| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 8:50:48 AM | | As I see it...the only reason a woman would tend to pick the dull good looking one is because they had a reason to go talk to the guy first or the guy was confident enough to confront her! The funny nice guy was to scared to make a move, and you can't expect to be average looking and get the girls without at least making contact with them. So in the end confidence is the difference....push yourself to make the first move by at least talking to them, and start out as friends if nothing else, who knows what it can turn into and I know I can always use more friends! | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 8:54:24 AM | >>That should be "works really well on quiet people
No, I said it correctly. Quiet can be a verb as well as an adjective.
>>Now, the fact that you did not stay quiet, speaks volumes!!
Yes, I'm certain your little test ("Do they shut up when I tell them my cute little rhyme?") is a more accurate measure of intelligence than any IQ test.
>>My IQ was 138 when last checked as well
:) Threads with the word intelligence in the title attract intelligent people...go figure. | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 9:16:03 AM |
Quiet can be a verb as well as an adjective.
If you were using it as a verb then shouldn't it be "to quieten people who know less than you do"?
Yes, I'm certain your little test is a more accurate measure of intelligence than any IQ test.
It could very well be given that IQ tests have been frequently discredited.
It has been proven that IQ test scores can vary by as much as 15 points based on your mood, the time of day, your biochemistry, and your level of anxiety while taking the test. Emotions can also have a profound impact on IQ test scores and results can drop by as much as 25% if the subject has been exposed to, or experienced, negative emotions.
IQ tests are flawed in that the outcome can be influenced by acquired knowledge which is not an indicator of how intelligent one is. An individual can have inherent intelligence and be ignorant. Such an individual would score abysmally on IQ tests yet, if they, and someone who boasts a high IQ, were tested on a task that was new to both, they would be of comparable ability. | |
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MAPT
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Joined: 3/11/2007
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 12:28:59 PM | Well i am sure you all have a valid point, but to me you are only intelligent to those that are not in the same club. But once they join the club, read the rules; swallowed encylopedias and text books of all manner, then your head start comes down to groundlevel.
Basically looks do matter to both women and men , primal instinct tells us to look for someone who will protect and produce good looking offspring etc. to carry on the gene marker. All the rest is secondary, but because we do have a brain larger that a pea, emotions do come into play, and as my old dad use to say, make a woman laught hard enough and she fall at your feet.
So to sum up, looks then humour and closely followed by interlect. | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 1:24:38 PM | How's that Mensa card working out for you?
Do you get cheaper seats if you flash it at the movies?
Most people I know with high IQ's keep it to themselves...intelligence is usually obvious...or not.
Id announce my IQ here but I wouldn't want to have to embarass you and watch you go through the painful process of having to say...oh wait...I was wrong my IQ the last I checked was really 151.
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 2:50:39 PM | make a woman laught hard enough and she fall at your feet.
Ok, I admit this is true.  Larry, Mo, and Curly can put me on the floor in giggles. Yes, at my age. But make me swoon with clever wordplay and I'm at your feet, worshipping.
I don't ordinarily go around announcing my IQ because then I have no excuse when I completely mess up or make a fool of myself in a discussion. I added it here because it was already on the table. See? I'll probably be very sorry. Very soon.
I'm an ordinary person, without any inflated sense of superiority. I learn good stuff from just about everyone who crosses my path. I don't for a moment believe I'm better than anyone else because if my IQ. I have more appreciation for my spirit and my heart than I do my head. | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 5:54:35 PM | >>I don't for a moment believe I'm better than anyone else because if my IQ.
Me either. It actually says that on my profile.
I *DO* think I'm better qualified to talk about things like issues faced by gifted kids while growing up. Just like a black person would be better qualified than me to talk about the issues faced by black kids. | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 6:45:56 PM |
I *DO* think I'm better qualified to talk about things like issues faced by gifted kids while growing up.
Maybe... Most likely you can speak to your experiance, but not mine.
Personally I think we could save time if you two would just drop your drawers and get a tape measure.
Shall we return to the topic at hand? | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 6:52:08 PM | ^^Huh? I'm not competing with Nannie. In fact I just added her to my fave list.
>>Maybe... Most likely you can speak to your experiance, but not mine.
True, no 2 people had the exact same experience. | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 7:05:55 PM | | ...In my view,there needs to be some kind of physical spark/physical chemistry present before I'll consider a man ongoing dating material. If physical spark is missing, but all the other awesome attributes I value are there, i.e. wits, humour, respect, drive, communication skills etc.., well then, I've made a wonderful new friend. I think it really depends on what the Woman is looking for. Also, all three attributes are very subjective, so yah...that's a toughie to answer. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2007 7:54:19 PM | | I met this guy at work a while back. Far from good looking but the funniest person I had ever met. Made me fall head over heals for him unfortunately for me I was in a relationship of 5 years with a very attractive far from funny guy. I left my bf but never got with the funny guy. Oh how I wish I did. It's been so long now and I still kick myself. It just wasn't meant to be. | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 7:54:47 PM | In fact I just added her to my fave list.
