| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 6:05:18 AM | | Sounds like your stuck in a situation of co-dependency. Get your life straightened out first before commiting to anyone. There's a thing called councelling, check it out!! | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 6:19:53 AM | My Opinion is: Go with the guy who you can talk to.... "Guy 1" is just a "Grass is Greener" thing for you and you're also curious to know if he is any good in bed!
From what you have written; Guy2 is all of the right stuff.... Guy 1 is just a fantasy....and I think you would be disappointed later when the "warm fuzzy" feeling wears off.
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 6:41:15 AM | In my opinion if there is a question, than neither is the guy for you. When it is the right guy, there is no other.
Best advice I've seen, she's right.. | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 7:45:56 AM | OP I'm sure he cares fore me and loves me very much. "guy 2" lives closer and if I left to be with "guy 1" I'd feel like I might of missed out on the next best thing that ever happened to me. This is a pickle.....hmmmmmm.
Choose pickle # 2 | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:31:46 AM | I agree with Kaltes and Sugar that if you have such questions neither one is
"the one". You seem to throwing the word "love" around a little too easily.
In my thinking.......if you really loved either one of these guys you wouldn't
be interested in the other.
It also sounds like you're more into one of the guys for the influence he may
have on you than for love. It's a very bad idea to jump into a relationship,
expecially a live-in type, to fix other problems in your life.
I'd say that you need to address some issues within yourself before making any
kind of big decision involving someone else. Maybe you could decide to go
a little further as far as "dating" one of these guys without getting too carried away. | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:38:09 AM | | The wrong one. No matter what responses you get I suspect that is what you tend to do. You probably should choose neither until you get your own stuff together. I am saddend that you will be offended by this rather than influenced by it. | |
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e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
Msg: 32 | |
| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:48:30 AM | What about guy #3? After you settle in with #2, #3 is only a few
heart-beats away.......he is an excellent listener, in fact he will
write you poetry, owns his own global corporation, has an
exotic car collection.
7 years later we are both single and despretly wanting to be with each other
Sometimes we are desperate for a warm body....anybody. | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 9:23:38 AM | ^^^haha, e-wok, you are always ahead of me, I was going to tell OP to go for #guy 3 if #guy 4 doesn't come up on time. This Forum is getting more and more like a "Ann Lander" box.
Now to seriously answer the question: If you don't even know what you are seeking for, how us outsiders can decide for you?? So please first understand yourself. | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 9:30:37 AM | | Your just weighing the options of who you could gain the most from... in reality I bet you love neither. Your just seeing who you can gain the most from. | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 9:37:00 AM | thank you to everyone for your input and I really dont know why it didnt cross my mind that even tho they say they are ok with the situation it may not be the case I had long conversations to both of them and told them which one I was gonna choose
(guy 2) but I also told guy 2 that I have to deal with my own stuff first but to not wait for me. guy2 had even referred me to some great ppl I can talk to about my "problem"
Here I was worried about "playing" them guy 1 was leading me on and my best friend that was with him 2 years ago are working things out as of yesturday so it seemed that he did just want a warm body to be next to.
I am gonna be moving back home which is where guy 2 lives as well and hopefully everything will work out for all of us | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 9:40:53 AM | Crystal: I was not looking for ppl to decide for me that is not what these forums are for Im simply asking for advice and opinions or anyone that is going thru the same
(im sure im not the only one)
but thanks all the same | |
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e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
Msg: 38 | |
| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:13:05 PM | I am gonna be moving back home which is where guy 2 lives as well and hopefully everything will work out for all of us.
Just don't tell guy #2 that you moved all the way back home just
for him....he'll freak out and find girl #2. One thing guys hate
is a woman who rearanges her entire life just for a relationship...we
start to see NEEDY and DESPERATE.......it also gives the guy a sense of
OBLIGATION (we HATE that) - she dumped this wonderful boyfriend for me?? Damn,
now I HAVE to spend a lot of time on her and I really don't know if I'm that into her..
...and who said I wanted this to be EXCLUSIVE?? It
may be unfair but please don't be surprised if he distances himself from
you....especially when you have your next disagreement - that's when he'll strike. Guy
#2 hardly spent his life with you...you're a girl who dumped another guy for him - to
ALL men (except the desperate) this is a red flag and it goes against the definition of
LOYALTY and STABILITY. I kid you not!
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Kame
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Joined: 2/5/2007
Msg: 39 | |
| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:20:03 PM | | Which guy should you choose ?...must be nice to have that problem....Id say guy 2 the one who you have the best communication and can talk about anything with......which ever one makes you the happiest | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:24:31 PM | you should screw both of them..... i mean you got them both on the go now ..... so why pretend to be decent about it ...... | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 3/31/2007 10:51:02 PM | I'd say go for guy 2, better the devil you no. and he don't sound bad to me. or could it be your lusting after guy 1,!!!! (Be content) | |
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| Which guy should I choose?
Posted: 4/2/2007 5:25:03 AM | | If you are asking yourself which one to choose the answer is already clear that NEITHER is right for you. When it is right, you will know it both in your heart and your mind. Best of Luck. | |
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