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Anyway, I guess the golden rule is NEVER go out on a blind date, unless you are quite willing to be disappointed (not a good idea when you drive 220km to get there ! LOL)
220km in England? What'd you do, circle the island 3 or 4 times? | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 10:03:26 AM | Hi Wazza
It does happen a lot to both sexes, and it is really infuriating when it does, because you have to say sorry I cant do this, you are not what I expected which is rude, or simply have a quick drink and make a quick exit. And No you are not stupid - the stupid ones are the ones who wont take no for an answer and continue to stalk you and send abusive emails and texts .
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 12:46:23 PM | Current or prospective employers could see pic and then track your forums and find they totally disagree with your views.
They COULD also have the Gestapo tail you. Of the CIA. Or the FBI.
Privacy is a weak excuse. If you want total privacy, don't be on here. Stay in your home 24/7. Maybe dig a bunker under your home and live there.
Misanthropy is NOT privacy and vice versa. If you are afraid of your picture (or your shadow) revealing something about a dark corner of your life, you probably shouln't have done whatever it is you are concerned about . If you have nothing to hide, get a photo up so peopel you contact can have SOME sense of a safety zone.
Sorry. With 2007 technology, "I don't have one" doesn't fly.
I'd be more worried about The Patriot Act than POF. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 3:13:10 PM | nashvillle bill tell me please what happened with myspace...i had two friends recently invite me on there so i did, but if something wierds gonna happen please clue me in...it seems like a static website anyway
as for the pix...i didn't have one of myself up for the first month because my bighead is on tv and newspapers in advertising i run...then i finally said oh what the hell after a couple of female friends told me to get with it...
so now the shoe's on the other foot...lol...every day i get emails from woman who, according to their friends can always pass for 10 or 20 years younger than what they are. Right. Maybe their friends smoke better stuff then she does, or maybe they're very kindly people, but usually it's like pulling teeth to get the pic...i think it's like a bit of a trap play...you get chatted up by these dimwits, so when the pic finally comes they can tell you that you're just superficial...lol...Hello. Man talk about the women getting irked about guys not reading profiles. I don't know how much more specific they want me to get on mine for what I'm looking for...maybe measurements...maybe i should put down the measuremen range that we're looking for. Read the profile. Like why bother...i just never figure this out..
...so anyway...like the other guy said, shots from the waist up while sitting at the good ole' computer can be very deceptive...as in like when she sits around the house, she really sits around the house
but i do like the senior chap from Kingston's attitude and i hope I've mellowed and matured by the time i, hopefully make it to his age...
...all in all, yes, i treat the nonpics emails with sometimes humour, but usually mistrust, and no more than two conversations and then they're deleted into cyberspace...sorry...just me | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 4:50:45 PM | Don't forget all the men who don't have pictures and how they avoid you when you ask them for a picture and all the excuses and reasons. I'm surprised by the fact that I always seem to be the only one ever to ask for a picture since they never seem to have one handy. I was recently avoided on this subject, and was told that it wasn't about honesty but about timing......is there a time limit when to expect a picture, even after asking 3 times???
And then there's the men using pictures that were taken 10+ years ago and try to assure you that they still look the same, lack of teeth, their near bald heads, huge pot bellies, even though they say they're athletic. And yet these are the same guys who expect women to look like underwear models in order for them to even consider dating, I've read enough profiles here and on other sites to know how true that it. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:11:18 PM | Ive been there as well.
Even with pics You find they are about 10 years old.
I keep my pics updated for this very reason.
Im me so at least people can decide if they want to get to know me or not.
The excuses ive heard ggezzzz lol | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:16:34 PM | | posting a photo could get you into trouble at your employment & reading my opinions in the forums? ----- yeah like my company has the time or desire to track my internet use. what i do on my off time is none of their business.(unless its illegal and then its still really none of their business-- my state has the employment at will law in effect --meaning they can let me go at any time for whatever reason and/ or i can quit at any time for whatever reason)internet tracking is more the u.s. govt.'s job and i doubt very seriously they are checking out pof unless someone is on here making suspicious comments or threats to national security. please. conspiracies and stalkers are running amok on pof. get real | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:31:25 PM | | ive met a few people on here, most were not as good looking as their picture let me thing they were. however one person was far more attractive then he allowed me to believe. i think its just luck really. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:33:42 PM | Well..... I did it ONCE..against my better judgment..and lived to say that I will NEVER do it again..I don't care what EXCUSE the guy tells me as to why he does not have a pic..meeting someone without a pic, in my opinion, just sets yourself up to be surprised..and I'm afraid that stats will lean towards the being surprised UNFAVORABLY..
The short version of my date with the guy who was not able to show me, send me a pic of himself...made me more agitated, by the fact that he was telling me that it was all about what was on the inside of a person, not the outside..and yet, asked me to wear a skirt for the date..and when I questioned him about that..(and I was giving him the benefit of the doubt, because some guys prefer their women not to wear pants/slacks/jeans)..he proceeds to tell me..so he can check out my legs...WHAT???..and yep.. I still go to meet him for the date..must have been a glutton for punishment, because he turns out to be a 6 ft 6 guy, about 450 lbs, wearing sweats with holes in them, and a t-shirt that would not even begin to cover his belly..YUCK!!
SO.......I make no apologies from here on out that I MUST see a pic, a view on a cam..something what will help me to know that there is an attraction PUHLESE!! | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:39:19 PM | | you should really see a picture of someone before you meet and preferably many pictures. i usually like to go on webcam a few times before i actually meet someone. if you do all these things then you will at least get a very good idea of how they look . of course you can never really know exactly until you meet them in person but pictures and going on cam is always a must . i have met a few people without seeing a picture and honestly only one time has someone totally lied about their looks. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:46:31 PM | The predominant reason for not having a photo up is that you are not attractive at all and the photo will prevent you from getting even that first meeting.
hahahahahahahahaha!
