| Have you found your love here?
Posted: 4/11/2007 8:58:04 AM | Maybe someone can explain this to me because I just don't get it.
Why does someone put an UPDATE on their profile proclaiming to have found the last love in their life and still look at other women's profiles. Don't say it's curiosity. I feel that they are still on th prowl looking for something better. So, why bother to tell the world that you found the "one" and still be on the search. This is why I don't have much trust anymore. Does anyone feel like I do? | |
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| Have you found your love here?
Posted: 4/11/2007 12:22:02 PM | | Kinda......I am currently not activly searching any longer. If something were to develop great if not also. I cant say all people cannot be trusted but at least the ones I have talked to have proven to me that they cannot be trusted. | |
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| Have you found your love here?
Posted: 4/14/2007 9:57:20 AM | | Nope, not yet. I haven't even met a single person on here in over a YEAR! LOL! What's up with that??? But I never give up hope and stay positive and I know one day I will meet here either on here or at Publix or by the lake. | |
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| Have you found your love here?
Posted: 4/17/2007 11:10:13 AM | loveluvlove wrote:
Why does someone put an UPDATE on their profile proclaiming to have found the last love in their life and still look at other women's profiles. Don't say it's curiosity. I feel that they are still on th prowl looking for something better. So, why bother to tell the world that you found the "one" and still be on the search. This is why I don't have much trust anymore. Does anyone feel like I do?
I agree that someone who has found their "one" has no need to look any further but just because they looked at your profile doesn't mean they have an interest in dating you. Maybe they read one of your posts and wanted to know more about the person who wrote it.
I host the POF Jazz Festival event here in Fort Lauderdale every month and I get browsed 100's of times. Every time I post a new announcement there's a spike in the number of people who view my profile. You know what? It doesn't mean diddly! They are probably just curious about who's hosting the event.
If you still must stick with your belief that all of these guys are still on the prowl then check out The Ladder Therory... that should REALLY depress you! LOL | |
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Posted: 4/18/2007 3:35:33 PM | | Well, duh - I do know that someone looking at profiles isn't always interested in dating that person. I just think it doesn't make sense to proclaim your love for someone and since play on here. I call it the "jungle bar effect" - looking for the next victim or next best. These people are never satisfied and never will be. Those are the ones I want to avoid. I do understand what you say when someone posts here and one is curious as to their background but I stick with what I feel about my original post. Be honest with your significant other and either make it work or stop playing around. | |
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| Have you found your love here?
Posted: 4/18/2007 4:22:02 PM | I have found Plenty of Fish friends here and love them all.
The love just keeps growing.
Thank you ----Plenty of Fish
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Posted: 4/18/2007 7:21:26 PM | | Thats not uncommon. A lot of people date people and they are reluctant to take their profiles off dating sites. They will tell their partner -I am just talking to friends on the dating site. To me they are still fishing. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 7:54:00 PM | | My cup has runneth over with the love I have found here. Plenty of Fish has bestowed a kings ransom of gifts upon me. I have found hope when I needed it most. I have found encouragement when I was disheartened. I found compassion and understanding when life had bumps in the road. I found a healthy avenue for self expression. I discovered the fascinating world of human nature, and continue to marvel how we can all be so diverse and so much the same at the same time. I have found courage and fortitude that I didnt know I had . I found laughter and shared my shoulders for others to cry upon. I have found acceptance and respect .I have found positivity in a world where sometimes its hard to trust. Yes there has been a pitfall or two , but they seem so insignificant as a whole. Oh yes I have also found a super hero, who simply gets me.. how cool is that? | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 8:19:44 PM | I know a close POF friend who had this woman he picked up in the field (outside online dating) move in w/him for about 5 months. It was her choice, she kept her $1K/mo apt, but he didn't refuse. For many months, my friend's clients & family figured that they were an item. She was his shadow, so to speak, although she always seemed independent to the world. He kept his POF profile up (though he did little w/it except answering a couple of long-term friend's e-mails). He was keeping His life because she was long-term (2 years) out-of-state separated. An official divorce hadn't yet started, & there were no kids in the picture. Though she was kind of possessive, she seemed to understand that He had a life before they met, & did not inquire or object. My friend was very cool about the calls she'd get from her ex & ex-Bfs. He'd step out of the room, or not ask at all.
