| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 6/13/2008 9:53:06 AM | | I get so tired of women viewing all us men this way.We aren't all trying to get in women pants.I see nothing wrong with playful times if that is what you both want but my main purpose here is to find a female friend to do things with.If she's not looking for sex that ok with me.I'm getting tired of going to movies and the beach and doing stuff alone. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/5/2008 4:32:54 AM | | I like your way of thinking sir Charles. It's always interesting to me how women tend to generalize about men. I personally am not only not looking for sex I have taken an oath to remain abstinent until marriage, yes people mess with me about it sometimes but it is my choice my my life not someone else's so whatever happens does so for a reason. The main reason I see that women generalize as much about men always wanting sex is the fact that while yes it is true for a hefty chunk of the male population the reason that it is so is the way that many women nowadays dress. I mean what else are you trying to get a man to think about when you wear a shirt that is allows your upper regions to nearly fall out and a skirt or shorts that just barely covers your nether regions, is it any surprise that men think about sex as much as they do with that kind of constant stimulation? Plus you have to look at what the media nowadays is constantly broadcasting on network television, sex, sex, and more sex on most of the TV dramas and half of the other shows on TV. This is one of the reasons that I have essentially given up on watching TV other than military shows, Dr Who, and Mythbusters, other than that I don't watch TV. Plus being in the Marine Corps has given me a lot of time to broaden my perspectives on the way that people look at the world. I personally have always been seen as being just a friend instead of being someone to date or be with, maybe that's for the best since it keeps me from being involved in any insanity causing relationship issues like what to do if you happen to get your girlfriend pregnant or if something else happens that sends your plans awry. Happily I found a girl for the time who has me pretty much wrapped around her fingers but still respects my decision to remain a virgin until marriage. I'm sad that she will be leaving in just over a month but she has given me the confidence I need to ensure that if I go out to find a new relationship once she's gone and if we agree to go our own ways for a time that I will be able to find a new one that will last as well. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/5/2008 5:20:32 PM | Storm,
I am older and I find that women have to appear to be a little sexy or men wont even look at your profile. When I go out, I dont dress like I looking for a romp. I am a little large on top and sometimes cleavage just shows. Men my age (50ish) are just as bad as the ones in their early 20's. Its a no win situation. If you dress in jeans and a shirt, very few look or email. If you wear something a little sexy ~~~ they think all you want is a roll in bed. Its a hard line to walk. After about 2 (if you are lucky) phone conversations, it starts. It just gets old. It would be so nice to find someone to like me for me. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/5/2008 5:40:11 PM | I"d just like 2 say that im xcited evry day all the time but I definitly dont use the words or phrases or even actions that the opposite sex uses . And may I also add how easily they slip them in .LOL
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/6/2008 4:04:45 PM | ...Then I do not exist anymore.... And I keep being told that men are visual!!!
Funny, I am getting emails and compliments for only meeting when they want to
without having any consideration for my time!!, to plan to meet them, their friends or kids, or a holiday get together..
Since it is holiday time I get asked by total strangers about plans for thanksgiving and christmas and sadly confess I have no relatives left!!!
Is that what relationships are for?!!!
If I decline to meet at the time I IM, email ,or call then they are gone.
I am appalled that I am quickly forgotten.
All that is left is the virtual happy couple bubble that keeps getting burst. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/6/2008 8:27:59 PM | I could care less about this. What matters more is if both the people are compatible.
This whole Generation Y thing and banging everyone is just so primitive. Embrace everything else life has to offer! | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/6/2008 8:49:15 PM | This topic has been done to death just as badly as "why do women always go for jerks?" and other topics that are deleted. I suppose it's just too "politically incorrect" to question this one. Words like "just," "only," "all," etc. just rub me the wrong way.
It's not that all men want you just for sex, but you've had a run in which all the mean you have found attractive have wanted you for sex above all else. That's just the breaks. You have to set your priorities and work with what presents itself, even if it means being outta luck. I too don't wish to settle and hoodwink anyone to whom I'm not sufficiently attracted into thinking I'll commit to them just to avoid being single ... but that's my choice, and I'm not about to say all women are this, that, or the other thing because of it.
Sure, a lot of attractive, witty, and/or rich guys do this because they can. But that doesn't mean you should waste your time trying to fit that square peg into a round hole (I know: very bad metaphor). Just make it clear where you stand straight away, and stick to your standards. What's so hard about that? | |
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Posted: 11/7/2008 6:19:54 AM | Ok, I can soooooo identify with you! The first guy I went out with on POF wanted to talk dirty to me on the phone almost immediately once we exchanged digits and that was after IM'ing a few times! Had to tell him I was a lady and NOT into that when I am just getting to know someone. And then I don't think he even bothered to read all of my profile to find out things about me before we met! Heck, most guys (not all) don't put much on their profile for me to really "know" anything about them to begin with. Its left all so vague. Now, I was married to someone older than I am. So I would agree that the older the person the more mature they "might" be in that area. But I have been dating guys from this site within 5 years of my age and I still see the sex conversation as being popular regardless. I don't mind talking about it men....just wait until we see one another and maybe a few dates has transpired....then if we click I'll talk to you about it all you want. But you have to stimulate my mind first with conversation that does not begin with "so what is your favorite position?"
Peace
Janelle | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/7/2008 12:02:04 PM | | Why are all women frigid? is an equally ridiculous question but if you memet enough of them you begin to believe its true! | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/7/2008 7:59:54 PM | I had posted a very ordinary looking photo in the past, on other sites and got no
mail at all.
There are my shoulders, hands and face that I find quite expressive. In the 40's pin ups like this were vey sexy... alluring tasteful and elegant.
