| I need some space???
Posted: 4/1/2007 11:00:37 AM | | This is my second favourite "i don't want to be with you" line that I hear. number one is "It's not you, its me". Third being "I am doing this for me". I really need to write that book about love and Dating in the Modern era | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/1/2007 9:35:35 PM | Wow this is deep!
I need some space , means, they got the hotts for someone else , that 's a very honest person to say that to you and it shows she wanted for the fire to slow down with you, before she gets into something else, so If you just give it some time she would come back to you, if she did'nt care for you she would say nothing at all!
If you don't give a woman what she wants, She will go elsewhere! | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 7:42:40 AM | I get the picture now, This was the second time in 2 yrs she did this to me, First time was "I'm not ready for a relationship".
Ya I'm a sucker for punishment..lol | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 7:52:54 AM | The one time I did this, I had tried to breakup with him previously, and could tell that breaking up was going to be a nightmare....so, I said, " I just need some space." It sounds like a breakup to me...OR she met someone else and wants to see how that is going to go before she cuts you loose completely. I don't mean to hurt you because I am sure this is painful....just giving you my opinion....
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 8:26:03 AM | | Means get back, stay at a distance and either wait or find someone else. In other words, there is no connection but if you hang around they will be happy to use you. I don't stick around with people who need their space, its a cheap cliche for those who want to distance themselves from you. | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 11:51:10 AM | I guess it means different things to different people. To her, it sounds like she wanted out of the relationship and was trying to be nice. She wanted her space for a while! Like maybe permanently. Probably the wrong choice of words for her, but she was probably trying to spare your feelings. Unfortunately it seems like what she said left you with hope when there's really not any for this relationship.
For me, it just means I need to be by myself or with other people sometimes. All my relationships help complete me and make me who I am, and I can't forego those and expect my significant other to meet all my emotional/psychological needs. If I did, I can guarantee you he'd fail.
I guess the bottom line for you is......Find out exactly what she means by "I need some space". She oughta know. If she'll tell ya.....
Oh, and while she's having her own space, use it for yourself. You could probably use some time alone or with others, too. | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 11:59:38 AM | | Like I said she is back with her ex, I'm not waiting around for them to break up again, I'm done with her, and have moved on. Pretty sure I burnt that bridge. | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 12:40:13 PM |
I'm not waiting around for them to break up again
Which you *know* will happen. 
I'm done with her, and have moved on.
Smart move. You don't need someone who can decide to leave on a whim for an ex. Just shows she's not the one for you, if she was, that woudn't have even been an option for her.
Never commit to someone who sees you as the fallback option. | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 1:07:28 PM | To me meaning I need space doesn't necessary mean I want to break up with some one or enter into another relationship.
Like the post above...
Like the I am one of those people that need "space". However, I state that in my profile, and bring it up early. There are times when I might see someone a lot in a small period of time, but it's temporary. For me to exist in a long term relationship of any kind, I need time to myself. It's not something that happens n months into a relationship.
Bob
There are times I just want to be by my self and do my own thing,, Time to be my self.
I just don't like feeling smothered. | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 1:19:46 PM | | Most of the poster's are right, she was on her way out. I think I understood it then and definatly do now. I made some mistakes to make things worse but it would have made no differance, Thanks to all for your input, forgot how helpfull POF can be. | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:32:23 PM | The last one I dated said that to me....... it means...I am seeking others and still looking.....ciao.....  | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:58:14 PM | I trhink she said that she needed some space to get you used to being without her, before she broke up with you. Sorry | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:58:20 PM | It means he wants you to be his 'stand by ' or 'buddy' while he searches for something better. **********************************************************************
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 7:02:51 PM | | 'scuse me, SHE....................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................... | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 7:59:30 PM | I have found from experience and from several female friends, it means they are trying out someone new. They don't want to let you go in case it doesn't work. So, they string you along as long as you are willing to put up with it.
I do think there are legitimate circumstances though. Sometimes things just happen that you need time to think it through. So, I think it depends on what is going on at the time they say I need space.
But, then you don't even know then. My recent relationship and I had a magical weekend on a Friday, Saturday and on Sunday night it was over and then kind of back on and then ..... | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 8:09:17 PM | | Well if or when she comes a knocking....just say oops, Now I need my space! Don't let the door hit you on the way out.....I am sure you are better off without her.....Grab yourself a new pole...and ...Good luck with your fishing. | |
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| I need some space???
Posted: 4/2/2007 10:01:28 PM | | Good luck moving on, livelife70. The others gave great insight, I can only add that you deserve a lot more than playing second string. Sure, I bet that it felt pretty cozy for her to try her wings and take chances, knowing that you were the "safe" option, if her new interest failed. Forget that...you deserve more that that. Value yourself and never accept less than you put into a relationship. Nothing feels as good as being in a great relationship. But NOTHING is a hell of a lot better than being in a bad one. There are millions of singles out there, hon, just remember to never settle! I refuse to! | |
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