| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 1:30:19 PM |
I believe if you have the technology of a computer to sign up for this dating site.....and i'm betting money that 99.9% of the people on this site have a cell phone or a digital camera then there is no excuse whatsoever not to have a pic up unless you have something to hide......
FANTASTIC! You are exactly the person I've needed to talk to. My computer is a Silicon Graphics Octane2, not a peecee running windows. Since you seem to know where I can obtain the software needed to upload a picture, just give me a link or some sort of reference that tells me the software exists and where I can obtain it. I'm willing to compile it myself if it compiles under gcc without me having to modify too much of the source code, so an executable won't be required. I'm also willing to make my own adapter cables, if necessary, so you need not tell me where to find those. As soon as I get that information from you, I'll borrow a digital camera and upload a picture! Thanks! I appreciate the good news! | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 1:33:34 PM | FANTASTIC! You are exactly the person I've needed to talk to. My computer is a Silicon Graphics Octane2, not a peecee running windows. Since you seem to know where I can obtain the software needed to upload a picture, just give me a link or some sort of reference that tells me the software exists and where I can obtain it. I'm willing to compile it myself if it compiles under gcc without me having to modify too much of the source code, so an executable won't be required. I'm also willing to make my own adapter cables, if necessary, so you need not tell me where to find those. As soon as I get that information from you, I'll borrow a digital camera and upload a picture! Thanks! I appreciate the good news!
Obviously I hit a nerve...... and you are quite welcome! | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 1:42:40 PM | Obviously I hit a nerve...... and you are quite welcome!
No link to software? So far, I've had to be original and create the means for a pressure free meeting and pony up the cash to meet wherever someone wanted to meet. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 2:06:07 PM | | No USB ports? No CD-ROM drive? Not that hard to copy a file onto your computer and upload to POF is it? You don't need to be able to open it on your computer. Allthough I'm sure your machine could handle a jpg or jpeg file with some piece of software. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 2:42:46 PM |
you can't always tell how attractive a person is from their photos. Bad experiences can happen when a person has a picture as well. The pictures could be old, deceptive, or even fake. On other side of the equation, some people aren't that photogenic and can look better in person. o
My very first online meeting ever had a photo posted. His hair was brown, and he had hair. Also said he was 5'10" tall and athletic build. When I met him I didn't even know who he was. His brown hair fell out and turned gray. He was stoop shouldered with a middle age spread. I am 5'6" tall and figured I could get away with wearing heels because of his height. I towered over him. Surprise surprise he lied.
My last online date the guy had a photo posted. He was average looking but I figured he seemed nice I would give him the benefit of the doubt. When I first saw him my immediate reaction was he was much better looking in person. He had beautiful eyes and a nice smile neither of which his photo revealed. Our lunch at 12:30 carried over to coffee and then dinner. Nine plus hours later our "meeting" ended.
A photo could work both ways. Those people who post out dated photos will most likely get no where with their date. The deceit will be apparent from the moment you lay eyes on them. Better to post an average photo than no photo. No photo to me makes me think they are hiding a wife, or girlfriend and don't want to get caught.
Lots of men have private photos, but even with them it makes me wonder if they are keeping their photo hidden from their significant other the same way the man with no photo is hiding. Its nice to see a hidden photo before meeting, however, it does not remove the thought that they may already be involved. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 4:30:25 PM | ^^^^^^^^
Gee you're really fussy! I don't have 15-20 pics to show anyone..............LOL
Back on topic OP you are definitely not alone. I chatted with a charming man for about 3 weeks before the big meet up and was convinced in my foolish mind that he was going to be perfect for me. I was wrong.
Even though I absolutely hate having my photo taken, I understand the need to have one on your profile. I don't like talking to faceless profiles.
I agree with the posters who say that it isn't just about not putting up a picture. It feels like the other person is hiding something and that is the problem. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 1/28/2009 8:40:04 PM |
No USB ports? No CD-ROM drive? Not that hard to copy a file onto your computer and upload to POF is it? You don't need to be able to open it on your computer. Allthough I'm sure your machine could handle a jpg or jpeg file with some piece of software.
Apparently, you don't understand the problem. I have plent of image editing and image manipulation software. Viewing and editing images and even movies is not a problem. Even if I had USB ports, you can't just plug the camera in an transfer the photos without software that handles copies it from the camera to the computer. It's not a peecee and it's not a MAC. The USB ports are a minor issue. Go to www.sgi.com and maybe that will clarify the difference between a peecee and what I'm using. So, when someone understands the question and can tell me where to get the software, I'll upload a photo. I'm not going to write my own software. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/8/2009 9:33:08 PM | OP, I agree with you. The purpose of POF for many people is to find a compatible mate. A nice picture of yourself is as important to many people as the witty stuff you like to say about yourself.