These shots I have here are just charming and feminine. I am not sitting in
my underwear.
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/7/2008 8:41:22 PM | Well, in my experience, if the sex doesn't happen with me in a relationship, it's happening with someone else. Seriously, almost every woman I have had a 'slow' start with usually ends up cheating on me. That is just crappy treatment ladies! Let's take things slow, oop, too slow! Where is the damn line? If we go for the sex too quickly, we're just players, too slow, and we're spineless pussies. This is why women should have a dashboard, so guys know what speed to go. I personally love sex, but without meaning, it's just assisted masturbation. Remember that next time you're having a quickie with your insignificant other, you are both alone even though you're together. May as well stick to 'special' shower time, it's more fulfilling and STD free. Personally, sex is great, but only if I can connect on a deeper level with a woman, both emotionally and mentally. Without that connection, you can be as hot as Mercury, but as sexy as roadkill. Sorry for the rant, but this topic was too controversial to pass up.
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/7/2008 9:15:39 PM | | Now here is a reallly positive answer. we are all not pigs please don't lump every male into the same group unless you would like to have it done to you. She is just dating the wrong type of guy . | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/8/2008 2:02:55 AM | | the honest answer to this question is time invested. i know that sounds really bad but i can explain. a man will never try to date you or get to know you unless he has already desided he would love to have sex with you.. thats the truth if i ever spoke it .. and with that being said men want to know early in the relationship or friendship if sex is a possibilty. as long as you are upfront with that person, on wheather or not sex is a possiblty and your time frame for a relationship to go to that level. the truth is that a man in this day and age will not invest a long extended period of time without sex. the thinking behind this is simple, a man tends to think that he dont want to miss out or waste time on a women that aint sure what she wants. the conversation about sex is the key, if the guy aint down with your time frame for the relationship to go to that level then you walk away it is that simple. All guys have a time frame of their own, its different from guy to guy, and what he is looking for. if he is looking for some fun and casual sex then his time frame will be very short, because if you wont do it someone else will and it dont matter to him who it is. but if he is looking for a long term relationship then his time frame will be much longer. thats why the conversation about sex is so important early, so the man a woman can set the goals or bounderys and be honest it will make it easier. men who are really interested in you will stick out like a sore thumb, all you have to do is listen, and having sex early in a relationship is a bad idea anyway. from experience having sex to soon, i personally will loose respect for the woman, and at that point sex is the only thing that drives me to be with that person instint gratifacation if you will. take your time its ok to be single, and be honest with yourself and you will be fine. hope this helps. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/9/2008 6:29:00 PM | OUGAL 1198
There must be other ways for them to care about many things, Hopefully us!!.. Or else they would be enslaved by an instant messenger realtionship.
It's the times we live in,
on this site, I am also going throught the pattern of pressured into getting it and going out right away.
Number one, go to Nevada.
Number two, if they get really bored with my high -brow wind blowing,
there are 3 strip clubs in my neighborhood.
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/9/2008 6:46:00 PM |
the honest answer to this question is time invested. i know that sounds really bad but i can explain. a man will never try to date you or get to know you unless he has already desided he would love to have sex with you..
We GET that.
But it's the guy that's got his shorts on fire to get right to the "assisted masturbation" ASAP, and then magnificently floats off into the mystic,never to be heard from again,that makes having sex a decision that rests on more than just the words a man says with his mouth.
There are men out there who have undoubtedly been wronged by a woman,or women,who think they are perfectly justified to put on a big act to get sex, then shun her, because he's decided all women are alike and are only good for sex as a form of vengeance.
There are also good men who've been jerked around by their d*cks about one too many times, and if the lady in question has too slow a timetable, he decides she is another one of THOSE women, and he moves on.
It can be nearly impossible to figure out which kind of guy you are dealing with,so, my advice to women is, have sex when YOU want to,and be prepared for him to become a missing person afterward.
If he sticks around, mebbe you found a keeper.
Cindy O | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/10/2008 9:41:45 AM | Hi,
There brains are between their legs. Sometimes you meet a very nice man who doesn't think with his piece all the time. If he does he doesn't show it. That is what I call a Gentlemen who is interested in what I think first. If a man has respect for ladies and really likes them he will think with his head. You will find a nice man with a brain who thinks of you before he thinks with what is between his legs. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/10/2008 2:44:08 PM | you have it seems only made contact with that sort of person.
there are some out there who are seeking more, and do not have sex on their mind.
some, like to see the personality and charm of the lady. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 3:24:16 PM | I guess one could ask,
Why do women only care about materialism???
Women are sex objects, men are success objects...booohooo...who cares...I love getting older...lolol....
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 11/10/2008 4:35:24 PM |
some, like to see the personality and charm of the lady.
Oh, I suspect they ALL want to see personality and charm but apparently there are a lot of men out there who failed Human Anatomy 101, because they keep expecting to find her personality and charm between her legs.
The ones who know better are generally snapped up quite quickly, leaving the learning-challenged males roaming loose in datingland, free to pee in the dating pool at will. It just sorta goes with the territory.
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 5:58:45 PM | Well, Ii must be doing something wrong then ladyc4, no lady has snapped me up yet :(
Guess im just too romantic and passionate for the ladies here. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2008 6:36:56 PM | | faithfullyurs Not all men care just about sex..i dated a lady acouple years ago for six months and never had sex with her... | |
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Posted: 11/11/2008 2:11:44 AM | I know, men want sex a lot, and we can be annoying. I have made a decision to try to really wait a long time the next time I date someone, because I'm tired of stuff not working out and being lonely. I would rather have someone to be with than have sex with someone for a few months and then have them leave once I get attached.
Wish me luck... | |
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