My friend's live-in had to get back up north to save her prime resort property, but she kept calling Him, as her damaged marriage didn't resurrect with her return. Especially since her hubby had a part-time-GF. Last I heard is things between my friend's GF & her estranged spouse are stabilizing somewhat, and the drama between Him & her has been minimal.
So, back to the original point, for those that thought they found Their Love & didn't, you're not alone. But as a previous poster pointed out (Looking 2x), there are many success stories, & it does happen.
The point of this long story is that there are unique situations where having a monogamous relationship & an on-line-dating presence CAN co-exist. Although it's not for everyone, and probably not recommended as the norm. | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 8:27:42 PM | [Why does someone put an UPDATE on their profile proclaiming to have found the last love in their life and still look at other women's profiles.]
Women do the same thing except they say they are here for the forums. Maybe, the guys are also here for the forums. I only worry about things that I can control. If one is in a relationship, one should know in one's heart if one trust the person that you are with. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 5:31:05 PM |
Having a monogamous relationship & an on-line-dating presence CAN co-exist
I was in a monagamous live in relationship with a man who I loved with all that I am. While we were together I continued to communicate with friends through a on- line dating site like this and remained active in the forums. He was very much aware that I still logged into the site. He had the opportunity to meet some of these friends while we were together. He trusted me and it did not trouble him at all that this site was still a part of my social network. I did site in my profile that I was no longer single. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 1:32:18 PM | I have been on POF for almost a year now and I find that my expectations have evolved from this being a dating site with potential into a social networking site with different potential.
Originally, one could read my profile and it was quite obvious that I was fishing and I received tons of emails but because my experiences in hosting events has allowed me to meet lots of people and to build friendships beyond dating, my perspective has changed. Now, my profile comes across differently and has virtually eliminated emails of a dating nature (which was my desire).
Like I said, I host the jazz festival event and I often browse the profiles of everyone who signs up just to get a feel for who may be attending and perhaps finding a topic of conversation it has nothing to do with my being interested in dating anyone.
I have encountered many, many people on here who started out looking for date and have instead found some very wonderful friendships and stay on here simply for those friendships. I see many profiles which say "I have found the love of my life." or "I'm not dating, don't ask!" etc. but these very people browse my profile all the time.
I guess, because I am one who is more interested in other aspects of this site, it is easier for me to see the "need" of others without automatically thinking they are two-timing slugs. Sure some are but there are just as many married people on here proclaiming to be single, just as many people who claim to be "average" in build when they are 40-50 lbs overweight and look nothing like their 15 year old pictures and just as many who claim to be "flight attendants, doctors, lawyers etc." who are none of those things. You can find bad everywhere. Personally, I choose to give people the benefit of the doubt until they proove otherwise... I find I can stay much happier this way. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2007 4:16:10 AM | I'm in agreement with frog's first sentence.
it's really difficult to meet someone for the first time and wonder if this could lead to something long term.
it's easier to meet men here, and socialize with no expectations.
making friends is so much easier than judging a potential for long term!
carry on!
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Posted: 8/25/2008 4:35:14 AM | | Dear Hillary, yes I agree with you, if they are involved with someone and leave their profile on the site, they are still fishing, happened to me after almost two months and then when she found someone she thought was younger, better looking and richer than me she dump me, Inside me , they come don't come any better. The laugh is on her, she still has a lot to learn, that is why she listen to her friends, anyone without friends, contact me. doc | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 2:30:58 PM | ^^^^^ Go to the events in your area and if there are no events then take the lead and organize one. Just start meeting people and networking. Then you'll find that if you dont meet anyone you really wont care because you have too many good friends and a busy, full life!
