| | It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!Page 10 of 17 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17) | Oh yes sean70 is a real sweetheart. Damn those fat ugly people. How dare they try to contact you. Definately going on cam with someone before a meet/first date is a good idea. I know its something i do.At least you get to see them in real life and not them in their best photos only .  | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/29/2007 10:40:42 PM | | Photos can be outdated and they can be actually of someone else entirely. For those of us without webcams I suggest that updating pics often enough to show someone that they all resemble the same person is a good start. Then also sending pics by cellphone or by direct contact online otherwise can help to ensure you are seeing them actually. Also full shots or as much of a figure included helps to relay what to expect there too. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/29/2007 11:03:33 PM | Ah yes, the mad world of Internet dating. If there is no picture you should talk on the phone and get them to describe themselves. Ask very specific questions, but also realize the following: No matter what the description is of someone we can have a tendency to visualize only the fantasy best. Also it is only upon meeting someone do you know if there is any really chemistry although a pic does give you the advantage of knowing if you would be somewhat attracted.
I take awful pics since an not photogenic and love this! I know I will always look better than my pic. I cannot extend this same grace to others as sometimes you wonder if it is even them...I mean there is a slight resemblance to the photo BUT only slight! I have done checks on myself by asking people if I look like my photos or match my decription etc and also give honest feedback to people in a cordial manner.
Another safety is to simple state what you find attractive and that although the risk of sounding harsh, you do not want to waste anyone's time- thiers or especially yours.
In the end there is always a risk component- the deal is to try to mitigate the risk prior to meeting. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/29/2007 11:45:40 PM | No photo means unattractive, married, attached, or recent parolee.
Oh yes and you would know this about ALL of them because? Get real!
just the fact some people are on here is a warning sign in itself.
This is true!!!!!! does make ya wonder sometimes 
Its a proven fact that physical attraction is the first and foremost important part of a relationship
Ummm well I am happy to say that just recently someone just blew a whole in this theory! | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/30/2007 3:04:27 AM | Personally I think that no photos people should be sent to their own little POF world and play together . LOL I have heard all their lines about shallowness, picture is not real blah blah blah . Common sense says right off the bat that if you post a pic[as I do] , why should I deal with those that do not, especially when there are many people that do post a pic . That is my right to want to deal with pictures over no pic . I do not want someone that could be a child or a man . Picture proves that .... I have yet to have someone use a fake pic . I think its a wonderful idea of POF to delete pics that are not headshots . Whats up with that ? Are these picless people for real ? Do they really think we care to see a picture of their dog , their nephew. their city skyline or a mountain range over them ? | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/30/2007 7:46:25 AM | | I have contacted a couple of "no pic's" and have not had any dissapointment. I can see why some would like to start that way, and maybe later send a pic when they have got to know you a little more. I dont ban "no pic's" and some profiles are so well written and funny I would take the risk. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/30/2007 8:04:16 AM | I've tried a few no photo dates. I won't try anymore.I've also had dates after seeing photos that weren't even close...
If someone can't at least send you one ,then maybe they really don't want make the effort in a relationship anyway.
I can understand not posting one,but i can't understand after contact,email or chatting why one can't be sent . | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:55:30 AM | I've had bad experiences with no-photo dates. Had one gentleman tell me that he was in his early 40s and fit. What I got was a man in his late 50s, skinny as a beanpole and shorter than me.
My need to see a photo? I want to make sure I don't go out with someone who is old enough to be my father. I want to make sure I don't go out with someone who is shorter than me. Basically, someone relatively close to my age with a good sense of personal hygiene  | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 10:18:00 AM | i dont have a photo on my profile, but im willing to send a few or give them a link to some, if i think they're worthy of it.
i have to know that they like me for who i am, and not just what i look like. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 5/12/2007 6:05:47 PM | Even photos can be decieving, but only speaking from limited experience.
If a profile takes me then I may respond just to tell sombody it caught my eye !
