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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:42:49 PM | And another thing, if yoou are tired of being used for sex, what ever happened to saying NO!
It doesnt do any good to shut the barn door after the horse has escaped! | |
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| Why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:45:34 PM | Having sex doesn't make you a whore and all guys just don't think about sex.
Females can do the same thing and have, it's a two way street.
It's not a bad thing to want to feel good but if you don't want to have sex then don't.
Everyone always acts like they don't have a choice in there own life.
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:48:56 PM | | I have never heard that accusation before. Are there guys really interested in sex that much? This could become a really hot topic here finally. But, if I was a horn dog, I'd make sure I looked for a vulnerable woman. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:50:36 PM | I dont belive that it is fair to say that men only care about sex. Men and women are two different creatures that process their needs in entirely different ways. Thier needs are the same but they prioritze them completely different. It is unfair that one sex should exspect that thier partner to give what they need and not be willing to reciprocate what their partner needs in return. There must be a way to find middle ground so no one feels as if they are being used.
Men care about alot of things, some the same as women and some are completly different. The need and desire for sex is a part but not all of a man's internal makeup, that said think of the things that are important to you that a man might find is only important to women and talk with your partner so that you can find a way t o please each other.
I suggest you read a book called "Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars". Dr. John Grey can explain it much better than I. It helped my relationships 300%!
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:55:45 PM | men don't only care about sex, just like women don't only care about marriage, or flowers, what the ****
when you generalize a group, you're really only showing your own ignorance. myself sex is a small part of my life and far from a priority. Women use men for sex, and men use women also. Not all, but some, and the opposite is true as well.
Guess what, people like SEX. If they're using you for sex, enjoy it, or quit giving it out. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:56:58 PM | | you have got it wrong...for some of us SEX is a bonus....not a necessity..I will walk with a lovely girl on a beach under the moon any day...as I say, sex is a bonus...just that....love is more important. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 6:57:47 PM | I agree with bostonguy88, its one sided to indicate men only care about sex...
Let me reiterate as I have said so many times, an individuals physical and mental make-up determines how they react to certain cirumstances, and may I add too environmental influences could play a part also....
And don't forget those who can mislead you to think they are Mr or Mrs Right, when in fact after its all over you find out they only wanted sex.. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 6:57:51 PM | Well said, MaxxRonin. Its been interesting reading all the posts on this subject and its been said that "women need to feel close to have sex, and men need to have sex to feel close". Maybe that's one of the basic gender differences, still unsolved. Seriously, its all a matter of communication to each other saying what YOU want out of a relationship. Simple? yes, Easy? no  | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:58:35 PM | hey willy, lots of men like being held, the ****.
or are you stereotyping men to liking trucks sports and beer? there's really very little difference between a man and a woman when you remove them from society, it's purely learned behavior for the most part.
seems like you should think about what being human is, rather than being a man/woman, gender roles aren't exactly what you think | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 7:07:49 PM | | I just love categories. And especially when someone puts all of one thing in the same category. Maybe you should take Vegan Girl's advice. A lot of us "OLDER" men are looking for the companionship, and making love, not sex. One only is used if one allows themselves to be used. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 7:09:38 PM | My dear, It is Not the men.... It is the way a women or girl Acts around the man or boy. One of the biggest problems is Women or girls "Flirt" with out ever even knowing it.... I am extremely know for this, I never even notice the men.. but they for some reason believe because I am so beautiful and they think I am putting on a show for them personally.. But I am not and have never done so... But because I was a Model in my younger age... I am Taught to walk with moving hips.. I am taught to Dress to the teeg, I am with what we call Sex appeal.... And so! do too this.. All men think I am a Object to have or lust over...
It Took me personally a while to realize I was the one leading men on with out ever even knowing it... I am what we call "A show off"... I like to dress up and go out to dinner, Or dress up and go to the store... I like to look my best and sometimes extremely sexy for myself or the Partner that I am dating... I never ever even notice a man looking at me but... The man notices all the men and women looking at me... sometimes it bothers my partner and sometimes he is so proud to have me by his side... It all depends on the man or women...
1. Start looking at the way you dress.. is it classy or sexual, or fun like punk or gothic?
2. Look at the way you act around a Man or Boy and notice are you smiling a lot, do you twist your body and hips, are you flaunting your cleavage, are you brisking your hair with your hands.. If so then a man will think you are flirting regardless if you are just being a women... Instead... Just look them in the eyes,,, stand still,,, make fast remarks,,, do not bend at the hips only the knees,,, notice your lip movement that makes a huge different.
3. When you are dating a man....... or boy....... others will come on too you..... NOTE this.. always... they want what they can not have..... Always.... so you look great to them.. and they will flirt with you.. always... even his best friend will come on to you...
Last of all... YOU are a beautiful women, always know this, YOU are smart and have ambition.... Use your Mind over your body... and you will go so far in life.... Sex Keep it until you find the one man that makes you laugh and silly, he drops your heart beet, don't give it up too just anyone.... It is special.. Most women lose out on there partners because they jump into bed on the first night out.. or with in 3 days.. the others will wait like a week or two and yet you know nothing about the man or boy... So DON'T if you are a LADY AND YOU WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE A LADY..... If you want to be treated like a bitcch or a whorre... then sleep with everyone ... But if you want your King.. the man of your dreams.... Then Don't give it up to anyone but the one that wants to spend the rest of his life with you.. it takes time to learn about a person... So take the time...