Pete
P.S. If you need help organizing events, drop me an email as I have a two page email that will tell you exactly how to do it. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2008 9:37:58 AM | | I have been on this site for a year and other sites for 4 yrs one coest all most $3000.00 and for some reson nothing. I have had about 12 dates in 4 yrs. 3 or 4 dates that got to the 2nd date then no responce. I get the hint after I leve 2 voice mails with no responce. I have been told by most that I'm to nice??? I keep trying. I have found out that alot of women like to put old pic's on ther site and think that 30 to 50 lbs over waight is avrg. I do work very hard to look good and stay healthy. all my pic's are up to date. Ladys if you realy are looking if the guy asks to meet you go for it. If your one of those that have old pic's and lets say stretch the truth I understand why you don't want to meet. Starting off with a little lie isn't a good way to keep a guy. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2009 5:45:02 AM |
ck1.....see.........the LOVE of new friends Well it's been 2 1/2 years since I asked this question & I wonder how some of us have done, where you are...at least it seems to be something we all think about a lot, from time to time. I really hope the majority of you prior posters have found That Love & moved WAY on...& those that did & bounced back into the pool are still Strong, and Richer for having given it your all...I remain impressed and amazed by "all" of us...see you around! | |
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Posted: 9/1/2009 4:33:51 PM | I came to this site the first time about 5 years ago. I was newly divorced at the time. Within a year, I made some dear friends through the Forums we posted in. I had a few dates but mostly what I'd call first meetings. Then I met someone on another site. ( found out she also had a profile on here as well)
She was 1200 miles away. But her profile said retiring soon and wants to move to a warmer climate. Well I am in a warmer climate. so we started communicating and as hard as it may be to understand or believe, the chemistry was found in just hours upon hours of phone calls. Then she was in a near fatal car accident and disappeared on me until her daughter called me after finding my number in her mother's cell phone. So our planned meeting was delayed for almost 3 months. By then, I was definitely in love.
Confirmed when we spent nearly a week together before she returned to her home. Long story short, she moved here a year later. So my POF profile came down.
Because of things out of her control or my control even, we had a very rocky road filled with to many short breakups. The last was back in February and her moving back home....for the second time. I wish things were different. But she has made it clear it's over. So here I am back in the pond looking to fill the void left by her leaving.
I never felt so much heartache. She's a good woman. I still love her, but I can't go on alone.
I hope I am not here long. To be honest, I hate being single, I hate living alone and want out of here. Hell, I don't even like this thing called dating!
So far I've met about 6 women and the chemistry simply was not there. Maybe I'm not ready. But I have to start somewhere. To me, the best way to get over a lost love is to find a new one. Right or wrong, that's me. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2009 9:39:57 AM | CK1TIME,
Where do I begin? I have been on POF for 3 1/2 years. I met someone within the first 2 weeks. On our 2nd date he gave me his password & had me go into his account & delete his profile. I too deleted mine as I was new to the site & hadn't even gone on the forums or parties yet. I had no problem with doing that. It was his suggestion. I ended that relationship 6 months later. I got back on POF 2 months after our breakup which is when I attended my 1st POF party. What a freaking blast I had. I ended up becoming best friends with the host of that party & began co-hosting/hosting parties ever since.
I started dating someone new so I updated my profile to: "not single/not looking". His read: "single" the entire time we dated (4 months). While I was at his house he'd go on POF & say "I'm just answering emails". I then changed my profile to: "single". Oh boy, he wasn't happy about that but it was ok for HIS profile to say "single" when he wasn't. I left & decided not to date anyone while I was co-hosting/hosting but then.......
1 yr. later I met someone at one of the parties I was co-hosting & started a long distance relationship (never again!). 4 months later he tells me he had been cheating on me for the past month.....nice, real nice!!!
Again, 1 year later, I met someone just as a friend who became my boyfriend. 1 month later he tells me he is a Jehova Witness (I'm Catholic. Enough said). 2 months later he picked up and moved out of state. He only gave me 5 hours notice!!! What happened to honesty & communication???
3 weeks later I am happy to say I have finally found someone ( when I wasn't looking) all because my BFF convinced me to go to the sarasota POF party (4/25/09) so I can get over my ex (the Jehova Witness). I guess technically I should be thanking my ex for moving as it allowed me to meet the most wonderful man....lol! As the saying goes: " Things happen for a reason". My boyfriend; FLYNX1965 & I are currently house hunting and going on a cruise 9/7 to 9/11 to the Bahamas. He recently flew me to NYC to meet his family. Things couldn't be better. So in answer to your question CK1TIME, yes, I have finally found love on POF! Thanks POF!!!"
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| Have you found your love here?
Posted: 9/2/2009 9:59:16 AM | For the record, found love of my life 10 mos ago. Still going strong. POF success story. Go Fish | |
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