Thank you!
...In my view,there needs to be some kind of physical spark/physical chemistry present before I'll consider a man ongoing dating material.
I agree entirely, but that physical spark can happen for me even if a man isn't classically good-looking or handsome. Some men have a physical presence or bearing that is very attractive, and it supercedes 'good' looks although it's still physical. Other characteristics somehow become attractive when this initial attraction is strong. I fall in love with a man's essence - physical, mental, and emotional. Only at that point will his actual 'looks' become attractive.
I'm not sure that makes sense. It does to me. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 8:05:10 PM | OP - tsk, tsk, tsk, another thread about looks A person's looks may open the door to relationship, but looks in itself do not sustain a relationship. Honestly, I doubt I'd relish the thought of dating a fella with a horn sticking in the middle of his horn.
Even worse, would be to date a fella whose only smile is the vertical smile. I've been down that road, and its sheer misery. There's nothing more that I enjoy, is if I'm feeling a bit down is for my man to crack a joke or make a face and the next thing, I'm dying laughing.
In people, I look for a sense of humor and the ability to carry on a civilized, intelligent conversation, and that goes for anyone who is in my life . | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 4/5/2007 11:07:32 PM | It seems for most people looks are the initial sexual attraction but I have never seen a guy and, without knowing anything about his personality, found him attractive. Porn, or at least what most people would consider pornography, is wasted on me. Though there are certainly people to whom, based on their appearance, I could never be attracted, only after getting to know someone at least a little and finding aspects of his personality, including intelligence and sense of humor, attractive can I possibly find his appearance attractive.
In my experience, it seems to be more important to most women that their partner be as or more intelligent than they are, than it is to most men. I have a hard time respecting men I feel much smarter than, and find it very sexy to be able to learn from a man. He must be honest too. Looks are way down the list. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 10:10:46 PM | | This thead is based on the premise that better looking guys with no personality get more attention than average looking guys with humor and wit. Correct? I have to say, in my experience you are DEAD WRONG. What sort of attention are you looking for anyhow? I was not surprised to discover that some of the hottest women in the world are in intimate relationships with average looking guys who happen to have great personalities, are intelligent and witty. Coincidence? For example, You may have heard of a little ABC show by the name of LOST. The gorgeous heroine, Kate, (Evangeline Lilly) is in a real life relationship NOT with the handsome leading man, but with the dopey looking blonde bearded Brit on the show. Additionally, legendary babe Michelle Pfeifer has been married to television crime drama creator/writer David E. Kelly for years, and he is not the best looking guy by any standards (although not UNattractive). So you see, the real prizes know whats important. Attracting attention only matters when you consider your audience. Capiche? | |
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Joined: 4/10/2007
Msg: 42 | |
| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 9/8/2007 11:49:43 PM | They get attention b/c they're pretty to look at simple enough. You can't tell if someone's funny or has a nice personality from looking at them or even from first impressions half the time. But Mr Looks is not going to keep our attention if he's dumb as a rock or whatever.
Pretty much, average (or below) looking guys (and gals) have to work harder to get noticed. But once you do, then life's easier. It's getting your foot in the door that's the hard part. Life is just sucky like that. | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 9/9/2007 5:39:42 AM | Just to put this out there, but how important is looks over someone who has a good sense of humour and can carry a conversation. Why is it that guys who are average looking who are funny and have a better than average IQ get ignored while guys who have looks but who are dull and low browed get the attention.
Or did I answer my own question?
For me, I want all three (at least, since these three are what we're talking about). Someone who's good looking and intelligent but cannot laugh and enjoy life isn't for me. Someone who's intelligent and funny but I have no attraction to isn't for me. Someone who's good looking and funny but has the intelligence of a bucket of hair isn't for me.
Attraction is subjective to the people involved so you can't really say certain people are average or above or below average. Everyone is attractive AND unattractive depending on who's looking.
There's no "vs" for me in questions like this. It's weird to me everytime I see one, because it implies that if one's missing the rest is ok....and that's not the case. There is no quality that is more important than any other qualities (in my particular list in my head, that is). I want someone who has em all, or I'm not interested. | |
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| Humour & Intelligence vs Looks
Posted: 9/9/2007 7:06:17 AM | | Agree with #7. Not sure how you can say that the average looking guys are being ignored. Where I live, I see couples all the time and the guys are rarely Brad Pitts (more like Lyle Lovetts or Danny Devitos). Confidence , your ability to mingle, and the way you present yourself have a lot to do with it. Attractiveness comes as a package, that includes the looks, intelligence, sense of humor, his confidence and how he handles himself in front of the women. | |
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