| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/2/2007 5:45:09 PM | i don't hate one night stands. but i don't go looking for them. its been a long time since i've had one.....what i hate is when they GUY keeps calling after and asking where "we" stand. wtf?!?? WE? hell no....lol  | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/2/2007 5:46:30 PM | | I dont like them, Ive had some but would rather have an attachment than a fling.Lots of men I talk to as well dont want that.Yet some are ready for just a FB type thing. Once to get their rocks off and hope to have the woman feel the same. I say IF the attraction is there at the time,if its mutual go for it, even if its just the once if only to fill a need.Tho Id rather wait it out and have something with more meaning. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:46:55 PM |
If 2 people decide to be naked and horizontal, and neither has any issues with it, why do people, mainly women, think it's such an awful thing? If I had a nickel for every man who called a woman "easy" or "slutty" for doing this, I could buy myself an island. Manhattan.
Don't pin this crap on women specifically.
I do not, nor have ever had any sort of desire to have a one night stand. It's just not in my nature. I don't want to have what I consider one of the most intimate acts one can have, with someone I am not personally intimate with as well. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:55:36 PM | I don't want to have what I consider one of the most intimate acts one can have, with someone I am not personally intimate with as well.
Okay.
A) That is your opinion that sex is "one of the most intimate acts one can have". It is not everybody's opinion as well.
B) Nor do I. Sex with someone I AM intimate with personally is in another category. I am talking about the wham bam and what was your name again thing. Nothing intimate at all. Purely physical.
Sex with someone with whom you share deep a emotional bond is not what this post is about. It's about two relative strangers going bump in the night, and your reply (from a woman) is typical of the perspective of the majority of women I have known.
So how do you think I am pinning "this crap" on women? You just proved my point.
And I do want to add, I think it's BETTER with someone you care about, but I look at that the same way I look at being hungry. Sure I prefer a good steak, but when all you have is a quick hot dog or burger.... feed the hunger. Whatever that hunger may be. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/2/2007 9:43:40 PM | When I am in a relationship with someone I care about and love, then sex is an intimate thing with feelings and thoughts and bodies all together. However, when I am single and feeling frisky, well then sex is exactly that-SEX.
I have never understood how people cannot separate the two things. I do not, nor have I ever "fallen in love" with someone I was only sleeping with. Any feelings I have with someone has nothing to do with sex it actually has to do with everything but sex. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/2/2007 9:52:30 PM | not all women feel this way. i haven't any problems with one night stands. there was a time when all i wanted was just that.
now i'm looking and hoping for more......but not all women think it's taboo. i figure, as long as people are being safe about sex and they are both having fun....who cares. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/2/2007 11:45:44 PM | I was referring to this statement specifically, and you made the awful thing reference:
If 2 people decide to be naked and horizontal, and neither has any issues with it, why do people, mainly women, think it's such an awful thing? For the record, not all women hate them. But most women are just not that interested in them. You will have to live with the fact that sex is somewhat more personal for many women than it is for many men. It's all the joy of what makes us different. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/3/2007 5:09:26 AM |
Sex is a physical thing. Hunger and thirst are as well. If you are hungry, you eat. If you are thirsty, you drink. Why is it taboo that if you are horny you have sex?
It isn't, and why are you stereotyping all women, just like the men we are not all the same so please do not categorize all females. You say men are interested in many things....news flash, so are women, lol...
You say you are over half a century...yet your rant sounds like a typical 20 yr old boy, and I am not sure what century you live in.
Women will 'use' you just as much as you will 'use' them.
Sort out the good from the bad.
I am female, and there are times I have gone after 'only one thing' and it wasn't his wallet, so your theory is all blown to hell...Women do not hate one night stands, it is a choice...being used for sex while you were promised something else is probably closer to the truth of why you think females hate one night stands...I hate men who can't keep their word.
Have a nice day!
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/3/2007 7:12:37 AM | jardinero-you bring up an excellent point. Many women I know do not mind indulging in the odd one night stand if the mood is right but most one night stands are gained through a man making many promises that he has noooo intention of keeping. They plaster on many lines and schmooze their way into a woman's pants by making them think that they are special and that the guy wants something more in the end.
