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Posted: 5/2/2007 9:48:54 PM | Really? God's job is fixing people? I am flabbergasted.
I mean, look around! This is shabby work - if you want to call it work - and not a jot of what I expect from a Supreme Being.
How did he get this job, anyway? A relative?
Cheers!
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 9:59:19 PM | | Oh. contrare.. Jesus humbled himself as a servant - that is what is amazing - that He did that for us, undeserving as we are - it is called Grace - never understood the concept until I got myself in a situation where all I could do is turn it over to Him - and He gave me much more than I ever deserved. Now that is love. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 10:11:58 PM |
Dont they know there is more to me then whats between my legs???
>I notice you use the word 'sex' four times in your short posting as you complain to us about men and their collective sexual obsession. I wonder if you have sex on the brain, Faithfuollyurs2107? You then speak to us about how 'tired' you are that men are seeking what is between your legs as you assure us that you are not a 'whore'.
>I think you need to look at how you think. Try it sometime. And remember that you attract into your life what you think about most.
>I'd loosen up, if I were you. I, for one, am not interested in having a sexual relationship with you, even if it were offered on a gold-plated, diamond-studded platter. I am also a man, one of those beings you believe who only wants to get between your legs, and my sights are set higher than only sexual attraction. I seek a profound mind, a union of souls, and the rest will come naturally.
>Nowhere in my posting will you find me discussing sex, per se. There are greater and more enduring aspects to a relationship.
>Blessings - Soulful Union | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 10:20:53 PM | | I read this thread just because , when some woman or man says why do all men/women do etc. etc..It just irk's me when men or women generalize the other sex...Just because one guy is a jerk about sex doesnt mean the others are....just like saying that the way a woman dress's means...she is whore...etc. etc....most the response's in general are really good...I think Burlington summed it up the best...so there's my two cents worth. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/2/2007 11:26:35 PM | Men don't just want sex. Boys do! It is all a matter of maturity. Also, of the last 3 women I've dated, two just wanted the sex and I merely obliged! Its not all guys fault.
And it not that we "[...don't have to worry about getting pregnant and had a "thing" hanging in between] our [ legs that would swell at the mere thought of sex.... ]. Ladies have a thing between their legs too and want it filled just as much with a guy's thing!!
Don't give me this thats its all a guys fault!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/3/2007 5:52:25 AM | I think about sex all the time. Is that the only thing I care about?
Well... hmm... now that I think about it? Yeah...
Or at least the things that lead to sex or make sex better. Love makes sex better, finding a girl you are attracted t0 and find interesting makes sex better, curiousity and imagination make sex better and unfortunately, lack of sex makes sex better.
But for reality's sake, one has to do things to keep their mind off sex.
The old saying goes "money makes the world turn." I think sex makes the world turn. Money just leads to more sex.
Don't listen to all the men who say otherwise, they are just trying to get into your pants or weren't really transformed into men (all men were females at one time). | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 7:45:54 AM | The way to weed these men out is NOT to sleep with anyone until there is a relationship in place. This means no sex for many dates ... lol If they don't call you again or they constantly badger for sex, then they are just using so move on.
Men will treat you exactly the way you allow yourself to be treated. If you allow sex to happen too soon, they will never think of you as relationship material ... period. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/3/2007 8:27:15 AM | The way to weed these men out is NOT to sleep with anyone until there is a relationship in place.
KC Lady - you are right about that one - I actually was amused for a while how quick most guys, who said they really wanted a reltionship with me, ran when they found out they were not going to make it to the bedroom any time soon. They tell you how hot you are and try to make you think you are the only woman they say that to - but the ones that stick around are usually the ones that have the most going for them in ALL ways - Looks, what they contribute to the world, etc. You have to keep the weeds out of the garden for the flowers to grow - The weeds add nothing to the garden anyway. Happy weeding!! | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 8:40:44 AM | | I don't see what the big deal is about sex, the hardest thing about being single to me is not getting affection. I miss kissing and cuddling with someone, all the warmth and the closeness associated with it. You are just meeting the wrong guys, weed out the perverts and find a guy that is looking for something meaningful. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 9:02:06 AM | "the hardest thing about being single to me is not getting affection. I miss kissing and cuddling with someone, all the warmth and the closeness associated with it."
