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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/18/2007 6:53:26 AM | some of the best excuses I hear from the no pic people or even the ones with pic's that were 10 to 15 years younger then there actual present age is now,
'my friend post my info for me'
or I just can't figure out this pc .....
where is Dr. Phil or Oprah when we need them | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/20/2007 11:38:46 PM | I will say it took me a long time to get a photo up . I finally figured out how my digital camera worked!!!! My experience has been mostly good. One local guy i was involved with turned out to be a barfly who wanted to do nothing else however.He had a photo. The one that did not havwe a photo turned out to be a good experience so you never know. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/21/2007 1:32:21 AM |
I also think that there are a signifcant number of people who do not post a pic because they should not be on here......as in they are married or otherwise "involved" and they don't want someone they know seeing their profile!
The same with people who put "Prefer Not To Say" as their martial status. They might as well just say they are married or otherwise "involved" . | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/21/2007 2:01:28 AM | I have only had two guys give me valid excuses for not posting photos and they emailed them to my personal email: One was a police Officer and the other was a TV personality.....
I am on another dating service that you pay for and THEY match you up (you can't just go window shopping! LOL) So I absolutely will NOT allow any excuses on that site.....
So many people think they will trick you into dating them...
One guy told me he didn't post his photo because he was too damn good looking..."I mean I'm GQ gorgeous, you will not be disappointed!""".....so I wrote back: "I already am!"..... :)
Here's my motto: If you don't have a photo posted, than you only have the right to meet other people with no photo posted...
and for people who are working on getting a photo up, that doesn’t bother me at all...be sure to write me as soon as you actually do.....but don't get pissed off before that... LOL | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/21/2007 7:52:36 AM |
Anyone who knows anything about photography can tell you a lot of people look better in person than they do in photographs. Lighting alone can make a person look awful.
Well I am a photographer for a living and have been most of my life!
What you are saying is only accurate if the photographer is terrible!
Just the opposite SHOULD be true if you are going to someone who is taking your photo as their profession! Or, unless the subject has asked to look as true to life as possible. Which, by the way, is extremely rare.
"Anyone who knows anything" is a very general phrase that is often incorrect for most things!
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/21/2007 8:09:24 AM | this seems to be an emotional issue. I don't post a picture because of my job. I am a professional and a community leader. I also happen to be divorced. But in my small town, it would hurt me if people knew I was looking on the internet. Bad connotation for some.
I gladly send a picture to people I have chatted with. Someone worth having is worth being patient with and understanding of.
Also, I am not sure what someone could do with a picture that is posted for everyone to see. Just because I may be paranoid doesn't mean there are not people out there trying to get me.
People should be free to post a picture or not. And be treated with understanding either way. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/21/2007 8:20:21 AM | Its been my experience that hardly anyone looks like their photos anyway!..So photos mean very little to me anymore. I GAVE UP! (laffs)
I think I am hitting about 10% that actually look like their photos...(not great odds)
I try to make the best of any situation, if we click then great...if not well thats ok too. You just show respect, be yourself, be polite and dont have any expectaions.
After all, Its just a meet and greet.... You dont have to spend the rest of your life with this person if the sparks arent there!!
The same with people who put "Prefer Not To Say" as their martial status. They might as well just say they are married or otherwise "involved"
people who assume....are SOOOOOO amusing!!!!!.....LMAO | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/21/2007 8:30:41 AM | | To me, a pic is more than about looks, it's how they choose to represent themselves. And I feel more reassured that they are being upfront about their single status. That said, I am fully aware that there are genuine people without pics, just as there are liars and cheats WITH pics. However, on balance I still prefer to see a photo actually on the profile. Just my experience. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/21/2007 5:31:44 PM |
The same with people who put "Prefer Not To Say" as their martial status. They might as well just say they are married or otherwise "involved" people who assume....are SOOOOOO amusing!!!!!.....LMAO
Perhaps. However, my personal experience has been that in EVERY case where I found out why a person had a maritial status of Prefer Not To Say, they were attached.
I guess someone could say that their maritial status is Separated and that they do not want to be rejected because of the stigma attached to that on this site. However, if a someone was that close-minded, wouldn't you want them to pass you by? As a side note, the stigma against Separated people on this site puzzles me.
rain, why does is your marital status listed as Prefer Not To Say? | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/21/2007 5:39:41 PM | Even though I've been rejected or the victim of the infamous "no reply after you send a photo" many times, I still send a current photo. I've met people with no photos, way back when, and some were attractive, some weren't. Some were my type, some weren't. I could tell you my worst horror story, but I won't, as I met the guy through an online dating site, and he may be on here, who knows?
I'm honest about my looks, my weight, my everything. It hasn't gotten me anywhere. Actually, I've had more luck with Craigslist than here. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/22/2007 10:32:09 AM | You aren't "stupid", but I hope you learned a lesson.