There was a time when I had a one night stand with a friend of a friend. The next morning we all got up and did the coffee thing. My friend and I did more of the talking and the guy and I said barely two words to each other-not because it was awkward but simply because it wasn't necessary. Well, he left for work and she turned to me and said "What? No kiss good bye, no nothing?" I am like "He said good bye, what more is there?", she said "Yeah but you guys just spent the night together doesn't that mean anything?", I started to laugh, "Nooooo, it was sex, nothing more nothing less. It was good and thats all there needs to be"
She could not for the life of her figure out how I could be so indifferent about something like that. I just appreciate honesty. Don't blow sugar out my a$$, just say this is a fun time and leave it at that. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/3/2007 10:47:45 AM | | If it's 2 consenting adults and they know right from the start what is the outcome who really cares. Sex is way over rated and yes it can be a intimate experience but thats only if ur truly in love with the person body mind and spirit. I think that maybe some of our opposite sex may not like the one night stand classification due to that know days u never now who has what out there. I just read about a woman with aids sleeping with everyone she meets.I think as long as ur safe and cautious then who really cares what it's classified under just get busy hahaha!!! Happy humping all!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/3/2007 2:09:04 PM |
You say men are interested in many things
I said THAT? No, I didn't. I would never say that. Men are typically interested in a place to park their car and little more UNLESS they are in a steady relationship.
And I did NOT say ALL WOMEN. I said women are more likely to frown upon one night stands. MORE LIKELY TO, not altogether.
Don't restate my thoughts.
And if you are going to find ONE example on the planet to be able to come from the "not everybody" angle, please........ | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/3/2007 4:36:01 PM | I do not do one night (or day) stands. I do not go have sex or make love to a) strangers b) enemies. I have been known to do 3 month-stands, etc! The longest stand was a 2.5 year stand!  | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/3/2007 5:32:17 PM | | Not all women hate one nights stands and not all men want them. It's all a matter of personal preference. It's not for me...I need to feel affection as well as attraction, but as long as it's two consenting adults...y'all can do whatever makes you happy. It's not my place to judge or be judged based on someone else's moral indignation or perception of values/morals. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/3/2007 5:59:30 PM | I have to interject and say that I love one night stands, and I also love friends with benifits, as long as neither of us are attached.
I like sex, plain and simple, and I need to tell you that not every male is typical. I have had a few guys that I have been with, become attached when I didnt want that at all. Maybe I'm really a man trapped in a womans body lmao.
I just plain like sex, and I agree with you on everything except the fact that women think sex means love.
Some men have that silly misconception too. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/3/2007 6:54:13 PM | One night stands are not all they are cracked up to be. It takes a little time to know how to really please one another.
One night stands are dangerous. Even with protection, the more you play, the more likely you are to get a disease. The less discriminating you are about your partners, the more likely it is that you will hook up with a strange one that can get you hurt or killed.
I know the young ones with raging hormones won't believe this, but one night stands become kind of like fast food burgers. It will take care of the hunger pains with little real satisfaction.
On the opposite end of the spectrum,one night stands encourage sexual addiction. The more you get, the more quantity and exotic you need.
One night stands are rarely honest. They take place because of revenge, too much booze or dope, or seeking gratification for some other need. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/3/2007 9:51:35 PM | I have no moral or ethical problems with the one-night stand. My only long-term relationship was supposed to be a one-night stand (perhaps not classically, because we knew each other casually for a few months before) that just kept going and going.
After that, when I was lonely and frustrated, I thought it might be ideal. If I'd figured out how to land a few, I might have had a few. It's really not very plausible, though, for someone who doesn't go to bars or clubs. What, am I supposed to pounce on some poor guy on the street?
So, I'm not opposed. It's just not realistic. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/4/2007 10:00:37 AM | some woman would like to have a perm relationship and not fill they are being used,men on the other hand don't really care who they have sex with as long as they get what there looking for | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/4/2007 10:48:26 AM | the militants need to brush up on the evolution of our species. sex is a basic necessity. with the exception of rapists, we want to have ess, eee, exx with every woman we meet. we will seek sex out. if it is offered... yep... we'll take it.
as for one night stands not being acceptible by wmone... ask around and you'll find that women are aware of their sexuality at much younger ages and casual sex is replacing traditional relationships.
i can give the militants kudos for one thing... not letting this "looseness" evolve too quickly... i don't think my johnson could handle all that exposure. | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/4/2007 10:52:56 AM | not something i have experience with, but i couldnt share my body with some random girl and i would find it hard to respect a girl who would share her body with some random guy, once she leaves his place he prob couldnt care less what happens to her, to me that sucks  | |
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| Why women hate the one night stand and men don't
Posted: 4/4/2007 12:19:25 PM |
the militants need to brush up on the evolution of our species. sex is a basic necessity
Food is a necessity, without it we die, water is a necessity, without we die, but I’ve never heard of anyone dying from not having sex…
Now I know what killed Mother Teresa . | |
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