| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/31/2008 12:41:13 PM | | I personally rather get into a womans heart than into her pants, as sex in any relationship is inevitable, love isn't. Not all men are only interested in sex, its those who are dogs, who are insecure about who they are want sex right away. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/31/2008 12:46:18 PM |
as sex in any relationship is inevitable,
No, it's not. There are women who, for one reason or another, do not want to have a sexual relationship. So don't make assumptions. When you come across one who does NOT want sex, you'll realize just how important it is to a relationship. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/31/2008 1:03:56 PM | | ounds like you think as I do, many times.Men are genetically wired different than women add to that their lack of emotional maturity and well, there you go!. If you consider the behavior of most females currently,including many of our fellow pof females, Men are acting the way they think a lot of women want them to.I guess it's up to us "non-whore" women to re-educate them,Until women start to behave better , most of us will not be treated better, unless we insist on it. So, please stay strong and keep your priciples and self respect..There are quite a few men, even hereon pof that are not just wanting sex,,,keep lookin hon. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:07:34 PM | | I'd rather work myself into a woman's heart and mind first , words and talking to me are just as good at first along with gradual hand holding ,walks etc., patience is key (("sex can wait, masterbate" lol )) , sex to me is only 10% of a relationship, and a final part of true love, if you love her/him etc, then it's not sex , it's making love | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:13:16 PM | not all men only care about sex...i work 65 hrs a week managing a small pizza place then i workout, then i support my parents, and when thats all done i like to sleep..alone...so sex is far from my mind
so my point is that there are guys out there who hhvae other priorites =)
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:22:35 PM | | To be completely honest with you, I have no idea why men would want sex from you. However if you are asking in general, why men want sex from women? Well that is because we love it!! Now a question you might want to think about and answer for yourself, why do women what emotional involvement from men? | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:26:19 PM |
why is it that every guy i meet or talk to automatically thinks i want sex from them? dont they know there is more to me then whats between my legs??? Im tired of being used by men for sex. Are there really any men out there that dont want women just for sex? I feel that sex is a bonus.... but only when both ppl are ready for it. Just because he is, does that mean i have to be as well?? This is an everyday thing i deal with and i would like to finally know why thats all men want me for.
Sex , Sex , Sex , every sentence has sex in it .. and what is between your legs must be amazingly different than the other 3 billion women on the planet ... congratulations by the way ..
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:42:17 PM | I didn't read all the replies here but I have a question that maybe a few ladies can answer. I'm a guy but after seeing/meeting someone say three or four times, they think I am not "interested" because I have not cooked them breakfast the next morning. Why is it that ladies complain when a guy respects them enough not to get pushy? Then they complain when we don't get pushy? I'm confused, which do they want? Do they REALLY want a guy that will take the time to get to know them first or not? I do agree with the OP tho, it a bonus. Sex is sex, making love is a whole new thing.
I've also noticed that some ladies say they are tired of games but then play them themselves. That's getting to be another of my pet peeves here.  I mean really, if you get a message and you are planning to meet someone else, just say so and if it is meant to be, then get back to them later.
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| Why do men care so deeply and profoundly for sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:08:36 PM | Vulf, no one has deviated from my handle, you're the first. That story of yours was more than I wanted to know and you won't have to worry about me nominating you as Citizen of the Year :-P
I know that propositioning a stranger for sex sometimes works, I never said it didn't. What I don't like is being propositioned by strangers when neither my pictures nor profile gives any indication of that being something I'm looking for. At one time I had even put in bold letters not to message me for sex yet the offers still kept coming in. Obviously many men weren't even reading my profile or they were and ignoring what I was saying (at which point the latter would technically become harassment) . Another thing is that if he's propositioning me, I can be sure that he's propositioning others and right there, I find that gross. When someone grosses me out in that respect (how valley girlish haha), I see them as being somewhat dysfunctional. Let them go ask the women who are looking for "intimate encounters" and leave the ones with normal profiles up alone. | |
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| Why do men care so deeply and profoundly for sex?
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:58:52 PM | Yes, Dear. It's what Bernard Shaw said of his fellow English: "They think they are being moral when they are only uncomfortable."
But I see you understand it as I do. The actuality is your response - you don't like it, and no wonder. The made up part is when you draw conclusions about strangers because you are uncomfortable. They're your feelings, and you're entitled to them. You're entitled to characterize the behavior as sordid and clumsy and whatever. But none of that tells you what kind of person the chump is. For all you know, you are his first, last, and only plunge into the wild side. For all you know, he is three 13 year old boys playing a dating site like a video game. For all you know, he's so up-to-here with testosterone that he thinks he's paying you a compliment.
I'm not sorry we meet all kinds in a public place like this. I enjoy the rough surprise of it. But I am sorry so much of it is not fun for you. I hope it gets better.
Cheers!
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/3/2008 1:16:37 PM | well i can say not just them.
it seems my experience lesbians the same, they worse so than men...well my ex at least, they care about sex, nothing more, if you don't give them that, they kick you to the door. : /
no mater how much time is invested into the relationship. : [
i feel like everyone just care about sex, what happened to love, companionship, waiting, and a special someone to CARE for?
the world wants lust, so we can't just bash the men, since the 'bois' are even worse sometimes.....
