| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/13/2008 8:46:31 AM | I love it when guys or girls put up photos of them from far away or certain angles that don't show how big they are, or the HUGE gap in their teeth, etc.
I put up photos because I am proud to be me and I have nothing to hide LOL I put up photos both with and without make up so everyone can see the real me and the painting the town red me... LOL
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/13/2008 8:52:01 AM | For Msg 350:
I once had a woman write to me saying she didn't have a pic up due to being some sort of celebrity in her home town. I think she might have been a new's anchor. That makes sense. I suppose I could have asked for a pic. Anyway, it never went anyplace.
I haven't read your profile. In fact, I seldom read profiles or even the posts in a thread. If I did, I'd lose my first impressions or feelings about a thread. Anyway, my point is this - have you told the readers, those hot hungery men lusting after you, why you don't have a pic up?
And also, it isn't just your business but everyone's who reads your profile. You have information about yourself posted out on a public network. Men have good reasons to wonder why you don't have a pic up.
From my experiences on the net, I have found profiles without pics are people who don't have honest motives to be on a dating site. That is they are hiding something or aren't legitimate candidates for relationships.
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/13/2008 9:10:56 AM | | I met one guy who didn't have a photo. ONE. He bragged himself all up, then shows up a mess, and nearly bald with one tuff of curly hair about 3 inched long up front, and glasses, BIG GLASSES. Was all i could do not to tell him i loved his hair, then roll on the floor laughing. Didn't see him again. LOL | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/13/2008 12:57:33 PM | See that is my point..you understood why that woman didn't have a pic up but not others. I wasn't trying to start an argument, I was just stating that for whatever reason people don't have pics up, if you (well not you but in general) have a problem with it, don't respond to or contact the person.
And in answer to your question, if someone emailed me and asked why I didn't have one up I would be honest with them and if they requested one I would send one. Simple because I have nothing to hide.
See thats the issue, this may be a public network, but we all have choices, read or not read, picture or no picture. If this were a site that stated, you must have a picture to join then that is different.
You can't judge all people by your experiences, not all people are hiding something or aren't legitimate candidates for relationships.
And since you haven't read my profile...I am a lawyer, a criminal lawyer. I may not be a New's anchor but I am also entitled to my privacy and am in the public eye in court!But as my previous thread stated I made the decision not to have my picture on my profile due to unwanted emails. I think I am entitled to that choice, in my personal life or in my job.
Again I wasn't trying to start an argument, I was just trying to make a point. Everyone has choices on dating sites and if no picture posted means you won't read their emails then that is your personal choice. All people on dating sites shouldn't be tarred with the same (something to hide) brush.
I am more than willing to show anyone that asks my picture, but I am not posting it. And at this point not looking to meet anyone so it shouldn't be an issue. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/13/2008 1:15:15 PM | | No I don't have a pic & if that is a problem to the vanity of you're internet eyes, so be it! I don't trust peoples pictures. They could be old ones, not photograph well/more attractive in person or of someone else. Disappointments are because of expectations not being met. If you have no expectations going in, you come out clean & unharmed. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/13/2008 1:41:46 PM | Nah...the risks outweigh the rewards.
I used to believe in taking a chance on people who didn't have a photo. Sure, it's true that they can be attractive (to me at least) but the odds are that they won't be. I don't expect the majority of women to find me attractive so I wouldn't particularly like to have that fact presented to me at a first meeting. As such, I don't want to have to be the bad guy and have to explain as gently as possible that I'm not attracted to somebody even though we've been talking for a while. That's not fair to me and if the situation were reversed it wouldn't be fair to them.
So no, the rule is have a photo or there's no conversation to start. I'm not here looking for a new best buddy after all. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/13/2008 4:41:06 PM | I actually meet women without pics all the time. Of course, I do so ONLY in Romania, where the average woman looks like Catherine Zeta-Jones (before she chunked out).
Blind dates on POF are crazy.
