| She laughed during a funny scene and I freaked....
Posted: 4/26/2007 10:40:55 AM | Ok.
So I was on a date with a woman recently. We went to see a movie. It was a humorous movie, but I have control of my emotions, so I sat through the entire thing, not laughing once. I managed to control even my reflex to smile.
At one point during the movie, I noticed that the woman I was with was chuckling under her breath. I asked her "are you LAUGHING?" When she stopped giggling enough to respond, she said "Yes."
I immediately tossed that **** out on her ear. How dare she show any emotion over something as trivial as a joke in a funny movie? If she wanted to laugh when her greatest enemy tripped and fell, that'd be one thing. But laughing over a funny movie? Give me a break.
Real women don't laugh at things that they find amusing. | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/26/2007 10:49:43 AM | Crying isn't a sign of weakness in my opinion. I spent 6 yrs in the Marines and saw some things I would rather forget.
I know when I see certain movies, especially emotional ones where a son and father relationship is ended due to either the father or son dying, I get teary eyed. Some women don't get that all men have feelings. We can be strong, but every man has an emotional side. It just shows when that button is pushed. | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/26/2007 11:23:24 AM | I cry a little at the end of movies like Pay It Forward, during Terms Of Endearment and Officer And A Gentleman, is that a bad thing? No - but I damn well don't watch it around others - if I do I keep a freaking lid on it! THAT'S the problem.
There are times and places for things. I go off on my own and cry over trivial stuff if I need to, I don't expect that others have to console me and/or deal with my issues. To me crying isn't a sign of weakness, but not having some control over your emotions, and not knowing where and when to cry publicly is weak.
There are times where it's acceptible - death, tragedy, injury, losing a pet, etc that others can relate to. Crying around someone you've known a week or two because you found Titanic moving is a bit much.
Balance, people, balance. | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/26/2007 11:52:27 AM | | Bret many women have multiple double standards on a variety of things.How much you makes matters but not her,she can cry you can't,she can want sex but if you do your bad,she can be late but you can't ect ect ect You hear nowadays that its ok for men to cry and show emotion yet look how your date reacted.When your dating think of it as being around a lawyer whos sole purpose is to gather information ect just to use it against you later on.Most women are far to critical,negative and willing to throw away a relationship over the slightest problem.Everything you do or say is under the microscope.From what you think ,dress,act,hobbies,job,car ect to even how you pay for dinner and all she's doing is literally looking for an excuse to walk then women wonder why men avoid talking as much as possible and its always small talk cause thats safe talk.So the guy puts on an "image" then later after the relationship is ongoing she wonders why he "changed".Then on top of that some women try to change men and after awhile even he doesn't know who he is.Be true to yourself bret,you won't be happy with yourself if your not.Eventually you'll find a good woman who makes an effort,realizes no one is perfect and won't throw away love over insignificant crap. | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/26/2007 11:54:24 AM | | You should've told her that HER sobbing during your phone call was a sign of weakness and that you need a woman who won't disolve into tears over stupid things. | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/26/2007 5:45:12 PM | ^^^^ android!  
yea i think it is totally nuts to freak about the fact that a guy shed a tear, at a movie or wherever. it's crazy to do that to anyone, boy or girl.
i can't believe the stupid ways women define men and men define women. sheesh.  | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/26/2007 6:42:18 PM | I think this is why so many guys are screwed up!!
We grow up feeling that if we show any emotion that we will be laughed at.
We then hear about women wanting to be with a sensitive man then when you do show your sinsitive side.
A woman freaks out about it!!
We are all human and its nice to be with a woman that understands that just because a man crys it doesn't mean that he is weak. | |
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RTD
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Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 159 | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/26/2007 10:19:02 PM | Okay now to me a real man is one that DOES cry and show emotion. This girl sounds like she's got a lot of emotional problems herself even to react the way she did to you having emotions during that movie. I mean hello? anyone that wasn't emotionally effected by 9-11, obviously doesn't know how to deal, and if I were you, I would cast this fish back out to sea and find you a REAL woman who can appreciate a good man such as yourself. good luck to you!
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/27/2007 1:23:15 AM | | Well on one hand you're kind of a sissy crying at movies, and on the other hand shes a **** if she cuts you off for such a thing. Some women like sensitive guys, others dont. this one doesnt seem to, find a woman that does and you;ll be golden. | |
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Joined: 10/15/2006
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/27/2007 7:08:02 AM | chuck norris! LOL!
i agree with the poster two posts ago who said real men DO cry.
real PEOPLE cry.
