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Hamoom
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Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 303 | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/5/2007 7:05:37 PM | | Hi, there are 2 types of lovers in the world. The ones that are always ready for anyone. And the one that is always ready just for you. The first seems right cause its quicker but its not. The second takes time becuase its love devoid of poisonous feelings. Basically be careful about a man who is always UP but has no scruples. Look for a man who will be UP only for you and has morality. If a man has to think when he is with you then you are not his only desire. Find a dove not a snake. | |
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| why do men care about sex???
Posted: 8/5/2007 7:15:10 PM | Not all men do look for sex.
No, just the normal ones.
Not only normal men. Fortunately, also normal women. | |
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| Why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/6/2007 10:39:32 AM | To me Sex is a commitment , I have to evaluate the man to know if he is someone I want to be committed to. Till I am somewhat sure about his personality or feelings for me then there is no sex even if I want it real bad.....
Well that is my 2 cents. | |
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| Why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/6/2007 1:22:01 PM |
Till I am somewhat sure about his personality or feelings for me then there is no sex even if I want it real bad.....
And the Catch 22 that you face with that, is that a "relationship" between grownups that isn't sexual, will leave most men "off balance", trying to put their best foot forward, and often trying to be what they think you want, rather than being fully comfortable in feeling accepted for who they are. So, you will neither get to know the true, core personality, nor will their feelings have developed in the way that they can with a fully integrated relationship.
Whether women like it or not, the truth is, most normal men, who are reasonably centered, won't wait for long. They will move on. It doesn't matter how much women b*i*t*c*h that men should be different, because men are men. Sure, you will find some girly men, insecure men, or men who aren't very sexual. So, either deal with the men who are available for protracted periods of dating without sex, or accept that men aren't going to change their natures, just because you, of all the women in the world, are so singularly wonderful that a man can wait for you, while being denied the first thing he needs in a relationship to feel that it's worthwhile, and for him to be comfortable in showing his feelings, and exposing himself. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/7/2007 8:24:39 AM | PROBABLLY cuz it feels so good
You get intimate sensual passionate emotional mental spiritual and phsycial gratification! (well if u are doing it right....)
Sex is never the most important thing in any form ......
BUT it sure is up there in the top3
 Sex relieves stress, sex is great exercise  and sex gives you ideas and passion that you will never see or feel anywhere else............  
SO why not WOMEN care about sex too., we are all adults here.
Sex isnt a dirty word, (unless u want it to be) lol jk  | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/14/2007 4:30:14 PM |
WOMEN care about sex too., we are all adults here.
When it's "right", both want the same things. Women want sex to be part of intimacy, and men want emotional intimacy, and each is focused on bringing happiness to the other, and sharing the joy that comes, when 1+1= more than two.
When one or the other tries to 'control" the other, out of fear, usually, that sort of intimacy isn't possible. If a woman holds back sex, a man often holds back emotional intimacy, and why people continue in those sorts of paradigms is hard to understand. I say that, while admitting, that I've "been there" too, as have almost all of us. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/14/2007 7:37:00 PM | not all men just want sex.. I would like someone to wash the dishes and do laundry too..
guess I need to go back and read thatall men are pigs thread again.......... | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:13:09 AM | | Sure there may be some men out there who do not think about sex, and I have met one or two...LOL...yep I think two!!!! But some women are the same way, now aren't they. I just want to say I do agree that you give some men sex wether physical, cyber, or phone and you never hear from them again. I also have been told that women are the same way. At least have the courage to tell people good bye!!!! | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/15/2007 7:13:27 AM | | icegoddess, said it best...There are so many ways woman can put a halt to being used...SAY NO! Read (icegoddess's) response, "I couldnt of said it better"..Re-evaluate the kind of person you are projecting to us men...I realize some men read woman differently, than whats really there... | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/15/2007 7:16:09 AM | Sounds like she picks the men she wants and then blames them for their nature..
If you always have the same outcome.. time to change the variables...