Even if there is no chance of a reply !
How many pics have you seen that were high school photo type or from some business shot where the person was so posed.
Also POF compresses photos so even if its a good shot it does not always do justice, and some of the thumbnails look distorted until you check them out on a profile.
Hmm now if there was an option so see a larger shot ??? | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 5/13/2007 1:26:37 PM | | I think this place would be a lot better with out pictures. That way everyone would be even. Would the people looking for a hot date leave probably but the real people would shine through. But it would never make any money cause someone would put up a site with pics and all the ladies who think that they deserve superman with a bill gates bank acccount would go there. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 5/13/2007 1:54:17 PM | I really dont get the "no pic" idea either. First of all everyone is attractive to someone? Just as we all have different tastes in clothes, food, music etc. Dating is the same thing. I have dated men who were according to my friends and popular culture drop dead gorgeous and yet have had alot of relationships, including my marriage, to a man who was very average looking. If the way you look is stopping you from posting a pic, that should be a non issue. The other main reason, you are involved or married , then maybe you should be on a swingers chat site? Or am I on the wrong site? lol I thought this was for single people? The bottom line is THERE is NO reason to not have a pic. YOU DID go to all the trouble of choosing a dating site, setting up an account and writing up a profile? Sort of like driving out to the lake, getting out all your fishing gear and then realizing you brought your rod, reel and fishing line ..... BUT you left your HOOK and BAIT at home ...... P.S. You will catch MORE fish that way. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 5/13/2007 2:05:02 PM | | OK..hold the phone..#1) i did have a photo, but wanted to put a new one up, now i can't get one to download...#2) just cause they put a photo up, does not mean it is them or an accurate photo. Keep in mind that if they are unwilling to show you a photo, or if you have doubts...don't do it!! | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 5/13/2007 2:15:11 PM | I have met too many people who do not look like their photos to be so narrow-minded to say that no-photo on a profile or before a date means no interest. I also find the (once again) over-generalizations that some people seem to spew out here to be pretty sad. Women or men with no photos 0n their profile must mean they are ugly, fat, *insert other demeaning terms* :rolleyes". Most people are willing to send a photo by email if there is one not attached to a profile. I completely understand why a lady would not want her photo on the internet, especially when they have a certain occupation or standing in the community that requires some discretion. I just met someone who wrote me here that has no photos on her profile, but her profile interested me and she emailed me photos in our correspondence. She looked fantastic in person when we did meet!! My gain and other peoples' loss that want to judge profiles based on lack of photos.
I have met 2 people in my online dating experiences that I did not see a photo prior to meeting. One said she was 5'1" and muscular and she was over 250 lbs and obese. The other was very...very attractive, but there was no connection or chemistry on any other level. I would have to say the odds have been worse with the women I have met who have had photos posted that truly don't reflect what they look like. That is why I stress the issue of misrepresentation in my profile. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 5/14/2007 5:36:26 AM | | I think you hit the nail on the head there Ranger. Anyone can lie and put up a fake pic. I have found myself very lucky in meeting people online with or without pictures. I haven't met anyone that I was disappointed in. I do know there are good reasons not to put up pics online. I don't think it is fair to judge everyone by the must be hiding something rule. . The fact that some may not understand the reasons others have for not putting up thier pics have never had thier pics downloaded and adjusted. I almost lost my job over what someone thought was humerous over what they did to my pic. And just for those critics there are jobs that have a morals clause and where your reputation does matter. You can't convince people that don't want to believe there are other reasons besides being fat or married so some people learn the hard way. I can honestly say that when I took my pic down I still received mail and still met wonderful people and as far as I can tell no one has been disappointed even if it wasn't a love relationship we have maintained a friendship. What surprises me is the attitude that no pic equals lying automaticaly. If a person is going to be dishonest it doesn't matter how they do it, it is thier nature. They can do it with a pic just as easily. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 6/11/2007 5:57:59 AM | Wow, I have truly been amazed at the shallowness of people on here. To judge people by the way they look. Yes I know chemistry is a must. But I admit to being short fat and ugly. I find looks are much like gift wrapping. It doesent matter what is on the outside, because when you look at their heart and soul, that is all that really matters.