...this makes me think about the priorities we have in dating, or in trying to find someone to love. i mean, if you are trying to find a partner and if you are willing to be a good partner, why oh why would you react this way to another human being? obviously in that case your search is very shallow (not to mention that you are very shallow) and you are not prepared to let the person you are looking for be a human being, be who he is, so why date at all? why look for someone?
"get thee to a nunnery" instead.   
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/27/2007 8:07:45 AM | i think the word shallow should be banned from the forums forever. seriously it is way to overused. crying during difficult times or during the happiest moments of your life is normal and i would expect it . i just cant deal with a guy who cries at everything . i have been around men like that and they annoy me to no end. | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/27/2007 8:15:17 AM | Sheesh, for crying out loud. God forbid a guy show the slightest emotion. I tear up on occasion just from watching certain tv drama show...
I cant wait to read the rest of the replies on this one... | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/27/2007 10:55:40 AM | i don't think shallow is overused at all, and i think there are loads of shallow people in this world and little understanding of the general shallowness that pervades our consumerist individualist egoist society.
shallow shallow shallow shallow shallow 
and yes anyone who reacts that way to a guy on a date or to anyone at all in this way is shallow. period. not to mention insensitive, disrespectful and cold.
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/27/2007 11:06:23 AM | Well if my man shed a tear during a sad film,
I would think aww bless his got a heart and id
hold his hand and pass him a tissue.
Why cant guys cry?
We are all human, and its not allways a good thing to
hold emotion in.. It certainly dont make you any less of a man,
unless you jump on a chair everytime you see a spider.
But then id pmsl and catch it for ya.. :) | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/27/2007 11:45:28 AM | I Dated a girl once, we got along ok. She loved cheesy horror flicks and we got on to the subject of what scares us the most. With out hesitation she said .. "the sound of a man crying", mine was burning to death. I was shocked. I questioned her on it and she said she had never seen her father cry..
This there were other reasons why we didn't end up getting serious but that was always in the back of my minded.. While I don't out right cry at movie.. I do get choked.. and hey life hurts bad sometimes.. I can't imagine living with women that was terrified of my tears..
It doesn’t happen often but when it dose.. Damn I need my girl to be there..cuz by the time she sees that in me.... I'll have probably been her rock several times. | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/27/2007 12:04:30 PM | | wooo hooo i am insensitive ,disrespectful and cold. sure i might tease the life out of him for bawling like a little girl at a movie but if he cant take a little teasing we are so not well matched. | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/27/2007 1:21:30 PM | I would like to say that this woman has some kind of mental/emotional issues.. do you know anything about her past?? How were her parents to her as a child?? How were her parents as a married couple?? These are very important questions, because as to her parents, they molded her into who she is today.. Is she divorced?? or had a long term relationship in the past?? This can also play a strong role as to why her chest would tighten up, and that she would feel threatened by hearing you cry..
She will need some counseling, in order to get better.. If she doesn't want to get herself better, then I would let her go, and move on to the next, because YOU can't change people or make them better, only that individual person can do it for themself!! In that, we are all (each one of us!) are responsible for our ownself!! make sense? In the long run, you would be glad that you had made that decision...
I do wish her well tho, that has to be really tough living life like that! Best wishes! | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 4/28/2007 8:36:06 PM | | K ... I may be wrong, but I think guys shouldn't cry ever, even when you're passing a STONE. Unless you're my Brother or my Son, they can cry and that's ok. But not my friend , not my husband(ex), no other man...that's just grosse. MY OPINION.... YOU ASKED... | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 5/1/2007 5:57:36 PM | wow already having problems and needing space at end of date two..
can only imagine how things will be date 20... lol.
if i saw a man cry in that way .. i would think wuss.. lol sorry, i dont even cry in movies.. . but i wouldn't judge him over it, i would just be a bit uncomfortable.. it wouldn't scare me off.. is is is.. if thats u.. thats u.. and its good to be open with ur emotions. | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 5/1/2007 6:14:26 PM |
My date noticed and asked me if I was crying and I said yes. She sat up. moved away and barely touched me the rest of the movie. After the movie, she told me she would have a hard time seeing me this week because of her kids.
^^^ This is precisely why most men will not show their emotions around women who they are "interested" in. With a woman "friend" sure, but a woman you are having sex with or a woman who you want to have sex with? No, no, no. Many of us have learned that any overt display of the more "female" emotions is the quickest way to end up on the 'Gay Friends' list that woman keep. | |
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| I cried during a sad scene - and she freaked!
Posted: 5/2/2007 4:56:25 AM | It is if we've only gone out with you twice and you start crying over stuff that's not major, yeah.
There has to be balance. Not totally closed of, but not emotional over everything. We don't have a problem with you showing some emotions, we'd just like to know your last name first, lol. | |
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