Robfish - we all miss that - terribly - but when it is not handled right, pre-mature sex can be emotionally damaging. Sex can be very powerful if the chemistry is right. Having sex with someone who only wants that, when they have misrepresented themselves, is not healthy for someone who has opened their heart to someone. It is usually someone who has been hurt and is afraid to open up - but men as well as men can be hurt by that. If two people are honest and want that, fine - but deception on any level hurts. That, my friend, is a big deal to someone who has been mislead and finally opens up - and at my age, most have been hurt. Just keep it honest and then one's choices are their own. Take care. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 9:19:11 AM | ^^^^When I said I didn't see what the big deal about sex was I think that you may have misread what I meant. I meant that I personally don't look for sex, I see it as a bonus if it does happen but on the most part it is the kissing and the cuddling that I am missing the most. There have been times where I would rather cuddle, thats where the real closeness and intimacy lies. I guess its hard for me to word things correctly at 2 am  | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 9:23:45 AM | | All men dont just want sex. Just be more selective in who you date . And dont have sex with them so fast. If they stick around they have substance and it means they like you for who you are and there willing to wait on sex. Real men can wait on sex , the boys cant they want it now. You need to separate the men from the boys. Youve got control over the sex. Dont be so willing to give it to them just to get them to like you. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 9:50:22 AM | ok ....now that after all the debates back and forth to determine how males tick .....would only the women who want to get laid hit us bad boys up !!  | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 10:10:51 AM | original poster said-- "Im tired of being used by men for sex."
I do not understand this statement at all.
NO man can USE you for sex, unless you allow yourself to be used for sex. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 10:17:32 AM | | Msg.41 sums it up BEST. Really like the direct and honest input there, take note op. When a woman does it too soon that is where the focus goes. When one waits, the other person will be either willing to see it as something special then or they will not stick around as they are not looking to get to know the person themself but rather body parts of them only. If you want to have a guy anxious to be with you , wait to share that. When you capture someone's attention in general they will wait. The anticipation can be part of the added excitement of that when the time is right later on. Share other things and let him think about you when apart. Let him persue you. | |
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| Why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/3/2007 1:43:04 PM | | does anyone think about why men want sex so much? Maybe it is the one time they can get the intimacy they crave and that is how they know to get. And they do The emotional part can be a little overwhelming for men which is why afterwards they have to put some distance between you sometimes. Of course this excludes those that are just trying to up their numbers but that is not most men, I don't think. | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 1:48:08 PM | Those men that only care about sex will be the ones with STDs or something like that
they are pigs and have no feelings at all... | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 1:48:42 PM | | You may be onto something there, Kanpeaches. I have often wondered if most men were much more sensitive than women and that they front a lot. We gals, after all, were made to survive. Guys do have more heart attacks and suicides. ?????? | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 1:56:19 PM | | hey if you find some that care about actually dating...pass along the info...lol what gets me is they all "say" one thing...whole different story when it comes down to the reality | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 2:06:22 PM | | ok....now i sound like i'm putting guys into one shopping cart and i don't want to do that...just say no right off the bat, if they can't handle it, that's their problem..wait for someone who is willing to take things at a slower pace... | |
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Posted: 5/3/2007 6:01:49 PM | Not all men care just about sex !
Personaly... i don't have sex, i make love ... and making love is for someone special !
The Point I'm trying to make is .....take your time.... if he truly values you, he will wait as long as it takes ....If you stick to this, ya wont be used for sex and will have your self respect back .
But you also have to acknowledge that there are a lot of women on this site who are also players !
Goes with the territory
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| Why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/3/2007 6:09:59 PM |
does anyone think about why men want sex so much? Maybe it is the one time they can get the intimacy they crave and that is how they know to get. And they do The emotional part can be a little overwhelming for men which is why afterwards they have to put some distance between you sometimes. Of course this excludes those that are just trying to up their numbers but that is not most men, I don't think.
Oh no guys !! They are on to us !! 
For the majority of guys learning to deal with emotions and intimacy, I would agree with that :) | |
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