I think the joke's on you.....
What on earth kind of reasoning is that?
Obviously everyone should swap photos before meeting....but that does not mean they need to be in the public domain on our profile. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:51:46 PM | No blind dates!!! Been there done that.... Must have a picture and a pictures with dates are even better. Let's face it, I can talk to anybody about anything, but this is a dating site!!! It's all about chemistry, chemistry, chemistry. I am not here to find a friend, I am here to find a "best friend, partner and lover"..... Just one!
Good luck to all the POF people and peeps.... | |
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bolond
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:02:52 PM | Get them to scan birth certificates, passports and driver's licences so you can verify their date of birth and residence and why not...marital status as well. No pic...no date???? Try No pic...no reply. What, like I'm not going to find out what you look like eventually? It should be a rule, No pic...No profile.
And you should be allowed to e-mail anyone regardless of age. I've wanted to e-mail people just to let them know what a great profile they have and the system won't allow it because to e-mail them you have to live across the street..literally. Some people will allow you in if you can read between the lines, but quite honestly, I still understand the big deal about not posting a pic. Who really gives a $hit if you think I'm ugly or fat. And don't give me that "its whats on the inside that counts" cause I'll tell whats on the inside. More ugly and more fat.
Visit the forums and participate in the conversations and you'll have a much better idea what a person is all about. thas what I do and yes, there have been a few people who's overall mental state has impressed me enough to go and see their profiles. And I've even gone so far as to tell them I like what I see. That doesn't mean I'll date them or that they would be interested in dating me (distance can be such a beach). It just means I think they are great individuals. I was so nice to one lady, I could have sworn she was going to get a restraining order out on me, but she didn't because she understood That I was just a fan of her thought processes. (I was going to offer to pick up the road kill on the drive down...inside joke)
And I thought I would never ramble!!!!!
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:16:22 PM | | OK.....I was just IM'd and it was no surprise that this guy had no pic in his profile, and it was in his profile that "One must not be looking for a photo exchange". When I pointed this out to him, he said he could send me one. I asked him why he didn't have one on his profile yet he was quick to offer to send me one...his response was "no reason". So I felt "no reason" to continue the conversation. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:29:38 PM | I used to have a photo up but have since taken it down. 
I did this because my work asked us to minimize our Internet presence. I still have photos to share if I start to communicate with someone, but I have noticed that there is a lot more bias towards me because of my lack of picture.
Clearly, dating was just *too* easy and life decided I needed another obstacle or two...  | |
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bolond
| | Joined: 2/19/2007
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:55:19 PM |
Get them to scan birth certificates, passports and driver's licences so you can verify their date of birth and residence and why not...marital status as well.
And how about that checkbox that you've undergone a cavity search? Should be on every profile. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:59:59 PM | chiwrtr72: I used to have a photo up but have since taken it down.
I did this because my work asked us to minimize our Internet presence.
First of all you're supposed to be working while at work, not checking out dating sites. Guess that also means you're not allowed to get the computer at home. I'm also amazed at the number of people who have no pics to post will say so while they're at work but they may have one on their other computer.....and that's usually when you hear the last of them or they keep forgetting to send it. Just the usual typical "because of my job I have no pic" excuse. | |
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| It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !!
Posted: 4/1/2007 7:11:09 PM | In all fairness, it can be more then just "they shouldn't be here".
The person's career, they might be in the "public eye" and/or be high profile and well known.
I've had four situtions where the the gal out and out lied, used someone else's photo (one female used her daughter's photo) and a couple where the photo had been really touched-up. There were others, but nothing to write home about, no big deal. I took the attitude it's just the negative side of this type of meeting.
It amazes me these folks don't think about what's going to happen when they finally meet someone face to face.
Flame Suite ON
In 3 of those cases, the gals had a photo of just their head and obviously "adjusted" the body type of their profile. After the last one, I began assuming no photo or "head only shots" should be avoided, (then I stopped dating for awhile, I just got back on).
I also got a couple of "The he** with you, you're looking for a Barbie type" comments. Even though that's just a knee-jerk reaction to rejection, I felt they should have been more honest in their profile in the first place. None of us are perfect, but these type of cover-ups will haunt us.
We all have different likes, dislikes, things that attract us and things that turn us off.
Get used to it and deal with it. STOP blaming someone else because they aren't attracted to you.
To those that state "Get to know the person, it's what's inside that counts..." Sorry, how can someone be expected to get to know someone that's already lied and been deceitful?
Flame Suit OFF
EDIT> To: NY lady. I did met a gal that actually was in the public eye, she's a judge.
She was the only gal that I felt had a good reason for not posting a photo. After a couple of weeks of emailing and phone calls, she sent me a photo, I recognized her right away.
Good Luck to All,
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Posted: 4/1/2007 7:20:22 PM | Just the usual typical "because of my job I have no pic" excuse
Nope. Some people have politically sensitive careers. It's that simple.
You may not be surfing during working hours, but your employer might prefer you not be on a "dating website", but obviously they cannot control what you do with your personal life.
It's a question of discretion.
(crap - I've let myself be drawn into this "no pic" thing again. grrrr.) | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 7:30:01 PM | Wow! Sorry for this incident.. I wish I could write like her!! and Yes
there is no excuse these days to not to have a picture to post and I am not a ditigal
camera owner and you don't need to be anyway. Honesty to oneself and each other is a getting hard to find. | |
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