And for those of you who are blessed with Super Model looks my hat is off to you. One thing I want you to consider though is this. Look at your 5 closest friends. What is it about them that have made them your friends? If you say you only became friends with them, because of their looks, Then my prayers go out to you. My friends are picked on the person they are.
I have dated super hunks and super sweet men. When I begin a conversation with someone, it is not based on their looks, their height, or their income. It is based on something they said that caught my attention. I never look at pics before I read what they have to say. Content is much more important in the realm of things. If I enjoyed talking to them in emails, ims, or on the phone then I will be able to enjoy a conversation with them over the phone. Life is a crap shoot, you only win if you are willing to participate.
I know this response will get a lot of negativity. But I would expect nothing less from a shallow person, who only judges the book on the artist (God's) cover | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 6/11/2007 7:59:41 AM | We live in a digital world. We live on a mobile planet. There are TVs in our refridgerators now. There are cameras everywhere, too: in our phones, even the bumpers of our cars so we can watch a monitor when backing up. Cameras are taking the place of traffic cops. It's easier to get your picture taken than it is to catch a cab in most cities.
What am I getting at?
While I am sure there exist some beautiful women out there who haven't posted their pictures because they want someone to get to know them for who they are, most that don't post a picture are just full of it.
It's simple evolution. Men are visual creatures. They want to leave the lights on during sex so they can look down there and watch. They have to constantly struggle with looking a woman in her eyes so that she doesnt catch him looking at her breasts during the date. Find any hot blonde's profile on this site, and she is on 100 more favorite's lists than the women without pictures.
My advice. If a girl (or a guy, for that matter) doesn't provide a picture at some time BEFORE the date, then one is subject to the surprise that you may or may not receive. If you get BS excuses like, "I dont have a webcam, or digital camera, or camera phone, or scanner to scan pictures," then expect the worst. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:11:28 PM | | MSG 240 thats a great analogy lol...even though I do not fish. It does not bother me that people do not post pics thats their right. What bothers me is the overjustification and the spin they put out that we[ones with the pics] are the bad guys and girls for not wanting to deal with them. Just like they have right to post no pic , we have a right to not want to deal with them . Seems fair to me . If some people with pics want to deal with no pic profiles than I say knock yourself out . | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:33:18 PM | I have two great stories about guys with no pics vs guys with a pic.
The guy with no pic told me he looked like Kevin Costner. I went to meet him at a local restaurant and he was this sickly pale, sweaty, balding overweight guy.. He cried when I told him I wasn't going to continue the date with him.
The guy WITH a pic..? Yeah.. his pic was about 10 yrs old and was only a head shot. I didn't get to see the fact that he was myopic, pear shaped, limping and bucktoothed.
Its a crap shoot in here. You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't.. so might as well be damned and hopefully get lucky while you're at it. lol. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:42:53 PM | You are totally correct. Personally I wish that this POF site would REQUIRE a photo - a real photo to continue participation after a week. Bottom line - no photo - no play.
I had a buddy who met (no photo) a woman at a Fort Worth Art Museum for lunch a few years back. She was a full 25 years older than he. But pretended she wasn't.
I have tried to be nice and not require a photo in my profile -- BUT soon changed that. I will be nice - polite for one letter - after that - no photo - take a hike.
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:54:24 PM | It seems as if we are playing the lottery with those who do not have a pic and want us to fall in love with their personality so that looks never come into the equation. Such a fantasy world....although possible.....does not happen too often.
It is just irritating to hear silly excuses. Get your pic and you will probably have a better chance to have a strong relationship when someone who likes your pic initiates first contact. | |
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