| Giving Your Number Out
Posted: 4/2/2007 10:14:21 PM | | Have any of you ever considered calling from the computer instead of the phone? Like through yahoo, skype, etc? That way, you get to talk and hear the voice without having to give out any phone numbers or addresses. | |
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| Giving Your Number Out
Posted: 4/2/2007 11:54:31 PM | If a woman I just met is flirting with me, and giving me what I usually call 'buying signals', then I ask her for her home phone number. One of two things will happen. She will give me her home phone number WITHOUT reservations or she will decline or say something along the lines of "why do you want my home number?". If this occurs, then you know you are out.
Of course, one has to realize I am looking at this from the guy's point of view. The fact is if a woman has a high interest in a guy (gosh, he's kinda cute), then she will give you the number. If she gives you anything other than the number then she has low interest in you. Don't mistake her for someone who cares. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 12:18:17 AM | Sigh, ok for the misinformed, cell phones are infact trace-able, even the pre-paid ones. You only have to pay for the information.
I do wonder how you set up dates without talking about potential plans though, and would doubt that after 3 meetings you know anyone well enough to trust them anymore that a stranger (I lived with someone for 7 years and still wonder how well I knew her). Remember it is a safe bet the creep Picton met atleast a few of the hookers he murderred more than 3 times prior to his crimes.
If meeting someone you don't know try more common sense and less paranoia please. You will be both safer and more able to relax and enjoy a good time. Early meets with people you don't know bring a friend and double and you can still manage a bit of time for more private discussion, and it doesn't hurt to tell someone that you DO trust who, where, and when. Who you are meeting, where you expect to be, when you expect to be back. And check in with that trusted friend either when you do get back in or if you decide to extend it.
:-S ok the "dad-gene" just kicked in didn't it? | |
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| Giving Your Number Out
Posted: 4/3/2007 1:47:29 AM | Sure, I give my # out...one guy showed up stalking me and he got SCRATCHED!!! No problems since then be wary of claws | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 6:32:12 AM | | Actually I feel more comfortable calling them, this way I can block my no. and like one guy told me, if they give out their no. instead of asking for yours than we know if they have a wife or girlfriend and are hiding something.. | |
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| Giving Your Number Out
Posted: 4/3/2007 7:03:37 AM | I have my cell phone number on my msn....so anyone who talks to me on there can see it....But, cells are not traceable and I found away to block people from my cell provider's site. Mind you to this day have not had to use that feature. People are pretty good about asking if it is ok to call first. I bet you 98% of em.
So my answer is...whenever you are ready is the perfect time! I never give out my House number till I have met and liked a person first....have to be careful these days. But, really think back to school days (how I miss them) You gave everyone your number. (relationship have to start somewhere)
3 Dates seems a bit excessive to me, I mean if I went on a date with someone three times I would have expected phone communication and not one sided!
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Posted: 4/3/2007 3:19:16 PM | I'm with Jenna, how do you even feel comfortable meeting someone for a date if you can't even talk to them first? Three dates? If a woman doesn't trust me with her phone number after one date, let alone before, then I am not interested. I understand caution, but jeezlouise! I will give out my number if the emailing is going well or if the woman suggests meeting or talking. They can block their number or do whatever, but I have rarely had someone who wasn't comfortable talking.
Two-way conversation beats one-way conversation any day when it comes to really getting to know someone. The sooner I can talk to someone and meet the better. I hate spending time emailing someone and then when you finally talk or meet there is no ability to communicate in normal conversation. There are some women I have talked to that I know that by the conversation they aren't the one for me and you find out ahead of time rather than when you meet. I have met a couple people that the conversation did not go great and they still wanted to meet, so I did meet them and kicked myself for doing what I knew I shouldn't do in the first place based on the phone call. | |
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| Giving Your Number Out
Posted: 4/7/2007 7:22:36 PM | I had a guy give me his number.... I called..... he didn't answer and never called back. Now I KNOW my voice isn't THAT bad....lol. So why give it out if you don't want calls??? seems idiotic to me.