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:00:12 AM | Love, hate, fear, happiness and sex (reproduction) those are just some of the bases to life.
If you look at the animal kingdom, what do you see? Some people don't see humans as animals, but that is what we are.
Instinct plays a large role, people normally want to be loved and love someone, but the fear of being hurt and sometimes of hurting someone else, keeps us from that. So, for some the only way/choice for them to be close/intimate with someone is to have sex, because any way it goes once you are with that person even once you have a bond, there are billions of people in the world and yet two people get together to share a moment/memory in life; better or for worse.
I believe that even if we think it's just sex, it's more than that, we choose to be intimate with that person for a reason (instinct maybe) and any way it goes we will live on in the memory of that person.
Sex or no sex, Love and live life because there are people that can't be here to do that; so let's do that for them.  | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:16:24 AM | | The older men all want the same thing.....most times it is all in their head....but it makes them feel good to 'think' they can make it with the younger chicks...so the don't even want to bother with women their own age!! | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/11/2008 7:52:18 AM | | Well, if that is all they want, then they are not the one for you. It takes time to build a trusting relationship for starters and getting to know one another. If they are not willing to do that then i venture to believe they are not worth it. Friends first then you can take it to the next level. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/11/2008 8:06:24 AM | | Nope, stay away from the older ones too. If you're a lot younger than they are, they think they have a "trophy" and will probably hound you for sex more than ever. I was involved with someone for 5 years, living with him for 2--he was 47 yrs. old and you'd think he was a horny teenaged boy the way he acted about sex and, God forbid, I shouldn't feel like it b/c then I "didn't love him". Never mind the fact I work 10-12 hr. days six and seven days a week in a highly stressful position, whereas he worked construction, 40 hr. /week, weather dependent. Wish I had a simple answer for you, but I'm still trying to figure it out myself! | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/11/2008 8:18:26 AM | Hold your breath for the shocker......
He's just not into you!
You know, we search and search and try and try but as much as you think you're a good woman you're not as good as you think you are. If you were then the men would first of all be surprised and next be willing to keep you. But, unfortunately there aren't as many good women as there are women who think they are good women.
We live in a society where the majority is quite frankly screwed up so it gets to the point where people just decide they are going to have sex and not get involved emotionally. Both men and women do this.
It's funny to sit back and watch society complain about everyone being messed up when the people complaining are the same messed up people who make it this way.
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/11/2008 9:02:26 AM | Wow...so much aggression in this thread! Lashing out at everyone because you've had a bad experience in the past isn't going to help anyone...least of all yourself.
faithfullyurs2107 , you're actually touching on two very different questions here:
why do men only care about sex???
The short answer to this question is that men have less consequences to worry about from sex. Questions of right and wrong aside, we don't get pregnant and its a lot easier for a man to quietly slither away if he doesn't want to be involved in raising a child. After millions of years of evolution we wind up with these attitudes being ingrained and instinctive. In biological terms this is called "parental investment" . Look it up and you'll see piles of research to support what any astute social observer already knows.
The important thing is that you understand that men and women have a different approach to sex and that you not allow yourself to be taken advantage of.
Im tired of being used by men for sex
Your main question is very general; this is specific. You can't just expect men to stop taking advantage of you. Some will have respect but you'll always meet ones that don't and its up to you to take the active role in figuring out which men are insincere so that you can get them out of your life as quickly as possible.
1. Discuss your approach to sex. Most men won't lie about their intentions but they may avoid the discussion. Put it out there before things get serious.
2. Don't give in to pressure. Starting a sexual relationship is a decision that takes two. If you're not ready or still uncertain about whether the man has good intentions towards you then SAY NO. He may dump you because of it; that only proves that his intentions were not good.
3. You don't get anything in life without working towards it. You're in the forum complaining about things men do but you need to do something yourself. Instead of playing the victim and expecting others to change for you, you need to change yourself and demand better of men. You need to undertake a personal journey that will bring you to a place where you truly believe that you deserve better. You do deserve better but you wont' get it until you pursue it.
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/11/2008 9:30:02 AM | | It is getting to be more and more that there is nothing else women have to offer men, and I am stating this as a well thought out opinion, not as an insult to the female gender. Things seem so much different today. Women are too quick to jump in bed for one thing. Then when they get used, it is the man's fault. Go figure. If you are going to fall for the same old lines men have been using since high school, what do you expect? And quit telling men how "old fashioned" you are while you are ripping your clothes off on the first date. A lot of men are dogs, for sure, but women are the ones who can say no. What all this whining sounds like to me is that women are trying the age old proven method of bagging a man by giving him sex, and when they discover it didn't take, well, a woman scorned...That doesn't work anymore because sex is to easy to get. "Women have sex to get married, men get married to have sex". Well, it backfires on everybody, doesn't it? | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:27:41 PM | the problem is some girls are like that yes, but what if some stick to their morals, and say no, the result being the guy screaming at her in anger, and ending the relationship?
it just seems really sad someone would end a relationship over such a thing....it seems despairing for human nature. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/12/2008 2:12:01 PM | | Don't let a man use you for sex then! Get some backbone and just say "NO". Problems are only as difficult as we make them, sometimes. | |
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