| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/21/2007 6:53:20 PM | | It's not that everyone is immoral-- I don't really believe that we all find our soulmate the first time around. My parents divorced when I was three, and I'm glad they did. I've got wonderful step-parents who have been as close as my "real" parents for 26 years. | |
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/21/2007 8:10:10 PM |
I've been talking to a guy for a little while now. He's very nice, good looking too. The thing is I just found out today that he's married and has 3 kids. He said that he wants to end his marriage because him and his wife don't get along anymore. I'm newly divorced, just 3 months now, and I have 1 child. What would you do?
I think you should look at how long you have been divorced = 3 months...and how long have you been talking to him? Not to get personal ... but did YOUR divorce involve infidelity? Why would you want to be the one to help him upset HIS family...His 3 children deserve more than this from you...the stranger...
So let HIM end his marriage...and after the two of you have been divorced at least for one year each...(not collectively)...maybe start up talks again...but to be fair to the innocent children...step back...get your own head together...it is never a good idea to have a bird in the bush while you lie to the bird in your hand...one of the birds will go hungry...which bird do you want to be? Can you sleep at night knowing you helped him to decieve his wife and his CHILDREN????
What about your child? Focus on YOUR CHILD...not the one you want to date...do you not think he may turn around and pull the same crap on you one day???
Please, wake up...
IMHO
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/21/2007 8:44:29 PM | Prudish? To decide to say no to a cowardly married man? Apart from being emotionally unavailable, he most likely is a lousy lover too. His wife might just be "frigid" according to him. Because he is a lousy lover. This gal here is not interested in lousy lovers. Nor emotional cowards, liars and cheats. Not prudish here, making good choices on ALL levels | |
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/21/2007 9:12:52 PM | Loose him! Ask yourself these questions
AM I PROUD
1. I am the other woman?
2. Is he a real prize if he can't be honest with his wife?(his first commitment is with his wife) your just the fluff
3. Do you really want a guy that leaves one relationship in ruin and runs into another to make a mess?
Run... steer clear of married partners. If it were really that ugly a marriage he would have left long ago. | |
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/22/2007 3:06:30 AM | | ok so what if you had been seeing a guy from here and you have feelings for him and then all of a sudden he says he is married, that he is not happy and only stays for financial reasons? | |
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/22/2007 3:12:06 AM | Nicky: I wouldn't think poorly of you for being lied to...but at this point, you know he's married, I think that would be the time to pull back. I know it's hard if you are in love with him, and you didn't know that he was married, but now you know. I think a lot of married people use excuses for why they cheat...you won't ever really know if it's true or not, but you know that he has no problem lying to his wife...I'm sure he wouldn't have a problem lying to you, either.
From the post above yours:
2. Is he a real prize if he can't be honest with his wife?(his first commitment is with his wife) ...says it perfectly.
I would think you'd be very angry with him for decieving you. He's not a good man if he lied to you and his wife.
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Rhett1
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/22/2007 3:34:49 AM | Oh yeah, I meant to paste this in...it's from your own profile:
TRUST IS SOMETHING YOU SHOULD ALWAYS HAVE IN PEOPLE....until they give you reason not to trust them I think you've answered your own question.
You're beautiful, you can find a man who's not a liar. Best of luck to you.
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/23/2007 1:44:05 AM | Why on earth would you even consider being with a married man? If he cheats on her,why would he not on you? One reason ive never been nor will ever be married.
People seem to just live in a disposable world......
If he gets a divorce.....go for it. Till then id look for someone not attached.Be nursing a broken heart while hes still married,and being player to his next gullible pursuit.
Just for me........if they are married,got a significant other....im NOT interested.
Dont you think you deserve better? Or put yourself in her shoes........
I believe in Karma.....it does come back to you.... | |
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/23/2007 2:42:41 AM | | I don't think I could honestly respect any woman that I knew was pursuing a married man. Which begs the question, what are the chances this married man truly respects his pursuer? | |
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/23/2007 3:06:00 AM | The wanting to end his marriage is the oldest line in the book. Chances are, he will not end his marriage any time soon. That line is used so that you will not think he is a cad.
Dating married people usually ends in heartache. I recommend against it.
Also, consider if what you want came true. He dates you, falls in love with you. He leaves his wife and eventually marries you. That's wonderful, eh?
NOT! For one, the chances are high that you will always fear that he will meet someone else and leave YOU.