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| Giving Your Number Out
Posted: 4/7/2007 7:38:50 PM | I guess some of you have no idea how the internet really works,,if someone wants to find info about you it is very easy to access your ips adress from any dating site,,there is a back door to all these sites,,so much for not giving out your #### I can't tell you how its done because that's againts the law... | |
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Posted: 4/8/2007 5:13:17 AM | giving your number is like giving your address. thinking of my safety, i would not give the guy my # until i felt very safe. (i've had a stalker) i don't see any reason he can't give you his # and you call him w/a block on your end. it might seem controlling, but your safety has to be paramount. if i lose the guy over it, so be it. i doubt he'd want his sister or mother stalked by a stranger that she naively gave her number to.
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Posted: 4/8/2007 4:11:36 PM |
I guess some of you have no idea how the internet really works,,if someone wants to find info about you it is very easy to access your ips adress from any dating site,,there is a back door to all these sites,,so much for not giving out your #### I can't tell you how its done because that's againts the law...
Considering I work for an internet hosting company I do know how the internet works. Unless you have a dedicated ip, all someone is going to find is an ip that is shared by thousands of people. Even with a dedicated ip all that can be easily determined is who the person's ISP is and possibly the state and city they reside in. Different ISP's segment their blocks of IP addresses by region and you can find the name and address of the organization the block of IP addresses was allocated to. The ISP's can name these blocks if they choose. The naming often indicates a geographic location, for example, PHX-AZ, aka Phoenix, Arizona. That is much information you can get from an ip search without having a subpoena.
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Posted: 4/8/2007 10:38:47 PM | Well, I'm no expert, cause I've only ever met one person in this way, but I gave him my number after we had chatted for about two months and I felt comfortable with him. We talked on the phone a lot and got to know each other really well before we actually met. The meeting went great. We felt close already and greeted each other with a hug and a kiss.
I think the key is to move slow. Chat/E-mail for a while first, exchange lots of pics, web cam shots, etc., then talk on the phone (cell phone or number blocked) for a while, then when you feel totally comfortable... meet!
Otherwise, you are meeting a total stranger! That seems scarier to me than giving out a phone number. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2007 8:01:21 AM | | The only time I give out my home number is when I feel comfortable with that person and the length of time changes person to person. I will give my cell # out if I am meeting someone because things happen, but I ask for their cell # or a phone number in return. I have had dates with people I have talked to on the phone and people I haven't, it all depends on the emails and msn and how it seems to go. Not everyone out there is nice but then not everyone out there is evil either. You have to go with your gut feeling and remember to always try and be safe. This is not a question that has a cut and dried answer because the people we chat with are different and you have to trust to your interpretation of their intentions. This is not something limited to the internet. Do you feel comfortable giving your home number to a guy in a bar just because you have seen what he looks like? I don't. It depends on the situation. The best advice is be safe and ask for their number instead. Do what you are comfortable with. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2007 8:24:51 AM | Right on Ranger14. Dear lord, people are scared enough about using the internet without people spreading retarded and ridiculous rumors (no offense firefighter) about the ease at which we can all find out your personal information.
Can it be done. If the person was a computer technician GURU, and had anything and everything he wanted at his disposal, there is a SMALL chance he could find a way to break into this site and steal your email address. People with this ability would not usually spend their valuable time finding such a useless piece of information, especially when they can email you on here.
If I am a regular type person, it is far, far, beyond the scope of any tools or talents available for free online to break into this website and steal that information.
Your IP will tell the guy your city, state, country. How he will get your IP is still not easy for a layman...
There are ways to capture cell phone calls and such that are somewhat accessible to a person devoted to the task, but if they are following you capturing your phone calls, its too late to hide from them anyway and they obviously have your phone number. Perhaps you could claw their eyes out like a lady offered as a solution earlier in the thread 
Rest easy people...
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| Giving Your Number Out
Posted: 4/9/2007 4:34:43 PM | i dislike the word ****en word werid...If I wore you I wouldn't be using that, it sounds negatively critical and judgemental, and people could act uncool, nice and might have uncool intentions for you.
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Posted: 4/9/2007 4:37:26 PM | | what you feel is uncool messages and you don't know if this guy could be something acting on just getting sex out of you, call the people up and shit. | |
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