Some self-respect is a good start... Then perhaps she needs to look for men aside from the Alpha Male, Bad Boy that she finds so "exciting"
I have not even dug very deep.. but I am almost sure that is what appeals to her.. so she gets what she seeks.. if she uses her head to pick potential partners, that will change (I'll hold my breath).. women like this never get a clue until the mid-30's when they've been "used" enough times to FINALLY get it together mentally.. of course.. at that point.. the pickings are slim | |
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Posted: 8/15/2007 1:36:50 PM | | I haven't a clue why most men think this, it's something am trying to figure out also hehe. It's ashame though, theese days it's harder finding true love than it was twenty or thirty years ago. To many men cheat, and it's effecting women's confidence in men, it's ashame. I wouldn't worry about it, you've just got keep the faith flowing theirs no point in trying if you think every man is the same. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2007 2:06:24 PM | | I do agree with you to a certain point...Everyone seems to think , their options are always open,(look at the Internet Dating Sites), people dont want to make an effort to work things out (when the going gets bad in a relationship) its quit...people are delusional, about who they really are,....Quit blaming men "Too many men cheat, "Where have your studies come from"...Woman play around too, check the studies out...I cant help believe that we might be better off without, Internet Dating Sites...Go back 15 years ago... | |
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Posted: 8/17/2007 12:05:29 PM | | I agree!! internet dating sites should be banned... then we can all hang out in bars and grocery stores again ... and we won't have to type | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/17/2007 3:52:14 PM | AAAHH typical male  im in the market for a man a relationship no not marriage or kids been there done that!! but someone i can enjoy go out with, be with and have lots and lots of sex with, but even before I meet them they are asking to get a room or can they spend the night... quote can you pick up the condoms"unquote... HELLO!!... men are so ignorant what the bloody hell makes them think they are irresistible or maybe they just think being on this site makes a woman desperate.... well not me, I would like someone but i would have to be attracted to him and gosh would I have a good nite;banana; but desperate noooooo | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/17/2007 4:01:11 PM | | well , some men do , because they cannot control their bodies let alone their minds , its a pity for them but then such is life , life is a wonderful thing when you have complete control over your emotions , there is too much fear and worry connected with desires so what happens is , MEN seek lust first and hope LOVE comes after when in fact , friendship MUST come before anything | |
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jg65
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Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 319 | |
| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/17/2007 4:54:39 PM | | and what else is there? just kidding , but seriously... why do women only care about money, do you have a job, where can you take me...blah blah blah...not all men are like that, sure sex is a very important part of any relationship... if we did not want sex at all, then what would be the point of any relationship, i mean do you really want to hang around my garage all day, drink beer and help me pull a motor? | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/17/2007 4:59:02 PM | this is the generation of guys who only want sex. 12 years ago when i was dating they wanted relationship and sex. But wait, it is the women who tell me they don't want a relationship and they only want sex from guys to which gives them the idea
we are all like that . I have a gf who says she only wants sex and free meals from a guy that is all she wants. WHen enough guys meet girls like her, they expect girls like us to be the same. Keep ur chin up, there will be a guy who wants u for the special person u are. I have guy friends who want a gf and marraige and they tell me the women are flaky and don't even show up for dates | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/17/2007 5:38:02 PM | Thanks to MsPacker4 for posting.
I don't understand why some people think sex is some dirty chore. My friend's wife refered to sex as her wifely duty. What the hell is that? Sure guys 16-22 just want sex but they're hardwired that way. Women 26-32 are wired the same way but are generally too ashamed to admit it. Blame evolution, blame god or just blame chemistry. Passion and sex are generally an indicator of the level of intimacy in the relationship. Sex is part of a healthy adult relationship between two people that respect each other. If you don't want to have sex be up front about it and quit holding it over the poor guys head, quit teasing him, and quit leading him on. Let him move on to develop a relationship with someone with fewer hangups and/or someone else who actually enjoys sex. But if you do want to have sex with him be honest with yourself and him. You both should discuss it first and be comfortable where you're planning to go with the relationship. If you're both happy with a one night stand then fine but at least bring it up and know what you both want out of it. I personally wouldn't care to have a one night stand and want more out of a relationship. I want to know the relationship is going somewhere. So basically if the guy only wants sex and no relationship, don't fool yourself into thinking that you have something special with him, and don't be stupid and think in some way you'll change him. Know where the relationship is going before you have sex.
The title of the post just leads me to advise against you ever having sex. At least for the next 5 years. Maybe then you'll be mature enough to make a decision to have it or not. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/19/2007 2:26:08 PM | | I have always believed that Sex was a culmination of several other things, loyalty honesty and trust all leading to a couple's ultimate expression of true feelings, a lot of lads just basically want sex, i personally wouldn't do it just because i could, i would want it to mean something | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/19/2007 2:39:23 PM | Hi faith,
Having sex without love leaves little noble sentiment. However we cannot ignore millions of years of evolution with noble sentiments. Nature is not interested in details no matter how much we were inculcated as children. It is the second imperative after survival.
It takes time to know someone and having sex too fast is a good way of finding yourself in a bad relationship. Being friends first has been the smartest approach despite our animalistic tendencies.
Good Luck,
George | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/19/2007 2:49:00 PM | If Im with someone and there is a lot of sex, but no affection, then that woman generally thinks all I want is affection. Actually, I just want the whole package and if something is slack or missing, I say something, its called communication. Sex is not a bonus, its part of a secure and healthy relationship and keeping it rich and going strong is the responsibility of both individuals involved in it.
Most men and especially women, never know a fulfilling sexually rich, emotionally charged relationship and those same people are not willing to change the way they look for potential lovers to know that fulfillment. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 8/20/2007 8:09:28 PM | | If a guy is looking for a relationship, it is just as much about "what does the absence of sex mean" as it is about the positive anticipation of sex. It's why most men won't "wait". If a woman doesn't want to have sex, to a man, that means that she isn't attracted to him in "that" way, and is just looking for him to be her "friend". | |
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