Well, that is my experiences.. I have failed at all of this but in the end... I Turned into a Pastor at 44yrs old and Learned that For all the Love that I was searching for it was not found in SEX..... It was found in my "Family and Work"... It is a gift to have a man in your life... They are not to have... they are not because you NEED THEM... it is because you Enjoy the person and want to spend the rest of your life with them...
Ps.. stay away from men who will not commit.. get rid of them ... don't waist your time never,,,, ever,,,, if they will not make a commitment... Drop them... I do.... Bye../ | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 7:10:41 PM | Just because they are older guys doesn't mean a thing. I am a 40 year old female and I find that it doesn't matter how old they are, they all think with their little heads....I've actually told any man that starts off inappropriately talking about sex that I'm not interested in that, then they either call me a "prude" or quit talking to me (which I don't mind). It does happen with both men and women.
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 7:17:22 PM | Just for the record,
I could care less about sex,
Ive never had, nor will I ever be able to have a one night stand
if theres no real affection,
then its empty to me,
plus.. why should I even respect you if you give it up so fast
if youll do it for me,
youve done it for others.
Please, this applies to the ladies too.
Cuz Im so tired of hearing..
I just hope you dont think its the alchohol
haha
Oh its not..so what is it?
Love?
HA.
Am I special?
yet again..No
So basically, what Im left with is..a whore
thanx but no thanx
so to answer your question
we dont all want sex
at least not the easy way
make me work
show me how its worth the wait | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 7:17:23 PM | Men like to drive the car....before they like to buy it.
^^^ if you need to test drive.....then your not a good driver.  | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 7:19:50 PM | | Please excuse mr for my bluntness but I feel the need to say that not all men only want women for sex. I am a straight white 24 m and to be quite honestly I couldn 't care less about sex. No I am not lyeing. I like it I will admit but honestly having a best friend to confide everything in and having someone there to hold close to you means more to me than sex. the reason the men you meet only care about sex is simply because you are looking at the wrong men and are looking in the wrong places. Simply that. Change where you look and think about what it is you are looking for and you will find a different type of man. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 7:22:51 PM | ..."I want to make love, not just have sex"....yeap...fell for that one one more time...
Woodstar, I am still laughing - I was so niave after my divorce - fell for that one, too - and that old boy was the biggest 'whore' I ever dated (that phrase came from my girlfriend who checked him out for me after I got smart when his actions weren't matching his words) - so I decided to do what my pastor told me and "Do it God's way", and I am dating the best looking guy I have dated since my divorce, who wanted to date me when I was dating Mr. I Can't Even Say Anything But Make Love, and even though he wants sex, too - is willing to do things to get to know me without it.
Thanks for the laugh - I'll bet you have no trouble getting dates with your attitude - You go girl. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 7:53:06 PM | | Hey whitetigress I was being honest and sarcastic in my last post.As you can see women don't like that which is why men lie and say what you want to hear.Since thats what your used to and what you like,I will say what you like to hear and whats politically correct.Yes men who want sex are bad,men shouldn't want sex from women,a man should wait for years before he has sex with a woman he's dating,stalling for sex will always guarentee the relationship will last...ok I need to rest all this BS is tiring me out. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 8:17:19 PM | | To Nightcowboy - women love sex as much as men - but I prefer making love to a man when it is both great attraction and true caring - OMG - then I can be all I am meant to be - and your world will be rocked - it is called delayed gratification. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:33:58 PM | Khai - well said. I dont think I could have phrased it much better.
As a real man I would like to say -- Sexual intimacy with the goal of creating even greater trust and closeness is not something that should be squandered for thrills.
The amount of hatred some women seem to have for men just because one guy screwed em over is shockin. If men rain away and hid cause one woman did em wrong -- we would have many less families and children on this planet. Now ladies before you get insulted by that comment -- please keep in mind we are not all creeps or users. Perhaps you would be better off asking why many of you women gravitate towards men who are creeps, abusers, or users? What is the overriding factor that draws you to favor this kind of man over one who is perhaps introverted -- yet decent, patient, and civil.
I would rather point my finger at a cure to this problem then point at the problem itself. But honestly how many women out there would actually realize what they are looking at is the truth. Just cause it comes from a man does not make the revelation wrong. Something to ponder before getting mad.
If we only cared about sex - there would be no men who believe in honor, justice, or human freedom.
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Posted: 5/2/2007 8:43:38 PM | Thanks Starlight...very sweet. Unfortunately I live in a true waste land. I live where all the burned out players went to hide from their ex's and all their offspring...or atleast the responsibility of their upkeep. Don't get me wrong....I love Oregon...but its the truth.
I do have one male friend who I have known for over seven years. He just moved to my town. We hang out together. Sometimes we "talk about IT" but we are both just enjoying each others company. Who knows.
And, yes...Shadowlord is correct. I know I was looking in all the wrong places all these years. I could say to bad it took me so long to figure this out. But I can't help but think all things happen as they should.
Good luck to you....follow your heart and listen to your spirit. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 8:47:29 PM | HEY!!!! Look at how many wonderful great guys are posting here ^^^^as opposed to a couple of ...you know...the "other" kind!!
Gentlemen, I am impressed. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 9:22:10 PM | | Thanks, Woodstar, I was one of those women Bubble Boy is talking about that picked the wrong ones, so I have been doing Theophostic counseling at my church to uncover why? It has really given me the freedom to enjoy that great goodlooking guy who is as 'easy as Sunday Morning' and I am loving it - only time will tell if he is the one, but I do enjoy his company - and time together is so laid back - we have been canoeing, dancing, picnicing and never any drama or issues. Wish I had done the counseling years ago - I discovered I like to fix people - That is God's job - maybe I was thinking too highly of myself???? | |
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