One woman who I met who gets a lot of guys on the internet for IE swears by webcams. She claims even photos are too unreliable, and wont meet a guy until she sees him on cam. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/13/2008 6:21:12 PM | | I also won't respond to someone who doesn't have pics. I mean I have a few, and they are recent. If I can post them, they should also. I was burned a few times by women not being honest, so I know where the OP is coming from. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/13/2008 9:19:12 PM | A photo does not equal honesty. There are horror stories on both sides of this fence. There is no way around it.
We each have to live with the results of our choices. Those who choose not to post a picture are not harming anyone.
The pond might be a happier place if we all respected each others choices whether we agree with them or not. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/14/2008 3:53:48 AM | | ^Well sure, nobody is getting hurt. That's basically the point mind you. Their choice not to post a photo ; our choice not to contact or respond to them. Mutual respect at work for everybody. I have no problem with people who don't want to post a photo. Really, it's no big deal. I just have no interest in talking to them. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/5/2008 8:48:42 PM | You aren't stupid - you are quite charming to meet a woman and you haven't even seen her picture. Clearly you are just as interested in her comptability as her cup size - that doesn't happen every day. Cool. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 12:19:34 AM | I have seen on so many men's profiles, "NO PICTURE, NO RESPONSE"
I understand why. I met one that had a picture . He had to have been 5-7 years younger and 40 pounds lighter in the picture.We all want HONESTY. Everyone wants that first look at someone to be exciting | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 12:33:16 AM | | I really don't see that a picture is that big a deal. I haven't found that the photos are that reliable and if I meet someone and the attraction isn't there, it's not that big a deal. People have different ideas of ``attractive,'' so I wouldn't take it personally and I can manage to have a pleasant conversation with someone who doesn't appeal to me sexually, so I really don't care too much about seeing a picture. I don't feel compelled to see someone a second time if I'm not attracted to her, nor am I going to sleep with someone to whom I'm not attracted, so who cares? It's nice to have an idea of what someone looks like, but again, I'm not sure I'd rely on a photo for too much. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 5:39:30 AM | Met someone once. Had a nice picture up, attractive.
She walked into the bar where we were meeting and I had no idea who the heck it was.
Looked 10 years older, much heavier.
Frankly,
I'd have rathered she had no picture. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 10:14:23 AM | i've had those kind of experiences as well but i dont let a profile with no picture discourage me
i met my husband on here and i was the one that contacted him, his profile was very vague and there was no picture, but i figured since alot has been unswered that would leave me lots of questions to ask him and in the process make getting to know him alot easier
well after a couple of emails i asked for his picture and he gave me the link to his myspace , this was two years ago
today just so happens to be our 1st wedding anniversary :)
anyways op i agree " no picture no date" , if you feel like taking risks, go for it
just go on the blind date with the perception that the person is very unattractive so there are no dissapointments | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 12:40:17 PM | I believe if you have the technology of a computer to sign up for this dating site.....and i'm betting money that 99.9% of the people on this site have a cell phone or a digital camera then there is no excuse whatsoever not to have a pic up unless you have something to hide......you should have enough confidence in your self regardless of what you look like or what size you are to be proud and believe the right person will come along and be your match...... | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 12:46:15 PM | | I can understanding wanting to see a picture that so you can have a general idea of what the other person looks like. But you can't always tell how attractive a person is from their photos. Bad experiences can happen when a person has a picture as well. The pictures could be old, deceptive, or even fake. On other side of the equation, some people aren't that photogenic and can look better in person. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 1:05:41 PM | I would not consider meeting anyone sight unseen ( sans pics) anymore than I would close my eyes and "point aimlessly" on the menu at a restaurant to select my meal... odds are you're not going to like what you end up getting!!
In this digital age there is really no excuse not to have a pic up,... a pic-less profile gives the impression that you're hiding something( like a wife), even worse when people post pics of their dog, sunsets, clouds - anything but themselves..
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