a man who is taller than me, it doesnt have to be much, but just taller than me.
Unfortunately, you're out of luck with the men on POF, they are taller than you and technically they should be happy and all should be well, but instead most seem to be pissed off they aren't considered by women taller than they are.
You know, in these "shorter men get no respect" threads there are tons of women under 5'6" who post and say they'd gladly date someone who's here complaining because to them, these men aren't short at all.
Tall men date shorter women, and shorter men feel discriminated against because they don't get the choices tall men have, yet they won't consider anyone shorter than they are, which is essentially the same thing. These threads really crack me up.
I stand by my original statement that this isn't a real issue - it's simply an excuse to complain about something. Tall and short are relative. Work with what you have. | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/5/2007 10:57:06 AM | ^^^^ oh yes yes yes!!! People love to blame something and if its possible to blame their height or someone elses, the whingeing starts!!
And you know what? no one finds whingeing attractive!!
msg 66
Good thing you have lots of time, because lots of time is definately what you need
Hope that wasn't meant spitefully!! cos if it was, it's not very gentlemanly is it! | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/5/2007 11:52:49 AM | | umm I am not out of luck...I mentioned that I am 5' tall and prefer my man to be taller than me (its doesnt have to be much taller) LOL...my boyfriend is 5'7" and thats perfect :) | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/5/2007 5:12:24 PM | Good thing you have lots of time, because lots of time is definately what you need
Hope that wasn't meant spitefully!! cos if it was, it's not very gentlemanly is it!
Not at all spitefully, tallClassyLady is an attractive woman,
what I mean is that at 6 feet 3 inches, plus 1 or 2 inches wearing her heels, it is going to take a long time to find a guy 6 feet 4 inches or taller, as very few people are this tall, let alone find one who is compatible for a relationship. | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/5/2007 11:39:06 PM |
I do understand a women 6' tall not wanting to out with a man of my size, but women shorter then myself are still looking fo a taller man as well. Can somebody, anybody, please explain to me why a woman needs a man to over tower her. Their are pleanty of shorter men out there with a lot to offer, but we're being over looked because of are height. Thay's shallow.
I've got a friend that's 6'5" tall and her husband is 5'5" and they've never had issues over this. I personally have only been attracted to guys that are at least 6 inches taller than me. I don't know if it's because I'm so short, but I can't help it. Guys around my height do nothing for me, which is a pity because I've known many great short men. :( | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/6/2007 4:56:13 AM | | I definitely like a man who is a bit taller than me. There is something to be said of having your arms around his neck and looking up into his eyes. The same height is also not really a problem, but then I can't wear heels. Just my likings is all! | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/7/2007 11:34:09 AM | | I don't think women are so hung up on a man's height like they are being led to believe.. it just seems to me that men who are taller are typically more confident than the shorter man... and confidence is absolutely a turn on.. so if the shorter men (such as Prince, who is the definition of confidence) would learn to accept their height maybe, just maybe they would get more play. | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/7/2007 12:43:06 PM | | To the starter of this here thread dont feel bad. Im somwhere between 5 8 and 5 9, however dystonia (a muscle disorder) causes me to bend over to the right to the extent that my head can be not far above my hips. I was walking with my now ex-girlfiend who I had been seeing on and off for 2 years in a crowded area. She was slightly in front of me and to the right which put my head not far above and maybe a foot back from her butt. I wasnt thinking anything about it as we where walking until people started making coments like "getting a good view, and dont hurt yourself" it took a secomd to realize what they where talking about and I got abit angry. But she giggled about it, which put me back at ease. Now its just a funny story to releate. I have a funnyer one. One of my friends at a coffee shop introduced me to a female friend of his and we talked abit sitting ( when im sitting i look normal for the most part) she was wearing a skirt that wasnt miny but wasnt very long eigther. She wanted to go into the other room where the couches are with our drinks. When we got up my body pulled me over and she kinda sooted a couple feet foward and gave me a weird look or to as we walked into the other room. It turned out from what she told me later she assumed i was trying to look up her skirt and she was not weating any pantys. rofl. Im like well i wish you had told me sooner if im gonna get in trouble for somthing without the fun of having done it whats the point. To which she giggled. | |
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| Why are women so hung up on a mans height?
Posted: 4/7/2007 2:56:55 PM | Well OP, it's no more shallow than a man of say....oh 44, (like yourself)...who would date a 26 year old woman, but not a 49 year old (like yourself). Do you think the 49 year old can change her age anymore than you can change your height? We're all attracted to different things.
Edit: DancingQueen...Excellent post and empathetic as well! I agree except for the Prince part. Ewww | |
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