It's all about self promotion to attract a mate. A picture often helps, especially with guys. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/9/2009 12:41:25 AM | | So don't talk to the people who do not post photos. I send a photo if a man interests me, and as long as POF does not require a photo, some will not post one. Some people sound as if they need to join a site that requires a photo. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/9/2009 5:33:32 AM |
Apparently, you don't understand the problem. I have plent of image editing and image manipulation software. Viewing and editing images and even movies is not a problem. Even if I had USB ports, you can't just plug the camera in an transfer the photos without software that handles copies it from the camera to the computer. It's not a peecee and it's not a MAC. The USB ports are a minor issue. Go to www.sgi.com and maybe that will clarify the difference between a peecee and what I'm using. So, when someone understands the question and can tell me where to get the software, I'll upload a photo. I'm not going to write my own software.
ImageVision. You can view any image and save it making you able to upload it (like to POF). There are also plenty of free online services. If you get the photo put on a cd at any place that does that (walmart, cvs, walgreens, etc.) the cd will come with its own software for editing and sharing. I am sure you have at least one friend who would let you use their computer if you still don't understand how to upload a photo. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 2/9/2009 9:13:59 AM | Because they have a photo does not mean it is what they look like when showing others. I met a man this last year, and i asked him when the picture was taken of him ?
He replied with "It's 3 months old."
I didn't let it concern me much, and i met him, and lo and behold it was not even close to three months old, more like a few years old or longer.
He had to have been about 150 pounds over what his picture showed, and then to top things off he told me straight away that there were other things he lied about.
That was a huge turn off. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 3/12/2009 7:56:50 AM | | I look at profiles before I read their email. When I see that they have asked that you must have a photo to contact user and they don't have on their profile I just delete it. They say honesty is most important!!! It maybe, but double standards is just as wrong!!!!!! | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 3/20/2009 10:41:50 PM |
Well people I now have to put my hand up as being one of those people who has been silly enough to meet up for a date with someone from here who didn't have a picture - and boy was that a bad idea
Any one with no photo of one kind or another always makes me wonder if they are shy, a wanted criminal, or just intensely unattractive??? . | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 3/21/2009 8:20:01 AM | I dont have a pic up cuzz I'm butt ugly and I dont wanna date any of you jerks anyways Hey atleast I'm honest and not dilusional. Or maybe I am dilusional and I'm actually beautiful But nobody will never know will they? | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 3/21/2009 2:55:32 PM | I don't have a pic, and WOW! The amount of drama it creates in my mail, is beyond me.
I have had unsolicited notes from men who want to analyze, call me ugly, or even tell me that my profile is just wrong. If I write a guy and he doesn't want to talk to me because I have no pic, then why write me back at all?
It confirms my belief that a photo is for nothing more than deciding who is worthy of the time of another, based on their face. Which, is still pretty funny because some of you have nice looking pics up and are still single after a few years on this site.
Up until a few weeks ago, I dated 2-3 times a week. I purposely took a break, because it just wasn't something that was fun any longer. The drama, men who wanted to get laid first date(hell, ever after the 3rd) and all that crap was just boring the tears out of me.
So, if you don't want to talk to me because I have no photo, then don't. But cripes, don't send notes calling me ugly just because I don't put my face out there. Did it even cross your mind that my line of work may make me a litle more hesitant than that of someone else who isn't in a higher profile position?
Of course not. Based on some of the interactions I have had on here, I would say to think such things might require thought beyond something that is much more dramatic. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 3/21/2009 3:49:57 PM |
beware the 'nothing but a head shot' or 'over head clevage angle' myself and some friends have had a couple incidents in that regard...
Been caught out by that one a couple of times.
Also, the old 'prefer not to say' is code for 'the size of a house!'.
I have taken the chance and had a 'blind coffee' with 3 ladies who contacted me and they were all attractive and great company. The one's I did had trouble with are the ladies who sent head-shots or outdated photos and misrepresented themselves.
I take the trouble to watch what I eat and exercise regularly and I want a lady I'd be proud to be seen with, who makes an effort too. Of course I'm not God's-gift to women, but I do have a problem with dating an overweight woman. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 3/21/2009 4:46:24 PM | Even with a picture...it’s not going to be completely accurate...to portray actual height, how many wrinkles are really visible with no make up and outdoor lighting, how many silver strands are there really among what the actual hair color used to be....good grief, the list goes on. Someone’s average is someone else’s hefty and as far as being athletic...I’ve never been paid millions of dollars playing a profession sport. What does athletic mean to someone else? Besides the camera adds at least 10 pounds...so even with a picture...just how truthful can we be?
I keep thinking of the “old fashioned” personals...in what seems to be old fashioned newspapers (so many seem to be going under and becoming a thing of the past) and how all we had to go by was what a person “said” with very few words and no picture at all.
Picture...no picture...truth...lack of details...does it even matter? It’s pretty much just going to be fate or luck of the draw on being compatible...   | |
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