Personally, my rule is - no photo, no nothing, not even corresponding. If it's not already posted you better be prepared to provide one (preferably more) with your next email and it should be recent enough to look like you actually look NOW. I keep mine recent - I expect the same.
What's inside DOES matter, but if there is no physical attraction then you are wasting both parties' time. I wasn't born blind, have not lost my vision since - so I want to see who I'm talking to.
Those people, men AND women, who lead someone to believe they look differently than they do NOW deserve to feel like idiots when they show up and their date suddenly has a reason to leave asap. They should have been up front from the start. Who wants to date someone that isn't up front with him or her? Especially when its about something so basic? | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/22/2007 11:05:44 AM | Word of caution for all those who may be lulled into a sense of security cos’ someone has posted a pic up against their profile. A mate of mine is also a member of this site and after exchanging several mail, raving about how his luck had finally changed, he arranged to meet her. He was accosted in a coffee bar by a woman considerably older, heavier, and not graced with good looks. When he tactfully mentioned she didn’t bear much resemblance to her pic (Bless him he’s the tactful kind) she explained she’d posted her sister’s pic ‘cos no guy in his right mind would date her! Ops … hasty exit!
The moral of this story …. You’re eyes may not deceive you but the morals of others may! | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/23/2007 6:16:18 PM |
Word of caution for all those who may be lulled into a sense of security cos’ someone has posted a pic up against their profile.
On another dating site, someone I know put up a pic of someone else. Someone considerably younger and who weighed about 200 pounds less than she did. Since people are aware of the "one photo only" trick, she downloaded something like 120 photos of this other person...and sent them to prospective lovers as being pics of herself.
You can guess what happened when she finally met a guy in person....he ran the other way. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/23/2007 7:30:03 PM | well my bad for not listening to that gut feelign.. trust me all thats what its there for its a true warning. i had corresponded for about 2 years with this women i met on another site while i was in college taking my counselling course(no laghing ok yes i should have been counselling her instead of actually thinking of a relationship)
anyways once i graduated i sold everything i owned and travelled across Canada for the summer. on my travels i went to meet her finally for the first time(talked online and the phone for 2 years) to make a lonnnnnggggggg story short i finally got there, NS.
She had no intentions in the 2 years of talking in ever meeting me, what kind of warpped game she had going i have no idea but she was nothing of what she said or pics she sent. Needless to say the woman i had fallen for over 2 years of talking was not the person i met.. so yes it happens to us all | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/24/2007 2:29:23 AM |
One guy told me he didn't post his photo because he was too damn good looking..."I mean I'm GQ gorgeous, you will not be disappointed!""".....so I wrote back: "I already am!"..... :) wow that hurt when you mailed it and hurts even more on the forums ;)
Here's my motto: If you don't have a photo posted, than you only have the right to meet other people with no photo posted... I met someone with no photo and it turned out ok. Our geography was bad from the get go and that's a different story.
people who assume....are SOOOOOO amusing!!!!!.....LMAO Normally I would agree but what exactly is the point of prefer not to say in marital status? I assume they're probably separated but they lose points on every category that has prefer not to say. Plus I assume it's likely the answer I least prefer to see in that category. So you lose out on the people who might like that facet of you as well as those that don't. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/24/2007 3:29:40 PM |
Normally I would agree but what exactly is the point of prefer not to say in marital status? I assume they're probably separated but they lose points on every category that has prefer not to say. Plus I assume it's likely the answer I least prefer to see in that category. So you lose out on the people who might like that facet of you as well as those that don't.
I notice that ~rain~ still has not explained why her marital status is Prefer Not To Say.
In my experience a marital status of Prefer Not To Say = attached. I have never see it otherwise, nor can I think of another reason someone would use that category, especially on a dating site. They might as well say "wanting to cheat". | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 7/24/2007 3:40:55 PM | When you look in a mirror what do you see?
This existence of ours is as transient as autumn clouds.
To watch the birth and death of beings is like looking at the move-
ments of a dance.
A lifetime is like a flash of lightning in the sky,
rushing by, like a torrent down a steep mountain.
Peace be with you always. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 10/20/2007 1:57:58 PM | I won't take any profile without a picture seriously. If they have one on hand to send... why isn't it already on here? That'd certainly save a lot of time/explaining/grief. Sorry, it means you have something to hide, for what reason.. it varies.. but always something.
As for those who do have photos, there are a ton of them with "myspace angles". This basically means a stupidly high angle/whatever picture. I don't have one that shows my entire body, and if that's all the girl is interested in(good or bad), screw them... but at least show your face in a way that's not completely misleading. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 11/29/2007 4:33:44 PM | you said>>>>'the old adage for people with excuses is still the same now as it was years ago,
'excuses are like a#$h%$es, everybody has one'
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well I didn't have a photo for sometime I really had lost the disc for my camera and couldn't put it on my computer. Anyway a guy did take a chance on meeting me w/o a photo---I could see the absolute and total relief on his face as he walked toward me. LOL
I too had a meeting with a guy with no photo early in the year---OH MY--- | |
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