I had a fiancee stolen from me by another man. Want to know what his greatest fear is? That she will get stolen from him. It is too the point that he will not leave her side for a moment when they go to parties.
My response to that is, "What did he expect?" | |
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/23/2007 3:06:28 AM | | Honey, married men are bad news. There are so many wonderful single men to choose from why go down that path? There's nothing to be gained by it. Why eat a piece of food someone is already eating? It doesn't belong to you. Let it go. | |
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Joined: 3/27/2007
Msg: 163 | |
| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 6/23/2007 3:35:51 PM | | He's what is called a 'player'. There seems to be plenty of married guys on these sites who are all 'players'. Stay away or else you'll be in the middle of one big mess. | |
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 7/14/2007 2:50:12 PM |
Lancer,
If no one else gets to decide what is right or wrong, why is he getting to decide what is right or wrong for the health of a marriage that belongs to both him and his wife? When does she get to decide?
You missed (I can't tell whether or not it was intentional) a VERY important part of my statement.
No one gets to decide right or wrong FOR ANYONE ELSE.
You are the only one who can decide what is right or wrong for YOU. You can't do it for anyone else. Only they get to do that. Not you, not me, not anyone else on the planet. Only the individual in question.
A marriage is a promise two people make to each other in front of God and witnesses. Unless they took out the part about faithfulness, then he is breaking part of a promise he made to his wife every time he cheats on her. Are you saying that it is okay to go around breaking your promises?
God?
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 7/14/2007 3:38:42 PM | What would i do?...id say "Sorry mate,thats the oldest line in the book,and i pity your wife"
Oh come off it,you are not that gullable are you?
"my wife doesnt understand me"
"my wife and i dont get on/we no longer sleep together"....zzzzzzzzzzzz.
Oh plz,get a divorce,THEN look around.
And you should wake up,so should his wife. | |
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 7/14/2007 11:06:54 PM | RUN! why? this guy has trouble with boundries... he doesn't know what they are.. of course he wants to leave his wife.. of course he and his wife do not get along... how many times has he had to tell his wife, "i am online... i'll come to bed in a minute..."
how would you feel if you were married to someone who was sitting on the computer talking to other women... developing friendships with women you didn't know... becoming closer to other women on an emotional level then he was with you... as a wife, how would you feel if your husband was sitting online discussing problems with your marriage with some other woman? how would you feel?
i'd be pretty mad. and i guarentee she knows even if she doesn't really know.
affairs start this way. just look at how it's already escalating. he's built an emotinal bond with you that is completely innappropriate for a married man to have with another woman who is not his wife. how many other women has he been chatting with besides you?
do you realize that internet "activity" is now one of the leading causes of divorce? do you realize that the divorce rate for second marriages is even higher than that of first marriages? do you realize that a relationship born out of an affair has about a 5% survival rate?
i bet his wife thought he was a nice guy when they first met too.. and no, he's not a nice guy... he's married and has three kids... is this the kind of man that you want to bring into your life? one that can't confront the issues that arise in EVERY marriage and instead deals with them outside of the relationship...with another woman... as if that would help "fix" the marriage?
really think about what this man is doing. i am just being honest and not trying to be harsh. it is easy to idealize someone when you get emotions involved. you deserve so much more... someone better...and you really need to think about where you are. you just came out of a failed marriage. you know what that feels like. divorce sucks. even if you want one. why be an accessory to such a nasty process...
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 7/14/2007 11:16:35 PM | Bottom line.......There's no future with a married man.
I have to agree with "abrowneyedgirl">>>Tell him he can give you a call when his
current marriage is TRULY over! | |
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K_Dub1
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Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 172 | |
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K_Dub1
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Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 173 | |
| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 7/23/2007 11:14:12 AM | | just like the site implies: there are plenty of fish....go find one that hasnt sworn to love and protect till death does he part...jesus! | |
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| Would you pursue a Married Man?
Posted: 7/24/2007 5:57:05 PM | I wouldn't have anything to do with a married man...period.
I look at it like this. He started a relationship with you being dishonest. And, if he's sneaking around lieing about his marriage now, what makes you think he'll change later with you? Chances are, he's either done this before or he'll do it again.
To me, there is no excuse for cheating. If you are unhappy, get a divorce THEN move on. But, don't drag an innocent victim into your scheme of devious plan.
My advice is to walk now. You'll definately save yourself heartache and thank yourself later. Trust me. | |
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